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doing something behind partners back. would you be ok is they were doing the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok you guys be honest. You are up for fun aint you yeah. However if you do something naughty behind your partner's back and then discover they have done so too would you be ok with that or not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are totally honest.

If one of us wanted to do something the other wouldn't stop them.

But to honest its hornier with her there. K.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, we don't need to do anything behind anyone's back. Personally , I don't think you can swing as a couple if you don't have absolute honesty between you.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,if I do it I wouldn't have the gall to complain about him doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok you guys be honest. You are up for fun aint you yeah. However if you do something naughty behind your partner's back and then discover they have done so too would you be ok with that or not ?"

If it was me, I'd

have to be otherwise I would be a hypocryte.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having a deja vu moment

The point isn't whether you're okay with it, it's how you handle the discovery which makes a person hyprocritical or not.

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley

I don't think the OP is aiming the question at couples on here together. In answer to your question OP I used to work in a hotel and one of the barmen was a male slut. I lost count of the women he slept with. A few years after I last there I bumped into him and he was crying about how devastated he was. His wife had been having an affair and had left him. He went on about how terrible she was and all I could think was 'have you forgotten how many times you were unfaithful to her? Serves you right!'

I think most people would try to show bravado and say that they wouldn't be upset if there OH was on here doing the same as them but ultimately they would be gutted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do as I say, not as I do

I'm allowed to do what I want but any partner can't

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Do as I say, not as I do

I'm allowed to do what I want but any partner can't "
you're sound the same as my ex fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are thousands of people on here cheating who would play the victim if they found out their partner was doing the same

I doubt hardly any would say, that's ok love i've been cheating on you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think the OP is aiming the question at couples on here together. In answer to your question OP I used to work in a hotel and one of the barmen was a male slut. I lost count of the women he slept with. A few years after I last there I bumped into him and he was crying about how devastated he was. His wife had been having an affair and had left him. He went on about how terrible she was and all I could think was 'have you forgotten how many times you were unfaithful to her? Serves you right!'

I think most people would try to show bravado and say that they wouldn't be upset if there OH was on here doing the same as them but ultimately they would be gutted."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok you guys be honest. You are up for fun aint you yeah. However if you do something naughty behind your partner's back and then discover they have done so too would you be ok with that or not ?

If it was me, I'd

have to be otherwise I would be a hypocryte.

"

Similar to my parents when I was 16. Came back from pub, obviously a few pints having been quaffed. Mum had a go at me...asked my dad to do the same. He refused...said he had done the same and no matter what else he might be, hypocrite wasn't one of the...subject closed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do as I say, not as I do

I'm allowed to do what I want but any partner can't "

That's what my husband always says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok you guys be honest. You are up for fun aint you yeah. However if you do something naughty behind your partner's back and then discover they have done so too would you be ok with that or not ?

If it was me, I'd

have to be otherwise I would be a hypocryte.

Similar to my parents when I was 16. Came back from pub, obviously a few pints having been quaffed. Mum had a go at me...asked my dad to do the same. He refused...said he had done the same and no matter what else he might be, hypocrite wasn't one of the...subject closed!"

I think learning by your own mistakes and teaching your children not to go down the same path does not make you a hypocrite

Just my opinion

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The hissy self pitying fits some people who cheat would have

Others wouldn't bother as their life with their partner is really over, they just won't or can't afford to leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isnt swinging supposed to be with both peoples knowledge and consent?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think the OP is aiming the question at couples on here together. In answer to your question OP I used to work in a hotel and one of the barmen was a male slut. I lost count of the women he slept with. A few years after I last there I bumped into him and he was crying about how devastated he was. His wife had been having an affair and had left him. He went on about how terrible she was and all I could think was 'have you forgotten how many times you were unfaithful to her? Serves you right!'

I think most people would try to show bravado and say that they wouldn't be upset if there OH was on here doing the same as them but ultimately they would be gutted.

"
that the point i was aming at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt swinging supposed to be with both peoples knowledge and consent?"

Yes.

Now answer the question.

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By *ukepastMan
over a year ago

Newport


"Isnt swinging supposed to be with both peoples knowledge and consent?"

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I'd never do anything behind my partner's back. No need to.. there's not much he wouldn't like me doing. He can do what the fuck he likes too, so long as he doesn't keep it secret from me or do it behind my back...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't do anything behind my partners back and would hope she wouldn't to me.

We are both free to play solo but we do have rules. If someone broke the rules I guess it would more or less be cheating on each other.

Don't get me wrong if she was to come to me and say I want to do this or if I was to say to her I would then I am sure we could work something out.

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

Do everything with knowledge and consent of each other, so need to cheat or lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt swinging supposed to be with both peoples knowledge and consent?

Yes.

Now answer the question. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd never do anything behind my partner's back. No need to.. there's not much he wouldn't like me doing. He can do what the fuck he likes too, so long as he doesn't keep it secret from me or do it behind my back... "

Pretty much how I feel too, it's the doing things secretly that makes it cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd never do anything behind my partner's back. No need to.. there's not much he wouldn't like me doing. He can do what the fuck he likes too, so long as he doesn't keep it secret from me or do it behind my back... "

But for some there is no fun in that. Sneaking around adds an element of fun to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to be would be rude not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd never do anything behind my partner's back. No need to.. there's not much he wouldn't like me doing. He can do what the fuck he likes too, so long as he doesn't keep it secret from me or do it behind my back...

But for some there is no fun in that. Sneaking around adds an element of fun to it. "

It plays a big part of it yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, we don't need to do anything behind anyone's back. Personally , I don't think you can swing as a couple if you don't have absolute honesty between you.

Sarah "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure there are many hypocrites on fab!

But none that would admit it!

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you

They do say it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've actually cheated on everyone who cheated on me, if they didn't like it then they shouldn't have let me think they was ok with cheating going on in our relationship.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts


"I'd never do anything behind my partner's back. No need to.. there's not much he wouldn't like me doing. He can do what the fuck he likes too, so long as he doesn't keep it secret from me or do it behind my back...

But for some there is no fun in that. Sneaking around adds an element of fun to it. "

I'd like to think my boyfriend respects me enough to not sneak around behind my back...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you think about when you cheat on someone you've probably stopped giving a fuck about your relationship anyway so you would be ok with it happening to you.

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By *ellowbabesCouple
over a year ago

newport/cwmbran

I wouldn't go behind my partners back as got no need same as Mr. .mrs

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont do anything that i wouldnt be happy with my partner doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont do anything that i wouldnt be happy with my partner doing"
good ansa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok you guys be honest. You are up for fun aint you yeah. However if you do something naughty behind your partner's back and then discover they have done so too would you be ok with that or not ?"

I wouldn't do it behind his back. He likes to watch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never be unfaithful. If I was attached I'd like to embrace the lifestyle together him watching me watching and both getting involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you think about when you cheat on someone you've probably stopped giving a fuck about your relationship anyway so you would be ok with it happening to you.

"

yes to this

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By *ukepastMan
over a year ago

Newport


"I'd never do anything behind my partner's back. No need to.. there's not much he wouldn't like me doing. He can do what the fuck he likes too, so long as he doesn't keep it secret from me or do it behind my back... "

That's what happened to me - I discovered that my ex wasn't telling me about 90% of the sexual encounters outside of our relationship. So I dumped them.

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