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This is 1 for the couples(tho any1 feel free to answer)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it a joint decision as to when,where and who you are going to play with??? The ladies who's partners just like to watch or hear details e.t.c is it your decision as to when you play or both?? How often is enough? once or twice a wk? more? less? or just when you are feeling abit naughty??

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

we both have 2 fancy the couple/fem we are going to play with, but i always have the last say, my hubby is happy as long as im happy, we dont play very often due to work/kids etc, we also like to attend parties!!

we always like to meet for a social drink b4 we do anything and go home talk it over and basically take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have to like and respect both or its a no all round...

We decide together.. Makes no difference if they are both stunning if ones an arrogant so and so.. or the other thinks too highly etc..

I know one thing lol.. Whoever decides.. If I (Mr Notts) didn't like the fella.. theres no way he's playing with the wife.. and Visa Versa.

How often.. Blimey... We have no agenda at all lol.. Genuinely!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"We both have to like and respect both or its a no all round...

We decide together.. Makes no difference if they are both stunning if ones an arrogant so and so.. or the other thinks too highly etc..

I know one thing lol.. Whoever decides.. If I (Mr Notts) didn't like the fella.. theres no way he's playing with the wife.. and Visa Versa.

How often.. Blimey... We have no agenda at all lol.. Genuinely! "

Totally agree with Notts.. again!!! (OMG that is once too often) but it has to be a joint decision and an all way match for otherwise it can create resentment... and problems after..Besides it is not much fun for one watching the having fun when one is left with a les than desireable partner... and likewise... I could not enjoy myself it I felt my partner was struggling. Am I too serious here?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It is a joint decision for us too, but the Mrs does the chatting at first, decides wether she thinks he may be ok, then the Mr will have a chat with him.

If after he has chatted with the man he isn't happy, then we don't play.

Both of us have to be happy otherwise it wouldn't work.

As for how often, depends on life as to how often we play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so wot if 1 of you was i dunno say really wanting to get it on with the couple and the other was'nt would this cause friction or any argueing or would just both agree and leave it at that???

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"so wot if 1 of you was i dunno say really wanting to get it on with the couple and the other was'nt would this cause friction or any argueing or would just both agree and leave it at that???"

Think rule for happy relationship is that if one is unhappy for whatever reason... it is a no go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so wot if 1 of you was i dunno say really wanting to get it on with the couple and the other was'nt would this cause friction or any argueing or would just both agree and leave it at that???

Think rule for happy relationship is that if one is unhappy for whatever reason... it is a no go..."

agreed, both have to be happy or no play, if 1 isn't happy you in all honesty would not try and force them into it, I wouldn't anyway

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"so wot if 1 of you was i dunno say really wanting to get it on with the couple and the other was'nt would this cause friction or any argueing or would just both agree and leave it at that???

Think rule for happy relationship is that if one is unhappy for whatever reason... it is a no go...

agreed, both have to be happy or no play, if 1 isn't happy you in all honesty would not try and force them into it, I wouldn't anyway"

There is another thought for consideration... if I sensed that one of the playmates were "under duresse" so to speak... it would put me off... nothing is less sexy than a situation where one partner does not want to play...

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"so wot if 1 of you was i dunno say really wanting to get it on with the couple and the other was'nt would this cause friction or any argueing or would just both agree and leave it at that???

Think rule for happy relationship is that if one is unhappy for whatever reason... it is a no go...

agreed, both have to be happy or no play, if 1 isn't happy you in all honesty would not try and force them into it, I wouldn't anyway

There is another thought for consideration... if I sensed that one of the playmates were "under duresse" so to speak... it would put me off... nothing is less sexy than a situation where one partner does not want to play..."

Been there Aphrodite, not a pleasant experience and one we hope not to repeat.

As to the who choses who to meet which I think this thread is really about, it is certainly a joint decision but as in most cases I am not as fussy as K pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so wot if 1 of you was i dunno say really wanting to get it on with the couple and the other was'nt would this cause friction or any argueing or would just both agree and leave it at that???"

We'd just agree and leave it.... All or nothing. Its only fun if its fun for all... We'd both feel crap if we felt someone was only playing with one of us for the sake of it... and as such we'd be the same with others. All or nothing..

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Although on here I do most of the chatting the decision is made by the both of us,if one of us is'nt happy we don't go there........how unfair would that be?

In a club its much easier as we can both chat and its easier to read people face to face than it is by mail and pics,again if we both don't agree we don't play

As for how often,well we have children,we both work and have lots of other friends,we would rather have quality over quantity,so we don't mind waiting for something special as we know its worth waiting for

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