FabSwingers.com forum: Compliments

By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

But I wonder if I am best cutting my losses and dump the guy if I don't feel attractive to him when I am with him. Maybe it's a 'girl' thing..but I like to feel that the man I am with thinks I am pretty even if no one else does.

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Just wanted to add - I love you guys for your frank and honest responses (not the offensive ones mind! ).

Xxx

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

No you're not being over sensitive,if I was seeing someone and they didn't compliment me I would be a little worried as well. It's nice to give and receive compliments. I don't need them every two mins,but once in a while shows they take an interest in you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lt depends. Do you compliment him? Does he EVER give compliments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand your concerns. Some guys just aren't easy with the compliments though. Has it always been this way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is an issue if a guy that you're seeing never compliments you. My ex husband was like that then I met Mr NbN and his nickname for me is sexybum. He compliments me all the time and it's nice. Everyone wants to know that they are wanted and are attractive. I totally understand where you are coming from.

Mrs NaughtybutNervous xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with your gut instinct in every aspect of your life! It's very rarely wrong

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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does he know this,maybe talk to him about it. If he doesnt know how you feel how can he do anything about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Subtle touches and acts can show a lot but im incredibly tactile and give compliments and if a guy didnt it would make me feel unloved and unwanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over sensitive yes, maybe you've got too used too and expect the "you're gorgeous" bullcarp compliments dished out daily by many on here, so take a step back and think, he obviously likes you otherwise why would he still be around? Maybe your doubts are exasperated by the fact you are still on fabswingers, so why not commit to the relationship and quit fab, or vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it's an issue, unless we express love and appreciation in a way that means something to our partners, then they don't feel loved.

As ever, open and honest communication is the way forward. If he doesn't get it or dismisses your concerns, then you have a problem.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months."

You need to communicate with him about it.

If you don't feel desired, is it insecurity or is it that he just isn't that into you?

You should have someone who makes you feel special, not in a puts you on a pedestal kind of way, just in a makes you smile kind of way.

Does he make you smile? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think it matters if he doesn't actually say a compliment BUT must be showing one even its something as simple as holding your hand walking down the street, if you see what I mean. Although I think he should be telling you that you are pretty, which you obviously are. But, I don't think you should be comparing yourself to him or anybody else for that matter, aren't we all beautiful in our own skin?

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"lt depends. Do you compliment him? Does he EVER give compliments?"

Yes I do compliment him though he is a tad vain

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

My Ex was like that,would tell me he loved me but that he couldn't show it. Was pretty soul destroying as his words were pointless if he didn't show it. Anyone can say I love you, showing it is harder X

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

oh dear doesnt sound good. if i was you i would dump him. How much effort does it take for him to say, of course i think you look nice, he doesnt have to say it all the time of course but i like to compliment my husband quite often, same with my son. Sounds to me like a lot of people he will soon be taking you for granted.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

" does he know this,maybe talk to him about it. If he doesnt know how you feel how can he do anything about it"

I told him in text but he got a little irritated . He didn't seem to understand what the problem was. He just says he likes me a lot! Well ok! But.... it doesn't help that he is used to dating women 20 years younger than him and then he met me. ..who he finds 'different'!

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Over sensitive yes, maybe you've got too used too and expect the "you're gorgeous" bullcarp compliments dished out daily by many on here, so take a step back and think, he obviously likes you otherwise why would he still be around? Maybe your doubts are exasperated by the fact you are still on fabswingers, so why not commit to the relationship and quit fab, or vice versa

xx"

I am certainly not indulged on FAB in the compliments arena lol...so I don't think that is an issue! But I am hesitant about the commitment thing because of how he is being. So I one foot in and one foot out.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's better to have open communication, so that you can share what your needs are. Others don't necessarily have the habits that drive our satisfaction, so informing them what you need and guiding their experimentation in these new behaviours, is the ideal next step.

There are two ways of looking at this - treating the cause or the symptoms. If insecurity is exacerbating the need, then you could also make personal change to this aspect of yourself. It's largely another set of behaviours, within yourself, that you could focus upon.

We have more control over changing ourselves than we do of changing someone else. Our habits and behaviours are not our identity, though you may feel a different person, who's more resilient afterwards.

If you're choosing the wrong partners, that's another issue altogether - though potentially linked to self-defeating habits.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Ok, Me with H not big on compliments tbh, but big on touch & hug even in public. We've been together 14yrs.

But after two months? Kick him into touch..Go with your gut, it must piss you off or you wouldn't have put it on here.

As you said YOU think he's better looking and maybe a catch..What if he thinks the same about himself & not you?

Good luck whatever you decide to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand guys at the best of times but I'm pretty certain he wouldn't be with you or dating you if he didn't fancy you and find you attractive.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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" does he know this,maybe talk to him about it. If he doesnt know how you feel how can he do anything about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" does he know this,maybe talk to him about it. If he doesnt know how you feel how can he do anything about it

Text is not the ideal means to communicate relationship issues. You're adults, have a face-to-face conversation.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months.

You need to communicate with him about it.

If you don't feel desired, is it insecurity or is it that he just isn't that into you?

You should have someone who makes you feel special, not in a puts you on a pedestal kind of way, just in a makes you smile kind of way.

Does he make you smile? xx"

He makes me laugh because he is funny. He can be affectionate. But I think it takes him a while. I don't want putting on a pedestal. But early days of dating should surely make one feel desired and wanted a little?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My Ex was like that,would tell me he loved me but that he couldn't show it. Was pretty soul destroying as his words were pointless if he didn't show it. Anyone can say I love you, showing it is harder X"

This is very true. Actions speak louder than words. But words and actions are wonderful.

I think you are overthinking a little. You make it seem like he's doing you a favour by dating you. You are a very beautiful woman. He's with you because he thinks so too.

It is certainly something that you should talk to him about. Don't be afraid to communicate with him.

If he can't take the communication of your worries, to me that would be a huge red flag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months."

I was with someone for 5 years. Never lived together. He never told me he loved me. Not once. Everyone said he must do but I never heard him say it. He was very unaffectionate. Never held my hand in public, never kissed me (cheek or lips) in public, never hugged me in public. I tried to hug him in public as a thanks for breakfast, he shrugged me off immediately and backed away saying well save all that for when we get home. Sex was him rolling on , doing his thing how he wanted it and then rolling off to then go downstairs and watch footy. He used to poke my belly and say I needed to lose weight. Was critical over everything I ate.

I left him after 5 years because I suddenly woke up and realised his behaviour isn't normal and he was the reason for my unhappiness. So no you aren't alone. If you've given him months or years, spoken go him about your concerns and he still hasn't improved....then leave him. People are who they are and rarely change. He will only change if he wants to change.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"oh dear doesnt sound good. if i was you i would dump him. How much effort does it take for him to say, of course i think you look nice, he doesnt have to say it all the time of course but i like to compliment my husband quite often, same with my son. Sounds to me like a lot of people he will soon be taking you for granted."

I just feel when I make a lot of effort to look nice etc that it wouldn't hurt for him to notice. If he genuinely doesn't notice then I guess I have my answer. Yet he tells me he likes me..... well sometimes lol. That is about as good as I get.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I think it's better to have open communication, so that you can share what your needs are. Others don't necessarily have the habits that drive our satisfaction, so informing them what you need and guiding their experimentation in these new behaviours, is the ideal next step.

If you're choosing the wrong partners, that's another issue altogether - though potentially linked to self-defeating habits."

I am unsure which is the case as it's too early on so I don't want to get all heavy. I d8d tell him but he didn't react very positively to it and that put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're choosing the wrong partners, that's another issue altogether - though potentially linked to self-defeating habits.

I am unsure which is the case as it's too early on so I don't want to get all heavy. I d8d tell him but he didn't react very positively to it and that put me off."

If you don't bring up issues early on, then its going to be more difficult for him to see it as a problem at all later on. It's not going to magically improve without you saying something, and if he reacts negatively, well,you know what you can expect from the relationship without having committed a lot of time to it.

Start as you mean to go on, in my book.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Thankyou everyone for your honest response.

I guess it is probably a bit if both.

I am not that self confident with my appearance so I may be over sensitive.

Then meeting a guy who isn't one for compliments and noticing me in that way, maybe isn't a match made in heaven fir someone like me.

I guess I just need to feel wanted and desired. Not loved yet. It's too early. But to know he fancies me, thinks I am sexy etc... I don't think that's too much to wish for.

I did try to talk to him about it but he isn't great at talking about 'feelings' lol! He has a tendency to make everything a joke because I suspect that is his way of dealing with conversations he finds awkward.

So maybe he just isn't the man for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to communicate with him about it.

If you don't feel desired, is it insecurity or is it that he just isn't that into you?

You should have someone who makes you feel special, not in a puts you on a pedestal kind of way, just in a makes you smile kind of way.

Does he make you smile? xx

Yes and yes- tell him!!

Face to face if you can- his reaction will tell you how to respond xx

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

If you're choosing the wrong partners, that's another issue altogether - though potentially linked to self-defeating habits.

I am unsure which is the case as it's too early on so I don't want to get all heavy. I d8d tell him but he didn't react very positively to it and that put me off.

Start as you mean to go on, in my book. "

As I say - I have mentioned it but no joy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankyou everyone for your honest response.

I guess it is probably a bit if both.

I am not that self confident with my appearance so I may be over sensitive.

Then meeting a guy who isn't one for compliments and noticing me in that way, maybe isn't a match made in heaven fir someone like me.

I guess I just need to feel wanted and desired. Not loved yet. It's too early. But to know he fancies me, thinks I am sexy etc... I don't think that's too much to wish for.

So maybe he just isn't the man for me! "

Treating it as a joke is such a man-thing to do!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Jeez, LIKES!!?? I blooming like you from the post, profile & pics!!

I just said that to H, her comment "He could be Johnny Fcking Depp, he'd still be booted out the door fcking like! Bloody cheek!"

Think you get the drift....

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"You need to communicate with him about it.

If you don't feel desired, is it insecurity or is it that he just isn't that into you?

You should have someone who makes you feel special, not in a puts you on a pedestal kind of way, just in a makes you smile kind of way.

Does he make you smile? xx

Yes and yes- tell him!!

Face to face if you can- his reaction will tell you how to respond xx

I have told him!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im great at compliments

Good rack

I love how my cock looks in your mouth

No wonder Im divorced

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Jeez, LIKES!!?? I blooming like you from the post, profile & pics!!

I just said that to H, her comment "He could be Johnny Fcking Depp, he'd still be booted out the door fcking like! Bloody cheek!"

Think you get the drift....

LOL! Bless you both! Well he isn't Johnny Depp but he is pretty hot in truth. I can't deny he is a very good looking guy. However.... that isn't enough.

But I have only been seeing him about 2 months max... so I am not expecting declarations of love! Lol! Just a little passion and expression of interest !

He is sooooo confused and slightly irritated when I mention it though! He says he is baffled!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're choosing the wrong partners, that's another issue altogether - though potentially linked to self-defeating habits.

I am unsure which is the case as it's too early on so I don't want to get all heavy. I d8d tell him but he didn't react very positively to it and that put me off.

Start as you mean to go on, in my book.

As I say - I have mentioned it but no joy."

Then you know where you stand

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Jeez, LIKES!!?? I blooming like you from the post, profile & pics!!

I just said that to H, her comment "He could be Johnny Fcking Depp, he'd still be booted out the door fcking like! Bloody cheek!"

Think you get the drift....

The best one was today.... when he texted that he never said he thought I was ugly! !!

Yep. Your lovely lady is right! Get rid!

Thanks guys. I just needed to make the decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months."

My FWB is the same, although he does get more horny if I wear something sexy.

XXX

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months.

My FWB is the same, although he does get more horny if I wear something sexy.

XXX"

I am dating this guy. Not just fucking him.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Jeez, LIKES!!?? I blooming like you from the post, profile & pics!!

I just said that to H, her comment "He could be Johnny Fcking Depp, he'd still be booted out the door fcking like! Bloody cheek!"

Think you get the drift....

LOL! Bless you both! Well he isn't Johnny Depp but he is pretty hot in truth. I can't deny he is a very good looking guy. However.... that isn't enough.

But I have only been seeing him about 2 months max... so I am not expecting declarations of love! Lol! Just a little passion and expression of interest !

He is sooooo confused and slightly irritated when I mention it though! He says he is baffled!!

It's just unfortunate to many of both sexes they feel it is enough to just be with someone, as said by someone earlier it's the "Well I'm here aren't I" mentality..

Trouble is that isn't enough for anyone even the slightest bit insecure about themselves because all they think is "Yeah but until when?" or maybe they'll look elsewhere for someone that will pay them compliments & show more affection.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"So.... if you are dating someone and he never gives you any compliments, is it an issue?

If you tell him you don't think he finds you pretty , is it OK if he says he is baffled and never said you were ugly?

I know - over thinking again

But when someone I date has a much better body and is far better looking than me, I get really insecure! Especially when they say nothing to reassure me.

It reminds me of when my mum asked my dad if he loved her (after 20 years of marriage!), he just said ' I married you, didn't I?'.

They are divorced now!

Am I just over sensitive?

I have only been seeing him for a couple of months.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Jeez, LIKES!!?? I blooming like you from the post, profile & pics!!

I just said that to H, her comment "He could be Johnny Fcking Depp, he'd still be booted out the door fcking like! Bloody cheek!"

Think you get the drift....

LOL! Bless you both! Well he isn't Johnny Depp but he is pretty hot in truth. I can't deny he is a very good looking guy. However.... that isn't enough.

But I have only been seeing him about 2 months max... so I am not expecting declarations of love! Lol! Just a little passion and expression of interest !

He is sooooo confused and slightly irritated when I mention it though! He says he is baffled!!

It's just unfortunate to many of both sexes they feel it is enough to just be with someone, as said by someone earlier it's the "Well I'm here aren't I" mentality..

Which is exactly what is likely to happen now. Shame because I liked him but I need a bit more feedback!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the affirmation we need, the little touches, the tings we do without being asked; eye contact at certain moments and yes, what we say, how we say it and perhaps most importantly; why we say it.

All of these things make us feel good and our partner feel good, it's win/win, it means there's a connection; that there's "something"...

However I am single so could be talking shite xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the affirmation we need, the little touches, the tings we do without being asked; eye contact at certain moments and yes, what we say, how we say it and perhaps most importantly; why we say it.

All of these things make us feel good and our partner feel good, it's win/win, it means there's a connection; that there's "something"...

However I am single so could be talking shite xx"

Nope, you're saying it very well.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"It's the affirmation we need, the little touches, the tings we do without being asked; eye contact at certain moments and yes, what we say, how we say it and perhaps most importantly; why we say it.

All of these things make us feel good and our partner feel good, it's win/win, it means there's a connection; that there's "something"...

However I am single so could be talking shite xx"

Sounds good.

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"It's the affirmation we need, the little touches, the tings we do without being asked; eye contact at certain moments and yes, what we say, how we say it and perhaps most importantly; why we say it.

All of these things make us feel good and our partner feel good, it's win/win, it means there's a connection; that there's "something"...

However I am single so could be talking shite xx"

Totally agree but I am currently dreaming of FAB lollies after seeing that one on your pic! Lol... I LOVE FAB lollies! The ones with hundreds and thousands on!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the affirmation we need, the little touches, the tings we do without being asked; eye contact at certain moments and yes, what we say, how we say it and perhaps most importantly; why we say it.

All of these things make us feel good and our partner feel good, it's win/win, it means there's a connection; that there's "something"...

However I am single so could be talking shite xx

Totally agree but I am currently dreaming of FAB lollies after seeing that one on your pic! Lol... I LOVE FAB lollies! The ones with hundreds and thousands on!!!!

My sincere apologies, I've one left in the freezer

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"It's the affirmation we need, the little touches, the tings we do without being asked; eye contact at certain moments and yes, what we say, how we say it and perhaps most importantly; why we say it.

All of these things make us feel good and our partner feel good, it's win/win, it means there's a connection; that there's "something"...

However I am single so could be talking shite xx

Totally agree but I am currently dreaming of FAB lollies after seeing that one on your pic! Lol... I LOVE FAB lollies! The ones with hundreds and thousands on!!!!

My sincere apologies, I've one left in the freezer

I'll take it!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I learned the hard way that it is far better to be single than with the wrong man.

If a man makes you find yourself feeling insecure etc. then he's not the right man for you.

Being with a man is supposed to enhance how we feel not make us question ourselves.

You may be following in your Mother's footsteps without realising. I'd dump him and keep meeting men until one of them makes you feel gorgeous and wonderful

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I learned the hard way that it is far better to be single than with the wrong man.

If a man makes you find yourself feeling insecure etc. then he's not the right man for you.

Being with a man is supposed to enhance how we feel not make us question ourselves.

You may be following in your Mother's footsteps without realising. I'd dump him and keep meeting men until one of them makes you feel gorgeous and wonderful

Yep! Trying!

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I do feel stupid how much my confidence is knocked somehow.

I know it's ridiculous! I should have a word with myself.

But for the first time in my life, I feel ugly and old. I am wondering if that's really the truth!

Sorry. ... I am talking (writing!) out loud so it isn't a self pity party. Don't worry. Lol!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I do feel stupid how much my confidence is knocked somehow.

I know it's ridiculous! I should have a word with myself.

But for the first time in my life, I feel ugly and old. I am wondering if that's really the truth!

Sorry. ... I am talking (writing!) out loud so it isn't a self pity party. Don't worry. Lol! "

You look fine to us

just one little letter wrong on your profile that is all

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By *ubbykitten OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I do feel stupid how much my confidence is knocked somehow.

I know it's ridiculous! I should have a word with myself.

But for the first time in my life, I feel ugly and old. I am wondering if that's really the truth!

Sorry. ... I am talking (writing!) out loud so it isn't a self pity party. Don't worry. Lol!

You look fine to us

just one little letter wrong on your profile that is all

Well thanks for taking the time to tell me about one tiny error !

not that I know what it is and certainly not searching for it!

No doubt there is plenty wrong with my profile and my photos and me! But this is me! Can't change it!

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

It would be nice to get complimented.

I'm not use to it from my husband which is pretty never,but I get it alot with others..

Never really thought about it until this post.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I do feel stupid how much my confidence is knocked somehow.

I know it's ridiculous! I should have a word with myself.

But for the first time in my life, I feel ugly and old. I am wondering if that's really the truth!

Sorry. ... I am talking (writing!) out loud so it isn't a self pity party. Don't worry. Lol!

You look fine to us

just one little letter wrong on your profile that is all

Well thanks for taking the time to tell me about one tiny error !

not that I know what it is and certainly not searching for it!

No doubt there is plenty wrong with my profile and my photos and me! But this is me! Can't change it! "

The one little letter was an M instead of an F lol..As in MF instead of MM

Didn't means to cause offence xx

Good luck in your continued search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do feel stupid how much my confidence is knocked somehow.

I know it's ridiculous! I should have a word with myself.

But for the first time in my life, I feel ugly and old. I am wondering if that's really the truth!

Sorry. ... I am talking (writing!) out loud so it isn't a self pity party. Don't worry. Lol! "

Can I join your pity party!! Always in for a party!!

Mrs NbN

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I do feel stupid how much my confidence is knocked somehow.

I know it's ridiculous! I should have a word with myself.

But for the first time in my life, I feel ugly and old. I am wondering if that's really the truth!

Sorry. ... I am talking (writing!) out loud so it isn't a self pity party. Don't worry. Lol! "

Confidence is a massive issue for tons of people, it's not stupid to lose it sometimes.

Finding confidence within yourself and not from compliments from others is the way forward. but easier said than done I know.

Being with a man who doesn't make you feel great won't be helping though.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I do feel stupid how much my confidence is knocked somehow.

I know it's ridiculous! I should have a word with myself.

But for the first time in my life, I feel ugly and old. I am wondering if that's really the truth!

Sorry. ... I am talking (writing!) out loud so it isn't a self pity party. Don't worry. Lol! "
is the problem really the problem. He might not keep telling you your pretty but is he doing other stuff

Think about it we only see what we want to see

If youve thought about it with an open mind and he isnt.paying.you any compliments then you need to sit down and talk

Now my guessing is hes showing you compliments but not in.the way you want. remember the boys pulling the pigtails of the girls they fancied at school

Now if youve looked at it logically and he really isnt paying you compliments i doubt its you, its the way he is and thats going to be hard to change

But you need to comminocate cause if you cant now your never going to be able to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps he's just not been brought up to give or receive compliments. It doesn't come naturally for some people if it's not what they're used to hearing or saying. And you say he's vain, maybe he's equally as insecure, hence caring so much about how he looks. I would say that if he's dating you, chances are he's attracted to you. Some people gush compliments but don't genuinely mean them, they just say things to get what they want.

I totally agree we all crave affection and love to feel desired but I would also think someone was a bit needy if they were moaning about me not paying them enough compliments a month or two after meeting, it would probably deter me from paying compliments for a while as it would feel contrived.

However, you look great to me and I wish you well with whatever you decide xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a mans perspective, you are being a little over sensitive. All men are different and are creatures of habit. Im sure that if he often gave you lots of compliments you would equally be concerned. I believe some men do others dont. Emotional inteligent men are more aware of the need however these men are less genuine. By the way I would like pay you a compliment your pics show a beautiful lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you give someone a compliment it should be natural....when I'm ready to go out Mr A will say you look lovely or you smell lovely....sometimes he will say it when we are out and sometimes he doesn't say it at all....it shouldn't be forced or prompted...if he's never said it he either isn't comfortable with it or he just doesn't think it x

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