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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In the one, Do we only ever have one real true love in our lifetime ?

Or is it the one your with now/Your next one ?

Have you found him/she, Lost them, Still looking ?

Was he/she your first relationship or did you have to kiss a few frogs to find them,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Frist dates, Gets you thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the one, Do we only ever have one real true love in our lifetime ?

Or is it the one your with now/Your next one ?

Have you found him/she, Lost them, Still looking ?

Was he/she your first relationship or did you have to kiss a few frogs to find them,

"

Deep... answer? Don't know, i am not sure we ever know, there have been a few different women that have grabbed my heart and shook it like a snow globe, and all but one ended amicably, I guess in my heart; the answer is....... "I Hope So"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isnt just one person for you to love or to love you. The world is full up with people and opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really want to reply but I hate what I'm about to say!

I believe in soul mates, in the fact you can find one person out there that just gets you, more than anyone else ever has or will.

However it doesn't mean that you are destined to stay together.

Not without sacrificing a little of yourself.

I married my soul mate, loved him so much and still do.....however, he couldn't accept my lifestyle, and I couldn't change.

Sucks dead dogs dicks that does x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think for some people they feel there can only be one. This can mean they reject lots of possibles who may grow into 'the one' as they don't arrive as the perfect package. It can mean that when they lose the person they thought was 'their one' in whatever way they give up.

I'm not with anyone so maybe I've never found my 'one' and never will.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I honestly don't know the answer but here's my two pence worth.

I reckon 35 or so years ago when I met up with Mr N that at that time both of us could have made a go of things with other people similar to us BUT we didn't we met and have stayed together all that time. For myself I know that what we've built up in that time couldn't be replicated with someone else for one thing I simply don't have enough time left to do it and for another I wouldn't have the heart.

So I would say that for some people it can work out that there is "the one" and for others there isn't.

Make sense?...Thought not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was only one question on my mind when I opened this thread... Do you believe in life after love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can love more than one person.

I've loved more than one person, for different reasons. Both of them were different but both of them were perfect for me.

I'm not with either of them now. I believe love lasts forever but your relationship may not, and that's ok. Hard, but ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was only one question on my mind when I opened this thread... Do you believe in life after love?"

I bloody love Cher

In answer to the OP. Only one? Crikey I hope not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is only a couple of Women I have got close enough to feel a connection, One I dated briefly the other was a close friend, So I don't think I have ever been in love but I do still think about them and think what if

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think there are just lots of people and your paths meet and you connect with someone. I don't think there's only one person for each of us.

And incidentally... I loved the grass utter and the boatbuilder with the flat cap!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That's like a grass cutter!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I have fallen in love (and to an extent am *still* in love with) three people.

Proper love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We grow as people the longer were here and learning stuff, if both partners don't grow together then they'll probably just not be suitable for each other any more. Maybe they'll grow apart, still love each other - and the memories they made together are good but if you feel you need to move onto something else, someone else, then that's just how it is.

It probably doesn't eve mean you don't love them any more, it just means as a team it's just not working now.

That's how i feel about on ex of mine. We're still freinds but i'd never get back with him as we're different people from when we first got together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if soul mates exist, mine got hit by a bus. I think my life so far has meant that even if I do have a soul mate, they're too late, I'm too broken now.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think if soul mates exist, mine got hit by a bus. I think my life so far has meant that even if I do have a soul mate, they're too late, I'm too broken now."

Sadly I feel the same. it's just to hard and obviously I'm no good at it

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think you can love more than one person.

I've loved more than one person, for different reasons. Both of them were different but both of them were perfect for me.

I'm not with either of them now. I believe love lasts forever but your relationship may not, and that's ok. Hard, but ok."

I can subscribe to that. I still love everyone I have ever loved and I know one of them still loves me.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think if soul mates exist, mine got hit by a bus. I think my life so far has meant that even if I do have a soul mate, they're too late, I'm too broken now."

I hope you can mend. I spent 14 years celibate thinking like that when I was just a couple of years older than you are now. I know I missed two chances with people as I pushed them away with my belief that I could never be with anyone. Who knows what could have been if I'd just opened up a little?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if I've ever been in love...but I really want to and for that reason I fall to easy for people..I think it's more that I'm in love with the idea of being in love...it sucks cos I get hurt lots!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if soul mates exist, mine got hit by a bus. I think my life so far has meant that even if I do have a soul mate, they're too late, I'm too broken now.

Sadly I feel the same. it's just to hard and obviously I'm no good at it "

I'm sure as hell not. I try not to let the bad in my past influence relationships. But it does. Insecurities and fears cause fuck ups I don't intend. Meh. Mostly life's good. Lonely can be tolerated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that we as humans are not meant to be monagamous. I have not ever been in a truly loving relationship and I'm now learning to embrace my sexuality my wants and needs as they've always been suppressed. I truly admire couples on here who swing and are in love that is my ultimate and I would ultimately want a relationship like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no - i think more than one person on this earth you can feel is the one -

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"There was only one question on my mind when I opened this thread... Do you believe in life after love?"

No, its living death.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I was 4O when i met jay, id never put any real value on relationships, they came and they went apart from the one who was a cunt none really had much affect on my life including my husband. But i knew jay a whole year before we got together it was the friendship that bound us there was no massive firework explosion but we just naturally came together. Now jay is getting older its weird knowing that only death will part us as ive never thought of relationships like that before. We probably wont have had as much time together as a lot of people but i will always know he was the one and i thank my lucky stars everyday

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I believe that we as humans are not meant to be monagamous. I have not ever been in a truly loving relationship and I'm now learning to embrace my sexuality my wants and needs as they've always been suppressed. I truly admire couples on here who swing and are in love that is my ultimate and I would ultimately want a relationship like that.

"

I'll send my number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe that we as humans are not meant to be monagamous. I have not ever been in a truly loving relationship and I'm now learning to embrace my sexuality my wants and needs as they've always been suppressed. I truly admire couples on here who swing and are in love that is my ultimate and I would ultimately want a relationship like that.

I'll send my number "

I'd have sent mine but the lovely lady is straight.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I believe that we as humans are not meant to be monagamous. I have not ever been in a truly loving relationship and I'm now learning to embrace my sexuality my wants and needs as they've always been suppressed. I truly admire couples on here who swing and are in love that is my ultimate and I would ultimately want a relationship like that.

I'll send my number

I'd have sent mine but the lovely lady is straight. "

I'll try and put a word in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe that we as humans are not meant to be monagamous. I have not ever been in a truly loving relationship and I'm now learning to embrace my sexuality my wants and needs as they've always been suppressed. I truly admire couples on here who swing and are in love that is my ultimate and I would ultimately want a relationship like that.

I'll send my number

I'd have sent mine but the lovely lady is straight.

I'll try and put a word in "

Cheers sweetie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Gaid72fqzNE

For true wisdom on the topic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again. "

You to young to know that already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already "

im not im going to be a cat lady when im older, jobs a good'n!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already "

Didn't bloody say that too me, she's only 5 yrs younger.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

im not im going to be a cat lady when im older, jobs a good'n!"

Be a dog lady I hate cats

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

Didn't bloody say that too me, she's only 5 yrs younger. "

5 years is a lifetime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

im not im going to be a cat lady when im older, jobs a good'n!

Be a dog lady I hate cats"

Im already a dog lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

Didn't bloody say that too me, she's only 5 yrs younger.

5 years is a lifetime "

True. Last 5 yrs have not been kind.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

im not im going to be a cat lady when im older, jobs a good'n!

Be a dog lady I hate cats

Im already a dog lady "

See if knew we'd get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

im not im going to be a cat lady when im older, jobs a good'n!

Be a dog lady I hate cats

Im already a dog lady

See if knew we'd get on "

youre not wrong there sweets

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

Didn't bloody say that too me, she's only 5 yrs younger.

5 years is a lifetime

True. Last 5 yrs have not been kind. "

Tell me about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

Didn't bloody say that too me, she's only 5 yrs younger.

5 years is a lifetime

True. Last 5 yrs have not been kind. "

Amen to that lovely

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

im not im going to be a cat lady when im older, jobs a good'n!

Be a dog lady I hate cats

Im already a dog lady

See if knew we'd get on

youre not wrong there sweets"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loved loads of folk n moved on,, still in love very happy.lifes for lovin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do believe in love and true love but my experience so far is that you just get hurt. Sorry to seem negative but its true. I believe in it but I don't wish to experience that bitter-sweet torture again.

You to young to know that already

Didn't bloody say that too me, she's only 5 yrs younger.

5 years is a lifetime

True. Last 5 yrs have not been kind.

Tell me about it"

Make that 6 yrs. Well it will be soon.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I thought "the one" was a purely Holywood construct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a receptive state of mind to find love and that there are many many many people out there for us. Here's hoping anyway!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need a receptive state of mind to find love and that there are many many many people out there for us. Here's hoping anyway!!

"

yeap MANY,MANY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure. l've only ever loved one girl and l still miss her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure. l've only ever loved one girl and l still miss her."

awe,,,maybe you,ll meet again

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think if soul mates exist, mine got hit by a bus. I think my life so far has meant that even if I do have a soul mate, they're too late, I'm too broken now."

Aww but you are SOOO young, you have time, I'm damned if I am giving up!!

No, I do not believe there is only one, but I hope I am yet to meet 'the love of my life'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if soul mates exist, mine got hit by a bus. I think my life so far has meant that even if I do have a soul mate, they're too late, I'm too broken now.

Aww but you are SOOO young, you have time, I'm damned if I am giving up!!

No, I do not believe there is only one, but I hope I am yet to meet 'the love of my life'. "

I'm not really, not for settling down. I'd not be able to have someone in my space again. Or the restrictions that relationshipshe bring.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Our minds are incredibly flexible so there's absolutely no reason to assume that we can just have one love per life. It makes no sense to me. A bit like assuming we can just have sex with one person - once the deed is done, you've had your lot.

From an evolutionary perspective, we thrive if we can be successful in multiple mating's as well as form strong social bonds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'tis better to have loved and lost.....than to never have loved at all.

Or something like that!

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"'tis better to have loved and lost.....than to never have loved at all.

Or something like that! "

I just wanna meet someone who will let me pick my nose infront of her and then wipe it on her leg with her saying . .

"Awwww thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'tis better to have loved and lost.....than to never have loved at all.

Or something like that!

I just wanna meet someone who will let me pick my nose infront of her and then wipe it on her leg with her saying . .

"Awwww thanks"

"

That's true love right there!

Even more of a keeper if she eats it.......ahhhhhh

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"'tis better to have loved and lost.....than to never have loved at all.

Or something like that!

I just wanna meet someone who will let me pick my nose infront of her and then wipe it on her leg with her saying . .

"Awwww thanks"

That's true love right there!

Even more of a keeper if she eats it.......ahhhhhh "

Haha !

Talk abour marriage material.

Ps - nice tool kit

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

*rushes off to put some Cher on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'tis better to have loved and lost.....than to never have loved at all.

Or something like that!

I just wanna meet someone who will let me pick my nose infront of her and then wipe it on her leg with her saying . .

"Awwww thanks"

That's true love right there!

Even more of a keeper if she eats it.......ahhhhhh

Haha !

Talk abour marriage material.

Ps - nice tool kit "

Awwww shucks!

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By *ornylady71Woman
over a year ago

near Bury

Well I met my partner & I truly believe that I met my soulmate & lifetime partner, we were together 14 years before he got killed.

Never take life for granted !!!

I don't think you meet more than 1soulmate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I met my partner & I truly believe that I met my soulmate & lifetime partner, we were together 14 years before he got killed.

Never take life for granted !!!

I don't think you meet more than 1soulmate "

Aye life can really kick you in the teeth sometimes! I'm sorry for your loss.

You never know what's around the corner though,hopefully something good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe that we as humans are not meant to be monagamous. I have not ever been in a truly loving relationship and I'm now learning to embrace my sexuality my wants and needs as they've always been suppressed. I truly admire couples on here who swing and are in love that is my ultimate and I would ultimately want a relationship like that.

I'll send my number

I'd have sent mine but the lovely lady is straight.

I'll try and put a word in

Cheers sweetie! "

Errr hello waves frantically , I am here. And I am exploring my sexuality and I've actually just opened my looking for option to females and couples. Had a bad experience years ago with a couple so made me weary (long story)

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By *ornylady71Woman
over a year ago

near Bury


"Well I met my partner & I truly believe that I met my soulmate & lifetime partner, we were together 14 years before he got killed.

Never take life for granted !!!

I don't think you meet more than 1soulmate

Aye life can really kick you in the teeth sometimes! I'm sorry for your loss.

You never know what's around the corner though,hopefully something good! "

Awwww thank you

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Well I met my partner & I truly believe that I met my soulmate & lifetime partner, we were together 14 years before he got killed.

Never take life for granted !!!

I don't think you meet more than 1soulmate "

Sorry to hear that

It's so true that, I'm still waiting for mine.......

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Totally believe Its possible to love more than once, and as others have said I don't think it ever really dies.

I would never be in a relationship with my ex again but I would move the heavens for her if she asked

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I have had 3 one true loves.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I have had 3 one true loves. "

Yeah, and one of those is shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion."

Also i believe all love fades over time

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

It's possible to love more than one person x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'tis better to have loved and lost.....than to never have loved at all.

Or something like that!

I just wanna meet someone who will let me pick my nose infront of her and then wipe it on her leg with her saying . .

"Awwww thanks"

That's true love right there!

Even more of a keeper if she eats it.......ahhhhhh "

I've just had breakfast, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really want to reply but I hate what I'm about to say!

I believe in soul mates, in the fact you can find one person out there that just gets you, more than anyone else ever has or will.

However it doesn't mean that you are destined to stay together.

Not without sacrificing a little of yourself.

I married my soul mate, loved him so much and still do.....however, he couldn't accept my lifestyle, and I couldn't change.

Sucks dead dogs dicks that does x"

I believe in soul mates too XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there THE one? I don't know, what I do know is there is nobody else on this planet that would put up with me on a daily basis, so I guess if there is only one then I have found her, either that or she's a bit stupid for sticking around

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion."

That's me fucked then, I'm never gonna find true love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

That's me fucked then, I'm never gonna find true love "

Ignore that - there are different types of love. Of course that doesn't mean you'll find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time"

The love for your children is a different beast to the love for another.

Love makes me extremely vulnerable. I don't like that so I don't give in. I'm a cold hearted ice queen and that's fine by me. I do love a good old infactuation though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*infatuation. Urgh. It's early

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

That's me fucked then, I'm never gonna find true love

Ignore that - there are different types of love. Of course that doesn't mean you'll find it "

I loved my Border Collie, but he's a dead dawg now

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

I never believed in the one before I met hubby. I was never one of those women dreaming about the one and my wedding day. Etc.

And then I met hubby in the most unexpected place. He is the love of my life. He is my best friend. And we belly laugh every day.

Still fucking with others is a lot of fun

MrsSB

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time"

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the one, Do we only ever have one real true love in our lifetime ?

Or is it the one your with now/Your next one ?

Have you found him/she, Lost them, Still looking ?

Was he/she your first relationship or did you have to kiss a few frogs to find them,

"

Yes I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am lucky enough to be able to love two men very deeply.....we have drawn boundaries that meet the approval of all involved....happy times

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think if soul mates exist, mine got hit by a bus. I think my life so far has meant that even if I do have a soul mate, they're too late, I'm too broken now.

Aww but you are SOOO young, you have time, I'm damned if I am giving up!!

No, I do not believe there is only one, but I hope I am yet to meet 'the love of my life'.

I'm not really, not for settling down. I'd not be able to have someone in my space again. Or the restrictions that relationshipshe bring. "

Never is a long time - god I can remember being newly wed at your age and it seems like EONS ago lol!!!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"You need a receptive state of mind to find love and that there are many many many people out there for us. Here's hoping anyway!!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time"

I'd agree for the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really want to reply but I hate what I'm about to say!

I believe in soul mates, in the fact you can find one person out there that just gets you, more than anyone else ever has or will.

However it doesn't mean that you are destined to stay together.

Not without sacrificing a little of yourself.

I married my soul mate, loved him so much and still do.....however, he couldn't accept my lifestyle, and I couldn't change.

Sucks dead dogs dicks that does x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last relationship was with someone who really did seem like my soulmate - we had so much in common.

But, as my mind often did (and probably still would), it played tricks on me, as if it was saying "you don't deserve this level of happiness", and so insecurities crept in, and the relationship slowly deteriorated until we broke up.

We still get on as friends, and I want her to be happy whatever she does, but there are times when I lie alone in bed at night just wishing I could hold her close to me again.....I miss that most of all, not just the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Never been in love nor want to be. whwn i was young at the time i thought it was love but as i got older igot wiser. It wasn't love back then. Just pure lust. . At 44 i really don't think i'd find love now. But my life is good i don't yern for it, and i enjoy my swinging life too much to fall in love. Its just not for me. All that lovey dovey thing makes me cringe tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can love more than one person.

I've loved more than one person, for different reasons. Both of them were different but both of them were perfect for me.

I'm not with either of them now. I believe love lasts forever but your relationship may not, and that's ok. Hard, but ok."

Of course you love more than one person, but being in love with more than one person? No, not for me, Iv only ever been in love with one person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years."

Fair play to them, thats some good going... but im just speaking from what i feel and i've experienced.

No offence ment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such things, in my opinion.

I've no Mono friends who've lasted but a good few Poly friends that are lasting the distance (so far)

Meh, I'm just not bothered either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i believe fairytales were inspired by real love stories. its that fairytale love im holding out for

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I really want to reply but I hate what I'm about to say!

I believe in soul mates, in the fact you can find one person out there that just gets you, more than anyone else ever has or will.

However it doesn't mean that you are destined to stay together.

Not without sacrificing a little of yourself.

I married my soul mate, loved him so much and still do.....however, he couldn't accept my lifestyle, and I couldn't change.

Sucks dead dogs dicks that does x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more youthful romantic in me used to believe in 'the one', but I'm inclined to believe there are many 'the ones'.

I think love can still go the distance but you need to find the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years."

That's a different generation though. My parents hopefully will enjoy their diamond wedding anniversary God willing. They are soul mates and truly love eachother.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years.

Fair play to them, thats some good going... but im just speaking from what i feel and i've experienced.

No offence ment "

None taken - but it kinda proves the point that love doesn't always fade - it can be unconditional and lifelong for a partner as well as children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe that we as humans are not meant to be monagamous. I have not ever been in a truly loving relationship and I'm now learning to embrace my sexuality my wants and needs as they've always been suppressed. I truly admire couples on here who swing and are in love that is my ultimate and I would ultimately want a relationship like that.

I'll send my number

I'd have sent mine but the lovely lady is straight.

I'll try and put a word in

Cheers sweetie!

Errr hello waves frantically , I am here. And I am exploring my sexuality and I've actually just opened my looking for option to females and couples. Had a bad experience years ago with a couple so made me weary (long story)

"

Ive not met couples after a dodgy encounter, but for me the issue was the guy. Just a case of doing as much or as little as we feel like. I've gone right off men atm

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley

I love lots of people but am only IN love with one. I met my soul mate 15 years ago when I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I have loved others since then but have not been in love with them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Is it possible that some people aren't wired up to love apart from family?

Do life experiences mean that some people avoid allowing themselves to love another person?

Could it be that if you meet someone you're compatible with and both of you are of a mind to stick with it through thick and thin that you become each others "one" rather than it starting out that way?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I love lots of people but am only IN love with one. I met my soul mate 15 years ago when I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I have loved others since then but have not been in love with them. "

Can you explain the difference between loving and being in love? I'm not being argumentative I genuinely don't understand it. Is it the difference between romantic love and love for friends for instance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years."

Unfortunately, our generation seem incapable of being in relationships for very long. Its so much easier to go off and find something better what with dating sites etc, so people are more easily tempted away. Its sad and I feel very sorry for people younger than me because its getting worse.

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley


"I love lots of people but am only IN love with one. I met my soul mate 15 years ago when I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I have loved others since then but have not been in love with them.

Can you explain the difference between loving and being in love? I'm not being argumentative I genuinely don't understand it. Is it the difference between romantic love and love for friends for instance? "

I have had fb's that I have loved but there is only one person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. Hope that makes it a bit clearer.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years.

Unfortunately, our generation seem incapable of being in relationships for very long. Its so much easier to go off and find something better what with dating sites etc, so people are more easily tempted away. Its sad and I feel very sorry for people younger than me because its getting worse."

Do you think we're moving towards expecting to have several serious, long term relationships in our lives? Until recently life expectancy was much lower and there was a good possibility that one partner would die much sooner than the other meaning that marriages didn't last 59, 60, 70 years as they are doing now, I wonder if most relationships are destined to be finite any way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I love lots of people but am only IN love with one. I met my soul mate 15 years ago when I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I have loved others since then but have not been in love with them.

Can you explain the difference between loving and being in love? I'm not being argumentative I genuinely don't understand it. Is it the difference between romantic love and love for friends for instance?

I have had fb's that I have loved but there is only one person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. Hope that makes it a bit clearer."

It does a bit, thank you.

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley


"I love lots of people but am only IN love with one. I met my soul mate 15 years ago when I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I have loved others since then but have not been in love with them.

Can you explain the difference between loving and being in love? I'm not being argumentative I genuinely don't understand it. Is it the difference between romantic love and love for friends for instance?

I have had fb's that I have loved but there is only one person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. Hope that makes it a bit clearer.

It does a bit, thank you. "

My brain hasn't fully woken up yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the one, Do we only ever have one real true love in our lifetime ?

Or is it the one your with now/Your next one ?

Have you found him/she, Lost them, Still looking ?

Was he/she your first relationship or did you have to kiss a few frogs to find them,

"

No its not worked for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really believe in "the one." I never have believed in that. I think that there are people you're compatible with and people you're not - although I think there are only a small number of people you can be compatible with enough to make a long term relationship work.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't really believe in "the one." I never have believed in that. I think that there are people you're compatible with and people you're not - although I think there are only a small number of people you can be compatible with enough to make a long term relationship work."

See! Brains and beauty! You've encapsulated in one small paragraph what I've rambled on about in several posts and still not made myself clear.

I agree with you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time"
i disagree with that, just when i think i cant love jay anymore than i do out pops somemore. It seems my heart is a never ending pot of love. It just gets more all the time

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over timei disagree with that, just when i think i cant love jay anymore than i do out pops somemore. It seems my heart is a never ending pot of love. It just gets more all the time"

Only time will tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is neverending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm 58 now and ive ever only been in love once,i was seeing an Irish traveller and he was a lovely man,was with him 7years until one day he came to me and said i would never see him again and i havent ,as he had to marry into his own kind,broke my heart that was thirty years ago and not a day goes by when i dont think of him

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Theres lots of things i used to poo poo cause i hadnt experienced it. I never knew what a soul mate was i never classed my husband as my soul mate, i never really knew what love was and not because id purposely shut it out it was just something i had never experienced. I was 40 when i experienced so not a kid had a level head on my shoulders so knew i wasnt getting carried away with some dream

The thing.is everyone has a different understanding of what love is

I know what my definition is

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Someone once said to me

"We aren't swans, we don't mate for life"

I think if you find the kind of love where you have butterflies every day you should cherish it

But I also believe that people change, situations change and you can grow apart

You can love someone with all your heart but not have those butterflies anymore- and when that happens it's time to fly away.

"Never settle because you deserve the best, to be loved the most and to never expect anything less than butterflies" best advice ever- Ta mum

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over timei disagree with that, just when i think i cant love jay anymore than i do out pops somemore. It seems my heart is a never ending pot of love. It just gets more all the time

Only time will tell"
how much time. I dont think we have enough time for that to start happening. Where in our final years your just at the beginning of yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion."

Wait til you have grandkids! Then you'll know what pure love is

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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This is deep...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion."
but there different types of love same as love for your parents. You dont love a child and a partner the same way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting question OP

I have no idea to be honest!

Some will have found the one, others may spend all their life looking for the one ~ does 'the one' even exist & if they do are they for life or a period of time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe that they're are varying degrees of love. The love you feel for your children / partner / pets / friends is different but not less valid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did believe that at 1 point though after my divorce i met another guy and he just lit up my world in every sense of the word

sadly he passed away last year and i know that il never allow myself to fall in love again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years.

Unfortunately, our generation seem incapable of being in relationships for very long. Its so much easier to go off and find something better what with dating sites etc, so people are more easily tempted away. Its sad and I feel very sorry for people younger than me because its getting worse.

Do you think we're moving towards expecting to have several serious, long term relationships in our lives? Until recently life expectancy was much lower and there was a good possibility that one partner would die much sooner than the other meaning that marriages didn't last 59, 60, 70 years as they are doing now, I wonder if most relationships are destined to be finite any way."

i think we're moving into just using people while always looking for something better to come along. it's easier to do though that so that might be why.

although saying that, my teenage son has been with his girlfriend for a few years now and doesn't seem to be looking for anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have fallen in love (and to an extent am *still* in love with) three people.

Proper love. "

What is proper love

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years.

Unfortunately, our generation seem incapable of being in relationships for very long. Its so much easier to go off and find something better what with dating sites etc, so people are more easily tempted away. Its sad and I feel very sorry for people younger than me because its getting worse.

Do you think we're moving towards expecting to have several serious, long term relationships in our lives? Until recently life expectancy was much lower and there was a good possibility that one partner would die much sooner than the other meaning that marriages didn't last 59, 60, 70 years as they are doing now, I wonder if most relationships are destined to be finite any way.

i think we're moving into just using people while always looking for something better to come along. it's easier to do though that so that might be why.

although saying that, my teenage son has been with his girlfriend for a few years now and doesn't seem to be looking for anyone else.

"

That's interesting. I only have direct experience of our kids and their friends and I'd say the majority look for long term but there's a sizable minority who move from relationship to relationship. I suppose divorce and separation became more acceptable from the 70s on making it easier socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.

Also i believe all love fades over time

My parents met at school and were together 70 odd years.

Unfortunately, our generation seem incapable of being in relationships for very long. Its so much easier to go off and find something better what with dating sites etc, so people are more easily tempted away. Its sad and I feel very sorry for people younger than me because its getting worse.

Do you think we're moving towards expecting to have several serious, long term relationships in our lives? Until recently life expectancy was much lower and there was a good possibility that one partner would die much sooner than the other meaning that marriages didn't last 59, 60, 70 years as they are doing now, I wonder if most relationships are destined to be finite any way.

i think we're moving into just using people while always looking for something better to come along. it's easier to do though that so that might be why.

although saying that, my teenage son has been with his girlfriend for a few years now and doesn't seem to be looking for anyone else.

That's interesting. I only have direct experience of our kids and their friends and I'd say the majority look for long term but there's a sizable minority who move from relationship to relationship. I suppose divorce and separation became more acceptable from the 70s on making it easier socially."

i just think a lot of people will just settle now. i just get that feeling, not sure why because i don't actually kow anyone who has done this, and i do know a fair amount of people who work on redundant relationships too because they want it work.

might just be because a lot of people are cheating and that and it just gives me the impression they never wanted the person they are actually with? idk.

i feel like all my exes settled (they all cheated) so it might just be an issue with me. not because they cheated, that's their issue, but more my thoughts around why they did that because i know one definitely loved me and others claimed they did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont believe in true love for a partner, the only true love you will ever have is for your children. Just my opinion.but there different types of love same as love for your parents. You dont love a child and a partner the same way"

Exactly,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True love is the last bit of magic left in the world. Its a connection between 2 people that transcends the physical world we live in... its the ghostly figure stood on a clifftop staring out to sea. Forever waiting for their lost love to return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do believe it, but I believe that fate plays a huge role, if you will find one or not. I have never been looking or really wanted a relationship/partner as I am happy to be on my own, but if I find my dream match one day, that would good too

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