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"I personally find that the more effort someone puts into their profile, the more rewards they reap. Make of that what you will. " thanks | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " Profile is awful so it doesn't sell you. Sell yourself. If you have a sense of humour, show it. | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? " Friendly people but most are just stuck up | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " Yeah that'll get you a meet | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " Comments like that will get you into no ones knickers. | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " What you really mean is that people don't respond because you're not what they want, or they may believe you'll put as much effort into a meet as you did composing your profile. | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " Stuck up what ? Using people as chimney sweeps was outlawed years ago | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " simple answer OP because the fakes timewasters and general fuckwits have made your average swinger super cynical which you will kind of understand when you have been on here a while . this fact means most are unwilling to waste or invest there time on a newbie instead they base all decisions and put most of their faith in the verify system which sadly means your in for a hard time until you have a few . | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works?? "It takes longer than an hour to get to Exeter 
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " you find it's hard for verified people to get replies too sometimes, there are so many time waister and string slingers verified or not | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works??
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " Well seeing as most of us are stuck up I won't bother offering help. Bye Ms stuck up strawb | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Thanks "not all just some hahaha | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Well seeing as most of us are stuck up I won't bother offering help. Bye Ms stuck up strawb" a few ladies on this thread I would like to be stuck up | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up I hear you too, sometimes I get that exact thought, you will get shot down for it, but you need to get on to a social or a party once you get one then it becomes a lot easier Hope this helps" cheers mate I will try it out | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works??
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Comments like that will get you into no ones knickers. " But it's true tho I'm a strait up guy say it how it is some times just a simple reply saying your not for me would be better than being ignorant | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up I hear you too, sometimes I get that exact thought, you will get shot down for it, but you need to get on to a social or a party once you get one then it becomes a lot easier Hope this helps cheers mate I will try it out " Don't know how I deleted my message haha, take some time on your profile as well, a profile gives a look inside the owners mind and how it works so bulk it out and input some of your personality into it | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Well seeing as most of us are stuck up I won't bother offering help. Bye Ms stuck up strawb a few ladies on this thread I would like to be stuck up "Its always you lowering the tone | |||
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Its always you lowering the tone"that's told me   sorry I will go and sit on the naughty step | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Comments like that will get you into no ones knickers. But it's true tho I'm a strait up guy say it how it is some times just a simple reply saying your not for me would be better than being ignorant " How would anyone know what you are like? All we have is your two line profile and your reactions here telling folk that they are stuck up and ignorant. That is not the best way attract the interest that you are looking for, is it? | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Comments like that will get you into no ones knickers. But it's true tho I'm a strait up guy say it how it is some times just a simple reply saying your not for me would be better than being ignorant " Would an inbox full of "not for me" make you feel better than an empty one? | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Comments like that will get you into no ones knickers. But it's true tho I'm a strait up guy say it how it is some times just a simple reply saying your not for me would be better than being ignorant " OP may i direct you to the FAQ page, the whole "no replies" thing is addressed there | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " Oh dear, another entitled bloke ticked off because he's not knee deep in fanny, despite having made virtually no effort. Yeah, it's us, OP. Every one of us is doing it wrong. It couldn't be down to you! 
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Comments like that will get you into no ones knickers. But it's true tho I'm a strait up guy say it how it is some times just a simple reply saying your not for me would be better than being ignorant How would anyone know what you are like? All we have is your two line profile and your reactions here telling folk that they are stuck up and ignorant. That is not the best way attract the interest that you are looking for, is it?" But we're doing it wrong and he's telling us. That's bound to work. Silly us, all these years, so many people quite happy with how the site works...who'd have thought we were wrong all the time? | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " Out of interest, if you're not getting any replies, how do you know the problem is that you haven't had any meets? | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Well seeing as most of us are stuck up I won't bother offering help. Bye Ms stuck up strawb" | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour. "Did you? | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " Your profile could do with being a bit longer, maybe a few more pictures, in underpants or bare bottom possibly. It can take a long time for a single bloke to get a meet. Have you thought about going on Cam and getting verified that way? XXX | |||
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that's told me sorry I will go and sit on the naughty step "Budge up then. Don't be hogging it all to yourself jeez lol x | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice simple answer OP because the fakes timewasters and general fuckwits have made your average swinger super cynical which you will kind of understand when you have been on here a while . this fact means most are unwilling to waste or invest there time on a newbie instead they base all decisions and put most of their faith in the verify system which sadly means your in for a hard time until you have a few . " I dont not think verifications mean anything. On fab you really have to market yourself effectively by having an interesting , detailed and highly informative profile . You will of course need good pictures on your orofile as well. If a orofile is short and uninformative , it will just be ignored . If I am buying a car I want to see the full specification , not just a statement that it is a car. The same applies here . | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Well seeing as most of us are stuck up I won't bother offering help. Bye Ms stuck up strawb a few ladies on this thread I would like to be stuck up
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Budge up then. Don't be hogging it all to yourself jeez lol x"ok ok squeeze yourself in | |||
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"I don't think there is any need to lay into the OP quite so much thread posters. Okay sure he called members stuck up, he is just a young lad, everyone has to start somewhere. Don't be so vicious with your comments. You are speaking to a human person who has asked for help and advice. " There is some truth there. To be balanced, his reactions were a touch uncalled for, too. | |||
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"I don't think there is any need to lay into the OP quite so much thread posters. Okay sure he called members stuck up, he is just a young lad, everyone has to start somewhere. Don't be so vicious with your comments. You are speaking to a human person who has asked for help and advice. There is some truth there. To be balanced, his reactions were a touch uncalled for, too." I agree. He may be young but if he's old enough to be on a site like this, he's old enough to know calling people names for not giving him what he wants is unlikly to help his cause. | |||
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"I don't think there is any need to lay into the OP quite so much thread posters. Okay sure he called members stuck up, he is just a young lad, everyone has to start somewhere. Don't be so vicious with your comments. You are speaking to a human person who has asked for help and advice. " Ha. Oh dear. I hadn't read the other poster's comments. SOrry. 'Missives'. Illustrates my point perfectly. There really ought to be a non gender specific (apart from the linguistic encoding) 'cunt' eject button for some of the lovelies on here. But hey, that's what makes the human race so wonderful and varied right? No. I guess not. | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works?? "An hour? I joined planning to nail it and be back home within an hour | |||
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"Treat your profile like your shop window, a chance to promote yourself / look your best. Maybe try a social / party / club night if you find messaging isn't working for you. "Yeh treat it like a shop window and prepare to be spat on quite a lot..metaphorically speaking | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Stuck up what ? Using people as chimney sweeps was outlawed years ago " | |||
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"It's about finding the right people you want to play with aswell "True you should make a checklist,are they A: local? And B: available? | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works??
An hour? I joined planning to nail it and be back home within an hour"Including 45 minutes travel time, foreplay and a brew? | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works??
An hour? I joined planning to nail it and be back home within an hour
Including 45 minutes travel time, foreplay and a brew?"a Quick dump and run   | |||
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"Treat your profile like your shop window, a chance to promote yourself / look your best. Maybe try a social / party / club night if you find messaging isn't working for you.
Yeh treat it like a shop window and prepare to be spat on quite a lot..metaphorically speaking"Not quite what I had in mind | |||
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"I personally find that the more effort someone puts into their profile, the more rewards they reap. Make of that what you will. " | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " I can hear the sound of knickers hitting the floor all over the country. Man you're smoooooooooooth. | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works??
An hour? I joined planning to nail it and be back home within an hour
Including 45 minutes travel time, foreplay and a brew?"+ a shower and time to tell her her how lucky she is | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works??
An hour? I joined planning to nail it and be back home within an hour
Including 45 minutes travel time, foreplay and a brew?
+ a shower and time to tell her her how lucky she is"Wowzer...im waiting | |||
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It is too hard "Not for everyone. I know guys who became popular in a matter of weeks. | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice simple answer OP because the fakes timewasters and general fuckwits have made your average swinger super cynical which you will kind of understand when you have been on here a while . this fact means most are unwilling to waste or invest there time on a newbie instead they base all decisions and put most of their faith in the verify system which sadly means your in for a hard time until you have a few . I dont not think verifications mean anything. On fab you really have to market yourself effectively by having an interesting , detailed and highly informative profile . You will of course need good pictures on your orofile as well. If a orofile is short and uninformative , it will just be ignored . If I am buying a car I want to see the full specification , not just a statement that it is a car. The same applies here . " yes I agree with all the points you listed but lets be honest here even if you have all the above your still going to struggle for you first verify and even when you have a few your still not going to have people smashing down your door for meets . my answer was to his question about why you struggle more when your not verified . | |||
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"I don't think there is any need to lay into the OP quite so much thread posters. Okay sure he called members stuck up, he is just a young lad, everyone has to start somewhere. Don't be so vicious with your comments. You are speaking to a human person who has asked for help and advice. " totally agree
but come on this is the forums and its pre the norm to dish out a good kicking every time certain individuals see a chance to do so and once one starts the herd mentality kicks in and others jump on the bandwagon . | |||
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"I mean i came here thinking i would get a fuck within the hour... Is that now how this site works??
An hour? I joined planning to nail it and be back home within an hour
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Wowzer...im waiting" | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " It's not because you're new. Most people read the profile before the message... (clue there for you). | |||
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"I personally find that the more effort someone puts into their profile, the more rewards they reap. Make of that what you will. " | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " Sigh...way to go sport! | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Well seeing as most of us are stuck up I won't bother offering help. Bye Ms stuck up strawb" I would think mind being stuck up you. Xx | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " There you go, it's everyone else's fault then. | |||
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"Personality - You need to get YOURS across in the profile Acceptance - You WILL get rejected, deal with it Timing - Sending messages at midnight = d*unk hubby seeks cheating Individual - Be one, stand out Enterprising - Think outside the box (literally) Nuances - Have some, be "selective" not scattershot Calm - Don't lose your rag, its suppose to be fun, serious is for the office Exciting - Try and be above the humdrum Reading the Capital letter of each of those gives you the one true key....... " Patiencer? | |||
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"Personality - You need to get YOURS across in the profile Acceptance - You WILL get rejected, deal with it Timing - Sending messages at midnight = d*unk hubby seeks cheating Individual - Be one, stand out Enterprising - Think outside the box (literally) Nuances - Have some, be "selective" not scattershot Calm - Don't lose your rag, its suppose to be fun, serious is for the office Exciting - Try and be above the humdrum Reading the Capital letter of each of those gives you the one true key....... " What a load of shit, all you need is 50 cock shots taken on the toilet and a bucket load of self entitlement | |||
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"Personality - You need to get YOURS across in the profile Acceptance - You WILL get rejected, deal with it Timing - Sending messages at midnight = d*unk hubby seeks cheating Individual - Be one, stand out Enterprising - Think outside the box (literally) Nuances - Have some, be "selective" not scattershot Calm - Don't lose your rag, its suppose to be fun, serious is for the office Exciting - Try and be above the humdrum Reading the Capital letter of each of those gives you the one true key....... Patiencer? " aww come on, I know it was a bit shit (okay, a lot shit), but it beats critiquing a profile and ranting | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up " Stuck up as in won't reply to a message from someone who's put no effort into their profile? | |||
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"Personality - You need to get YOURS across in the profile Acceptance - You WILL get rejected, deal with it Timing - Sending messages at midnight = d*unk hubby seeks cheating Individual - Be one, stand out Enterprising - Think outside the box (literally) Nuances - Have some, be "selective" not scattershot Calm - Don't lose your rag, its suppose to be fun, serious is for the office Exciting - Try and be above the humdrum Reading the Capital letter of each of those gives you the one true key....... " Oooo that's clever | |||
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"Don't be disheartened OP you've only been here a little while. I met an unverified chap once upon a time " | |||
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"What were your expectations of this site OP? Friendly people but most are just stuck up Thanks "Well you have have probably just offended lots of people here just by saying stuck up. Why are people stuck up your profile is bland it makes mine look amazing and mine is shit consintrate hard on your profile make it worth reading add more pics I got some great advice. Basically your profile says to me men tv ts stay away and couples m/f or f/f or women any age. Would you meet a m/f couple what if the bloke tried to suck you off what would be your reaction. Would you meet a 76 year old women?. Would you be willing to fuck the m from a m/f couple. If no then say straight male and look in to your profile say you will meet a couple for straight sex only. | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " Some members even offer to meet unverified people for a coffee to help them start out. I have seen this a few times in the forum fir different areas, I've even offered it myself. Number of genuine responses that I got - none. Number of meet now for a fuck messages - lost count. | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice Some members even offer to meet unverified people for a coffee to help them start out. I have seen this a few times in the forum fir different areas, I've even offered it myself. Number of genuine responses that I got - none. Number of meet now for a fuck messages - lost count." mmmm I'd love for you to verify me | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you." You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes. | |||
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"Wow some or the girls are being complete cunts here. " He's arrived | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice " Verifications are a factor, and do help enormously. They are not essential for everybody, and all the verified single men here had to start somewhere. There are many other factors that make the difference between success and lack of it on this site. A good profile and good messages are probably the most important factor. But above everything, it about understanding what it is that women or couples want from this lifestyle, and being able to give that. There are a lot of single men on the swing scene who's reputation goes ahead of them, and women/couples know that if they meet them, they will get what they are looking for. But these men didn't develop this over night. One thing I will say, it is probably much harder for a man to get a meet from a swinging site, than to pick someone up on a night out. Anybody who thought joining this site would be the key to quick free sex, is probably going to be disappointed. | |||
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"So hard to even get a reply with no meets any advice Verifications are a factor, and do help enormously. They are not essential for everybody, and all the verified single men here had to start somewhere. There are many other factors that make the difference between success and lack of it on this site. A good profile and good messages are probably the most important factor. But above everything, it about understanding what it is that women or couples want from this lifestyle, and being able to give that. There are a lot of single men on the swing scene who's reputation goes ahead of them, and women/couples know that if they meet them, they will get what they are looking for. But these men didn't develop this over night. One thing I will say, it is probably much harder for a man to get a meet from a swinging site, than to pick someone up on a night out. Anybody who thought joining this site would be the key to quick free sex, is probably going to be disappointed." Very good point. You are more likely to get laid on a night out | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you. You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes." In what way do you feel single men get treated badly? | |||
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"Wow some or the girls are being complete cunts here. He's arrived " can't see a single point where women have been 'cunts' on this thread...just plenty of the same advice...your profile is the first thing people will see,if they don't get beyoind that, then you need to alter that maybe... | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you. You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes." You know, single women are treated badly by some men on here too. Some seem to think that women on here are just unpaid prostitutes. Politeness and manners are a two way thing. | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you. You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes. You know, single women are treated badly by some men on here too. Some seem to think that women on here are just unpaid prostitutes. Politeness and manners are a two way thing." And I think this is where the disappointment and bitterness often stems from. I often get the impression that some men join this site because they think they can get the experience of an escort service, without actually having to pay for it. Often men, who struggle to get sex in vanilla life think it will be easier with women who are naturally more sexually adventurous. And men who are very good at pulling in vanilla life are hoping that they can do the same here but without the effort. Where the reality is that sexually liberated women are usually looking for specific fantasies to be met, and not looking for sex with some random horny guy. The same amount of effort is required here than in vanilla life, and the men that women tend to want to go to bed with in vanilla life will by and large be the same men that women will find attractive on the swing scene. | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you. You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes." Try being a woman. It's different but no better. Some guys think this site is like a catalogue they can choose from at their convenience. They think just being here entitles them to sex whenever they want with whomever they want and they rarely even ask politely. And how they behave when someone turns them down is quite special. I think if you had the experience a lot of women on here have, you'd have cunty moments too. You certainly have them now. | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you. You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes. You know, single women are treated badly by some men on here too. Some seem to think that women on here are just unpaid prostitutes. Politeness and manners are a two way thing. And I think this is where the disappointment and bitterness often stems from. I often get the impression that some men join this site because they think they can get the experience of an escort service, without actually having to pay for it. Often men, who struggle to get sex in vanilla life think it will be easier with women who are naturally more sexually adventurous. And men who are very good at pulling in vanilla life are hoping that they can do the same here but without the effort. Where the reality is that sexually liberated women are usually looking for specific fantasies to be met, and not looking for sex with some random horny guy. The same amount of effort is required here than in vanilla life, and the men that women tend to want to go to bed with in vanilla life will by and large be the same men that women will find attractive on the swing scene. " Absolutely! | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you. You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes. You know, single women are treated badly by some men on here too. Some seem to think that women on here are just unpaid prostitutes. Politeness and manners are a two way thing. And I think this is where the disappointment and bitterness often stems from. I often get the impression that some men join this site because they think they can get the experience of an escort service, without actually having to pay for it. Often men, who struggle to get sex in vanilla life think it will be easier with women who are naturally more sexually adventurous. And men who are very good at pulling in vanilla life are hoping that they can do the same here but without the effort. Where the reality is that sexually liberated women are usually looking for specific fantasies to be met, and not looking for sex with some random horny guy. The same amount of effort is required here than in vanilla life, and the men that women tend to want to go to bed with in vanilla life will by and large be the same men that women will find attractive on the swing scene. " Spot on. The number of times guys have tried to 'order' me (like from a catalogue) just because they have a hard-on is ridiculous. They want it dealt with immediately, they usually expect to come straight round to my place, regardless of the time and they have a list of what they want. That there may be things I want/don't want, that I have a life and it may not be convenient and the fact I might not even fancy them don't seem to occur to them. That they often send really vulgar messages expressing what they want really doesn't help at all. | |||
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"Wow some or the girls are being complete cunts here. " What's that noise? There it is again. What the heck is it????? Not sure how to describe it, it's like a "clicking" kind of sound. Wow, there's another one. And another.... Quite a crescendo now, like timpani in an orchestra..... I wonder if it's the sound of block button's being hit all over the country. Fabicide....... | |||
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"In all honesty, we don't get too much crap. I think our message filters and the tone I have deliberately set in our profile does filter out the 'chancers'. I think it might also be easier for me as part of a couple. But from chatting on the forums, it never ceases to amaze me how badly single women get treated on here, and the number of men who really don't get it." Yeah well you are nice, I've spoken to you before. I've literally seen that Dee user claim that men are lazier than women and similar sexist things and others basically blamed the guy for that brutal murder in the news today. Try using that world famous female empathy girls and put yourselves the average males shoes here who are the brunt of your cuntish behaviour because a handful of dickheads annoy you. Grow up. And no doubt some of the particulay fawning forum men will come to your aid as your "male voices of reason" (licking arse for just for the faintest whiff of pussy) and tell you how wrong l am. Your saviours! Pathetic. I'm not desperate so I can just call a spade a spade because I'm not scared that you may find me unattractive or don't want to fuck me.... God forbid! | |||
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"In all honesty, we don't get too much crap. I think our message filters and the tone I have deliberately set in our profile does filter out the 'chancers'. I think it might also be easier for me as part of a couple. But from chatting on the forums, it never ceases to amaze me how badly single women get treated on here, and the number of men who really don't get it. Yeah well you are nice, I've spoken to you before. I've literally seen that Dee user claim that men are lazier than women and similar sexist things and others basically blamed the guy for that brutal murder in the news today. Try using that world famous female empathy girls and put yourselves the average males shoes here who are the brunt of your cuntish behaviour because a handful of dickheads annoy you. Grow up. And no doubt some of the particulay fawning forum men will come to your aid as your "male voices of reason" (licking arse for just for the faintest whiff of pussy) and tell you how wrong l am. Your saviours! Pathetic. I'm not desperate so I can just call a spade a spade because I'm not scared that you may find me unattractive or don't want to fuck me.... God forbid! "Being cuntish isn't the sole preserve of the women. Just sayin...... *offers a mirror | |||
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"Wow some or the girls are being complete cunts here. What's that noise? There it is again. What the heck is it????? Not sure how to describe it, it's like a "clicking" kind of sound. Wow, there's another one. And another.... Quite a crescendo now, like timpani in an orchestra..... I wonder if it's the sound of block button's being hit all over the country. Fabicide......." Quick girls! Give this hero a blow job for sticking up for you. I literally couldn't sleep at the prospect of random women halfway across the country blocking me. 90% Don't use the forums. It's no skin off my nose. I feel far happier being true to myself than not, just for the sake of one of these girlies not blocking me. Our outlook seems to differ. Let me know if you get a reward for being such a good boy..okay sonny? | |||
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"In all honesty, we don't get too much crap. I think our message filters and the tone I have deliberately set in our profile does filter out the 'chancers'. I think it might also be easier for me as part of a couple. But from chatting on the forums, it never ceases to amaze me how badly single women get treated on here, and the number of men who really don't get it. Yeah well you are nice, I've spoken to you before. I've literally seen that Dee user claim that men are lazier than women and similar sexist things and others basically blamed the guy for that brutal murder in the news today. Try using that world famous female empathy girls and put yourselves the average males shoes here who are the brunt of your cuntish behaviour because a handful of dickheads annoy you. Grow up. And no doubt some of the particulay fawning forum men will come to your aid as your "male voices of reason" (licking arse for just for the faintest whiff of pussy) and tell you how wrong l am. Your saviours! Pathetic. I'm not desperate so I can just call a spade a spade because I'm not scared that you may find me unattractive or don't want to fuck me.... God forbid!
Being cuntish isn't the sole preserve of the women.
Just sayin......
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"I like how the guys says stuck up and the single females (bar a few) get all defensive and start being arsey....kinda proved his point..no wonder he fucked off x"People start being arsey for being called names because they don't want to meet someone who made no effort at all to appeal to anyone? Go figure. It doesn't prove his point at all. All it proves is he expected easy sex on tap, spat his dummy when he didn't get it and fucked off because he realised he was going to have to make some effort to get what he wanted and he couldn't be arsed. Nobody should expect any woman to want to meet a bloke like that and certainly shouldn't be surprised if they react badly to being called names because of it! | |||
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"In all honesty, we don't get too much crap. I think our message filters and the tone I have deliberately set in our profile does filter out the 'chancers'. I think it might also be easier for me as part of a couple. But from chatting on the forums, it never ceases to amaze me how badly single women get treated on here, and the number of men who really don't get it. Yeah well you are nice, I've spoken to you before. I've literally seen that Dee user claim that men are lazier than women and similar sexist things and others basically blamed the guy for that brutal murder in the news today. Try using that world famous female empathy girls and put yourselves the average males shoes here who are the brunt of your cuntish behaviour because a handful of dickheads annoy you. Grow up. And no doubt some of the particulay fawning forum men will come to your aid as your "male voices of reason" (licking arse for just for the faintest whiff of pussy) and tell you how wrong l am. Your saviours! Pathetic. I'm not desperate so I can just call a spade a spade because I'm not scared that you may find me unattractive or don't want to fuck me.... God forbid! " | |||
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"I like how the guys says stuck up and the single females (bar a few) get all defensive and start being arsey....kinda proved his point..no wonder he fucked off x
People start being arsey for being called names because they don't want to meet someone who made no effort at all to appeal to anyone? Go figure.
It doesn't prove his point at all.
All it proves is he expected easy sex on tap, spat his dummy when he didn't get it and fucked off because he realised he was going to have to make some effort to get what he wanted and he couldn't be arsed.
Nobody should expect any woman to want to meet a bloke like that and certainly shouldn't be surprised if they react badly to being called names because of it!"The guy asked for advise because he thought the females were stuck up.....he comes on here and asks for help and some of the replys were in my opinion not very nice.....it just confirmed what he thought in the first place regardless of his profile.....you can still give people profile advice and help the guy without being nasty and sarky x | |||
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"I like how the guys says stuck up and the single females (bar a few) get all defensive and start being arsey....kinda proved his point..no wonder he fucked off x
People start being arsey for being called names because they don't want to meet someone who made no effort at all to appeal to anyone? Go figure.
It doesn't prove his point at all.
All it proves is he expected easy sex on tap, spat his dummy when he didn't get it and fucked off because he realised he was going to have to make some effort to get what he wanted and he couldn't be arsed.
Nobody should expect any woman to want to meet a bloke like that and certainly shouldn't be surprised if they react badly to being called names because of it!
The guy asked for advise because he thought the females were stuck up.....he comes on here and asks for help and some of the replys were in my opinion not very nice.....it just confirmed what he thought in the first place regardless of his profile.....you can still give people profile advice and help the guy without being nasty and sarky x" | |||
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"In all honesty, we don't get too much crap. I think our message filters and the tone I have deliberately set in our profile does filter out the 'chancers'. I think it might also be easier for me as part of a couple. But from chatting on the forums, it never ceases to amaze me how badly single women get treated on here, and the number of men who really don't get it. Yeah well you are nice, I've spoken to you before. I've literally seen that Dee user claim that men are lazier than women and similar sexist things and others basically blamed the guy for that brutal murder in the news today. Try using that world famous female empathy girls and put yourselves the average males shoes here who are the brunt of your cuntish behaviour because a handful of dickheads annoy you. Grow up. And no doubt some of the particulay fawning forum men will come to your aid as your "male voices of reason" (licking arse for just for the faintest whiff of pussy) and tell you how wrong l am. Your saviours! Pathetic. I'm not desperate so I can just call a spade a spade because I'm not scared that you may find me unattractive or don't want to fuck me.... God forbid! "Yes, very pathetic. And just as one-sided as you're bitching about. Women get grief from "a handful" of men? Get a grip. A lot of men ARE lazier than women on here. They write no profile and expect a cock pic or 50 to have us falling at their feet. Then they get moany and abusive when it doesn't work. | |||
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"I like how the guys says stuck up and the single females (bar a few) get all defensive and start being arsey....kinda proved his point..no wonder he fucked off x
People start being arsey for being called names because they don't want to meet someone who made no effort at all to appeal to anyone? Go figure.
It doesn't prove his point at all.
All it proves is he expected easy sex on tap, spat his dummy when he didn't get it and fucked off because he realised he was going to have to make some effort to get what he wanted and he couldn't be arsed.
Nobody should expect any woman to want to meet a bloke like that and certainly shouldn't be surprised if they react badly to being called names because of it!
The guy asked for advise because he thought the females were stuck up.....he comes on here and asks for help and some of the replys were in my opinion not very nice.....it just confirmed what he thought in the first place regardless of his profile.....you can still give people profile advice and help the guy without being nasty and sarky x"And he could have asked for advice without being rude and insulting. He'd very likely have got a friendlier response if he'd not started off by attacking people. Negativity usually attracts the same and it did here. | |||
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"I like how the guys says stuck up and the single females (bar a few) get all defensive and start being arsey....kinda proved his point..no wonder he fucked off x
People start being arsey for being called names because they don't want to meet someone who made no effort at all to appeal to anyone? Go figure.
It doesn't prove his point at all.
All it proves is he expected easy sex on tap, spat his dummy when he didn't get it and fucked off because he realised he was going to have to make some effort to get what he wanted and he couldn't be arsed.
Nobody should expect any woman to want to meet a bloke like that and certainly shouldn't be surprised if they react badly to being called names because of it!
The guy asked for advise because he thought the females were stuck up.....he comes on here and asks for help and some of the replys were in my opinion not very nice.....it just confirmed what he thought in the first place regardless of his profile.....you can still give people profile advice and help the guy without being nasty and sarky x
And he could have asked for advice without being rude and insulting.
He'd very likely have got a friendlier response if he'd not started off by attacking people. Negativity usually attracts the same and it did here."Attacking people fuck all....he said he found people stuck up and the shitty comments from the females came in a plenty....brilliant way to confirm it x | |||
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"Typically the same few men are siding with the poor bloke who didn't get a friendly response to being rude to people and blaming them for his lack of success. Women should, apparently, show empathy, says a bloke who has made absolutely no effort to understand what women experience on here and actually goes as far as to flat disbelieve and dismiss everything that doesn't support what he wants to believe. Same shit, different day on fabs." Eh it's Mrs here x | |||
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"I like how the guys says stuck up and the single females (bar a few) get all defensive and start being arsey....kinda proved his point..no wonder he fucked off x
People start being arsey for being called names because they don't want to meet someone who made no effort at all to appeal to anyone? Go figure.
It doesn't prove his point at all.
All it proves is he expected easy sex on tap, spat his dummy when he didn't get it and fucked off because he realised he was going to have to make some effort to get what he wanted and he couldn't be arsed.
Nobody should expect any woman to want to meet a bloke like that and certainly shouldn't be surprised if they react badly to being called names because of it!
The guy asked for advise because he thought the females were stuck up.....he comes on here and asks for help and some of the replys were in my opinion not very nice.....it just confirmed what he thought in the first place regardless of his profile.....you can still give people profile advice and help the guy without being nasty and sarky x
And he could have asked for advice without being rude and insulting.
He'd very likely have got a friendlier response if he'd not started off by attacking people. Negativity usually attracts the same and it did here.
Attacking people fuck all....he said he found people stuck up and the shitty comments from the females came in a plenty....brilliant way to confirm it x"No, brilliant way to confirm attacking people will likely bring the same in return. That wouldn't come as much of a surprise to most people. | |||
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"In all honesty, we don't get too much crap. I think our message filters and the tone I have deliberately set in our profile does filter out the 'chancers'. I think it might also be easier for me as part of a couple. But from chatting on the forums, it never ceases to amaze me how badly single women get treated on here, and the number of men who really don't get it. Yeah well you are nice, I've spoken to you before. I've literally seen that Dee user claim that men are lazier than women and similar sexist things and others basically blamed the guy for that brutal murder in the news today. Try using that world famous female empathy girls and put yourselves the average males shoes here who are the brunt of your cuntish behaviour because a handful of dickheads annoy you. Grow up. And no doubt some of the particulay fawning forum men will come to your aid as your "male voices of reason" (licking arse for just for the faintest whiff of pussy) and tell you how wrong l am. Your saviours! Pathetic. I'm not desperate so I can just call a spade a spade because I'm not scared that you may find me unattractive or don't want to fuck me.... God forbid!
Being cuntish isn't the sole preserve of the women.
Just sayin......
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I can be cunt and often and when exposed to double standards.
*Throws mirror away*"I know what you're doing back here now, I've worked it out. You're mopping up the rest of the ladies who didn't block you after your initial "there are some cuntish women here" post. I admire your dedication to the cause. | |||
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"In all honesty, we don't get too much crap. I think our message filters and the tone I have deliberately set in our profile does filter out the 'chancers'. I think it might also be easier for me as part of a couple. But from chatting on the forums, it never ceases to amaze me how badly single women get treated on here, and the number of men who really don't get it. Yeah well you are nice, I've spoken to you before. I've literally seen that Dee user claim that men are lazier than women and similar sexist things and others basically blamed the guy for that brutal murder in the news today. Try using that world famous female empathy girls and put yourselves the average males shoes here who are the brunt of your cuntish behaviour because a handful of dickheads annoy you. Grow up. And no doubt some of the particulay fawning forum men will come to your aid as your "male voices of reason" (licking arse for just for the faintest whiff of pussy) and tell you how wrong l am. Your saviours! Pathetic. I'm not desperate so I can just call a spade a spade because I'm not scared that you may find me unattractive or don't want to fuck me.... God forbid!
Being cuntish isn't the sole preserve of the women.
Just sayin......
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I can be cunt and often and when exposed to double standards.
*Throws mirror away*
I know what you're doing back here now, I've worked it out.
You're mopping up the rest of the ladies who didn't block you after your initial "there are some cuntish women here" post.
I admire your dedication to the cause."How do you know if (apart from the obvious ones)any other women blocked him. How do you know they aren't in agreement. | |||
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"Op - fab is a new experience and different to most single guys' expectations. Different to meeting people at pubs, other internet sites and what you've done before. I think just a minority of men can make it, because of their inflexibility and willingness to change their approach. You have to be tough and have tremendous tenacity to sustain you. This is particularly true if guys won't go to swinging events. Single men must invest lots of energy into their profile and selecting the right people and how they contact them. They shouldn't expect too much for several months. If you want regular sex and get it easily in the real world then continue and get it there. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you're ever tempted to moan, don't do it in the forum. It kills chances. Go to your profile and make it better than other single guys who are competing with you. You know what I've had decent success but this place is terrible for how people think they can treat single men. it can be fun but but with the servile men and the cunty women, the forums aren't worth it sometimes. You know, single women are treated badly by some men on here too. Some seem to think that women on here are just unpaid prostitutes. Politeness and manners are a two way thing. And I think this is where the disappointment and bitterness often stems from. I often get the impression that some men join this site because they think they can get the experience of an escort service, without actually having to pay for it. Often men, who struggle to get sex in vanilla life think it will be easier with women who are naturally more sexually adventurous. And men who are very good at pulling in vanilla life are hoping that they can do the same here but without the effort. Where the reality is that sexually liberated women are usually looking for specific fantasies to be met, and not looking for sex with some random horny guy. The same amount of effort is required here than in vanilla life, and the men that women tend to want to go to bed with in vanilla life will by and large be the same men that women will find attractive on the swing scene. " | |||
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"We've offered to meet socially, guys with no veris and because play isn't guaranteed they've decided not to meet us. Sarah " Yeah it's odd that. Nobody has done that to us fortunately, but Ive heard that some guys have that _iew. I've never understood why a man, looking for nsa sex, would give up the opportunity simply because it's not guaranteed. It's as though there would rather stay at home and wank, than have a social meet followed by likely sex. Surely the only way sex can ever be guaranteed is when you are paying an escort for it. | |||
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"There seems to be a lot of bitterness with some men. In their quest for nsa sex via this site, what is it that women do (or don't do) that they feel is so objectionable? " drop our knickers on demand I expect. | |||
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I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual."He personally called you a cunt? I call people cunts on here,I don't mean everyone. But I am being sincere. | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
He personally called you a cunt? I call people cunts on here,I don't mean everyone. But I am being sincere. "Well I am a woman on here. I therefore took the generic cunty women as meaning me. | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
He personally called you a cunt? I call people cunts on here,I don't mean everyone. But I am being sincere.
Well I am a woman on here. I therefore took the generic cunty women as meaning me."I didn't think he meant me. | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
He personally called you a cunt? I call people cunts on here,I don't mean everyone. But I am being sincere.
Well I am a woman on here. I therefore took the generic cunty women as meaning me."I didn't think he meant me,even before he said not all women (I think I read that). That's possible because I'm not a cunt? Or maybe I am and I'm deluded | |||
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I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
He personally called you a cunt? I call people cunts on here,I don't mean everyone. But I am being sincere.
Well I am a woman on here. I therefore took the generic cunty women as meaning me.
I didn't think he meant me. "Then you're probably not a cunt. Well done you. | |||
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"There seems to be a lot of bitterness with some men. In their quest for nsa sex via this site, what is it that women do (or don't do) that they feel is so objectionable? " I reckon it's the hit to the ego that guys can't take on here. Being rejected or unable to find someone leads to bitterness and the inevitable 'why can I not find someone?' Threads. It's all about the mindset. I treat this place where you can have a bit of a laugh. If you end up getting a meet, fantastic. If not, you're still having fun in the forums etc. No expectations - that's my motto. | |||
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I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual."I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics. All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do. Let them get on with it I suppose | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
He personally called you a cunt? I call people cunts on here,I don't mean everyone. But I am being sincere.
Well I am a woman on here. I therefore took the generic cunty women as meaning me.
I didn't think he meant me.
Then you're probably not a cunt. Well done you. "But I don't think you are either.
You seem level headed. Shhhhhhhhh!
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I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose "I don't think we should give advice. There's a reason some people do badly on here. I don't want to be the person helping any crap disrespectful men get a shag. | |||
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I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose "My profile is rubbish...what should I do? | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose
I don't think we should give advice. There's a reason some people do badly on here.
I don't want to be the person helping any crap disrespectful men get a shag. "You've got a really good point. But I think it all depends on a case by case basis. A lot of guys on here come across as rude, arrogant, treating women with no respect and expecting a shag at the click of their fingers. And then there are some that are genuinely unsure of how to go about acquiring a meet on here. I usually don't give advice but saw a thread last week from a guy that who was sincerely asking for help. I ended up pm-ing him and writing up a brand new profile for him. He was very appreciative too. | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose
I don't think we should give advice. There's a reason some people do badly on here.
I don't want to be the person helping any crap disrespectful men get a shag. "I agree re helping people that can't help themselves that's why I think the whole 'speed veri' service offered by some in the town centre Starbucks is a bad idea. However, I do think pointing people in the right direction with ideas on profile & alternative places to meet isn't a bad thing. Tbh they'll either take it on board or they'll think I cba & fuck off. | |||
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I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose
I don't think we should give advice. There's a reason some people do badly on here.
I don't want to be the person helping any crap disrespectful men get a shag. "One of the occasions I gave advise to a man, who's main problem with his profile was that it was so badly written with a lot of typos. I told him to correct the typos and bad punctuation as starters. He went away, corrected a few, but I guess didn't notice all of them. He asked if that was better and I said there were still typos. He PM me asking for me to rewrite his profile. So I put the whole thing into good English for him staying faithful to the points that he wanted to get across, but removed the unnecessary stuff. I suggested he used it as a basis and adjust accordingly. I warned him that the rest was up to him though. And then I realised, that he probably didn't stand a chance because if his profile was that bad originally, then his messages were going to be equally poorly written. I felt a bit sorry for him cos he really could see how his profile was so bad. | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose
I don't think we should give advice. There's a reason some people do badly on here.
I don't want to be the person helping any crap disrespectful men get a shag.
I agree re helping people that can't help themselves that's why I think the whole 'speed veri' service offered by some in the town centre Starbucks is a bad idea.
However, I do think pointing people in the right direction with ideas on profile & alternative places to meet isn't a bad thing.
Tbh they'll either take it on board or they'll think I cba & fuck off."I think some guys who are new, genuinely don't know what sort of pictures turn women on, and they can't be expected to know, because they are not women. There is a bit of a sheep mentality when deciding what pictures they should represent themselves with, so they see all these profiles that are all cock and nothing else, so they assume that that is the way forward. I think it's fair enough to let them know that this is not generally what gets women going. | |||
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"Without wishing to sound like a kiss ass There are some guys who's expectations of the site and what it can and does offer are unrealistic.. those that figure out thewhat and how have fun and enjoy the experience.. Without wishing to sound like a twat.. There are some ladies and couples s who's egos become or are over inflated often I'd guess because of the amount of attention they're given from guys and couples.. and treat others in a poor way " | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose
I don't think we should give advice. There's a reason some people do badly on here.
I don't want to be the person helping any crap disrespectful men get a shag.
You've got a really good point.
But I think it all depends on a case by case basis.
A lot of guys on here come across as rude, arrogant, treating women with no respect and expecting a shag at the click of their fingers.
And then there are some that are genuinely unsure of how to go about acquiring a meet on here.
I usually don't give advice but saw a thread last week from a guy that who was sincerely asking for help.
I ended up pm-ing him and writing up a brand new profile for him.
He was very appreciative too. "Fair point.
Those types do usually stand out though.
I know I sound harsh but profiles and veri's don't mean much to me. I know that makes me odd. But I can tell from chatting if I want to meet someone. Having the perfect profile and pics aren't what I look for. Bit daft me commenting really as I know I'm in the minority. | |||
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"I didn't get a chance to give him some advice and show him some women are nice and helpful
I did try. I gave him advice. I politely pointed out that getting the arse about things wouldn't really help. And I still got called a cunt. As per usual.
I've been on a couple of "help me" threads and given practical advice about profiles names, status, messages, posts, profile text and pics.
All of those posts are ignored because the posters have all wanted to get better results without changing anything about what they do.
Let them get on with it I suppose
I don't think we should give advice. There's a reason some people do badly on here.
I don't want to be the person helping any crap disrespectful men get a shag.
You've got a really good point.
But I think it all depends on a case by case basis.
A lot of guys on here come across as rude, arrogant, treating women with no respect and expecting a shag at the click of their fingers.
And then there are some that are genuinely unsure of how to go about acquiring a meet on here.
I usually don't give advice but saw a thread last week from a guy that who was sincerely asking for help.
I ended up pm-ing him and writing up a brand new profile for him.
He was very appreciative too.
Fair point.
Those types do usually stand out though.
I know I sound harsh but profiles and veri's don't mean much to me. I know that makes me odd. But I can tell from chatting if I want to meet someone. Having the perfect profile and pics aren't what I look for. Bit daft me commenting really as I know I'm in the minority. "Not daft at all. I know exactly what you mean You don't always need to seek someone elses acceptance in order to meet someone. We're all grown ups and can make our own minds up | |||
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"Reading some of the comments on this thread I would have assumed the OP was an 'aggressive' poster who kept stoking the fire by calling woman out on their cuntish behaviour ~ in fact he posted less than 5 times in the beginning & at worse said we were ignorant & stuck up, the usual lines from someone who doesn't get how the site works. Just an observation how a thread runs depending on the reaction of others." Very fair | |||
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"Reading some of the comments on this thread I would have assumed the OP was an 'aggressive' poster who kept stoking the fire by calling woman out on their cuntish behaviour ~ in fact he posted less than 5 times in the beginning & at worse said we were ignorant & stuck up, the usual lines from someone who doesn't get how the site works. Just an observation how a thread runs depending on the reaction of others." I get the feeling this is why some people get "lots of abusive mail" and some don't. | |||
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"Reading some of the comments on this thread I would have assumed the OP was an 'aggressive' poster who kept stoking the fire by calling woman out on their cuntish behaviour ~ in fact he posted less than 5 times in the beginning & at worse said we were ignorant & stuck up, the usual lines from someone who doesn't get how the site works. Just an observation how a thread runs depending on the reaction of others. I get the feeling this is why some people get "lots of abusive mail" and some don't. " | |||
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"Reading some of the comments on this thread I would have assumed the OP was an 'aggressive' poster who kept stoking the fire by calling woman out on their cuntish behaviour ~ in fact he posted less than 5 times in the beginning & at worse said we were ignorant & stuck up, the usual lines from someone who doesn't get how the site works. Just an observation how a thread runs depending on the reaction of others. I get the feeling this is why some people get "lots of abusive mail" and some don't. "Easy to be wise after the fact | |||
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