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I don't do socials!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No not me but a guy that messaged me over the weekend, just general chit chat really, he's been on fab for 9 months and was asking me how to get meets? I said there's no right or wrong way about it, but meeting socially is your first step, his reply back was that he doesn't do socials or clubs and just wants to meet women for sex.

Told him he would struggle to find a women who would be willing to meet for sex on the first contact, needless to say, his profile was pretty poor too, no pics and a negative profile with demands.

So, is there anyone, not just women, who would meet for sex without a social first, I'm sure there's a lot of guys that would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gloswingers.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never had a social x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Indiscreet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, if a social went really well and it was practical with time restraints then play on 1st meet may happen, but 1st meets are social with no expectations. I wouldn't meet anyone who expected play without knowing if we even got on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you mean by meet for sex without a social first

I do not do purely social meets, I have zero interest in meeting a guy where I know 100% sex is not going to happen, for me its a waste of my time, I'm on here for sex and I have limited time I can meet, I meet maybe once every couple of months because I'm a single mum working two jobs so I don't want that one chance I have to meet to just be a for a drink knowing its going to be two month or so before I can meet them again

However that does not mean I agree to have sex before I have met

All my meets are meet for a drink first in public but if we get on I like to play that meet, if not we go home but I always prefer the option to play first meet so long as we like each other

So I suppose my meets are socials with possibilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always meet for a social, doesn't mean we don't play on a first meet if everyone is happy, that is usually how it goes, but it also allows us to be flexible if we aren't attracted to them or them us.

One thing that is a massive turn off for me is pressure.

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have never had a social x"

When I was on here years ago on my old profile I never had socials just nsa sex. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spoken to a few guys who have not wanted to have a drink first they just want me to go straight to their hotel room, I wouldn't do that

I actually went to meet a guy in Birmingham once and when I got there I called him to say I was there and he told me just to go straight up, even though it had already been decided he was meeting me in the hotel bar first, his reason being he had just had a shower and couldn't be bothered to get dressed and come down so gave me his room number and told me to come straight up, I turned round and got the train back home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally you go on a social meet because you click and want sex so its a coffee a chat and if you still like the other person then you invite them back to yours or have some out door fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've spoken to a few guys who have not wanted to have a drink first they just want me to go straight to their hotel room, I wouldn't do that

I actually went to meet a guy in Birmingham once and when I got there I called him to say I was there and he told me just to go straight up, even though it had already been decided he was meeting me in the hotel bar first, his reason being he had just had a shower and couldn't be bothered to get dressed and come down so gave me his room number and told me to come straight up, I turned round and got the train back home "

Thats not on ...nothing wrong in being polite and curtious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've spoken to a few guys who have not wanted to have a drink first they just want me to go straight to their hotel room, I wouldn't do that

I actually went to meet a guy in Birmingham once and when I got there I called him to say I was there and he told me just to go straight up, even though it had already been decided he was meeting me in the hotel bar first, his reason being he had just had a shower and couldn't be bothered to get dressed and come down so gave me his room number and told me to come straight up, I turned round and got the train back home

Thats not on ...nothing wrong in being polite and curtious"

Well if he couldn't be bothered to stick to what we arrange I feel I had ever rights leaving :

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who take that view are very foolish. Since we have been using Fab, nearly every social meet we have ever had has led to sex that same night. There are only 2 that haven't, and that was circumstantial and their choice, not ours. But I guess some guys would rather stay at home and wank, rather than spend an hour or so in the pub followed by a few hours of great sex at our house.

Unfortunately, many men believe that this website is the key to easy free sex, when the reality is that although the sex will be NSA, it's certainly no easier to obtain than in regular life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally you go on a social meet because you click and want sex so its a coffee a chat and if you still like the other person then you invite them back to yours or have some out door fun "

We go on a social meet to develop friendships with likeminded people. Always leads to sex though. We're the type of people who like to fuck our friends

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If someone doesnt want a social thats fine. Plenty of people dont so just message them not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've spoken to a few guys who have not wanted to have a drink first they just want me to go straight to their hotel room, I wouldn't do that

I actually went to meet a guy in Birmingham once and when I got there I called him to say I was there and he told me just to go straight up, even though it had already been decided he was meeting me in the hotel bar first, his reason being he had just had a shower and couldn't be bothered to get dressed and come down so gave me his room number and told me to come straight up, I turned round and got the train back home "

Don't blame you

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I've spoken to a few guys who have not wanted to have a drink first they just want me to go straight to their hotel room, I wouldn't do that

I actually went to meet a guy in Birmingham once and when I got there I called him to say I was there and he told me just to go straight up, even though it had already been decided he was meeting me in the hotel bar first, his reason being he had just had a shower and couldn't be bothered to get dressed and come down so gave me his room number and told me to come straight up, I turned round and got the train back home

Don't blame you "

I would of done exactly the same, in fact I have in the past when the person has refused to come and meet me outside a pub or the car park of a hotel etc, no way would I walk into anywhere alone, makes me feel like I am being set up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have socials but never really found they worked. As I like group meets now, socials are a bit pointless.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

It states on my profile that I prefer a social first, but if we get on immediately then who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gloswingers."

Spot on

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I don't do socials, but then I don't do 1 to 1 private meets.

I use clubs. I am in a safer environment where I can chat before deciding if I want to take things further.

But if I did 1 to 1 private meets then I would 100% do socials first.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I believe in socials no play on that first social ether .

the only time I've ever met for a sex meet where no social was involved was for a role play fantasy fuck which I do happen to enjoy if the role play scenario inspires me enough but because of the nature of roe play meets there has been plenty of chatting going on before the meet and in the build up so you kind of really know the other persons needs by the time the play date arrives .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've always done socials, but as others have said they've played on that first social too, I am open to this but never expect it, in the past I've had socials where we have really got on but there just hasn't been that spark between us to take things further.

I need a connection before getting naked with someone, can't do it without.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Gloswingers.

Spot on

"

1 day I'm going to kidnap you both and make you have a pint with me. That will bloody show yards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gloswingers.

Spot on

1 day I'm going to kidnap you both and make you have a pint with me. That will bloody show yards "

Can I come please?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Gloswingers.

Spot on

1 day I'm going to kidnap you both and make you have a pint with me. That will bloody show yards

Can I come please? "

Depends I could use someone to tie them up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I insist on a social first but my socials are more like drive bys now, I've skipped the whole coffee thing and now just meet them in a car park somewhere, usually close to a drive through so I can take food home with me, I'll pull up and have a look inside their car, if they look handsome I will then offer them to come and sit in my car, will ask them to pull out their penis and get it to attention, if all goes well we will arrange to meet properly! But that being said the last guy I met and fancied we ended up driving to the forest and I fucked him anyway! The last social meet I had I'd been speaking for a while and let him come in my house and we had a cuppa tea and a fag but I told him I didn't fancy him.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I insist on a social first but my socials are more like drive bys now, I've skipped the whole coffee thing and now just meet them in a car park somewhere, usually close to a drive through so I can take food home with me, I'll pull up and have a look inside their car, if they look handsome I will then offer them to come and sit in my car, will ask them to pull out their penis and get it to attention, if all goes well we will arrange to meet properly! But that being said the last guy I met and fancied we ended up driving to the forest and I fucked him anyway! The last social meet I had I'd been speaking for a while and let him come in my house and we had a cuppa tea and a fag but I told him I didn't fancy him. "

You are priceless I love ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes.

I have known once we met there would be sex immediately upon the cards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to only meet this way. sometimes wouldn't even need to chat, just arrange to meet within a couple minutes of contact, send him my address, then we'd fuck and he'd leav.

did piss me off when one guy verified me and said 'she is what fab is all about'. it implied he was unsatisfied because not many would fuck and go. i felt that it was unfair to expect all women to be like me.

i won't even do them now. i have gone off NSA sex.

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

We don't get a lot of time to play so don't see the point in having a social. If a meet is arranged with us/the wife, its striaght to the action.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Depends what you mean by meet for sex without a social first

I do not do purely social meets, I have zero interest in meeting a guy where I know 100% sex is not going to happen, for me its a waste of my time, I'm on here for sex and I have limited time I can meet, I meet maybe once every couple of months because I'm a single mum working two jobs so I don't want that one chance I have to meet to just be a for a drink knowing its going to be two month or so before I can meet them again

However that does not mean I agree to have sex before I have met

All my meets are meet for a drink first in public but if we get on I like to play that meet, if not we go home but I always prefer the option to play first meet so long as we like each other

So I suppose my meets are socials with possibilities "

This is how I've met in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gloswingers.

Spot on

1 day I'm going to kidnap you both and make you have a pint with me. That will bloody show yards

Can I come please? "

We hope you do , to stop him from tying us up and making us have a social !!!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Gloswingers.

Spot on

1 day I'm going to kidnap you both and make you have a pint with me. That will bloody show yards

Can I come please?

We hope you do , to stop him from tying us up and making us have a social !!!!

"

I didn't say how it would go after the drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do socials, but then I don't do 1 to 1 private meets.

I use clubs. I am in a safer environment where I can chat before deciding if I want to take things further.

But if I did 1 to 1 private meets then I would 100% do socials first."

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gloswingers.

Spot on

1 day I'm going to kidnap you both and make you have a pint with me. That will bloody show yards

Can I come please?

We hope you do , to stop him from tying us up and making us have a social !!!!

"
awwwww! but that could be fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face "

Wow. The charm just oozes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face "

You don't have to go through with anything

Even if you meet with the intention to play you have the right to back out and say no thanks at any given time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good gravy I love a social , some times pooch comes along too . They are a jolly hoot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face "

Would that be your last veri?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face

You don't have to go through with anything

Even if you meet with the intention to play you have the right to back out and say no thanks at any given time "

Well put.....consent can be withdrawn at any time.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face "

Bet she was glad too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face

Bet she was glad too "
unfortunately not blocked her like a true fabster in the end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never do a straight to play meet.

We like the build up, the flirting, the sexual tension, as well as knowing we're meeting like minded people who we are going to feel comfortable with and let go of some inhibitions

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

I think the sex is better if you meet for a social first.

I've done one meet purely for sex and my husband was there. It went well, but it felt totally clinical and I didn't get a lot out of it (not the guys fault, he was lovely and gorgeous).

I've also done a couple of meets where we had a quick drink in the bar but a room was prebooked, and one time went well and the other went so badly wrong, so yeah I don't do that any more.

Personally it feels a bit more risky to meet for sex with no social. As a couple or in a club it's feels a bit safer.

But I can imagine it's why most women probably don't meet for sex on a first meet and why a lot of single men complain they can't get meets - because they want to skip a social.

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By *BWcpl49Couple
over a year ago

Reading


"No not me but a guy that messaged me over the weekend, just general chit chat really, he's been on fab for 9 months and was asking me how to get meets? I said there's no right or wrong way about it, but meeting socially is your first step, his reply back was that he doesn't do socials or clubs and just wants to meet women for sex.

Told him he would struggle to find a women who would be willing to meet for sex on the first contact, needless to say, his profile was pretty poor too, no pics and a negative profile with demands.

So, is there anyone, not just women, who would meet for sex without a social first, I'm sure there's a lot of guys that would."

He could get that but he would probably have to pay for it lol

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I think theres a whole different safety aspect to being a single woman to being a couple and this is why most will want to meet you in public first. I'd be kind of suspicious if they didn't.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We always expect a social on a first meet. If things go well then we may play on a first meet but it depends on many things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social with no sex at the end of it!! Yeah I won't go. Although have done it once and to be fare was good because it saved me having to go through with a session with a lady which to be honest her profile pics did not reflect her body/face

Bet she was glad too unfortunately not blocked her like a true fabster in the end!"

Not sure what a 'true Fabster' is, but I wouldn't have thought it is the norm to block someone, just because you meet and there's no sexual attraction. But if it makes you feel better, hide her verification and just block her. You don't need to brag that you 'unfortunately' didn't block her. There's nothing to stop you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met plenty who will meet without a social first....but many more [most] who would prefer a social first, on neutral ground for safety etc. But moving on to fun on that first meet is quite often on the cards....or so I've found.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I used to meet without a social but had a bad experience and decided it's too risky. Now I'm ultra slow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think theres a whole different safety aspect to being a single woman to being a couple and this is why most will want to meet you in public first. I'd be kind of suspicious if they didn't. "

This is how I feel about it

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wouldn't meet anyone without having a social first to see if we clicked in person. Any guy who asks me to meet for sex without a social is not for me. It's obviously also a safety thing to

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We don't do socials....we chat and get to know each other on here and other methods and if everyone clicks we meet up and have sex. Being a couple and not a single person makes it easier and safer. Parties are great too, if I like the look of someone I ask if they want to play with me. It works for us so we see no reason to change

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By *eaven and Hell 69Couple
over a year ago

HULL

There are always loads of men moaning and asking how to get meets. if they can't answer the question for them self's, they should give it up lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I used to meet without a social but had a bad experience and decided it's too risky. Now I'm ultra slow.

"

This happened to me also and now why I do things exactly the same

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

We'd be very keen to go to a social (if we knew where and when) but have child care issues.

As such we've never been to a social but enjoyed several meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to meet without a social but had a bad experience and decided it's too risky. Now I'm ultra slow.

This happened to me also and now why I do things exactly the same "

i wasn't too bad after the first bad meet, it was the second that put me off and i had a bad attitude to men altogether for a while.

it was bad decision making after i split up with someone that caused this though. glad i've had abreak to get my head together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No not me but a guy that messaged me over the weekend, just general chit chat really, he's been on fab for 9 months and was asking me how to get meets? I said there's no right or wrong way about it, but meeting socially is your first step, his reply back was that he doesn't do socials or clubs and just wants to meet women for sex.

Told him he would struggle to find a women who would be willing to meet for sex on the first contact, needless to say, his profile was pretty poor too, no pics and a negative profile with demands.

So, is there anyone, not just women, who would meet for sex without a social first, I'm sure there's a lot of guys that would."

I have done in the past, from another site, but it's not my thing now

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

I prefer a social as pics and ages aren't always entirely accurate...

Can always have a room booked and cancel it

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Unless it's bloody obvious they're genuine like gloswingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never arrange socials but the reason for that is I live quite far north in Scotland and I tend to meet in London, very occasionly elsewhere. I don't have the time to travel purely for a social but I tend to chat for weeks, if not a couple of months before I arrange a meet so I use that time to figure out if the attraction/ connection would be there for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it depends on the chemistry. I've met socially and no play and gone on to arrange a social with possibilities meet, I've met socially and two hours later run out of work early to do the dirty and I've met in a hotel bar for ten minutes (to finish my coffee), which I don't really count as a social! It's all about the person and what feels right at the time.

However, I wouldn't ever answer affirmatively to one of those faintly desperate mails in my inbox saying, 'I'm in a hotel near you, wanna fuck?'

Just no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the exception of ads, which turned out to be very different, I never had a social that turned to sex, I've been on a number of socials but sex was never on the cards the same night.

Even though I promised myself I would always have a social before meeting anyone for sex it never ever turned out that way, which I guess was a bit risky talking to someone and then turning up at their house, more often than not I didn't tell anyone where I was going either.

I remember going to this one guys house, in the middle of no where, he lived in this converted barn that was a building site on the bottom floor, I could have been going into anything but it turned out OK (despite lying and saying he was 52 and was 62!!) after the business we sat and watch X factor and drank tea

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No social only meets for us, happy of course to socialise at clubs or parties, but here to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met for lots of just sex meets.

I like to chat on here and other instant messaging for a while. Get to know someone a bit first.

Not had a really bad meet that way yet.

I've become more cautious tho and have had a couple of socials which have ended with no sex and no second meet!!!

I guess everyone has to do what feels right for them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do socials. I don't meet locally and just don't have that ,uch free time. Socials are not necessary for everyone.

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