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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Make the first move with people.

Maybe I'm just a little too frightened (Mr) of making myself look silly? I can flirt for England whilst online, but I'm a totally different person in real life.... so I think anyway!

Mrs M is shy, but also gorgeous! so men tend to speak to her quite a bit, approachable and friendly, and has often had male attention.

So am I just too scared, or am I really that bloody bad? Lol

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

It's about making the other person feel at ease - chances are they're just as nervous/concerned about themselves are you are

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How did you cope going to your swinging club before your wife started going with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you cope going to your swinging club before your wife started going with you"

I went there as a single male just to socialise, maybe a little flirty but only over a course of 8 months!

Now Mrs M is with me I have more confidence in myself, but still find it hard to flirt face to face with someone I may like.... don't know if that makes any sense to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely relate to this. We really struggle initiating contact at a club. Particularly me (Mr). Absolutely fine when we're approached by other and can interact and socialise well, but it's when we see someone we fancy and would like to have fun with, we have no idea how to break the ice.

Occasionally we'll just sit by or near them in the hope they may approach us, which is awful isn't it?? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just the fear of rejection? For me it is and thats always held me back, but at a club as a single male I don't like to make the move as I don't want to come across as sleazy, I just hope someone approaches me, I try to make it a little obvious if someone has caught my eye but as a rule I just go with the I tension of having a laugh, kinda takes the pressure off

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By *ephistoCouple
over a year ago

torrance

Basically, I'd think you would just go up to them and introduce yourselves. You'll find out pretty quickly whether they have interest or not. Then just ask the people you've met about themselves. Once the ice is broken, you'll relax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here. If im approached then im fine but if I see someone I fancy then going upto them and starting a conversation is impossible.

No idea what to say and even if we get talking im scared to bring it round to sex and would she / they like to play

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

I quite happy speak to most people at clubs, although I do like the social side of things.

even if I not speaking to anyone I could potential have a bit of fun with I can never just sit in silence. there always a good bit of banter to be had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make the first move with people.

Maybe I'm just a little too frightened (Mr) of making myself look silly? I can flirt for England whilst online, but I'm a totally different person in real life.... so I think anyway!

Mrs M is shy, but also gorgeous! so men tend to speak to her quite a bit, approachable and friendly, and has often had male attention.

So am I just too scared, or am I really that bloody bad? Lol

"

were you THE Mr Marmite on here and while ago?

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

most club host will introduce you to others if you are a bit shy, this is especially true in the smaller clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

were you THE Mr Marmite on here and while ago?

"

Might have been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

were you THE Mr Marmite on here and while ago?

Might have been "

I remember you!

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Internet allows us to be different which is why probably you can flirt on line.. and then when in person its then different

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

were you THE Mr Marmite on here and while ago?

Might have been

I remember you!"

Oh shit.... hope in a good way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

were you THE Mr Marmite on here and while ago?

Might have been

I remember you!

Oh shit.... hope in a good way! "

Well of course!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

were you THE Mr Marmite on here and while ago?

Might have been

I remember you!

Oh shit.... hope in a good way!

Well of course!

"
my memory isn't as good as yours though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make the first move with people.

Maybe I'm just a little too frightened (Mr) of making myself look silly? I can flirt for England whilst online, but I'm a totally different person in real life.... so I think anyway!

Mrs M is shy, but also gorgeous! so men tend to speak to her quite a bit, approachable and friendly, and has often had male attention.

So am I just too scared, or am I really that bloody bad? Lol

"

Very similar situation with me, wish I had an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on your own there OP.

I'm fairly shy too and find it hard to make a move

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I suppose 'only smarties have the answer' (an old TV advert) just gotta pick the right colours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make the first move with people.

Maybe I'm just a little too frightened (Mr) of making myself look silly? I can flirt for England whilst online, but I'm a totally different person in real life.... so I think anyway!

Mrs M is shy, but also gorgeous! so men tend to speak to her quite a bit, approachable and friendly, and has often had male attention.

So am I just too scared, or am I really that bloody bad? Lol

"

Your verifications suggest that shyness is not a big issue for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Your verifications suggest that shyness is not a big issue for you."

Most of our verifications are from social meets, with old friends I have made during my time as a single male, and was still shy back then too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's kind of just like learning to drive. Hard, nervous at first, but once you keep doing it it becomes easier.

What you fear will happen generally doesn't when talking to strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make the first move with people.

Maybe I'm just a little too frightened (Mr) of making myself look silly? I can flirt for England whilst online, but I'm a totally different person in real life.... so I think anyway!

Mrs M is shy, but also gorgeous! so men tend to speak to her quite a bit, approachable and friendly, and has often had male attention.

So am I just too scared, or am I really that bloody bad? Lol

"

I was Shy Year's ago with guys when I "Was" single,when I was Horny I was Very Confident and Flirted too much I didn't think the guys would actually like Me though.trouble is now I'm settled and Engaged I can't get rid of them!I should of stayed Shy.I only Love&want My Fiancé JB. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to be like this at clubs - if im just with ladies im in there no problems - when its mixed we both strike a chat but work up to it - i take a deep breath and ask if the lady is bi -

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