FabSwingers.com forum: Girls sending the first messages

By *tan thrill seeker OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

How many of you girls send the opening messages? I've had a few not loads. Because of the sheer male to female ratio on here I don't think woman often search blokes out and make the first move.

Correct me if I'm wrong and let me know what your opening line is as blokes on here are often accused of lacking originality

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

What is this strange world you speak of! OP?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I send more first messages than I receive. I'm crap at it as I get deleted and blocked a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since I have guys blocked from messaging me, then it is always me who sends the first message

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By *tan thrill seeker OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

And what's your opening line and subject field? I always try and come up with something relative to the profile and still that doesn't work that often. Sounding very bitter haha, occasionally there is a reply

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I've sent first messages.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I normally say hello and explain why I wanted to message them. Then delete my sent folder so I don't wonder if they've read it or responsed.

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

I am the fem part of the couple and send all messages and replies...

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I send first messages too

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By *tan thrill seeker OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

I like your thinking. Checking why someone hasn't opened your message is a constant

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If I spot someone I like the look of and I'm feeling frisky I might send them a message. It would go something like this 'Hi. I've just noticed your profile, I think you're rather tasty and you seem to fit my preferences. Get back to me if you fancy chatting a bit more'

No point banging on too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I spot someone I like the look of and I'm feeling frisky I might send them a message. It would go something like this 'Hi. I've just noticed your profile, I think you're rather tasty and you seem to fit my preferences. Get back to me if you fancy chatting a bit more'

No point banging on too much

I expect this to be the default copy+paste job for 50% of the male population now (I know it will be mine).

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

What i tend to do is try and play catch up with those I'm enjoying chatting with,lose track but I actually check on the updates of how people are doing and see if there ok

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I like your thinking. Checking why someone hasn't opened your message is a constant

Also might be worth bearing in mind that some girls (well me and possibly therefore others on here) might leave messages unread or read while we're not in meet mode and might hotlist or save them for when we are. In which case they'll contact you.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"How many of you girls send the opening messages? I've had a few not loads. Because of the sheer male to female ratio on here I don't think woman often search blokes out and make the first move.

Correct me if I'm wrong and let me know what your opening line is as blokes on here are often accused of lacking originality "

I do OP and i talk about it on my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say "love your profile, your 189 cock pics make me very horny".

I copy and paste it to all the men within a 200 mile radius.

I sit with my Sent box in a webpage and hit refresh every 10 seconds.

Then I cry as I watch all my yellow Sent mail turns white & then "Deleted".

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I like your thinking. Checking why someone hasn't opened your message is a constant

I've done that a few times but quite often I go to reply only to find they've left the site!!!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No point banging on too much

I expect this to be the default copy+paste job for 50% of the male population now (I know it will be mine)."

On the odd occasion I will go straight in with a FAF!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent many first messages to guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say "love your profile, your 189 cock pics make me very horny".

I copy and paste it to all the men within a 200 mile radius.

I sit with my Sent box in a webpage and hit refresh every 10 seconds.

Then I cry as I watch all my yellow Sent mail turns white & then "Deleted".

You too?! I thought I was the only one

I'll share my box of tissues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first message is usually hi can you send me a picture of your face and or penis please?

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By *tan thrill seeker OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

Lady lick a decent opener

However would something similar from a male be enough to get your attention?I think as the sheer number of messages you must receive far outnumbers most blokes on this feed there's a real pressure to come up with something different to grab the attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say "love your profile, your 189 cock pics make me very horny".

I copy and paste it to all the men within a 200 mile radius.

I sit with my Sent box in a webpage and hit refresh every 10 seconds.

Then I cry as I watch all my yellow Sent mail turns white & then "Deleted".

You too?! I thought I was the only one

I'll share my box of tissues."

You're very kind, thank you.

I hope it's fresh tissues.

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By *tan thrill seeker OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

"My first message is usually hi can you send me a picture of your face and or penis please?"

AmI missing the irony there as cock shots are sent by a lot of blokes thinking that will work?

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"What i tend to do is try and play catch up with those I'm enjoying chatting with,lose track but I actually check on the updates of how people are doing and see if there ok"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I tend to introduce myself, say why i found their profile interesting. Invite them to look at mine and to message back if they like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, sometimes!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Lady lick a decent opener

I don't get hundreds of messages so it would be enough of an opener for me to look at their profile at least

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I never check if theyve been read. I dont send that many so have a rough idea of how many get back to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I received a first message once from a female. It was about 6 paragraphs of txt, her avatar looked pretty hot. I went to respond and instead of hitting reply I hit delete and then my phone immediately died... Needless to say once it was charged enough to log back in all traces were gone!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes. If I'm just checking in to say they're hot, it'll be brief.

If I'd like to meet, I'll mention something that caught my eye on their profile (the writing bit), say hi and leave it be.

Most of the time I'm given the brush off but hey, that's Fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few messages from women/couples so some must bt the most I get by far is from gays and TV.

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By *urvyKattWoman
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire

I've sent a couple of first messages to guys as well. It's normally the ones that I've had on my hotlist for a wee while and been perving over their pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send messages first all the time but it's usually from something on the forums

It's not always because I want to get in their pants though

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i have all my message filters on, so im always the one to send the first message. what does it include..usually including the trigger point, of why i am messaging them that very minute, information as to now long ive been keeping an eye on them and what about them i find attractive (personality/ profile wise)with an invitation to keep speaking to me if they want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent a few first messages, but only to ladies and only when I'm feeling uncharacteristically brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent two in the last month, and still speaking to both. One I now meet regularly for lunch/adventures/naughty fun, the other I started chatting to more recently but I have high hopes.

Both were just from a mooch around the browse section; both I'm glad I messaged!

And there is no way I can remember the first mails to them - it would have been something tailored to them, based on their profiles. Probably tongue in cheek, hopefully actually funny. Neither of them lack for quality veris or attention so I wouldn't have been complacent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have sent messages first but my success rate from sending first messages is zero, ive never had so much as a reply, not even a fuck off you ugly bastard

from a single guy ive mailed first, so i stopped sending first messages, just seemed pointless to me when i have guys who mail me, its more productive for me to just go through whos mailed me and mail back the guys i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

strange thing,I seem to get more from the female of a couple, than a single lady?

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By *ittle Miss MuckyWoman
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

I will send the first message if something really catches my eye. However sometimes I just get bogged down in pointless messages from people who haven't read my profile and aren't what I'm looking for

it wastes so much time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"strange thing,I seem to get more from the female of a couple, than a single lady?"

what you mean couples mail people who arent looking for couples then go on about single guys who cant read

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I've never messaged as a single but did as a couple after we'd talked about who we both liked and sounded interesting

I think as a single I am far more shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since I have guys blocked from messaging me, then it is always me who sends the first message

We would love to message you, but unable to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will send the first message if something really catches my eye. However sometimes I just get bogged down in pointless messages from people who haven't read my profile and aren't what I'm looking for

it wastes so much time!"

This for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i send a first message it's because something about that person has caught my eye, or something on their profile has made me want to comment, so it's really easy to send a message as I'll say what it was that attracted me. If you're struggling to find something to write then maybe they aren't inspiring enough and you shouldn't be contacting that person? Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i send a first message it's because something about that person has caught my eye, or something on their profile has made me want to comment, so it's really easy to send a message as I'll say what it was that attracted me. If you're struggling to find something to write then maybe they aren't inspiring enough and you shouldn't be contacting that person? Just a thought."

Another

from me. I messaged a guy this morning actually, as he said something unique in his profile and I wanted to comment.

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