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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had one encounter where I didn't play safe. Yeah, I know, what a fool. I tested for everything and then again after three months, for hiv etc. I was clear on all counts. Since then I play extremely safe and I'll get tested again.

What's your routine/thoughts about this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had one encounter where I didn't play safe. Yeah, I know, what a fool. I tested for everything and then again after three months, for hiv etc. I was clear on all counts. Since then I play extremely safe and I'll get tested again.

What's your routine/thoughts about this? "

Do not risk it again. What other thoughts are available?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done the same in the past I now have a fuck buddy and a master who I bareback but nobody else the fb I've known for 10 years or more but I would never risk it with anyone else. never be ashamed to be tested I used to get tested every year anyway for my own peace of mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah. No shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes extra safe few years ago with a regular fb condom broke fell pregnant and had a termination. Was the right decision at the time but there is not a day goes by where I don't feel guilty. This was five years ago ended up having a mental breakdown being sectioned and diagnosed bi polar x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes extra safe few years ago with a regular fb condom broke fell pregnant and had a termination. Was the right decision at the time but there is not a day goes by where I don't feel guilty. This was five years ago ended up having a mental breakdown being sectioned and diagnosed bi polar x"

That's a really big deal for you to go through ((big hug))

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No method is infallible so test regularly anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes extra safe few years ago with a regular fb condom broke fell pregnant and had a termination. Was the right decision at the time but there is not a day goes by where I don't feel guilty. This was five years ago ended up having a mental breakdown being sectioned and diagnosed bi polar x

That's a really big deal for you to go through ((big hug))"

Thank you xxx

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

When I was a young lad no one got tested you only visited the clinic for treatment, these days folk are far more informed,

Prevention is better than cure...getting tested It's quick easy and relatively painless,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I was a young lad no one got tested you only visited the clinic for treatment, these days folk are far more informed,

Prevention is better than cure...getting tested It's quick easy and relatively painless, "

No shit. So what's your routine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get tested every couple of months even though i play safe,its painless,and just takes a couple of minutes.

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By *ait88Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

Penetrative sex – condoms always – without exception.

Oral sex – giving – unprotected.

Oral sex receiving – up to her.

Get tested for all STIs after unprotected oral either way.

No play for the five weeks it takes to get a full STI result – the HIV test is useless unless it is done at least four weeks after possible infection.

The bugs stop here!

I DO NOT RISK DAMAGING OTHER PEOPLE’S HEALTH.

Too many Fabbers can’t get their heads around this concept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No method is infallible so test regularly anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I asked to be tested after every blow job I give the clinic would tell me to stop wasting their time.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"When I was a young lad no one got tested you only visited the clinic for treatment, these days folk are far more informed,

Prevention is better than cure...getting tested It's quick easy and relatively painless,

No shit. So what's your routine? "

I visit the Bradford hillside centre it has free parking rather than the one in Leeds that doesn't, about 3-6 months depending how active I've been

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So do people abstain for the three months it takes for an hiv etc test?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No method is infallible so test regularly anyway.

"

For everything, HIV included which they want more people to do just to see how its affecting the population since the 80s...

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No method is infallible so test regularly anyway.

For everything, HIV included which they want more people to do just to see how its affecting the population since the 80s...

xx"

HIV and stds are higher risks for people over a certain age either fresh out of a relationship or for people that have passed over menopause age they think they are safe because they can't get pregnant x

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"So do people abstain for the three months it takes for an hiv etc test? "

I had my hiv test result (negative) about 3 weeks after my blood sample.. they were a bit slower than normal it's normally a couple of weeks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's the first one. You need to test three months later also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get tested every couple of months and it's going to be that way regardless of if I use condoms or not (I always play safe).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get tested every quarter, full spectrum. Too important not to, the earlier anything is caught, the easier it is to treat.

However, when I'm there, it's the questions that get me.

How many sexual partners have you had since we last saw you? (None of your damned business...more than one).

Did you know the more partners you have, the greater your chance of contracting a sexual disease? (No shit Sherlock, why do you think I'm here?)

Are you or have you ever been in an abusive relationship? (What the hell has this got to do with my flipping chlamydia test?)

Are you currently being subjected to physical abuse? (Only if I ask very, *very* nicely!)

There are times when I think it would pay to go private.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"So do people abstain for the three months it takes for an hiv etc test? "

I don't meet that often but I don't abstain. I have a monthly blood test any way and have opted to have HIV checked with that test. Most people don't abstain or people would only meet every 14/15 weeks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So do people abstain for the three months it takes for an hiv etc test?

I don't meet that often but I don't abstain. I have a monthly blood test any way and have opted to have HIV checked with that test. Most people don't abstain or people would only meet every 14/15 weeks.

"

Yes, kinda my point

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I get tested every quarter, full spectrum. Too important not to, the earlier anything is caught, the easier it is to treat.

However, when I'm there, it's the questions that get me.

How many sexual partners have you had since we last saw you? (None of your damned business...more than one).

Did you know the more partners you have, the greater your chance of contracting a sexual disease? (No shit Sherlock, why do you think I'm here?)

Are you or have you ever been in an abusive relationship? (What the hell has this got to do with my flipping chlamydia test?)

Are you currently being subjected to physical abuse? (Only if I ask very, *very* nicely!)

There are times when I think it would pay to go private. "

The sexual abuse questions are asked because sometimes people finally open up and can get help. It's also the way that some who are positive choose to pass on STIs, including HIV.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"So do people abstain for the three months it takes for an hiv etc test?

I don't meet that often but I don't abstain. I have a monthly blood test any way and have opted to have HIV checked with that test. Most people don't abstain or people would only meet every 14/15 weeks.

Yes, kinda my point "

Sex is a risk. We choose to take the risk. We can minimise it but not eliminate it so testing mitigates some of that risk. I'll take responsibility for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get tested every quarter, full spectrum. Too important not to, the earlier anything is caught, the easier it is to treat.

However, when I'm there, it's the questions that get me.

How many sexual partners have you had since we last saw you? (None of your damned business...more than one).

Did you know the more partners you have, the greater your chance of contracting a sexual disease? (No shit Sherlock, why do you think I'm here?)

Are you or have you ever been in an abusive relationship? (What the hell has this got to do with my flipping chlamydia test?)

Are you currently being subjected to physical abuse? (Only if I ask very, *very* nicely!)

There are times when I think it would pay to go private.

The sexual abuse questions are asked because sometimes people finally open up and can get help. It's also the way that some who are positive choose to pass on STIs, including HIV.

"

Is more that the clinic can't touch you if there is an abuse or rape case and the police will be involved. You'd know this, as it's explained at the clinic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have always played safe and I contracted one!! Yet funny that none of the guys I notified had anything at all!!.

Even had my mouth and ass swabbed. Can catch of toys , low risk, but still a risk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get tested every quarter, full spectrum. Too important not to, the earlier anything is caught, the easier it is to treat.

However, when I'm there, it's the questions that get me.

How many sexual partners have you had since we last saw you? (None of your damned business...more than one).

Did you know the more partners you have, the greater your chance of contracting a sexual disease? (No shit Sherlock, why do you think I'm here?)

Are you or have you ever been in an abusive relationship? (What the hell has this got to do with my flipping chlamydia test?)

Are you currently being subjected to physical abuse? (Only if I ask very, *very* nicely!)

There are times when I think it would pay to go private. "

Why would it be different going private?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get tested every 4-6 weeks... play safe for full sex but not for oral..

I do not abstain in between partners.

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