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Biphobia from a gay male friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious about other people's experiences with this.

I have an old school friend that does put his foot in his mouth quite often, apologises then does it again.

I've recently noticed on FB that whenever a story about a bi male celeb comes up on the Pink News page that he'll say something like "no one cares as he'll just come out as gay soon anyway." I doubt he even realises that a slight in a bi person, regardless of the gender, can be a slight on the whole bi community.

We were close friends, bur since he moved to Newcastle we hardly see each other or talk anyway. So would you say something or leave it? Cos I'm about so far off posting my own status about it in Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it Christopher Biggins?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it Christopher Biggins?"

What a coincidence.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Delete him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He is NOT Christopher Biggins

I'm not deleting him as he'll have a bitch fit but I might just unfollow him instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen other people comment on this topic before (not on this forum) the bi community seems to be stuck getting it from both sides. To many straight men, if you suck a cock you are gay. Its a gay thing to do. Apparently tho many gay men and women see bisexuality as lazy and non committal.

I have a friend who is still talk of the area we live in because she left to go "be a Lesbian in dublin". She was living with her girlfriend but she was bisexual and often dated men too. This meant she was not welcome into many Lesbians circles. When she came home people said she had "put all that nonsense behind herself and settled down". But in reality she's just as attracted to women now as she was then.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"He is NOT Christopher Biggins

I'm not deleting him as he'll have a bitch fit but I might just unfollow him instead."

Job done then. Although if you delete and block you'll not see the bitch fit!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have seen other people comment on this topic before (not on this forum) the bi community seems to be stuck getting it from both sides. To many straight men, if you suck a cock you are gay. Its a gay thing to do. Apparently tho many gay men and women see bisexuality as lazy and non committal.

I have a friend who is still talk of the area we live in because she left to go "be a Lesbian in dublin". She was living with her girlfriend but she was bisexual and often dated men too. This meant she was not welcome into many Lesbians circles. When she came home people said she had "put all that nonsense behind herself and settled down". But in reality she's just as attracted to women now as she was then.

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I agree! The most guilty of bi phobia are gay men & lesbians from my observations

Thankfully I remain immune. Apart from an ex girlfriend's best friend sending me anonymous texts calling me a greedy dirty slag...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He is NOT Christopher Biggins

I'm not deleting him as he'll have a bitch fit but I might just unfollow him instead.

Job done then. Although if you delete and block you'll not see the bitch fit! "

Oh yeah

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

This is quite common. People think it's a phase and we should pick a side.

Er no! I was waving my bi Pride flag in Leeds this aft. I'll be waving it in the parade in Manchester at the end of the month.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people post stuff that I find offensive on facebook I block them. I tend to like my FB to be drama free

There are plenty of other places to fall out with people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since I've found fab a barely bother with fb anymore. Less drama here. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is quite common. People think it's a phase and we should pick a side.

Er no! I was waving my bi Pride flag in Leeds this aft. I'll be waving it in the parade in Manchester at the end of the month."

Fuck yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have seen other people comment on this topic before (not on this forum) the bi community seems to be stuck getting it from both sides. To many straight men, if you suck a cock you are gay. Its a gay thing to do. Apparently tho many gay men and women see bisexuality as lazy and non committal.

I have a friend who is still talk of the area we live in because she left to go "be a Lesbian in dublin". She was living with her girlfriend but she was bisexual and often dated men too. This meant she was not welcome into many Lesbians circles. When she came home people said she had "put all that nonsense behind herself and settled down". But in reality she's just as attracted to women now as she was then.

I agree! The most guilty of bi phobia are gay men & lesbians from my observations

Thankfully I remain immune. Apart from an ex girlfriend's best friend sending me anonymous texts calling me a greedy dirty slag..."

Yep... I've found it from gay men, lesbians and straight people. I think bi people on here calling themselves greedy doesn't help either.

If I'm with a man I'm straight. If I'm with a woman I'm lesbian.

It doesn't bother me enough to say anything though. Up to you if you feel strongly enough to mention it. I think it's not worth the effort.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well if i didnt see someone, hardly spoke to them and didnt like what they said i would of already deleted them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Well if i didnt see someone, hardly spoke to them and didnt like what they said i would of already deleted them"

This, although it wouldn't other me what anyone said about bi people.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Politest thing is to just unfollow.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've found it significantly less in the gay and lesbian community as a percentage of people, by a factor of hundreds.

You can always find stupid or bigoted people anywhere if you look hard enough though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well personally I wouldn't stand any biphobic comments from people on my fb feed other than certain family members.

How close a friend is he?

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

How old is the friend?

That can have a bearing if he's older...

It's a bit like old people and casual racism.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Typically dull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Typically dull"

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Typically dull

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Shall I elaborate?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Ever heard someone jokingly say bisexuals are greedy?

That’s biphobia.

Or that bisexuals should make up their minds?

Biphobia strikes again.

Perhaps one of the most patronising phrases a bisexual will ever hear is ‘just a phase.’

Those three little words have huge power.

They place doubt over that person’s sexuality.

They treat that person as a child who can’t possibly know who they are attracted to and they put that person’s entire identity into question.

Yes, it’s true that for some bisexuality is a phase, an exploration of their sexuality, or a security blanket for some lesbians and gay men as they start to come out of the closet.

But to suggest that every bisexual is just in a phase is ridiculous and completely undermines thousands of people’s sense of identity

A huge problem is that bisexuals don’t just face this dismissive attitude from straight people, it comes from within the LGBT community too, who sometimes forgets that the B stands for bisexual and is there for a reason.

But whatever.

I cba

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its ridiculous that anyone who has gay rights close to their hearts can then be so dismissive of other peoples sexuality, what do they thinknis going to happen? Do they think they are going to "catch the strheght"

They should be more like the kinky butler, all I see are people, beautiful, interesting, people, its about time everyone started to treat each other better

Don't be a cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Typically dull

Shall I elaborate?"

Ah I thought you meant something else, I saw your other post, doesn't matter. I get confused easily

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By *lueEyedGuyMEMan
over a year ago

MancBoltonBuryWigan

This is why im glad im not out at all and never plan on being. Im 100% bi but do like to look for people to chat to on here so i can actually be myself with fellow bi/gay lesbians

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a gay guy at work who hates bisexuals, lesbians,TV's, TS's and anyone who isn't English Caucasian. He's a fucking knob!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever heard someone jokingly say bisexuals are greedy?

That’s biphobia.

Or that bisexuals should make up their minds?

Biphobia strikes again.

Perhaps one of the most patronising phrases a bisexual will ever hear is ‘just a phase.’

Those three little words have huge power.

They place doubt over that person’s sexuality.

They treat that person as a child who can’t possibly know who they are attracted to and they put that person’s entire identity into question.

Yes, it’s true that for some bisexuality is a phase, an exploration of their sexuality, or a security blanket for some lesbians and gay men as they start to come out of the closet.

But to suggest that every bisexual is just in a phase is ridiculous and completely undermines thousands of people’s sense of identity

A huge problem is that bisexuals don’t just face this dismissive attitude from straight people, it comes from within the LGBT community too, who sometimes forgets that the B stands for bisexual and is there for a reason.

But whatever.

I cba

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Some bi people perpetuate the same crap unfortunately.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I really do think this is anti-gay crap. It's not reflective of the hordes of gay people I've known.

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