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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I absolutely give up.

An ex of mind has been playing mind games for the last 3 yrs since we split about getting back together. We go back and forth back and forth.

Anyway the last 3 weeks he has been pretty intense about us meeting up and sorting things out. So tonight i message him and he is with his GF!!!

Mind games - i give up!!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

At some point the elastic will snap through stress. Far better to cut it yourself so either end doesn't snap back and cause avoidable problems.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Having read your posts over the last few weeks, are you strong enough for this game?

No offence, but sometimes it's causes more pain than pleasure

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Did you know he had a girlfriend?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Yep..kind of the same but hes literally gone silent on me. Last we were talking on weds about meeting up next weekend and since then nothing

Apart from a whatsapp status today saying how great life is.

Cheers asshole!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine did the same, took me about 5 months to realise what he was up to and fuck him off for good.

Look up going no contact. Fuck these using men and their bullshit.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Mine did the same, took me about 5 months to realise what he was up to and fuck him off for good.

Look up going no contact. Fuck these using men and their bullshit."

Makes you feel shit doesnt it? Emotional and all that bollocks when you really dont want to be

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

After experiencing similar in my 20s I made a decision - no backward steps. Not ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep..kind of the same but hes literally gone silent on me. Last we were talking on weds about meeting up next weekend and since then nothing

Apart from a whatsapp status today saying how great life is.

Cheers asshole! "

He will go quiet on you, he feels he doesn't need to explain anything to you because you mean nothing to him.

This is the players ideal, you are the players ideal.

Fuck him off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read your posts over the last few weeks, are you strong enough for this game?

No offence, but sometimes it's causes more pain than pleasure "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At some point the elastic will snap through stress. Far better to cut it yourself so either end doesn't snap back and cause avoidable problems. "

Perfect - not easy - but perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine did the same, took me about 5 months to realise what he was up to and fuck him off for good.

Look up going no contact. Fuck these using men and their bullshit.

Makes you feel shit doesnt it? Emotional and all that bollocks when you really dont want to be "

Honestly just get rid of him. You deserve better.

I'd google things like 'how to tell if he's manipulating you' and things like that.

Sorry to be harsh but he really doesn't care abut you and is a user.

Youre not weak for being used, he is weak for being a liar and user. And honestly i can't stand men like this and won't tolerate them at all now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say he's an ex .... I'd keep him an ex. Hard as it may be nothing good ever comes from people who play mind games. Sometimes you're just best to cut the ties and keep on moving. Something better will be around the corner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having read your posts over the last few weeks, are you strong enough for this game?

No offence, but sometimes it's causes more pain than pleasure "

Im not having a great time of things atm - death in the family, redundancies at work and my health isnt great but Im a realist.

Just some things get under my radar - esp those who have in the past known how to press my buttons.

Ex is a real lifer - not a fabber

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The ex is a funny one - because we had a sub/dom relationship. It is something that I do miss and struggle to find in rl and here and even fl (for those in the know.

Once someone knows ur inner workings and vulnerabilities it is hard to stop them exploiting that knowledge. This is a game he has played in the past and lost.

And no i didnt know he was with someone. He has been promising the earth about us being a couple.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Yep..kind of the same but hes literally gone silent on me. Last we were talking on weds about meeting up next weekend and since then nothing

Apart from a whatsapp status today saying how great life is.

Cheers asshole!

He will go quiet on you, he feels he doesn't need to explain anything to you because you mean nothing to him.

This is the players ideal, you are the players ideal.

Fuck him off. "

I realise this, but how can someone go from saying all of the right things to nothing at all?

Pricks....

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"The ex is a funny one - because we had a sub/dom relationship. It is something that I do miss and struggle to find in rl and here and even fl (for those in the know.

Once someone knows ur inner workings and vulnerabilities it is hard to stop them exploiting that knowledge. This is a game he has played in the past and lost.

And no i didnt know he was with someone. He has been promising the earth about us being a couple."

Oh they are good at doing that arent they?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Kills me to say it but from my take on workmates and some friends I'm quite often ashamed of my Sex but in fairness it can be said some women are the same. It's a crazy world at times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The ex is a funny one - because we had a sub/dom relationship. It is something that I do miss and struggle to find in rl and here and even fl (for those in the know.

Once someone knows ur inner workings and vulnerabilities it is hard to stop them exploiting that knowledge. This is a game he has played in the past and lost.

And no i didnt know he was with someone. He has been promising the earth about us being a couple.

Oh they are good at doing that arent they?

"

unfortunately x

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"The ex is a funny one - because we had a sub/dom relationship. It is something that I do miss and struggle to find in rl and here and even fl (for those in the know.

Once someone knows ur inner workings and vulnerabilities it is hard to stop them exploiting that knowledge. This is a game he has played in the past and lost.

And no i didnt know he was with someone. He has been promising the earth about us being a couple.

Oh they are good at doing that arent they?

unfortunately x"

Their loss..silly curious men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely give up.

An ex of mind has been playing mind games for the last 3 yrs since we split about getting back together. We go back and forth back and forth.

Anyway the last 3 weeks he has been pretty intense about us meeting up and sorting things out. So tonight i message him and he is with his GF!!!

Mind games - i give up!!!!"

You don't say who broke up with who but in my experience if it was you who did it, then he feels (in his head) that it's unfinished business..

If he did it he probably thinks keeping you on the back burner is ok as a safety net for him..either way he is totally mindfucking you so cut all contact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely give up.

An ex of mind has been playing mind games for the last 3 yrs since we split about getting back together. We go back and forth back and forth.

Anyway the last 3 weeks he has been pretty intense about us meeting up and sorting things out. So tonight i message him and he is with his GF!!!

Mind games - i give up!!!!"

Don't let him dangle that carrot no more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ex is a funny one - because we had a sub/dom relationship. It is something that I do miss and struggle to find in rl and here and even fl (for those in the know.

Once someone knows ur inner workings and vulnerabilities it is hard to stop them exploiting that knowledge. This is a game he has played in the past and lost.

And no i didnt know he was with someone. He has been promising the earth about us being a couple."

You are always going to be the reserve. Cut him dead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a close friend had this happen, what would you advise her?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've only ever gone back with 1 gf as far as I can remember although we did try 4 times before we finally said enough is enough and I admit it was mainly my faltering we tried again. I just couldn't except being a weekend dad again but as it worked out even now 11 years on there's nothing romantically between us but we are best friends. We just couldn't be in a relationship together

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"

if a close friend had this happen, what would you advise her?"

Never backwards always forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid, cut all ties. Block and delete his number.

Sure it's going to hurt for a while but jeesh girl it's gonna hurt you a lot more carrying on the way you are.

#voiceofexperience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No and I don't and never have done.

I ended it last time. Every now and again he reappears in my life and tries to press all the buttons and I knock him back. I think he has caught me at a vulnerable time and that's why it's for under the radar. It would be nice to have someone in my life atm with all the stress I'm under.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Get rid, cut all ties. Block and delete his number.

Sure it's going to hurt for a while but jeesh girl it's gonna hurt you a lot more carrying on the way you are.

#voiceofexperience "

X2 from a 2nd voice of experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep..kind of the same but hes literally gone silent on me. Last we were talking on weds about meeting up next weekend and since then nothing

Apart from a whatsapp status today saying how great life is.

Cheers asshole!

He will go quiet on you, he feels he doesn't need to explain anything to you because you mean nothing to him.

This is the players ideal, you are the players ideal.

Fuck him off.

I realise this, but how can someone go from saying all of the right things to nothing at all?

Pricks....

"

He knows what to say to keep you hanging. It's called hoovering in psychological terms and knobheads do this.

Hope you're ok though. I know it affected me quite badly when it happened to me but i just focused on the truth, that he didn't even respect me enough to tell me any truths, and that helped me stop wanting him or even liking him as a person.

He just doesn't care.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Yep..kind of the same but hes literally gone silent on me. Last we were talking on weds about meeting up next weekend and since then nothing

Apart from a whatsapp status today saying how great life is.

Cheers asshole!

He will go quiet on you, he feels he doesn't need to explain anything to you because you mean nothing to him.

This is the players ideal, you are the players ideal.

Fuck him off.

I realise this, but how can someone go from saying all of the right things to nothing at all?

Pricks....

He knows what to say to keep you hanging. It's called hoovering in psychological terms and knobheads do this.

Hope you're ok though. I know it affected me quite badly when it happened to me but i just focused on the truth, that he didn't even respect me enough to tell me any truths, and that helped me stop wanting him or even liking him as a person.

He just doesn't care. "

I know where he lives...mwahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 years is a long time to allow someone to play with your mind,and emotions. It can be difficult but you have to completely cut him off.

When you catch yourself thinking about him,distract yourself. Focus on you and your future. Find another way to comfort yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep..kind of the same but hes literally gone silent on me. Last we were talking on weds about meeting up next weekend and since then nothing

Apart from a whatsapp status today saying how great life is.

Cheers asshole!

He will go quiet on you, he feels he doesn't need to explain anything to you because you mean nothing to him.

This is the players ideal, you are the players ideal.

Fuck him off.

I realise this, but how can someone go from saying all of the right things to nothing at all?

Pricks....

He knows what to say to keep you hanging. It's called hoovering in psychological terms and knobheads do this.

Hope you're ok though. I know it affected me quite badly when it happened to me but i just focused on the truth, that he didn't even respect me enough to tell me any truths, and that helped me stop wanting him or even liking him as a person.

He just doesn't care.

I know where he lives...mwahahaha "

Lol. Same here with my ex, its mazing what you can find on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*it's amazing.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"*it's amazing."

Amazing what you can send in the post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*it's amazing.

Amazing what you can send in the post "

shhhh. police evidence and that.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"*it's amazing.

Amazing what you can send in the post

shhhh. police evidence and that. "

Wise words

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"*it's amazing.

Amazing what you can send in the post

shhhh. police evidence and that. "

Haha, im not that brave!2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*it's amazing.

Amazing what you can send in the post

shhhh. police evidence and that.

Haha, im not that brave!2"

yeah i knew you was joking and wouldn't really do anything like that.

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By *layfulpairsxCouple
over a year ago

Southend

As a qualified life coach all I can say is that you can't control an ex's behaviour, only your reaction to it.

Here's a few things you could ask yourself.

1. What would you love to happen, even if it was ridiculous and far fetched?

2. What would the wisest person you know advise you?

3. If you knew what to do, what would it be?

4. What will/have you Learned from this?

5. If I allow this situation to continue what would I say to myself in a year from now?

Think about your first instinctive responses. They are your real answers.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"No and I don't and never have done.

I ended it last time. Every now and again he reappears in my life and tries to press all the buttons and I knock him back. I think he has caught me at a vulnerable time and that's why it's for under the radar. It would be nice to have someone in my life atm with all the stress I'm under. "

Hopefully you will have the strength to not see him again. Being in a bad place on your own can fool you into thinking you'd be better of withs someone, anyone.

But when you are in a bad place the LAST thing you need is a manipulative, unreliable man.

However low you feel, being alone is far better than being with the wrong person. Concentrate on yourself, on getting things on the right track.

Have total respect for yourself and, as you begin to feel better, men who will respect you will come along.

It's easy for others to say don't do it but it really is the best thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cut the drama out of your life....give people the benefit of the doubt but only let that happen once. .. after that smile...be respectful and get that shit to fuck out your life.....your an adult behave like one and expect the same in return x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a qualified life coach all I can say is that you can't control an ex's behaviour, only your reaction to it.

Here's a few things you could ask yourself.

1. What would you love to happen, even if it was ridiculous and far fetched?

2. What would the wisest person you know advise you?

3. If you knew what to do, what would it be?

4. What will/have you Learned from this?

5. If I allow this situation to continue what would I say to myself in a year from now?

Think about your first instinctive responses. They are your real answers."

This and a big hug from me

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