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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby

When I was 18 you couldn't get my clothes off in public if you had manacles and a potato peeler...but here I am 48....bollock naked in the sun in my garden inviting the world to behold me!!

Have you guys got more confidence in yourself as you've matured?

Or have you just always known you were wonderful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes definitely

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

Oh goodness yes!

We all have bits we don't like as much but my confidence has grown exponentially as I've matured.

Red x

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester


"When I was 18 you couldn't get my clothes off in public if you had manacles and a potato peeler...but here I am 48....bollock naked in the sun in my garden inviting the world to behold me!!

Have you guys got more confidence in yourself as you've matured?

Or have you just always known you were wonderful?

"
. I couldn't have worded it better myself, 10 years ago, when actually I was thinner and fitter, I would never have dreamt of being naked anywhere, now well I just love being naked not sure why Not sure it's confidence as I still don't see when I look in the mirror how mr describes me, I would say it's perhaps more acceptance mixed up with a whole loads of hormones Mrs blue eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep naked at every opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only body confident now cos of maturity and liking to workout,so I happy with what my mamma gave me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep naked at every opportunity "

That's what I like about PP

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Feel sexy and confident at 51

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely more confident. My only problem is the Mrs who won't let me.

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

I've given up trying to work out, it makes me so grumpy cuz I have so little kid free time, I'm.constantly exhausted. I'm learning to accept my wobbly bits. If men don't find it attractive then move on and I'll find one that will x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was twenty, I was all lean and muscles, and didnt really take my shirt off in public, 17 years later im podgy and really dont give a toss what people think ive got dad podge

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Still not confident hate my body xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body is a little plumper round midriff but if people don't like it tough I am not ashamed of it and it's how u use your assets that count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I'm not the man I was ..at 30 I was 15 stone of muscle (6 years in the gym)..now 45 Guinness drinking slob ..but always have no problem with nout on my miss' loves the covidence I have ..you only get one body fit or fat be proud or it as its all yours and don't let your mind go astray be proud of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always been an exhibitionist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, aged 18 and 2 sizes smaller than now I was painfully shy. I wore jeans all summer rather than go out in shorts or a skirt, same on nights out, now I've got skimpy dresses and I don't give a fuck. Don't like it don't look. Can still be rather shy with a new bed mate, but if they're any good I soon forget to worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i'm the other way round, i was quite a confident person when i was young

Now days my confidence in my looks is very low

Its very rare i get naked in front of anybody, even when i'm having sex i like to keep certain bits covered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive always been an exhibitionist "

Oh I have noticed hahaha

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby


"Still not confident hate my body xx"

Give it time...you're body is very fine...you just might take a little while longer to believe it. Xx

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I've given up trying to work out, it makes me so grumpy cuz I have so little kid free time, I'm.constantly exhausted. I'm learning to accept my wobbly bits. If men don't find it attractive then move on and I'll find one that will x"

100%

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"When I was 18 you couldn't get my clothes off in public if you had manacles and a potato peeler...but here I am 48....bollock naked in the sun in my garden inviting the world to behold me!!

Have you guys got more confidence in yourself as you've matured?

Or have you just always known you were wonderful?

"

Much more confident in the last ten years.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"When I was twenty, I was all lean and muscles, and didnt really take my shirt off in public, 17 years later im podgy and really dont give a toss what people think ive got dad podge "

I love Dad bodies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was 18 you couldn't get my clothes off in public if you had manacles and a potato peeler...but here I am 48....bollock naked in the sun in my garden inviting the world to behold me!!

Have you guys got more confidence in yourself as you've matured?

Or have you just always known you were wonderful?

"

I have naked pictures of Me on fab and naked pictures of Me&My Thug on Facebook together We're happy with Each Other's Bodies We've known Each Other Twenty Years doesn't make any difference to US at all.

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby

So the lucky few are gifted with confidence from the off...looks like the majority of us have it to look forward to tho...age brings acceptance of self...and a more balanced perspective of other people's views and how much (or how little) they should affect us.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I've just got to an age where I don't care as much about what others think. I've just been on holiday with my kid's and the guy comes for the money for our sun beds/umbrella and I was topless as I hate having tan lines. My girl's asked does it not bother you that you don't have your top on and I said there's one great thing about being my age as opposed to your's you just don't give a damn what others think. Besides he was pretty cute

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby


"I've just got to an age where I don't care as much about what others think. I've just been on holiday with my kid's and the guy comes for the money for our sun beds/umbrella and I was topless as I hate having tan lines. My girl's asked does it not bother you that you don't have your top on and I said there's one great thing about being my age as opposed to your's you just don't give a damn what others think. Besides he was pretty cute "

That'll be £9.53 please love....sorry..I've no change....no hurry...I will take it in change if you like. Actually don't worry...I'll come back again later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings! "

I'm fairly sure the guys that leave you with empty nads and shiny shiny rings don't see you that way.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings! "

Thought I'd just read that your external appearance was perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings! "

I'm the same

When i was young i used to work in strip joints, gentlemen clubs, you know the get a dance but you cant tuch type places to help pay me through uni, i had a great body back then, 20 years and three sections later i just look at myself and think fuck me how did you get like this

If a guy walked into such a place now days and had me walk over to them they would run a mile

I think its harder when you used to be happy with your body

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So the lucky few are gifted with confidence from the off...looks like the majority of us have it to look forward to tho...age brings acceptance of self...and a more balanced perspective of other people's views and how much (or how little) they should affect us. "

Not sure about that, for every woman who grows in confidence as she gets older there's another who goes the opposite way. I also think the confidence to get naked is different to general body confidence many people wouldn't even think about stripping off simply because they don't want to not because they feel their body isn't good enough.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Think as you get older you realise how little other people opinion matters. You have 1 life and to hell with what anyone thinks

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

If you'd told me a year ago I'd be a regular visitor to kestrels and walking around naked - I'd have laughed in your face and told you not in a million years, but what a difference a year makes lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm now more confident naked than I am in clothes....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely and my body is nowhere near in the same shape / condition as it was when I was in my 20's.

The thing is now I rarely give a toss about what others think & that's the difference between the 48 me & the 28 me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think ive ever thought of my self as wonderful, that being said...ive never had an issue being naked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much nudist at home and always have been. There was never any privacy growing up and we all wandered around naked...you couldn't even go to the loo without someone popping their head tound the door to ask what drink you wanted with dinner, or nipping in to change the towels!

Consequently, I've never had a problem with me. I grew up skinny, matured into curvy, and now have thighs like the proverbial treetrunks and a buddha belly . Doesn't matter what my body is though, I'm still me and I'm not fussed who sees it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body ain't the best, I'm not the best looking bloke in the world, but the way I look at it, this is me!

And if you want what my mind can offer, and want to feel what's in my soul, then your going to have to put up with the lumpy bits, its worth it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

Thought I'd just read that your external appearance was perfect "

I like my face! That thread was on about people calling themselves munters or ugly. Body on the other hand is holding me back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My body ain't the best, I'm not the best looking bloke in the world, but the way I look at it, this is me!

And if you want what my mind can offer, and want to feel what's in my soul, then your going to have to put up with the lumpy bits, its worth it though "

The lumpy bits are pretty important on a bloke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

Thought I'd just read that your external appearance was perfect

I like my face! That thread was on about people calling themselves munters or ugly. Body on the other hand is holding me back! "

It amazes me how beautiful women have such issues with their body image

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Pretty much nudist at home and always have been. There was never any privacy growing up and we all wandered around naked...you couldn't even go to the loo without someone popping their head tound the door to ask what drink you wanted with dinner, or nipping in to change the towels!

Consequently, I've never had a problem with me. I grew up skinny, matured into curvy, and now have thighs like the proverbial treetrunks and a buddha belly . Doesn't matter what my body is though, I'm still me and I'm not fussed who sees it."

Can I call round. You look damn good to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My body ain't the best, I'm not the best looking bloke in the world, but the way I look at it, this is me!

And if you want what my mind can offer, and want to feel what's in my soul, then your going to have to put up with the lumpy bits, its worth it though

The lumpy bits are pretty important on a bloke! "

Not those lumpoy bits, the lumpy bits that used to be smooth bits, those lumpy bits have always been lumpy, mind you, looking at your pic, they just got lumpier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not body confident at all. My body is horrendous compared to how it used to be.

I hate my big fat saggy apron tummy and my recent weight gain. I feel like a big fat mess just now.

Still it is what it is and I'm lucky and grateful to be alive so perspective and all that.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

Thought I'd just read that your external appearance was perfect

I like my face! That thread was on about people calling themselves munters or ugly. Body on the other hand is holding me back!

It amazes me how beautiful women have such issues with their body image"

i think the thing is other people tend to focus on our good points where we mainly see our bad

i hate my belly, after three sextions is truely fucked, in my head everybody who see's me near naked is looking straight at my belly thinking

where as in reality most are probably thinking......look at the tits on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My body ain't the best, I'm not the best looking bloke in the world, but the way I look at it, this is me!

And if you want what my mind can offer, and want to feel what's in my soul, then your going to have to put up with the lumpy bits, its worth it though

The lumpy bits are pretty important on a bloke!

Not those lumpoy bits, the lumpy bits that used to be smooth bits, those lumpy bits have always been lumpy, mind you, looking at your pic, they just got lumpier "

I'm going to wind up with an ego this morning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always look back and think ' I wish I was as fat now as I thought I was in my early teens and 30's ' lol.

I think with age, comes acceptance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My body ain't the best, I'm not the best looking bloke in the world, but the way I look at it, this is me!

And if you want what my mind can offer, and want to feel what's in my soul, then your going to have to put up with the lumpy bits, its worth it though

The lumpy bits are pretty important on a bloke!

Not those lumpoy bits, the lumpy bits that used to be smooth bits, those lumpy bits have always been lumpy, mind you, looking at your pic, they just got lumpier

I'm going to wind up with an ego this morning! "

And so you should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

I'm the same

When i was young i used to work in strip joints, gentlemen clubs, you know the get a dance but you cant tuch type places to help pay me through uni, i had a great body back then, 20 years and three sections later i just look at myself and think fuck me how did you get like this

If a guy walked into such a place now days and had me walk over to them they would run a mile

I think its harder when you used to be happy with your body"

Yeah definitely. Like I had a 6 pack from the age of 12 till I got pregnant when I was 26 and was watching each one fill into this big belly! I was even back in size 6 clothes after I gave birth but can't dedicate the same time as before, used to be in the gym for 3 hours a day at least. It's shit when you look at you body now and then see pictures of what you looked like before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep naked at every opportunity

That's what I like about PP "

Cheers mate

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I've never liked my body and I struggle to get naked. I genuinely feel disgusted with myself. That said years ago I looked how I wish I could now

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

At my age I have to be happy with what I have but I don't mind sun bathing nude if men don't like what I have rather than my personality move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only been embrassed once and that was when I had to have an angiagram and the nurse recognised me

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

I'm the same

When i was young i used to work in strip joints, gentlemen clubs, you know the get a dance but you cant tuch type places to help pay me through uni, i had a great body back then, 20 years and three sections later i just look at myself and think fuck me how did you get like this

If a guy walked into such a place now days and had me walk over to them they would run a mile

I think its harder when you used to be happy with your body

Yeah definitely. Like I had a 6 pack from the age of 12 till I got pregnant when I was 26 and was watching each one fill into this big belly! I was even back in size 6 clothes after I gave birth but can't dedicate the same time as before, used to be in the gym for 3 hours a day at least. It's shit when you look at you body now and then see pictures of what you looked like before. "

Yeah because you've really turned into something hideous haven't you!!! Heaven's sake woman you look fine to me and you know full well a lot of others think the same to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only been embrassed once and that was when I had to have an angiagram and the nurse recognised me

"

(Still wrong )

Bet she thought it was no supreme you were there!

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby


"I've only been embrassed once and that was when I had to have an angiagram and the nurse recognised me

"

Yeah..I went for a prostrate exam once and the young girl just winked at her colleague and said "He's fine!"

Except I may have made my story up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always look back and think ' I wish I was as fat now as I thought I was in my early teens and 30's ' lol.

I think with age, comes acceptance."

Absolutely this

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"If you'd told me a year ago I'd be a regular visitor to kestrels and walking around naked - I'd have laughed in your face and told you not in a million years, but what a difference a year makes lol xx"

Good on ya xx

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby


"I've only been embrassed once and that was when I had to have an angiagram and the nurse recognised me

Yeah..I went for a prostrate exam once and the young girl just winked at her colleague and said "He's fine!"

Except I may have made my story up! "

Could have been a prostate exam actually...although I was prostrate at the time. I'm hijacking my own thread with nonsense.

Please ignore me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if I'm more body confident or whether I've reached that point where other people's opinions of my body just don't matter.

Could be dead tomorrow, I'd rather wear what I want and enjoy myself than be concerned over others thoughts on my bingo wings and my 4 spare tyres.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only been embrassed once and that was when I had to have an angiagram and the nurse recognised me

(Still wrong )

Bet she thought it was no supreme you were there! "

What made it harder was I had to lay still for 4 hrs afterwards and she kept having to check on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only been embrassed once and that was when I had to have an angiagram and the nurse recognised me

(Still wrong )

Bet she thought it was no supreme you were there!

What made it harder was I had to lay still for 4 hrs afterwards and she kept having to check on me."
bet it showed up each time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

I'm the same

When i was young i used to work in strip joints, gentlemen clubs, you know the get a dance but you cant tuch type places to help pay me through uni, i had a great body back then, 20 years and three sections later i just look at myself and think fuck me how did you get like this

If a guy walked into such a place now days and had me walk over to them they would run a mile

I think its harder when you used to be happy with your body

Yeah definitely. Like I had a 6 pack from the age of 12 till I got pregnant when I was 26 and was watching each one fill into this big belly! I was even back in size 6 clothes after I gave birth but can't dedicate the same time as before, used to be in the gym for 3 hours a day at least. It's shit when you look at you body now and then see pictures of what you looked like before.

Yeah because you've really turned into something hideous haven't you!!! Heaven's sake woman you look fine to me and you know full well a lot of others think the same to"

Just because I'm not fat I'm still fatter than I've ever been in my life. It's a massive change to me. My fake boobs were put on me 9 years ago when I was size 6 and 8 stone so they're not even in proportion to my body now and they look smaller cos my body is bigger! I don't have a hard body anymore it's soft and squishy and I don't particularly like it because it's not what I'm used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

Thought I'd just read that your external appearance was perfect

I like my face! That thread was on about people calling themselves munters or ugly. Body on the other hand is holding me back!

It amazes me how beautiful women have such issues with their body image

i think the thing is other people tend to focus on our good points where we mainly see our bad

i hate my belly, after three sextions is truely fucked, in my head everybody who see's me near naked is looking straight at my belly thinking

where as in reality most are probably thinking......look at the tits on that "

I think this is absolutely true.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

I'm the same

When i was young i used to work in strip joints, gentlemen clubs, you know the get a dance but you cant tuch type places to help pay me through uni, i had a great body back then, 20 years and three sections later i just look at myself and think fuck me how did you get like this

If a guy walked into such a place now days and had me walk over to them they would run a mile

I think its harder when you used to be happy with your body

Yeah definitely. Like I had a 6 pack from the age of 12 till I got pregnant when I was 26 and was watching each one fill into this big belly! I was even back in size 6 clothes after I gave birth but can't dedicate the same time as before, used to be in the gym for 3 hours a day at least. It's shit when you look at you body now and then see pictures of what you looked like before.

Yeah because you've really turned into something hideous haven't you!!! Heaven's sake woman you look fine to me and you know full well a lot of others think the same to

Just because I'm not fat I'm still fatter than I've ever been in my life. It's a massive change to me. My fake boobs were put on me 9 years ago when I was size 6 and 8 stone so they're not even in proportion to my body now and they look smaller cos my body is bigger! I don't have a hard body anymore it's soft and squishy and I don't particularly like it because it's not what I'm used to.

"

Well of course you're going to be bigger you're getting older and you've had a child that's a fact of life,especially if you don't have the time to dedicate to the gym anymore. I'm sure there is exercise you can do at home once your daughter is in bed if you are so unhappy that's if you have the energy after a busy day.

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby

I suppose there are two effects going on here..my Ugly Duckling thing with people feeling unhappy with themselves but gradually growing in confidence, acceptance and perspective about their appearence...

And the Darling Buds of May thing where people have been gifted from the off with youthful good looks which has formed the basis of their positive mental self image...only to have time and toil take that gradually away from them.

I'd like to think though that the buds, although delayed in their path to true personal enlightenment (cheesy clished rhetoric yes?) will come to realise that there is more to attractiveness than the superficial...smarts, maturity, life experience and (perhaps ironically) confidence are all very attractive things.

"Matured like fine wine we will be" Yoda 2314.

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over a year ago


"I suppose there are two effects going on here..my Ugly Duckling thing with people feeling unhappy with themselves but gradually growing in confidence, acceptance and perspective about their appearence...

And the Darling Buds of May thing where people have been gifted from the off with youthful good looks which has formed the basis of their positive mental self image...only to have time and toil take that gradually away from them.

I'd like to think though that the buds, although delayed in their path to true personal enlightenment (cheesy clished rhetoric yes?) will come to realise that there is more to attractiveness than the superficial...smarts, maturity, life experience and (perhaps ironically) confidence are all very attractive things.

"Matured like fine wine we will be" Yoda 2314."

Have you always been this deep?

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By *am-Raider OP   Man
over a year ago

Corby


"I suppose there are two effects going on here..my Ugly Duckling thing with people feeling unhappy with themselves but gradually growing in confidence, acceptance and perspective about their appearence...

And the Darling Buds of May thing where people have been gifted from the off with youthful good looks which has formed the basis of their positive mental self image...only to have time and toil take that gradually away from them.

I'd like to think though that the buds, although delayed in their path to true personal enlightenment (cheesy clished rhetoric yes?) will come to realise that there is more to attractiveness than the superficial...smarts, maturity, life experience and (perhaps ironically) confidence are all very attractive things.

"Matured like fine wine we will be" Yoda 2314.

Have you always been this deep? "

I was paddling for a long time but gradually and without me noticing it I have found the waters splashing against the nutsac of my life.

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over a year ago


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

I'm the same

When i was young i used to work in strip joints, gentlemen clubs, you know the get a dance but you cant tuch type places to help pay me through uni, i had a great body back then, 20 years and three sections later i just look at myself and think fuck me how did you get like this

If a guy walked into such a place now days and had me walk over to them they would run a mile

I think its harder when you used to be happy with your body

Yeah definitely. Like I had a 6 pack from the age of 12 till I got pregnant when I was 26 and was watching each one fill into this big belly! I was even back in size 6 clothes after I gave birth but can't dedicate the same time as before, used to be in the gym for 3 hours a day at least. It's shit when you look at you body now and then see pictures of what you looked like before.

Yeah because you've really turned into something hideous haven't you!!! Heaven's sake woman you look fine to me and you know full well a lot of others think the same to

Just because I'm not fat I'm still fatter than I've ever been in my life. It's a massive change to me. My fake boobs were put on me 9 years ago when I was size 6 and 8 stone so they're not even in proportion to my body now and they look smaller cos my body is bigger! I don't have a hard body anymore it's soft and squishy and I don't particularly like it because it's not what I'm used to.

Well of course you're going to be bigger you're getting older and you've had a child that's a fact of life,especially if you don't have the time to dedicate to the gym anymore. I'm sure there is exercise you can do at home once your daughter is in bed if you are so unhappy that's if you have the energy after a busy day."

I think with hard work & dedication I could probably get back the body I had in my 20's but I don't I really want to be that person constantly on a diet & exercising, no I don't think I do.

I weigh up my life now & back then, ultimately I am happy with my whole package now & that's more important to me then having a gym bunny body.

Each to their own, of course

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can't seem to get rid of this flabby stomach so I'm not happy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grew up with a mother who only commented negatively on my appearance. That's a hard thing to shake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I grew up with a mother who only commented negatively on my appearance. That's a hard thing to shake."

To a lesser degree I have some idea how that must feel x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've never had a great body and will never be fully body confident but I am face confident and me confident so I figure two out of three isn't bad and just get on with it when I have to get naked in front of anyone. Years of hearing 'you'd be pretty if you lost weight' has me thinking 'I'm possibly pretty' rather than 'I'm fat'. But then I'm an optimistic type.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'd say I was less confident now than I was 10 years ago but that's because I know what my body is capable of looking like. I don't have 1 visible ab any more, virtually no muscle definition in my legs, biceps are now bingo wings!

I'm the same

When i was young i used to work in strip joints, gentlemen clubs, you know the get a dance but you cant tuch type places to help pay me through uni, i had a great body back then, 20 years and three sections later i just look at myself and think fuck me how did you get like this

If a guy walked into such a place now days and had me walk over to them they would run a mile

I think its harder when you used to be happy with your body

Yeah definitely. Like I had a 6 pack from the age of 12 till I got pregnant when I was 26 and was watching each one fill into this big belly! I was even back in size 6 clothes after I gave birth but can't dedicate the same time as before, used to be in the gym for 3 hours a day at least. It's shit when you look at you body now and then see pictures of what you looked like before.

Yeah because you've really turned into something hideous haven't you!!! Heaven's sake woman you look fine to me and you know full well a lot of others think the same to

Just because I'm not fat I'm still fatter than I've ever been in my life. It's a massive change to me. My fake boobs were put on me 9 years ago when I was size 6 and 8 stone so they're not even in proportion to my body now and they look smaller cos my body is bigger! I don't have a hard body anymore it's soft and squishy and I don't particularly like it because it's not what I'm used to.

Well of course you're going to be bigger you're getting older and you've had a child that's a fact of life,especially if you don't have the time to dedicate to the gym anymore. I'm sure there is exercise you can do at home once your daughter is in bed if you are so unhappy that's if you have the energy after a busy day.

I think with hard work & dedication I could probably get back the body I had in my 20's but I don't I really want to be that person constantly on a diet & exercising, no I don't think I do.

I weigh up my life now & back then, ultimately I am happy with my whole package now & that's more important to me then having a gym bunny body.

Each to their own, of course "

I moan about my stomach well moan to myself anyway and I know if I put the time and effort in I may be able to do something about it,but I don't so I suppose I just don't care enough really otherwise I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I grew up with a mother who only commented negatively on my appearance. That's a hard thing to shake.

To a lesser degree I have some idea how that must feel x"

She's got dementia now and she still does it!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never had a great body and will never be fully body confident but I am face confident and me confident so I figure two out of three isn't bad and just get on with it when I have to get naked in front of anyone. Years of hearing 'you'd be pretty if you lost weight' has me thinking 'I'm possibly pretty' rather than 'I'm fat'. But then I'm an optimistic type."

I hear that too, quite a lot!

I think you have a beautiful body from what I can see in your pics

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've never had a great body and will never be fully body confident but I am face confident and me confident so I figure two out of three isn't bad and just get on with it when I have to get naked in front of anyone. Years of hearing 'you'd be pretty if you lost weight' has me thinking 'I'm possibly pretty' rather than 'I'm fat'. But then I'm an optimistic type.

I hear that too, quite a lot!

I think you have a beautiful body from what I can see in your pics "

Thank you. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I put pics up in here I'm still shy about my body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not body confident, but I also dont lack body confidence. It just isn't something I give too much thought to, if I'm honest. Some things about my body bother me and some thing I particularly like, but I think that is a relatively common feeling.

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

I can take my clothes off in a room full of strangers. It's about changing your focus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

took me until my 40s to have the confidence to realise it was ok for me to wear shorts even if my legs are not long and slim.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I have more confidence as I hit my 40s. I think I saw myself as a woman then, not a mum or wife which gave me a new outlook on my body. I have grown comfortable in my skin and I'm not affected by anyone else's opinion.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im not sure whether its confidence but when i was big i wouldnt where the clothes i wear now. I wouldnt have found any to fit me and if i had it wouldnt have been a good look. So i wear things i wouldnt have dreamed of wearing before. Has for being naked doesnt bother me but im not going to run and down the street naked

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Oh yes definitely"

You are indeed

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