FabSwingers.com forum: Content with being single!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Got me thinking the other night, as it is nearly a year since I last had a "relationship" with another person sharing my life and living space.

I am glad that when I come home, after a hard day at work, with all the tension and feathers flying all over the place, I am greeted by my cat as I pull into my drive, walk into a house that is silent, with no TV blaring out sports channel or whatever, and a dog that is eager to see his mum, and I can do whatever I like, eat whatever I like, without having to make small talks to find out what the other person has done in his day.

Bliss!!!

I got back onto my push bike after over a year without riding it two days ago. A bit wobbly to start with, however, I was fine after a few laps in a car park.

Now with a sore bum, I can't wait to go out again, cycling with the dog running next to me.

I love being single!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Me too...

altho a couples profile does seem to be on trend just now.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Me too...

altho a couples profile does seem to be on trend just now.

What about an mmf profile,start something new its friday afterall

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Me too...

altho a couples profile does seem to be on trend just now.

What about an mmf profile,start something new its friday afterall

deal...... sounds like fun

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Another contenty here!

I love living alone... well as much as I do live alone with my HUGE bunny and my best friend staying a night in the week and at weekends.

I like my life. I'm fairly sure it won't be the way it is now forever but I love being single and able to please myself. I do what I want, when I want and I don't have anyone to answer to. If I can't be arsed doing the dishes or tidying up, I don't have to. I'm sure I'd have to make my bed every morning if I lived with someone and life is too short to be worrying about that sort of stuff. I don't really have to consider what someone else wants for dinner or what they want to watch on the telly.

I have sex with who I want when I want and I have a variety of men (and indeed women) in my life that I get various different things from. I'm pretty sure I give them something back in return and I like it like that. I have a fairly close relationship with my FB and I'm happy having none of the complications that come with a full time boyfriend.

Life is good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well not being single anymore i actually quite like it

Thing is because of the distance still playing singly for now

Do i like living alone? yeah xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as much as i do love the single life i feel that because i'm a young mother my activities are limited to a certain extent..

I just miss the feeling of being wanted, and being loved. Selfish - probably. I find i feel like this mostly in the evenings when its all quiet and i'm alone.

for the record i adore my little one and would no way change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as much as i do love the single life i feel that because i'm a young mother my activities are limited to a certain extent..

I just miss the feeling of being wanted, and being loved. Selfish - probably. I find i feel like this mostly in the evenings when its all quiet and i'm alone.

for the record i adore my little one and would no way change it."

not selfish at all, just normal x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !"

Another reason I'm happy being single... I get my whole kingsize bed to myself most nights!!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !

Another reason I'm happy being single... I get my whole kingsize bed to myself most nights!!!

I am beginning to not like you

I think we need a KS bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !"

If i have someone in bed with me i always use a kingsize quilt.. but if its just me in my double then i use my normal double duvet...

im odd haha

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !

Another reason I'm happy being single... I get my whole kingsize bed to myself most nights!!!

I am beginning to not like you

I think we need a KS bed.

You don't have one?!

Everyone should have a kingsize bed!

It rocks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !"

You should be thankful that ya lord and master is snug and warm xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !

If i have someone in bed with me i always use a kingsize quilt.. but if its just me in my double then i use my normal double duvet...

im odd haha"

Thats the plan today, off out to get a kingsize quilt or even the next one up !

Lets see him nick it then !

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !

You should be thankful that ya lord and master is snug and warm xx

oooooooooooooooooooooooooo lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !

Another reason I'm happy being single... I get my whole kingsize bed to myself most nights!!!

I am beginning to not like you

I think we need a KS bed.

You don't have one?!

Everyone should have a kingsize bed!

It rocks!

Not yet no !! Mind you, he will still nick the quilt, I might need a bigger quilt than the bed me thinks.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"The OH will have to be content with being single soon if he don't stop nicking the quilt !

Another reason I'm happy being single... I get my whole kingsize bed to myself most nights!!!

I am beginning to not like you

I think we need a KS bed.

You don't have one?!

Everyone should have a kingsize bed!

It rocks!

Not yet no !! Mind you, he will still nick the quilt, I might need a bigger quilt than the bed me thinks."

I have two duvets too! My bed is officially the best bed I've ever slept in!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

And two mattresses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And two mattresses!

and two duvets? dare i ask why?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"And two mattresses!

and two duvets? dare i ask why?"

Firstly cause I like to be warm... my heating broke over the winter and I started using my spare duvet on top of the 15 tog siberian goose feather (well worth the money if you're looking for a new duvet!) and now I like the weight of two!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

And I have two mattresses cause I bought a new memory foam one and when I brought it home, the old mattress was too heavy for me to lift it on my own so I just stuck the new one on top!

Now I have a very high princess bed!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"And I have two mattresses cause I bought a new memory foam one and when I brought it home, the old mattress was too heavy for me to lift it on my own so I just stuck the new one on top!

Now I have a very high princess bed!

I hope theres no pea in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as much as i do love the single life i feel that because i'm a young mother my activities are limited to a certain extent..

I just miss the feeling of being wanted, and being loved. Selfish - probably. I find i feel like this mostly in the evenings when its all quiet and i'm alone.

for the record i adore my little one and would no way change it."

ah Big hug hun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And two mattresses!

and two duvets? dare i ask why?

im like a hot water bottle, end up kicking the quilt off most nights or at least doin the stick my leg out of the quilt thing

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I am happy with the way my life is at the moment... In the past i have had to concentrate on making me better.. whether that be financially or physically and mentally...

I am now in a place where I am loving life and looking at the things coming ahead as challenges and new oppotunities rather than obsticles to kick me down and keep me down....

not saying that if someone came along I wouldn't consider it... but I am at peace with myself and the world and looking forward and really happy and it has been a long long time since i could say that.....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"And I have two mattresses cause I bought a new memory foam one and when I brought it home, the old mattress was too heavy for me to lift it on my own so I just stuck the new one on top!

Now I have a very high princess bed!

I hope theres no pea in it

Now that would be per verse

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Mmmm....work in progress for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mmmm....work in progress for me. "

((((((HUGS))))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live alone and wouldn't change that.

Perfection for me would be to live in something kibbutz like. So I can go and mix in communal areas when I need company.

I dread the thought of sheltered accommodation it's all old people. There may be lots of grey rinse grans who detest children and want quiet but im not one of them ALL the time.

I want solitude mostly and then a buzzing heaving hive of life when I want it.

Friends and Family are great but for me there must always be something or someone new. That doesn't mean letting go of the old it means refreshing and staying alive.

Nothing better than being in a liverpool city centre hotel and looking down on the life still going on at three in the morning when I stopped any time between 11 and 1.

Hmmmmmm I want a swingers Kibbutz....that's where I want to end my days.

Not a retirement home but a village where EVERYONE swings. Nice communal hut in the middle - HUGE one for those wanting to partake or watch xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Granny, I used to live near Findhorn in Scotland, they have what used to be called the Findhorn project.......lots of like minded free spirits built their homes together lived together and had areas where they all ate and socialised together.

But each house was as individual as the person who lived in it. A community. I loved visiting and staying there, you were left to yourself or included in their art workshops, yoga groups, prayer groups etc. Think I'll go back there when I manage to escape the kids...be alone and single but rock with the rest when I want to. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooo sounds great!

Think I'll give it a look this weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooo sounds great!

Think I'll give it a look this weekend

Taint an old folks home ya know xx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Mmmm....work in progress for me.

((((((HUGS))))))"

Ah, thanks...

((((((HUGS..with a tiny bit of sly touching up))))))

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Mmmm....work in progress for me.

((((((HUGS))))))

Ah, thanks...

((((((HUGS..with a tiny bit of sly touching up))))))"

Nothing like a good grope I always find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooo sounds great!

Think I'll give it a look this weekend

You can still book to stay there for a holiday/retreat, in their ecovillage to get a little taster of what life is like there. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooo sounds great!

Think I'll give it a look this weekend

Taint an old folks home ya know xx

No. It's a pixie village. They have your hut waiting. It's called 'UpTurnedThimble'

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Findhorn Foundation.... find me in the Art Centre..

obviously nudes only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooo sounds great!

Think I'll give it a look this weekend

Taint an old folks home ya know xx

No. It's a pixie village. They have your hut waiting. It's called 'UpTurnedThimble' "

Oooohhh goooodie are there lots of fit blond female pixies there tooxx

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"ooo sounds great!

Think I'll give it a look this weekend

Taint an old folks home ya know xx

No. It's a pixie village. They have your hut waiting. It's called 'UpTurnedThimble' "

granny i here hes move in to wendy house he doesnt need step ladder for everthing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pal stayed in one of the old original whisky barrel houses, think they may have some wee flower pots there for soapy pixies to stay in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My pal stayed in one of the old original whisky barrel houses, think they may have some wee flower pots there for soapy pixies to stay in

Weed xx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"My pal stayed in one of the old original whisky barrel houses, think they may have some wee flower pots there for soapy pixies to stay in

Weed xx

Not in the bath

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"ooo sounds great!

Think I'll give it a look this weekend

Taint an old folks home ya know xx

No. It's a pixie village. They have your hut waiting. It's called 'UpTurnedThimble'

granny i here hes move in to wendy house he doesnt need step ladder for everthing

fook aff big lad. nae vermin in my house!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as much as i do love the single life i feel that because i'm a young mother my activities are limited to a certain extent..

I just miss the feeling of being wanted, and being loved. Selfish - probably. I find i feel like this mostly in the evenings when its all quiet and i'm alone.

for the record i adore my little one and would no way change it."

I know exactly how you feel. Once my three are in bed the evenings can be very lonely or yet another round of housework.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am happy with the way my life is at the moment... In the past i have had to concentrate on making me better.. whether that be financially or physically and mentally...

I am now in a place where I am loving life and looking at the things coming ahead as challenges and new oppotunities rather than obsticles to kick me down and keep me down....

Did you get the bunch of flowers I sent you ? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is great being single, though ive a son living with me so not alone in the house, just now and again it would be nice to have someone to cuddle up with in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im single for a reason now.

im constantly moving between places and will be abroad a few times so it will make things very difficult.

i think it isnt right to expect someone to wait for you to return when they could be enjoying themselves.

so i meet when i can. im thankful for the friends i have and those who stay in contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I tried dating again and didn't like it, again! I made a huge announcement on the forum about hanging up my stockings. But sod that, I'm back. Apparently nice girls don't and I so do.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I tried dating again and didn't like it, again! I made a huge announcement on the forum about hanging up my stockings. But sod that, I'm back. Apparently nice girls don't and I so do.....

it would be a poorer place without you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Although not single i do love living on my own. Jay and i have no intentions ever of living together. He will eventually buy a house near me. But not live with me.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

i would be more than content being single.

but try telling that,to mrs saucy,it's all me me me with her.

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

i love being single, i have my kingsize bed, remote control all to myself, i dont have to cook if i dont want to and can fart quite happily in bed lol!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Well I've been single now for about 5 years and I'm happy with that, obviously I like a bit of company now and again but as others have said I can do what I want when I want, and that includes deciding whether to do the housework or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that I can put girly, lacy and embroidered rosebud covers on my duvet without thinking about a grizzled grey haired stubbly snoring fart-face husband shocking me into life each morning peering out from under the duvet. He just never looked right on a pretty floral lavender-scented pillow.

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

love it lainie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welll I tried dating again and didn't like it, again! I made a huge announcement on the forum about hanging up my stockings. But sod that, I'm back. Apparently nice girls don't and I so do.....

it would be a poorer place without you"

I just love a Scottish accent

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"i would be more than content being single.

but try telling that,to mrs saucy,it's all me me me with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Findhorn Foundation.... find me in the Art Centre..

obviously nudes only

Im on me way !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being single has to be the better option because when you're single you can get most of the benefits of coupledom with just a bit of effort.

If you're part of a couple and you want to engage in singles type fun you rather need the approval of the other bit of the couple - or be prepared to cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite happy with being single right now but i don't want to stay that way forever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I find people that bang on about the joys of not having kids, being single, happy being a bbw etc protest just a little too much!

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Welll I tried dating again and didn't like it, again! I made a huge announcement on the forum about hanging up my stockings. But sod that, I'm back. Apparently nice girls don't and I so do.....

it would be a poorer place without you

I just love a Scottish accent

glad to see your back from the vanilla dating world

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would rather be on my own than with the wrong person!

Nothing wrong with being content with whatever that makes one happy, and to share that contentment and happiness with other people.

Better to be happy than miserable IMHO.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I would rather be on my own than with the wrong person!

Nothing wrong with being content with whatever that makes one happy, and to share that contentment and happiness with other people.

Better to be happy than miserable IMHO.

Nods in agreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At this point in time I cannot bear the thought of replacing my late wife. Maybe one day, but at the moment, this lifestyle allows me to enjoy womens' company and intimacy without worrying I am giving the wrong impression about looking for a relationship.

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over a year ago

"At this point in time I cannot bear the thought of replacing my late wife. Maybe one day, but at the moment, this lifestyle allows me to enjoy womens' company and intimacy without worrying I am giving the wrong impression about looking for a relationship. "

I'm no expert in such matter but I don't believe you can ever 'replace' a deceased spouse.

I think you'd find the company and intimacy you seek outwith swinging so long as you were wholly honest with the lady in question. They don't all bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no expert in such matter but I don't believe you can ever 'replace' a deceased spouse.

I think you'd find the company and intimacy you seek outwith swinging so long as you were wholly honest with the lady in question. They don't all bite

Yes, my step-daughter says the same thing (she knows I swing) but I have to say at this moment in time this is easier to get my head around. And you are right, it's not a case of "replacing" as such but I don't yet feel there is room in my heart. Hope that does not make me sound cold or dead from the neck down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no expert in such matter but I don't believe you can ever 'replace' a deceased spouse.

I think you'd find the company and intimacy you seek outwith swinging so long as you were wholly honest with the lady in question. They don't all bite

Not at all. It's just that I'd hate you to think that all that lies before you is the zipless fuck.

It needn't be like that. I've met lots of service widows who never imagined they'd ever find love again yet discovered a happiness they hadn't actually sought.

It's out there, but I suspect it's one of those goals where the harder you seek the harder it is to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no expert in such matter but I don't believe you can ever 'replace' a deceased spouse.

I think you'd find the company and intimacy you seek outwith swinging so long as you were wholly honest with the lady in question. They don't all bite

Not at all. It's just that I'd hate you to think that all that lies before you is the zipless fuck.

It needn't be like that. I've met lots of service widows who never imagined they'd ever find love again yet discovered a happiness they hadn't actually sought.

It's out there, but I suspect it's one of those goals where the harder you seek the harder it is to find."

I know where Jim is coming from, I agree with him, not willing to seek and refuse to find...... for the moment. xxxx

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm no expert in such matter but I don't believe you can ever 'replace' a deceased spouse.

I think you'd find the company and intimacy you seek outwith swinging so long as you were wholly honest with the lady in question. They don't all bite

Not at all. It's just that I'd hate you to think that all that lies before you is the zipless fuck.

It needn't be like that. I've met lots of service widows who never imagined they'd ever find love again yet discovered a happiness they hadn't actually sought.

It's out there, but I suspect it's one of those goals where the harder you seek the harder it is to find.

I know where Jim is coming from, I agree with him, not willing to seek and refuse to find...... for the moment. xxxx"

its hard mate if you need any help biglads here for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cheers, Voyeur, Laine, Big

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By *aryDafiMan
over a year ago

Tripple e

I don't mind being single. What i had before just wasn't nice though.

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