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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Boy would I change if I could go back ten years.

1. I thought I couldn't afford a child back then so we put it off! Things have only got worse.

2. I'd change everything I've ever done with money!

3. I'd have followed a course that leads to success! Not construction that leads to no life!

4. I'd focus on what I love to do not what pays the bills to just be a slave!

Currently I've never felt so low, and I clearly know the path to take for the next ten years, but the dark cloud hovering over me has to be pierced through first.

Don't let your life slip through your fingertips and make the change now!

What would you have changed if you could go back ten years? will you change now?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I joined here 10 yrs ago in 2 weeks

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We made major life changes just under a year ago, they wouldn't have been possible 10 years ago. You have to trust that things happen in your life at the time they're supposed to, looking back and wishing you'd done things differently isn't useful because you're doing it with hindsight and its likely that if had the benefit of th st nobody would make bad decisions. Onwards and upwards, good luck on the road ahead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently ended a relationship that started 10 years ago.

I gave up a lot for him, good well paid job with excellent perks etc

I look back & I could kick myself for some of the things I did/didn't do over the last 10 years BUT.....

We had kids together, wouldn't change that for the world!

It's hard being a single parent though

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Focus not on what might have been, make things happen, be bold, be adventurous, make life what YOU want it to be.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

You can't change what has happened in the past, so make plans of what you want out of life and go forward instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Boy would I change if I could go back ten years.

1. I thought I couldn't afford a child back then so we put it off! Things have only got worse.

2. I'd change everything I've ever done with money!

3. I'd have followed a course that leads to success! Not construction that leads to no life!

4. I'd focus on what I love to do not what pays the bills to just be a slave!

Currently I've never felt so low, and I clearly know the path to take for the next ten years, but the dark cloud hovering over me has to be pierced through first.

Don't let your life slip through your fingertips and make the change now!

What would you have changed if you could go back ten years? will you change now?

You have a plan now. If those 10 years hadn't happened things may have been different - or worse. Try to see it as a positive. Hope you feel better. x

I wouldn't change anything for me, even the bad stuff. It's all made me who I am.

A right miserable grumpy old cow.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

the dark cloud is possibly because you are living in the past..just start with today, do something that makes you smile..if that changes in 5 mins, 5 hours, thats not right now..become much more present and say 5 things you can be thankful for, today and everyday, it helps build a life with a positive foundation and attitude...and its never too late to take all of your experiences, dump them and start all over again. clean your slate and start living now xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto. I might warn myself not to burn bridges but I honestly like myself. So why would I want to change what made me, me?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Hi...I would have got out of a bad marriage sooner. Not driven myself mad climbing the career ladder and enjoyed life instead. I am happier now than ever and know exactly what I want and what makes me happy.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"You can't change what has happened in the past, so make plans of what you want out of life and go forward instead."

Unless time travel has been invented, then I think that's the only way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't change what has happened in the past, so make plans of what you want out of life and go forward instead.

Unless time travel has been invented, then I think that's the only way to go

Where's Funky when we need him?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"You can't change what has happened in the past, so make plans of what you want out of life and go forward instead.

Unless time travel has been invented, then I think that's the only way to go

Where's Funky when we need him?

He's now having a meaningful relationship with Viccy Boi, invitations will be sent out at a later date so I am lead to believe

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

11 years ago i met a man who was to be my saviour 10 years ago i got into a relationship with him, through kindnes, patience and understanding hes helped with changing my life completly round. Its only the last few years i know how to live

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"I've recently ended a relationship that started 10 years ago.

I gave up a lot for him, good well paid job with excellent perks etc

I look back & I could kick myself for some of the things I did/didn't do over the last 10 years BUT.....

We had kids together, wouldn't change that for the world!

It's hard being a single parent though "

It difficult being a single parent, I've been on my own for 11 years. I can't pm you. Make sure you get your tax credits sorted. It's tough but does get better. Feel free to message me.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I regret drinking too much because i was depressed, it just made things worst.

I regret not cuddling my little dog more when she was alive because i miss her.

I regret meeting some of the men i did who were not nice to me.

The things i wont be doing again is drinking too much and being more careful who i meet on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the last 10 years I finally got the courage to leave an unhappy marriage, went to university, got professionally qualified, and have a relationship with my kids that goes from strength to strength.

The only thing I would change would be telling my mum to get what she thought was a mouth ulcer looked at sooner...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey OP the future is bright, go for it. we live for today as we never know what tomorrow may bring, do what makes you happy now. IF it turns out sucessful excellent, if not it still made you happy so it's a win.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Life is good, I embraced the last 10 years and I hope to do the same over the next 10.

Enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hey OP the future is bright, go for it. we live for today as we never know what tomorrow may bring, do what makes you happy now. IF it turns out sucessful excellent, if not it still made you happy so it's a win.

Words to live by!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"In the last 10 years I finally got the courage to leave an unhappy marriage, went to university, got professionally qualified, and have a relationship with my kids that goes from strength to strength.

The only thing I would change would be telling my mum to get what she thought was a mouth ulcer looked at sooner...

Sounds good.

I know what you mean about your mum though because my mum had pains in her neck and shoulder, she went to an osteopath but it didnt get better and i said to her it takes time because i had been to see one before. Then my brother said she should see a chiropractor in bournemouth and he took x rays which showed she had cancer and she died a few months later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the past is signposted "No Entry"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Ten years wouldn't be enough.

I was in a very bad place in my life ten years ago and I wouldn't want to be back there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldn't change anything in the past 10 years, i left my ex husband just over 9 year ago and since then my life has only improved

I qualified from uni, so now have a good job, my own home im happy in, three beautiful girls im very proud of and my own life im happy with

The only regret i have in the past 10 years is my daugher having an hysterectomy when she was 18, i guess if i could go back id go back to before the operation and see if we could have got things done sooner and save her womb, but theres no saying it could have been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing I would change would be telling my mum to get what she thought was a mouth ulcer looked at sooner...

Sounds good.

Yup, the mouth ulcer was a tumour, by the time she went it was too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the past is signposted "No Entry""

Sounds like CBT,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the past is signposted "No Entry"

Sounds like CBT,

No idea.

Hated CBT.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't waste time thinking of what you could have or would have done.

More interested in making the next 10 years the best they can be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the past is signposted "No Entry"

Sounds like CBT,

No idea.

Hated CBT."

But it's a miracle, cures everything!!!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I need to go back a little further than 10 yours. 13 year 11 months and 2 weeks to be precise

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

We all make mistakes though, you were sensible not to have a child if you couldnt afford it, having a child changes your life a lot and you have less freedom. Also you were lucky to have a job, some people havnt even got that.

The majority of people are just working to pay their bills etc not that many people are lucky enough to do a job they enjoy, they work because they have to.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

"Boy would I change if I could go back ten years.

1. I thought I couldn't afford a child back then so we put it off! Things have only got worse.

2. I'd change everything I've ever done with money!

3. I'd have followed a course that leads to success! Not construction that leads to no life!

4. I'd focus on what I love to do not what pays the bills to just be a slave!

Currently I've never felt so low, and I clearly know the path to take for the next ten years, but the dark cloud hovering over me has to be pierced through first.

Don't let your life slip through your fingertips and make the change now!

What would you have changed if you could go back ten years? will you change now?

"
A mirror of me in many ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some really good replies here and I appreciate every one. Moving on and being in the present is the most important as is to live and enjoy life. The main point I've recently learnt is that work is not worth the effort if you don't enjoy it. I know you will all say that you need to work to pay the bills - well I need to pay the bills also but recently said enough is enough and walked out. How the bills get paid still needs to be sorted but that I think is the least of my worry. My future is the biggest priority right now! Thanks again for every single reply xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Focused on me more, rather than husbands (ex) military career and children.....and kept smear text up to date so cancer was noticed soner and didn't have to have radical hysterectomy. ...and drank more gin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have no regrets in life. Yes, i could've done things differently, so could we all have. I could've made different choices. The thing is, i'm in a great place right now and i'm loving the direction that my life is going in. I wouldn't have been able to get where i am now without my past being what it is. For that i am thankful. Thankful for the choices i have made, the places i have been and the people that have crossed my path. Without them i would not be on a path, that i feel, i am meant to be on.

OP, i hope you find the light in your darkness and have the strength and courage to face your fears. Fear is just a state of mind. It isn't a real thing. Learn not to be afraid and find your path. Learn every day. Surround yourself with positive people and places. Believe and live the person you want to become now. Find your negative influences and disgard them. They will only bring you down. So be thankful for your past, realise that you are already everything you need to be what you want to be and that you have the same 24hrs a day that we all have. Make every minute count, so that you can realise your dreams and go get them. Good luck OP.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

That a gym is not a scary place to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i listed my last 10 yr life things to change we would be here for a fortnight as is the case for many of us i think

My personal happiness often sat on the back burner due to commitments or situations i created or found myself but felt i couldnt escape from

Then just over 4 yrs ago i met my best friend who became after a long wait my partner n soul mate the man who changed everything on of all places here who gave me the courage to move forward believe in myself n persue the happiness i often denyed myself

Life is not a dress rehearsal and regrets over past losses and mistakes serve only to bring you down n often fill your heart with bitterness and looking back all the time means you miss whats possible n right in front of you the future is what you make for yourself and i now believe anything is possible if i set my mind to it

I was also given an amazing book of quotes by a friend to inspire me by oscar wilde n as oscar so beautifully said "we are all in the gutter but some of us are looking to the stars" so today i accept myself n my life and i look for my stars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Boy would I change if I could go back ten years.

1. I thought I couldn't afford a child back then so we put it off! Things have only got worse.

2. I'd change everything I've ever done with money!

3. I'd have followed a course that leads to success! Not construction that leads to no life!

4. I'd focus on what I love to do not what pays the bills to just be a slave!

Currently I've never felt so low, and I clearly know the path to take for the next ten years, but the dark cloud hovering over me has to be pierced through first.

Don't let your life slip through your fingertips and make the change now!

What would you have changed if you could go back ten years? will you change now?

In saying you have hit rock bottom but being that low there is only way left to go and that's up!! All the best.

Back to you're question... Probably choose a career

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DO NOT MARRY THAT WOMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!

Would be the words echoing in my brain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd of got divorced sooner lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That a gym is not a scary place to go

It really isn't.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"That a gym is not a scary place to go

It really isn't.

I know been going for last 2 years and I am really chilled about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd lure ladies toward me with my thighs while I still had the stamina to do something with them

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I'd turned 30, celebrated 1st wedding anniversary (had been together 14 yrs) & was 32 days from giving birth to my youngest. It was hot & I was massive. But so very happy.

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I wouldn't change a thing because if it wasn't for what I've gone through I wouldn't be thee person I am today and if I changed anything then I wouldn't be as I am now and the grass wouldn't necessarily be any greener

All I can do is change the here and now if I wanted to make changes

I took that step this year

I finally told the guy I've been in love with for 15yrs that I love him, it hasn't changed our situation he is still with someone and living his life. But I am no longer carrying it around and having to ignore him when he jokes about us never getting together. He told me hoe he felt and i never thot he felt that way about me and now he knows I felt that way too after telling me he knows I never felt that way about him.

I regret nothing because without it who am I? Why am I the way I am?

The good thing about black clouds is they blow over, they don't feel it at the time and sometimes u hot rock bottom before u have a hand reaching to help pull u ip or u suddenly realise the items to build a ladder out are infront of you but u never sae them befor

I hope things improve for u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't turn back the clock. I would be a daughter short and that wouldn't do.

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