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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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So...youve been talking to someone for 9 weeks; had a couple of social meets, plan a weekend of fun and then they go quiet- suddenly-is conversation

Im a worrier by nature...what does one do??

Man up and call or??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say he must be brain damaged judging by your profile picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate when this happens!

Ask him straight up.

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I'd say he must be brain damaged judging by your profile picture."

Ha now see I'm wondering...

Seriously though, what does a girl do??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say they'd lost interest and not bother doing anything else.

I've had people go quiet and just shrug and take it that that's the end of that.

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I hate when this happens!

Ask him straight up. "

I've messaged on here... not been opened,

And sent a message on whatsapp- also unread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adults talk to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate when this happens!

Ask him straight up.

I've messaged on here... not been opened,

And sent a message on whatsapp- also unread "

Then block and arrange something else, block on whatsapp too.

Plenty of decent guys on here. Don't waste your time on the numbnuts!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Consider real life may have got in the way.

Look for someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe had a better offer. Just block and move on

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I hate when this happens!

Ask him straight up.

I've messaged on here... not been opened,

And sent a message on whatsapp- also unread "

I'd say he's chickened out sadly, may be married all along. Sorry, but you need to start arranging your next meet

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Start chatting with the first person than says Rumpelstiltskin on this thread, cos the other guy is obviously a Muppet..

x

;)

S

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Oh this happens to me all the time.

They go from literally proposing marriage and absolute adoration ....to zero contact!

Even after meeting and great sex... and more great sex.....and then one day out of the blue without warning..... they ignore you completely.

Get it on FAB

Get it on dating sites.

Suck it up buttercup! Although it is a tad annoying when guts simply lack the balls to let you know... so nowadays my attitude is LIVE FOR THE MOMENT for tomorrow you may simply be chip paper !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start chatting with the first person than says Rumpelstiltskin on this thread, cos the other guy is obviously a Muppet..

x

;)

S"

Hmmm maybe

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Sometimes I go quiet because I am busy with football or real life

It's the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh this happens to me all the time.

They go from literally proposing marriage and absolute adoration ....to zero contact!

Even after meeting and great sex... and more great sex.....and then one day out of the blue without warning..... they ignore you completely.

Get it on FAB

Get it on dating sites.

Suck it up buttercup! Although it is a tad annoying when guts simply lack the balls to let you know... so nowadays my attitude is LIVE FOR THE MOMENT for tomorrow you may simply be chip paper ! "

Men with no balls are the bane of my life!

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Oh this happens to me all the time.

They go from literally proposing marriage and absolute adoration ....to zero contact!

Even after meeting and great sex... and more great sex.....and then one day out of the blue without warning..... they ignore you completely.

Get it on FAB

Get it on dating sites.

Suck it up buttercup! Although it is a tad annoying when guts simply lack the balls to let you know... so nowadays my attitude is LIVE FOR THE MOMENT for tomorrow you may simply be chip paper ! "

'Suck it up buttercup' thats what i had planned to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody's that busy that they can't open a Whatsapp message, it's like a text message. Unless they drop their phone down the loo.

Just put it down to experience and move on.

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sometimes I go quiet because I am busy with football or real life

It's the way it is "

I know....thing is I am actually worried something has gone tits up in "real life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adults talk to each other. "

Not on here they dont

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Adults talk to each other.

Not on here they dont"

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Nobody's that busy that they can't open a Whatsapp message, it's like a text message. Unless they drop their phone down the loo.

Just put it down to experience and move on."

Totally true! I love the banal excuses offered!! Especially the 'I've been so busy' excuse!!!

My response? 'But of course you are sweetie!

Followed by 'Close the door behind you!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I go quiet because I am busy with football or real life

It's the way it is

I know....thing is I am actually worried something has gone tits up in "real life" "

And if it has ..... It's not your worry is it ?

Move on , he would have got in touch if he had wanted to .

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Nobody's that busy that they can't open a Whatsapp message, it's like a text message. Unless they drop their phone down the loo.

Just put it down to experience and move on.

Totally true! I love the banal excuses offered!! Especially the 'I've been so busy' excuse!!!

My response? 'But of course you are sweetie!

Followed by 'Close the door behind you!'

"

Ok girls...advice taken

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sometimes I go quiet because I am busy with football or real life

It's the way it is

I know....thing is I am actually worried something has gone tits up in "real life"

And if it has ..... It's not your worry is it ?

Move on , he would have got in touch if he had wanted to ."

Moving swiftly on....

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Sometimes I go quiet because I am busy with football or real life

It's the way it is

I know....thing is I am actually worried something has gone tits up in "real life" "

Oh waste your energy going down THAT road! I am sure he has friends and family to deal with that IF that were even remotely true.

He just isn't into you anymore! Harsh I know.... but 99% likely to be the case. Put your energy into someone else x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So...youve been talking to someone for 9 weeks; had a couple of social meets, plan a weekend of fun and then they go quiet- suddenly-is conversation

Im a worrier by nature...what does one do??

Man up and call or??"

Sounds like a fantasist after wank-fodder!

Ask his wife

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sometimes I go quiet because I am busy with football or real life

It's the way it is

I know....thing is I am actually worried something has gone tits up in "real life"

Oh waste your energy going down THAT road! I am sure he has friends and family to deal with that IF that were even remotely true.

He just isn't into you anymore! Harsh I know.... but 99% likely to be the case. Put your energy into someone else x"

Nothing like a slap around the chops to sort you out, thanks Kitty

Terrible habit of mine this worry malarkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So...youve been talking to someone for 9 weeks; had a couple of social meets, plan a weekend of fun and then they go quiet- suddenly-is conversation

Im a worrier by nature...what does one do??

Man up and call or??"

He's obviously mental as you are stunning. He could be married and his wife found out? Or he's got cold feet.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


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I've messaged on here... not been opened,

And sent a message on whatsapp- also unread "

Delete the sent message here

Delete the chat on WhatsApp

(Just so you don't keep checking )

And plan on spoiling yourself this weekend

May sound harsh but I am the same and end up tying myself in knots. . Was it me... are they ok

Plan something else x you are worth more xx

If they come back after the weekend your choice if you respond

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I hate when this happens!

Ask him straight up.

I've messaged on here... not been opened,

And sent a message on whatsapp- also unread "

I see it as poor manners if they have left a message unread after some time and it's clear that they've been back online a number of times.

They then get blocked and I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adults talk to each other.

Not on here they dont

"

I will always reply - its the polite way to do things

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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I've messaged on here... not been opened,

And sent a message on whatsapp- also unread

Delete the sent message here

Delete the chat on WhatsApp

(Just so you don't keep checking )

And plan on spoiling yourself this weekend

May sound harsh but I am the same and end up tying myself in knots. . Was it me... are they ok

Plan something else x you are worth more xx

If they come back after the weekend your choice if you respond "

Absolutely right x

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By *oupleinessexCouple
over a year ago

benfleet

Looking at your profile pic I'd say forget him. A girl as stunning as you doesn't need to go chasing after numpties!!

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Nobody's that busy that they can't open a Whatsapp message, it's like a text message. Unless they drop their phone down the loo.

Just put it down to experience and move on.

Totally true! I love the banal excuses offered!! Especially the 'I've been so busy' excuse!!!

My response? 'But of course you are sweetie!

Followed by 'Close the door behind you!'

"

I'm nicking that... It's perfect right now

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Sounds rubbish. Maybe he was all talk, no action. You might find his profile disappears from the site soon too!

His loss.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you ever meet him at his house or socially somewhere near his house? If not id go with the not single and been found out, or found someone else, either way I'm almost certain it's his losses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile pic I'd say forget him. A girl as stunning as you doesn't need to go chasing after numpties!! "

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Sounds like he has commitments ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I can see, you haven't said how long he's "gone quiet" for (apologies if you have and I've missed it).

If it's just a few hours to a day or two thwn I'd say it's probably just real life getting in the way, if it's longer then I'd start wondering if it was intentional, especially if they have logged onto here and not read or replied to your message during their "quiet time"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having looked at your pic i conclude that he must have been run over by a bus x

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Having looked at your pic i conclude that he must have been run over by a bus x"

He'll wish he was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having looked at your pic i conclude that he must have been run over by a bus x

He'll wish he was "

Can i be his replacement xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

One stops worrying. More than anything else.

Worrying is just not healthy for you and is destructive. If there's a great habit to dev, it's to feel relaxed and confident, rather than anxious or worried - especially about possible meet partners.

People have other stuff that occurs in their lives that will detract from swinging. You can be important but they have to do other stuff.

If you're leaning towards a little more than no strings attached action then this issue may be a wake up call to not get attached or emotionally affected.

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"One stops worrying. More than anything else.

Worrying is just not healthy for you and is destructive. If there's a great habit to dev, it's to feel relaxed and confident, rather than anxious or worried - especially about possible meet partners.

People have other stuff that occurs in their lives that will detract from swinging. You can be important but they have to do other stuff.

If you're leaning towards a little more than no strings attached action then this issue may be a wake up call to not get attached or emotionally affected. "

Ive been told i dont have emotions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he's got a wife or gf and likes the idea of playing but can't get a pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having looked at your pic i conclude that he must have been run over by a bus x"

I couldn't agree more. She's amazing isn't she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say he must be brain damaged judging by your profile picture."

What he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am guessing you met him before you joined fab?

Did he suggest you join?

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Having looked at your pic i conclude that he must have been run over by a bus x

I couldn't agree more. She's amazing isn't she? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on...he's not worth thinking about

L

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