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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

I know people say you should t regret anything in life, but if I'm true to myself there is something I regret.

X

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

I regret marrying my 2 exes that so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret not standing up to someone who ended up ruining part of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because everything I've done n experienced in my life has made me me. Good and bad. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not holidaying more before the kids arrived.

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Have you got all day?

There's plenty I regret, but I realise I can't change what happened either, only try and move on and learn from past mistakes (which is easier said than done sometimes!!) and deal with where you are moving forward.

One of my favourite phrases is "yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that's why they call it the present"

Mr G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the minute I regret having to tell someone I love that I can't see them so much anymore....but is something I need to do for my own sanity....and happened because of the regret from never putting myself first before...apart from that and not sorting things so I could have more kids then pretty much no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No regrets just happy memories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dedicating near as damn it half my life to my ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...I've had a few..

But then again, too few to mention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't regret something I did but I do regret the way I did it

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not holidaying more before the kids arrived."

This ....oh how I miss grown up holidays..!!

(Just to be clear I dont regret having the small person tho...that's pretty much the coolest thing I ever did manage to do )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm kinda..

If i could have my daughter exactly as she is but a different man as her father it would be ace..

Part of me regrets meeting him, and i hate his guts..

but ultimately he gave me the best thing in life..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh quite a few things, chances I missed or never need the nerve to follow through.

Try not to go back over them as it does you no good

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Deciding not to have children on what I now know to be a completely wrong assumption. My ex wife had to have an hysterectomy at 38.

I still feel terribly guilty even though I gave her every penny I had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 regrets.

1 was sleeping with someome who i found out later was married.

The other is something i can't mention on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to say dropping out of University, but then again if I hadn't I wouldn't have met my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are things I sometimes wish I'd done differently but little if anything I regret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret not becoming a mother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Driving on the m6 instead of taking the train why oh why oh why lord

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Mostly related to idiot men - yes I have regrets. So much time wasted.....

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I regret not keeping in touch with friends better and not travelling very much.

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

Don't like the concept of regret and I actively fight any thoughts around it, hangs around like a bad smell on me otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do regret to be too trusting sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you got all day?

There's plenty I regret, but I realise I can't change what happened either, only try and move on and learn from past mistakes (which is easier said than done sometimes!!) and deal with where you are moving forward.

One of my favourite phrases is "yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that's why they call it the present"

Mr G"

Have you just quoted Kung Fu Panda??!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I regret not becoming a mother.

"

Awww is there not anytime left to become a mother or is it impossible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may sound like pie in the sky to a lot off people.

I have no regrets at all i have always followed my heart and it has allowed me to live regret free.

Yes i should have done some things different but rather than regret it has evolved me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regrets, I've had a few;

But then again, too few too mention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes"

I'm very surprised

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do regret to be too trusting sometimes"

Would really want to be the other way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my only child ,aged seven,and i deeply regret never getting pregnant again,it just didnt happen,and now its to late

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't regret something I did but I do regret the way I did it "

I'm sure your not the only one miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I regret not becoming a mother.

"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes .. lots but I can not change anything and hindsight is a wonderful way to challenge your own thinking but cant change an event.

however things that have happened both good and bad help me be who i am... although somethings i am learning have still negatively affected me now and I am working on them.

i sometimes think if id not done this or that how different my life would be... but really its all what ifs... and For all the hard times.. im me and I am pretty okay with being me x

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

There are a few things I regret and would do differently if I had that time again. But as time travel isn't an option and we can only live life forwards, I try not to waste precious energy dwelling on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I regret not becoming a mother.

Awww is there not anytime left to become a mother or is it impossible?"

Two miscarriages and years of trying with ex. Wasn't to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I lost my only child ,aged seven,and i deeply regret never getting pregnant again,it just didnt happen,and now its to late "

If it just didn't happen, do you not think it wasn't meant to be or do you bit agree with way of thinking?

Sorry to hear about your child

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I regret not becoming a mother.

Awww is there not anytime left to become a mother or is it impossible?

Two miscarriages and years of trying with ex. Wasn't to be "

Could you go to the fertility clinic?

So sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No because everything I've done n experienced in my life has made me me. Good and bad. Xxx"

Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. And I walk past his name every day........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marrying my ex, then again, we have three great kids.

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

Ah sad to read a few of you gorgeous women have regrets around not being a mother (and for one of you losing child )

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

i regret getting involved with my brothers ex girlfriend and her boyfriend when i was 16.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lost my only child ,aged seven,and i deeply regret never getting pregnant again,it just didnt happen,and now its to late

If it just didn't happen, do you not think it wasn't meant to be or do you bit agree with way of thinking?

Sorry to hear about your child "
I dont think it was meant to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

I know people say you should t regret anything in life, but if I'm true to myself there is something I regret.

X"

I regret that the first bi couple I met where he fucked my ass left UK

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lost my only child ,aged seven,and i deeply regret never getting pregnant again,it just didnt happen,and now its to late "
That certainly puts things into perspective. I'm deeply sorry. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have plenty of regrets due to certain actions as a youngster...

Still live with those demons.

Very sorry to hear regrets about not having kids thst people have..

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

what about people who regret having kids?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids?"

I'm sure there might be a few, but I'd imagine not a lot.

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By *uddlybear2015Man
over a year ago

BEDFORD

Only real regret is not going to uni,had a chance with union sponsorship but was made redundant before it could happen,I'd be benign dictator by now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lost my only child ,aged seven,and i deeply regret never getting pregnant again,it just didnt happen,and now its to late That certainly puts things into perspective. I'm deeply sorry. Xx"
Thankyou but it was many moons ago,and time does heal,and i cant keep thinking about it day after day as it would drive me nuts,but have wonderful memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids?"
I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

I know people say you should t regret anything in life, but if I'm true to myself there is something I regret.

X"

Yes

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious."

They do though, most dont like to admit it to themselves or anyone else, some just regret it sometimes, its not all sunshine and roses.

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By *evils-couple13Couple
over a year ago

Neath

Not finding my hubby sooner and not realising my ex would never change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

They do though, most dont like to admit it to themselves or anyone else, some just regret it sometimes, its not all sunshine and roses."

Surely the good outweighs the bad? Unless your extremely unlucky?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

They do though, most dont like to admit it to themselves or anyone else, some just regret it sometimes, its not all sunshine and roses."

If I chose to (Which I won't) I could still have children but because of my decision my ex wife hasn't got that option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret not studying harder at school..could have set up my life so much better..

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

I know people say you should t regret anything in life, but if I'm true to myself there is something I regret.

X"

I regret scoffing that half a tub of ice-cream over the weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not travelling when i had the chance to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

They do though, most dont like to admit it to themselves or anyone else, some just regret it sometimes, its not all sunshine and roses."
Life itself isnt sunshine and roses ,but children are the sunshine,just my opinion but then not everyone would agree i suppose.

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By *eeeee7Woman
over a year ago

over yonder


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious."
not always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not realising sooner that life wasn't all about keeping other people happy...

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

They do though, most dont like to admit it to themselves or anyone else, some just regret it sometimes, its not all sunshine and roses.

Surely the good outweighs the bad? Unless your extremely unlucky? "

Not sure about that, all depends on how you look at it i guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

I know people say you should t regret anything in life, but if I'm true to myself there is something I regret.

X

I regret scoffing that half a tub of ice-cream over the weekend "

You should never regret ice cream

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not realising sooner that life wasn't all about keeping other people happy..."

Gotta look after no.1

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I don't, however if he'd have not blessed me with my 3 girls I'd regret going anywhere near my ex, now I can safely say that I'm over him, I see him for what he truely is, usually the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

They do though, most dont like to admit it to themselves or anyone else, some just regret it sometimes, its not all sunshine and roses."

It's an admission that tends to produce negative judgement as a "bad parent" and expressions of horror, hence not many will admit it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably far too many to list. One is leaving a well paid job and then losing everything within 5 months and never managed to get back to where I was. Losing friends through stupid decisions, an ex I was engaged to, but glad I had a son from it. Breaking up with my daughter's mum. Etc etc.

Living in the past is a bitch, but until I find happiness with myself, I doubt I'll find happiness with someone else either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret not winning the lottery.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I passed the entrance exam to go into the air force @17 not as a pilot but had a choice of everything else, got cold feet when they said they'd like me to sign up for nine years as it was a four year apprentiship for most of the techie stuf.

Later in life I had an exforces friend who specialised in radar for ships & he spent most of his time travelling the world installing & upgrading.. I was very jealous..

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few...main one is why did I stay safe with all my younger decisions. That probably covers them all really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I passed the entrance exam to go into the air force @17 not as a pilot but had a choice of everything else, got cold feet when they said they'd like me to sign up for nine years as it was a four year apprentiship for most of the techie stuf.

Later in life I had an exforces friend who specialised in radar for ships & he spent most of his time travelling the world installing & upgrading.. I was very jealous..

S"

With you on that one, it was one thing I always wanted, saw the careers officers and everything but didn't go any further. My mate has been in nearly 20 years now and still enjoying it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are regrets always something in the past or can they be current???

Sara

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are regrets always something in the past or can they be current???

Sara"

Anytime

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

In hindsight, I would have done something different, but I have no regrets.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I'd like to say I have none but truthfully, I regret not kicking up more of a fuss when I was in labour with our Son.

As our first child, we had no way of knowing how serious things were when he was in distress and the doctors were ignoring his lack of movement and my concerns and were dragging their feet when they should've just done a c-section and got him out.

He now has lifelong physical and learning disabilities.

Currently in the process of a medical negligence case.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd like to say I have none but truthfully, I regret not kicking up more of a fuss when I was in labour with our Son.

As our first child, we had no way of knowing how serious things were when he was in distress and the doctors were ignoring his lack of movement and my concerns and were dragging their feet when they should've just done a c-section and got him out.

He now has lifelong physical and learning disabilities.

Currently in the process of a medical negligence case."

Oh my, sorry to hear this, was it definitely caused by them not taking action sooner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being confident when I was younger.

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By *imply DifferentCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Not sticking at university the first time around.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I'd like to say I have none but truthfully, I regret not kicking up more of a fuss when I was in labour with our Son.

As our first child, we had no way of knowing how serious things were when he was in distress and the doctors were ignoring his lack of movement and my concerns and were dragging their feet when they should've just done a c-section and got him out.

He now has lifelong physical and learning disabilities.

Currently in the process of a medical negligence case."

So very sorry to hear this, the same happened to my stepsister, she's 63yo now and still only a child.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong


"No because everything I've done n experienced in my life has made me me. Good and bad. Xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just uploaded my first cock pic and i may regret it

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By *bbitMan
over a year ago

Watford

Moving to Australia ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regrets, I've had a few;

But then again, too few too mention."

lol I beat you to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just uploaded my first cock pic and i may regret it "

All of the 'fab straight' men may not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not going on an 18-30 holiday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

better to regret something you have done than something you haven't x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret sending cock pics to every female in my local area hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has crossed my mind a few times that maybe I've played it too 'safe' throughout my life, never really taken many chances. Do I regret it? In ways yes & in ways no, but I can't change it so I choose not to dwell on it for too long.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I regret not becoming a mother.

"

I have a stroppy difficult son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"better to regret something you have done than something you haven't x"

That's true, in that case, I regret nothing, everything I've done has brought me here, who knows where I'll end up in the future. Life's a journey and adventure supposed to be enjoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret not joining the police force.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Only one thing and oddly compared to my life its a relatively trvial thing, but i tried to fix it twice and failed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only thing I truly regret is having an argument with my Dad and not speaking to each other for the two years before his death. Just one of those things where you always think there's going to be time to talk, when all of a sudden it runs out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you got all day?

There's plenty I regret, but I realise I can't change what happened either, only try and move on and learn from past mistakes (which is easier said than done sometimes!!) and deal with where you are moving forward.

One of my favourite phrases is "yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that's why they call it the present"

Mr G"
that last quote is rather smart...I like it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point in regret, it's unhealthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot I regret not doing actually because of insecurities about me being a big gal.

My main regrets are wasting 5 and 6 years, respectively, on men who point blank never actually loved me.

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By *heBakeOLiteGirlWoman
over a year ago

62 West Wallaby Street (not real address)

Regret meeting a guy on here who turned out to be a complete C#@t!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only thing I truly regret is having an argument with my Dad and not speaking to each other for the two years before his death. Just one of those things where you always think there's going to be time to talk, when all of a sudden it runs out."

Ooooh that's sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I had travelled while I was young And been smarter with my money then too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you got all day?

There's plenty I regret, but I realise I can't change what happened either, only try and move on and learn from past mistakes (which is easier said than done sometimes!!) and deal with where you are moving forward.

One of my favourite phrases is "yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that's why they call it the present"

Mr G"

Great quote x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you got all day?

There's plenty I regret, but I realise I can't change what happened either, only try and move on and learn from past mistakes (which is easier said than done sometimes!!) and deal with where you are moving forward.

One of my favourite phrases is "yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that's why they call it the present"

Mr G

Great quote x"
well said it's very true isn't it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

I know people say you should t regret anything in life, but if I'm true to myself there is something I regret.

X"

Without getting the tissues and violin out,the only real regret I have is not taking the chance to say 'I love you', before the chance was gone ??

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By *atie2015100TV/TS
over a year ago

Salford


"Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

I know people say you should t regret anything in life, but if I'm true to myself there is something I regret.

X

Without getting the tissues and violin out,the only real regret I have is not taking the chance to say 'I love you', before the chance was gone ??"

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trusting someone on here, it taints your view of people. .

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"I'd like to say I have none but truthfully, I regret not kicking up more of a fuss when I was in labour with our Son.

As our first child, we had no way of knowing how serious things were when he was in distress and the doctors were ignoring his lack of movement and my concerns and were dragging their feet when they should've just done a c-section and got him out.

He now has lifelong physical and learning disabilities.

Currently in the process of a medical negligence case.

Oh my, sorry to hear this, was it definitely caused by them not taking action sooner? "

Thank you.

Yes, the root analysis report basically says his brain looks to have developed normally until it sustained injury and his condition and poor state could've been prevented if he was delivered sooner.

It goes quite a bit into how so many of the consultants didn't come back and "forgot" about me or were somewhere they weren't supposed to be. I was left with nurses who didn't recognise his heart rate as flat or pathological and they didn't know that they were supposed to be keeping an eye on him and call any of the consultants back.

And it was always "We'll give it 45mins, see if it improves. We'll give it 15, see if it improves, etc" and nobody higher up can figure out why they were fart arseing around.

The woman who delivered me was furious and it was only afterwards we found out their heart rate isn't meant to dip below 100 and it's meant to fluctuate - our Son's was flat at 60-80! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd like to say I have none but truthfully, I regret not kicking up more of a fuss when I was in labour with our Son.

As our first child, we had no way of knowing how serious things were when he was in distress and the doctors were ignoring his lack of movement and my concerns and were dragging their feet when they should've just done a c-section and got him out.

He now has lifelong physical and learning disabilities.

Currently in the process of a medical negligence case.

Oh my, sorry to hear this, was it definitely caused by them not taking action sooner?

Thank you.

Yes, the root analysis report basically says his brain looks to have developed normally until it sustained injury and his condition and poor state could've been prevented if he was delivered sooner.

It goes quite a bit into how so many of the consultants didn't come back and "forgot" about me or were somewhere they weren't supposed to be. I was left with nurses who didn't recognise his heart rate as flat or pathological and they didn't know that they were supposed to be keeping an eye on him and call any of the consultants back.

And it was always "We'll give it 45mins, see if it improves. We'll give it 15, see if it improves, etc" and nobody higher up can figure out why they were fart arseing around.

The woman who delivered me was furious and it was only afterwards we found out their heart rate isn't meant to dip below 100 and it's meant to fluctuate - our Son's was flat at 60-80! x"

How awful, I wish all the luck with your case x

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

It's true you should try to have no regrets in life but there's certainly things I would change if I could go back, knowing the things I now know.

I regret putting so much energy into so-called friends who turned out to be anything but friends. I wasted too much time on people that ultimately ended up hurting me badly and messing up my head, effecting the way I see people. It's taken me a long time to start to truly trust again. I certainly won't make that mistake again.

As always, you take these things and you learn from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may sound like pie in the sky to a lot off people.

I have no regrets at all i have always followed my heart and it has allowed me to live regret free.

Yes i should have done some things different but rather than regret it has evolved me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's true you should try to have no regrets in life but there's certainly things I would change if I could go back, knowing the things I now know.

I regret putting so much energy into so-called friends who turned out to be anything but friends. I wasted too much time on people that ultimately ended up hurting me badly and messing up my head, effecting the way I see people. It's taken me a long time to start to truly trust again. I certainly won't make that mistake again.

As always, you take these things and you learn from them."

Same here and for many of us but,hey' we got through it and we're all better people for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret getting married

I don't regret being with him, even though he was abusive and made my life hell, because without him I'd have never had my children and they are worth what he put me through but I wish I'd never married him and left his much sooner than I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids?"

Haha!! Yep and those guys.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Is there anything you truly regret in your life?

X"

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not being confident when I was younger."

This, and all of the wasted time and energy it consumed.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

The last 4 months of my marriage. Should have kicked him out as soon as felt things had changed.

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By *xx1Man
over a year ago

.

I don't regret the things I've done,

I just regret the things I didn't do when I had the chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being with my father when he died.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"I'd like to say I have none but truthfully, I regret not kicking up more of a fuss when I was in labour with our Son.

As our first child, we had no way of knowing how serious things were when he was in distress and the doctors were ignoring his lack of movement and my concerns and were dragging their feet when they should've just done a c-section and got him out.

He now has lifelong physical and learning disabilities.

Currently in the process of a medical negligence case.

So very sorry to hear this, the same happened to my stepsister, she's 63yo now and still only a child."

Sorry to hear that.

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By *ashedMan
over a year ago

hemel

Joining this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Joining this site

"

Had to be said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really because if things had been different we wouldnt be where we are now - just might have been less hurt in the past but then other choices/occurances might have been worse

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Always put my plans on the back burner and settled for what was ok at the time.

Now I feel I want to put myself first...but also feel guilty as I have little people.

When is my time?

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By *ashedMan
over a year ago

hemel


"Joining this site

Had to be said "

Full of rude people

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people "

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people "

Take it all with a BIG pinch of site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret listening to other people instead of making my own choices....I regret not realising I had a good brain and I could have had a career instead of settling for what I was told that's all I would be good at... I regret not travelling when I had the chance... I regret not listening to myself when what happened was none of my fault.... I regret not realising that I was lovely funny and worth so much more for what I had settled for....I regret putting up for all that shit for far too long and I truly regret not realising my true worth to much much later in life x

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By *ashedMan
over a year ago

hemel


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it? "

Good example. You make a comment but hide your profile

picture

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it?

Good example. You make a comment but hide your profile

picture "

If you regret joining, just leave, problem solved.

Isn't it rude to assume other people are the ones with the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No regrets, just lessons learned. X

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"not really because if things had been different we wouldnt be where we are now - just might have been less hurt in the past but then other choices/occurances might have been worse "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather live a life with some regrets than regret not having lived my life x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it?

Good example. You make a comment but hide your profile

picture "

What's that got to do with anything?

Does having a hidden profile make me rude? Is my profile anything to do with why you are here even though you regret it? What's your point and why did you avoid answering the question?

Why is it anything to do with you that my profile is hidden?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't regret getting married as I got my two lovely children but I do regret not telling her how high my sex drive is because that is what broke us

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it?

Good example. You make a comment but hide your profile

picture

What's that got to do with anything?

Does having a hidden profile make me rude? Is my profile anything to do with why you are here even though you regret it? What's your point and why did you avoid answering the question?

Why is it anything to do with you that my profile is hidden?"

Clearly he felt like adding himself to the list of rude people on the site

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it?

Good example. You make a comment but hide your profile

picture

If you regret joining, just leave, problem solved.

Isn't it rude to assume other people are the ones with the problem? "

It's certainly rude to tell people they don't have a right to comment on a thread unless they run their profile in a way that suits him. As if that's even relevant.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it?

Good example. You make a comment but hide your profile

picture

What's that got to do with anything?

Does having a hidden profile make me rude? Is my profile anything to do with why you are here even though you regret it? What's your point and why did you avoid answering the question?

Why is it anything to do with you that my profile is hidden?

Clearly he felt like adding himself to the list of rude people on the site "

My thoughts exactly. Our posts crossed!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Joining this site

Had to be said

Full of rude people

Why regret that when it's so easy to change it?

Good example. You make a comment but hide your profile

picture

If you regret joining, just leave, problem solved.

Isn't it rude to assume other people are the ones with the problem?

It's certainly rude to tell people they don't have a right to comment on a thread unless they run their profile in a way that suits him. As if that's even relevant."

Indeed, well my profiles not hidden and I've said same as you lets see what he has to say about me

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By *enaxxxWoman
over a year ago

wirral

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London


"No regrets, just lessons learned. X"

Same...

Also don't like the idea of "regretting" something someone else did, it falls right into the "blame someone else culture".

Also sometimes... Regret can be sexy... But that's a long conversation.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"This may sound like pie in the sky to a lot off people.

I have no regrets at all i have always followed my heart and it has allowed me to live regret free.

Yes i should have done some things different but rather than regret it has evolved me "

Pie???.... or cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not being with my father when he died. "

That's so sad. Currently caring for mine for thst exact reason.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Not speaking to my grandad when I was younger about his family

He died when I was 18 and I never really spoke to him about it which was a shame - he had a stroke & Alzimers

So much I would have wanted to ask and listen to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Falling for a manager at work, who I've come to realise has no interest in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too many regrets to list unfortunately. Top of the list would be the reason I'm now listed on here as single.

But I do find I have a healthy realisation of the positives I have had in life.

For every shit decision I've made I've got a good memory to counteract it.

One day I'm gonna write them all down in a therapeutic exercise.

And afterwards I'll probably make another crap decision and have to eat a nice cake to make it all better again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Far too many regrets to list unfortunately. Top of the list would be the reason I'm now listed on here as single.

But I do find I have a healthy realisation of the positives I have had in life.

For every shit decision I've made I've got a good memory to counteract it.

One day I'm gonna write them all down in a therapeutic exercise.

And afterwards I'll probably make another crap decision and have to eat a nice cake to make it all better again "

For every negative there is a positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never regretted anything I have done, I only regret the things I had the chance to do and didn't

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Nope. Know better, do better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never regretted anything I have done, I only regret the things I had the chance to do and didn't "

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not taking thousands of videos and photos of my son before he passed away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not taking thousands of videos and photos of my son before he passed away "

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids?"

Im a stay at home dad to 3 kids they are hard work and drive me crazy at times but they are my first thought when i wake and my last before i sleep every decision i make is with their best interest god forbid anything happened and i lost them id throw myself of the tallest building and slit my throat on the way down cannot understand how anyone could regret kids they are my be all and end all

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious."

Me either and find it incredibly selfish

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

They do though, most dont like to admit it to themselves or anyone else, some just regret it sometimes, its not all sunshine and roses.

Surely the good outweighs the bad? Unless your extremely unlucky?

Not sure about that, all depends on how you look at it i guess."

You are being extremely insensitive to a woman who has lost her sunshine, her child.

- from someone else who has lost their sunshine aswell as my sister losing 2

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I regret not becoming a mother.

I have a stroppy difficult son "

I have a pile of ashes which is my son. Be grateful

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yes

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"what about people who regret having kids?

Im a stay at home dad to 3 kids they are hard work and drive me crazy at times but they are my first thought when i wake and my last before i sleep every decision i make is with their best interest god forbid anything happened and i lost them id throw myself of the tallest building and slit my throat on the way down cannot understand how anyone could regret kids they are my be all and end all"

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lived a life that's full. I'll state my case without exception and more much more than this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Procrastination

There are things I should have got on with sooner if only I had more confidence to get on with it rather than wait so long to decide when on occasion the opportunity has passed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids?

Im a stay at home dad to 3 kids they are hard work and drive me crazy at times but they are my first thought when i wake and my last before i sleep every decision i make is with their best interest god forbid anything happened and i lost them id throw myself of the tallest building and slit my throat on the way down cannot understand how anyone could regret kids they are my be all and end all

So true "

I read your comment after about losing your angel and instantly felt guilty about the building comment cant even begin to understand how one would deal with such greif no parent should ever have to survive their babies so sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you got all day?

There's plenty I regret, but I realise I can't change what happened either, only try and move on and learn from past mistakes (which is easier said than done sometimes!!) and deal with where you are moving forward.

One of my favourite phrases is "yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that's why they call it the present"

Mr G"

Like that!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"what about people who regret having kids?

Im a stay at home dad to 3 kids they are hard work and drive me crazy at times but they are my first thought when i wake and my last before i sleep every decision i make is with their best interest god forbid anything happened and i lost them id throw myself of the tallest building and slit my throat on the way down cannot understand how anyone could regret kids they are my be all and end all

So true

I read your comment after about losing your angel and instantly felt guilty about the building comment cant even begin to understand how one would deal with such greif no parent should ever have to survive their babies so sorry "

Its ok at times ive wanted to do exactly as you say but in all honesty just havent been brave enough to do it. So just need to continue with no choice. Im glad you at least cherish your kids and realise how special they are as not everyone does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids?

Im a stay at home dad to 3 kids they are hard work and drive me crazy at times but they are my first thought when i wake and my last before i sleep every decision i make is with their best interest god forbid anything happened and i lost them id throw myself of the tallest building and slit my throat on the way down cannot understand how anyone could regret kids they are my be all and end all

So true

I read your comment after about losing your angel and instantly felt guilty about the building comment cant even begin to understand how one would deal with such greif no parent should ever have to survive their babies so sorry

Its ok at times ive wanted to do exactly as you say but in all honesty just havent been brave enough to do it. So just need to continue with no choice. Im glad you at least cherish your kids and realise how special they are as not everyone does "

Its very sad but very true especially when there are so many people who would love kids but cant there is a young lad where i work whose been dealt a rough hand mother died alcoholic father he hasnt had a proper cooked meal in 5yrs i just want to give him a hug and take him home lol (probably a bit innapropriate though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

regrets, i've had a few; seriously though, i wish i had started to transion maybe 5 years ago. never mind eh? at least am on the road to being me, not someone that was born with different bits to what my mind identifies as.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"what about people who regret having kids? I couldn't understand why anyone would regret having children,they are so precious.

Me either and find it incredibly selfish "

No just honest. Just because someone regrets having kids doesnt mean they dont love them.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"what about people who regret having kids?

Im a stay at home dad to 3 kids they are hard work and drive me crazy at times but they are my first thought when i wake and my last before i sleep every decision i make is with their best interest god forbid anything happened and i lost them id throw myself of the tallest building and slit my throat on the way down cannot understand how anyone could regret kids they are my be all and end all

So true

I read your comment after about losing your angel and instantly felt guilty about the building comment cant even begin to understand how one would deal with such greif no parent should ever have to survive their babies so sorry

Its ok at times ive wanted to do exactly as you say but in all honesty just havent been brave enough to do it. So just need to continue with no choice. Im glad you at least cherish your kids and realise how special they are as not everyone does

Its very sad but very true especially when there are so many people who would love kids but cant there is a young lad where i work whose been dealt a rough hand mother died alcoholic father he hasnt had a proper cooked meal in 5yrs i just want to give him a hug and take him home lol (probably a bit innapropriate though)"

Poor boy. Makes me so angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about people who regret having kids?

Im a stay at home dad to 3 kids they are hard work and drive me crazy at times but they are my first thought when i wake and my last before i sleep every decision i make is with their best interest god forbid anything happened and i lost them id throw myself of the tallest building and slit my throat on the way down cannot understand how anyone could regret kids they are my be all and end all

So true

I read your comment after about losing your angel and instantly felt guilty about the building comment cant even begin to understand how one would deal with such greif no parent should ever have to survive their babies so sorry

Its ok at times ive wanted to do exactly as you say but in all honesty just havent been brave enough to do it. So just need to continue with no choice. Im glad you at least cherish your kids and realise how special they are as not everyone does

Its very sad but very true especially when there are so many people who would love kids but cant there is a young lad where i work whose been dealt a rough hand mother died alcoholic father he hasnt had a proper cooked meal in 5yrs i just want to give him a hug and take him home lol (probably a bit innapropriate though)

Poor boy. Makes me so angry"

I never used to give these things a second thought (as bad as that sounds) then i had kids and i see my little ones in all of them, having kids turns you soft

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Not going to the gym in my 20s rather than at 44 and not seeking information on my mental state and why I am the way I am a lot earlier (life would have made a lot more sense)

Also staying in uk, I always wanted to leave, but now I'm too old and tied down with family (and a foreign wife who actually did what I never did, so can't leave as it would break her choices)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"regrets, i've had a few; seriously though, i wish i had started to transion maybe 5 years ago. never mind eh? at least am on the road to being me, not someone that was born with different bits to what my mind identifies as."

Good luck

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