FabSwingers.com forum: Have I got the wrong end of the stick

By *exiliciousme OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Is it just me or does it seem it's always the guys that instigate the contact in here. Seems very rare that women message 1st ???

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Is it just me or does it seem it's always the guys that instigate the contact in here. Seems very rare that women message 1st ???"

your wrong on that out of the last five messages I've received only 1 was in response to a message sent by me .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

No, women definitely message first too.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Is it just me or does it seem it's always the guys that instigate the contact in here. Seems very rare that women message 1st ???"
Not always x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't initiate messages very often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do send messages first

not sure about others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if i dont initiate then i dont get...lol

'If you dont ask you dont get' as my mother would always say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly girls Look for 1st contact

Wait by your inbox

I thought you were changing your profile name ?

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By *exiliciousme OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I do send messages first

not sure about others. "

I never recieved one lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *exiliciousme OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"Mostly girls Look for 1st contact

Wait by your inbox

I thought you were changing your profile name ?"

Decided to stick with it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do send messages first, but usually only because of something they've written in the forums.

If I was looking for a meet, I would only message men with public pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only message people I like the look of..

whereas a lot of men go for the scattergun approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get them either dont let it bother you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do send messages first

not sure about others.

I never recieved one lol x"

You must have mass deleted it with all the rest

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By *exiliciousme OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I do send messages first

not sure about others.

I never recieved one lol x

You must have mass deleted it with all the rest

I would not of deleted it from you believe me x

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By *exiliciousme OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I dont get them either dont let it bother you"

Doesn't bother me too much just puzzled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or does it seem it's always the guys that instigate the contact in here. Seems very rare that women message 1st ???"

Wrong.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Check your filters

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By *exiliciousme OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"Check your filters

What would be wrong with the filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rare that il send the first message

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By *exiliciousme OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

But if a mixed reception then ?

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

I message men, I don't care I can handle rejection!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I message men, I don't care I can handle rejection!!!!!!"

If they reject do you call them a man whore and a time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all the time I have been on here I have been inundated with ladies messaging me first off.

Ok it has only happens once

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

A first message from a woman... ok I've stopped laughing now. I'd like a reply from the messages I send, no chance of one from a woman first. I think I only appeal to a select few trouble is none of them are on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever get mail from boys. No ! That's a lie; about a month ago a women wrote to say , the guy she's fucking is pierced too.

So that would hold to your end of the stick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message anyone. I expect my men to be mind readers and to know when I'm feeling horny and to contact me accordingly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message first because I rarely find anyone to message as I don't meet local men. Scrolling through hundreds of profiles on my phone gives me a headache and eye socket pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get lots of messages. Perhaps it's because you don't have an avatar?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Men make an awful lot of messages but this is due to them being in a majority and it being a competitive 'market' between them all. By volume they'll make the most but many of us prefer to make the first contact, when we notice somebody who appears to fit our requirements - most of my friends do this, so think it's fairly general across the users who aren't male.

But men will on average notice that they're making more first contacts than receiving, just because they're outnumbered.

As ever, this emphasises the importance of having a great profile, so that we can find you, like you and contact you - as well as looking at your profile, whenever you've sent us a message, to get a feel for you.

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"I message men, I don't care I can handle rejection!!!!!!

If they reject do you call them a man whore and a time waster

Naturally and change my status to call them out as a fake

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Pretty rare for us tbh, might get a wink or two, Think the only first contact from a female was just to compliment H on her hair.

Other than that it has always been us first..

I think the rejection comment above is probably quite close to the truth. You can't "feel" wanted if it's you doing the chasing..doesn't apply to anything like all, bit definitely applies to some..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem whatsoever to get messages tbh

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By *effrey45Man
over a year ago

Lytham

A lot of women tend to wink first in my experience

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By *hil39Man
over a year ago

Dagenham

Sadly I have never been messaged by a woman first, even more sadly I have by a man, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem whatsoever to get messages tbh "

That's because you're an outrageous flirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly I have never been messaged by a woman first, even more sadly I have by a man, lol"

Yes sorry I was in a bad place and d*unk that night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold on I'll just count how many I have had today and get back to you

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Is it just me or does it seem it's always the guys that instigate the contact in here. Seems very rare that women message 1st ???"

We never message ladies first, they always contact us.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem whatsoever to get messages tbh

That's because you're an outrageous flirt

Moi ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem whatsoever to get messages tbh

That's because you're an outrageous flirt

Moi ?

Don't play the innocent with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem whatsoever to get messages tbh

That's because you're an outrageous flirt

Moi ?

Don't play the innocent with me

Nice tits btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem whatsoever to get messages tbh

That's because you're an outrageous flirt

Moi ?

Don't play the innocent with me

Nice tits btw

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do most of the messaging for us

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By *hil39Man
over a year ago

Dagenham

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By *hil39Man
over a year ago

Dagenham

"I have no problem whatsoever to get messages tbh

That's because you're an outrageous flirt

Moi ?

Don't play the innocent with me

Nice tits btw

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I really like a guy or his profile, I'll message first.

None of the times that a man has sent me an initial message has come to anything, yet every time I've sent the first message to a man we've met or become good friends.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I never send the first message.

I use a complex winking system based on semaphore to signal my intent.*

*Multiple winks only available to Platinum Members™

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hold on I'll just count how many I have had today and get back to you

Ok just finest the count, sorry it has taken so long but I had to do a recount

Todays number is 0

Bugger

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