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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you just as happy going out on a night with vanilla friends or find it now boring after having swingers friends ?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Nope... my friends are my friends because they're my friends. Whether they swing or whether they don't doesn't matter... your sexual activities shouldn't define you as a person. All of my friends have a pretty liberal outlook on life and whilst some of them don't really get my choices, they still love me. They don't bore me, or they wouldn't be my friends and I wouldn't be theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope... my friends are my friends because they're my friends. Whether they swing or whether they don't doesn't matter... your sexual activities shouldn't define you as a person. All of my friends have a pretty liberal outlook on life and whilst some of them don't really get my choices, they still love me. They don't bore me, or they wouldn't be my friends and I wouldn't be theirs.

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Just if you had friends normal party or friends swing party which one do you go too .x lol YES my friends are friends xx

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

friends are friends regardless.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Yeah friends is friends for me, I like them because I like them so I wont go off them unless they continue to talk behind my back and mock me, twats!

I have one chocolate friend, two Neapolitans and 3 rum and raisins but no vanilla so far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah friends is friends for me, I like them because I like them so I wont go off them unless they continue to talk behind my back and mock me, twats!

I have one chocolate friend, two Neapolitans and 3 rum and raisins but no vanilla so far."
so normal party or sex party ? lol xx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

All my friends are trees...

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Yeah friends is friends for me, I like them because I like them so I wont go off them unless they continue to talk behind my back and mock me, twats!

I have one chocolate friend, two Neapolitans and 3 rum and raisins but no vanilla so far. so normal party or sex party ? lol xx "

All my parties turn into sex parties regardless of the guests. See the 'nervous' thread for my seduction techniques.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the part of friends being friends regardless. I just struggle with the vanilla guys coming onto me and you have to play it coy. Rather than saying, ok I like you, you like me...lets fuck. Instead I say, mines a larges one and just wink suggestively. Then end up playing it soooo cool, remembering am a swinger out on a vanilla night out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah friends is friends for me, I like them because I like them so I wont go off them unless they continue to talk behind my back and mock me, twats!

I have one chocolate friend, two Neapolitans and 3 rum and raisins but no vanilla so far. so normal party or sex party ? lol xx

All my parties turn into sex parties regardless of the guests. See the 'nervous' thread for my seduction techniques."
yes can for me too i have to tell myself its normal and not flirt with everyone , lol xxx not easy x

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"All my friends are trees... "

Wooden you go and post that, I don't be leaf it.

Typical bl oak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't actually have any vanilla friends lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All my friends are trees...

Wooden you go and post that, I don't be leaf it.

Typical bl oak."
he is one of the tree huggers ,, lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't actually have any vanilla friends lol xx "
I am sure you do xxx just this weekend i have two partys same night one normal vanilla one swingers i cant do both miles apart , xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Who have you not seen for the longest?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who have you not seen for the longest? "
seen them all over the last 4 months .....

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

We enjoy both sides of our life, and socialise happily with our non swinging mates. We also socialise with some of our Fab mates, when we don't intend to have any sex fun. Variety is the spice etc.....

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By *hi-John69Man
over a year ago

chichester

I always treat friends with respect no matter where they're from, my behaviour is very similar no matter who I'm out with (all my friends know I'm a bit of a flirt)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I love going to swinging socials and have made friends via these. But i beleive i would have become friends with these people if i had met them in vanilla surroundings.

My vanilla friends i have known far longer and love going out with them.

The only difference is the friends ive made through swinging leave quite a distance from me otherwise im sure id spend more time with them

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

The only vanilla friends I have are in my book club.

We are currently reading 'A Concise Dictionary of Head Wear of the British Empire and Surrounding Primitive and Unenlightened Assorted Barbarians' written in 1809 by Professor Arnold Samson-Crossby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How apt is this thread. Only last week I said that vanilla nights seemed tame, but on receiving a text last night for a girly night out with my best mates on Saturday, Ive realised that Ive neglected my two best friends, when they have always been there for me and I know it will be a good night, whereas theres always the potential for things not being great, you never know if your going to like the playmates etc and Im looking forward to buying a new outfit,a proper one. You cant give up vanilla friends, they are the most important

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"The only vanilla friends I have are in my book club.

We are currently reading 'A Concise Dictionary of Head Wear of the British Empire and Surrounding Primitive and Unenlightened Assorted Barbarians' written in 1809 by Professor Arnold Samson-Crossby."

I'll be your friend.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"The only vanilla friends I have are in my book club.

We are currently reading 'A Concise Dictionary of Head Wear of the British Empire and Surrounding Primitive and Unenlightened Assorted Barbarians' written in 1809 by Professor Arnold Samson-Crossby."

What time is the meeting?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't have many vanilla friends but the ones I do have are ace, and its so nice to be able to just sit and bitch and moan and ramble. `the best thing is `i don't have to pour myself into a tight dress or corset, or put on oodles of make-up. It's relaxing!

Having said that, I have a couple of playmates I can relax with too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few months ago I told some vanilla friends about swinging and now whenever I see them, I'm bombarded with questions about who I've met and what I've been up to lol!! They find it fascinating!

I think I come across as quite reserved and at the Xmas do last year, when the girls started talking about bj's, judging by the looks on their faces, I think I gave them too much graphic detail hee hee!!

I do sometimes forgot and come out with things that are inappropriate lol!!!

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

friends are friends regardless, but yes you do have to be carefull in conversation with vanilla friends. It was actualy quite difficult to identify the vanilla ones until i sussed they were the ones who objected to me licking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to keep sight of who you really are and long term friends know you well (though not inside out, only swingers know that). I havent been out with the girls for over a month and it will be great to go to a bar and actually keep my clothes on at the end of the night. Be a nice change to wear knickers too

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I met some non swingers once.... Was kinda scary.

Was in 2006 and have avoided eye contact with passer bys since.

Freaks the lot of em.

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"Be a nice change to wear knickers too "

Feebs, you're such a tart lol

I have to hold my tongue when I'm out for a drink with the youngsters from work too, they talk about sex like they know it all...how much they still have to learn

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By *ertnbeckyCouple
over a year ago

oldham

hate the label vanilla it sounds derogatory we have friends some swingers some not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my friends yes but going out on a girly night out is sooo boring they all seem to have fancy dress themes and one of the girls will always end up crying in the loos much prefer going for a few beers with my boys. Or watching footy in the pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't actually have any vanilla friends lol xx I am sure you do xxx just this weekend i have two partys same night one normal vanilla one swingers i cant do both miles apart , xx"

just go to the one you think you will enjoy the most. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and no, friends can are never boring, even when they are down, cos they are friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I have to hold my tongue when I'm out for a drink with the youngsters from work too, they talk about sex like they know it all...how much they still have to learn "

My OH has this very often and it really makes us laugh. He employs a few young guys and invariably there will be times when he joins them for breakfast etc. They all talk about sex and how they'd love threesomes and how much they like sex and he doesnt really say much. They all think hes stuffy and probably spends his free time train spotting. He can see it in their faces that they think he's envious of their "pulling" ability. They dont know that the night before hes had a woman on his face and one on his cock lol.

I bought him a calendar for his office which was a girly calendar. Well when I say girly I mean 12 of the most beautiful glamorous exotic chickens. The guys must think, god what a sad old git he is having pictures of chickens up on his wall, what they dont know is each chicken represents women that hes played with. Im represented by a one of the crested breed of chickens, you know the type with the huge array of feathers on top of their head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find this scene in any way better than the 'vanilla' scene. It is different, both have their positives, but it definitely is not better.

Just depends what mood I'm in and what I'm wanting from my night out.

People are people whatever they're into, sometimes it's too easy to accept a sweeping generalisation about the two scenes and the differences.

Believe me, the most sexually liberated people I have met would NOT class themselves as swingers.

As for friends......well lets just say that my true friends mean much more that just fun or sex to me.

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

I think go to the vanilla party, sus out who you can introduce to swinging then take them to the swingers party lol.

I think more people are interested in swinging but just need a gentle nudge to get there toes in.

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