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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I write tailored messages to everyone I message as in a read their profile and comment on things there in, I send no cock pics thats just crude in my books unless specifically asked for. so for 3 months on here I've had 3 positive replies that went no where. Else the messages get

A) a no thanks which I appreciate and thank for

B) read no reply

C) deleted

I mean yes I know people especially women get spammed but I never message anyone who says what their after and I don't fit the bill or go out of my league. I pretty much message people who say after anything just for some fun. Even they don't reply...

Am I that ugly?

I know being a big guy isn't desirable it's not great for me I used to be muscled I was a doorman in abergaveny for years, but that's past I got hurt and then got 'comfortable'

So please don't flame me just constructive please what's going wrong for me?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Well first off I would drop the last paragraph from your profile, negativity is not a good trait. Maybe have a few more varied pics (I'm a fine one to talk lol) Say more about what you can provide, the "I've been told" part is a bit naff tbh.

Get yourself known, i.e. keep posting "positive" stuff on the forums, maybe go to a club or a social. Just join in and have fun

It took me nearly 9 months before I had my first meet, and some guys considerably longer. Keep plugging away and have patience. Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's hundreds of single men to every single women on here so everybody has competition what ever they look like.

I'd say take your cock pic and put it in private, get back to the gym and get that body back because as much as women say personality means more it's balls,physical attractions start the ball rolling.

PATIENCE is the important part and if you do get a reply then don't jump in feet first.

Also you don't need to write an essay to them at first just something catchy.

Get yourself to clubs or socials

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"There's hundreds of single men to every single women on here so everybody has competition what ever they look like.

I'd say take your cock pic and put it in private, get back to the gym and get that body back because as much as women say personality means more it's balls,physical attractions start the ball rolling.

PATIENCE is the important part and if you do get a reply then don't jump in feet first.

Also you don't need to write an essay to them at first just something catchy.

Get yourself to clubs or socials"

I agree with all of this, I'd also add:

Unless you're "REALLY" attached to it, lose the moustache. I know there's a modern trend for them but it looks really 70's and you'll look younger without it.

Also, get some better photo's. Your pictures should be selling the best of you, not just how you look every day. Dress smart and mess about with different angles to find shots that flatter you. You'll only get a chance to show your personality if you can create a physical attraction too.

Cal

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I give the same advice to anybody that posts..

There are countless threads offering generic profile advice in the archives.. happy reading.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"There's hundreds of single men to every single women on here so everybody has competition what ever they look like.

I'd say take your cock pic and put it in private, get back to the gym and get that body back because as much as women say personality means more it's balls,physical attractions start the ball rolling.

PATIENCE is the important part and if you do get a reply then don't jump in feet first.

Also you don't need to write an essay to them at first just something catchy.

Get yourself to clubs or socials

I agree with all of this, I'd also add:

Unless you're "REALLY" attached to it, lose the moustache. I know there's a modern trend for them but it looks really 70's and you'll look younger without it.

Also, get some better photo's. Your pictures should be selling the best of you, not just how you look every day. Dress smart and mess about with different angles to find shots that flatter you. You'll only get a chance to show your personality if you can create a physical attraction too.

Cal"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe try fabguys site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't meet smokers

Your profile has a lot of negative points

You say you have a small cock

You make your home sound dirty which a lot of people will interpret that as lazy

Quite a lot on your profile would put people off x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just try to be truthful that's all lol, I've not been brought up to lie I suppose you need to bolster a few truths on somewhere like this then lol. As for beard I feel weird without it. I do agree with a lot of points though thanks for the constructive advice people really appreciate it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's hundreds of single men to every single women on here so everybody has competition what ever they look like.

I'd say take your cock pic and put it in private, get back to the gym and get that body back because as much as women say personality means more it's balls,physical attractions start the ball rolling.

PATIENCE is the important part and if you do get a reply then don't jump in feet first.

Also you don't need to write an essay to them at first just something catchy.

Get yourself to clubs or socials"

Good constructive advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are pretty negative about yourself, no one will find that attractive.

And it reads ad as if you ate more interested in TVs than females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) you are not ugly

2) change pokey for small

3) use less face pics, 1 or 2 are enough

4) be more confident, you are you, not a man like you.

5) your cock size is not important, it's what you do with it that counts

So you are a little large, I have met large and had a jolly good time. Do not go to gym unless that is what YOU want. If you wish to downsize, try slimming world, but only if it is what you want.

Sell yourself a little, tell more of your good points and what sex you're into.

Preserve and don't loose heart.

Good luck to you OP

XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks miss trouble i've taken advice tried to make the profile more appealing not downselling lol. i would like to loose some but i am comfortable as me. just pics to change now x

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