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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Honest to your wife too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It goes against my morals completely.

If I was married and I found out he was on a site like this behind my back, I'd have his balls off & he'd be chucked out on the street and I'd tell all his friends & family what he's done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will never knowingly meet anyone who is married and on here without their partners consent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!!

I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one!

Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem.

It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections.

There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether.

Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own - everybody has their own story...

Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about.

Some women mind attached men, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own - everybody has their own story...

Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about.

Some women mind attached men, some don't. "

oh and congrats on page one miss brunette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may not yet realise it OP but you've opened a whole can of worms

It's going to be like Groundhog Day - another "cheater bashing" thread

My 2p worth - everyone has their own backstory and reasons for being here - some more valid than others. If anyone doesn't want to meet a cheater then block and avoid. But it's rarely as simple or black and white as 'just get a divorce' that some will spout.

On that note I'm backing away from the thread slowly as these tend to get fiesty! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side of things...a married women isnt going to be knocking on my door at 3 in the morning! So i admit i wouldnt mind if she was keeping a secret, most people have there own reasons who am i to judge......or care really!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem.

It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections.

There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether.

Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair.

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That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You may not yet realise it OP but you've opened a whole can of worms

It's going to be like Groundhog Day - another "cheater bashing" thread

My 2p worth - everyone has their own backstory and reasons for being here - some more valid than others. If anyone doesn't want to meet a cheater then block and avoid. But it's rarely as simple or black and white as 'just get a divorce' that some will spout.

On that note I'm backing away from the thread slowly as these tend to get fiesty! Good luck! "

Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

I could give a fuck, but I don't play nice, so if a married man can explain away the restraint marks, the wax, whip marks and temporary tattoo "property of Miss Vee" etc on his arse to his wife, I'll meet them.

Funnily enough they don't bother me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own - everybody has their own story...

Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about.

Some women mind attached men, some don't.

oh and congrats on page one miss brunette"

Thank you darling I'm really quite overwhelmed by it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't need to know your reasons - your honesty is what counts. Report/Block anyone who bad-mouths you - they're not worth losing sleep/pervin' time over


"That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it completely bothers me personally.

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Brave post op, inviting all those holier than thou who know nothing about your situation

There's that many married guys on here that if people actively swing they may as well accept they'll either knowingly or unknowingly play with married guys. Given that, in their situation I'd rather the guy was honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people live in a completely black and white world.....

Some will be put off.

Most prefer to be told from the start so they can make an informed decision.

Some won't care one way or another.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Each to their own - everybody has their own story...

Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about.

Some women mind attached men, some don't. "

If married people would just get on with it and not try and justify their actions people wouldn't "judge".

How can you start a thread like this and not expect differing opinions? If the op doesn't want judgement, crack on and don't involve the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may not yet realise it OP but you've opened a whole can of worms

It's going to be like Groundhog Day - another "cheater bashing" thread

My 2p worth - everyone has their own backstory and reasons for being here - some more valid than others. If anyone doesn't want to meet a cheater then block and avoid. But it's rarely as simple or black and white as 'just get a divorce' that some will spout.

On that note I'm backing away from the thread slowly as these tend to get fiesty! Good luck!

Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!!"

I do not reside in a box.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You may not yet realise it OP but you've opened a whole can of worms

It's going to be like Groundhog Day - another "cheater bashing" thread

My 2p worth - everyone has their own backstory and reasons for being here - some more valid than others. If anyone doesn't want to meet a cheater then block and avoid. But it's rarely as simple or black and white as 'just get a divorce' that some will spout.

On that note I'm backing away from the thread slowly as these tend to get fiesty! Good luck!

Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!!"

Bottom line though is people generally don't care. If you're looking for drama free, uncomplicated, no strings sex you don't want the drama of attached people.

Nothing judgemental, just not wanting other people's dramas in order to get a shag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Each to their own - everybody has their own story...

Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about.

Some women mind attached men, some don't.

If married people would just get on with it and not try and justify their actions people wouldn't "judge".

How can you start a thread like this and not expect differing opinions? If the op doesn't want judgement, crack on and don't involve the forum."

having an opinion and being judged are two different things, people that don't know me are welcome to have an opinion people that know my story are the ones that can judge!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married.

As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh."

Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and really if they say they are or not you will never know for sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married.

As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all."

You don't like honest people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married.

As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all."

that's why I don't ever use the word "honest" in my profile as I know that would be an oxymoron / untrue. I say that I prefer to be 'upfront' so people can make an 'informed decision' about meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh.

Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!!"

Because if you're willing to lie to your wife I don't see why you wouldn't lie to random people on the internet. Yes you're being honest that you're married, but I don't see why that means I'd have to believe everything else you said.

And I'm not "taking the moral high ground", I just gave you my honest opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh.

Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!!"

Married people can waste your time as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married.

As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all.

You don't like honest people?"

I don't care too much if someone is married.

I do care that they use the term "honest."

Surely, I do not need to explain that to you? It should be self-explanatory.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am not here to judge and couldn't care less what they do

That being said, the bleating that people who cheat do turns my stomach and I dislike when they blame the absent partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it comes down to a personal decision as the other parties risk being in the middle of a messy break up and some people can be vindictive and upset.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Being honest to the outside world.. in effect to no body's which we all are to you does not make the situation you are in more.. (or less) honourable

You are married.. partner does not know... just like many other people in that situation..

Some people will judge.. some wont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married.

As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all.

You don't like honest people?"

It's the using of the word honest when you are quite clearly being dishonest that would bother some.

Why not swap the word honest for upfront.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

But I am happy to pass judgement and I won't meet them but I won't denounce them for being here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love judging people

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I am not here to judge and couldn't care less what they do

That being said, the bleating that people who cheat do turns my stomach and I dislike when they blame the absent partner.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

If someones married it gives me an excuse not to meet them. I prefer not to have that on my mind when im with someone, once i did and it was a bit off putting.

I would prefer not to know about their private life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married.

As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all.

You don't like honest people?

It's the using of the word honest when you are quite clearly being dishonest that would bother some.

Why not swap the word honest for upfront. "

Sound piece of advise thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't make any difference to me. I'm not here to judge others

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

So your wife knows your planning to meet people off here for your sexual gratification ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh.

Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!!

Because if you're willing to lie to your wife I don't see why you wouldn't lie to random people on the internet. Yes you're being honest that you're married, but I don't see why that means I'd have to believe everything else you said.

And I'm not "taking the moral high ground", I just gave you my honest opinion.

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The moral high ground comment wasn't aimed at you, it was a general comment.

I don't ask people to believe everything I say but I'd rather people knew my situation

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If a married person wants to come here for sexual gratification that's fine by me I'm sure they have their reasons, the same way I have my reasons for choosing not to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love judging people "

But.... You know nothing

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I love judging people "

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love judging people "

Go for it!!!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I am not here to judge and couldn't care less what they do

That being said, the bleating that people who cheat do turns my stomach and I dislike when they blame the absent partner.

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this..

OP you will never convince those who wont meet you after you've been upfront about your position..

its a waste of your time if you think by challenging other people's right to make such a decision that you will by force of argument or pontificating about moral high grounds etc..

maybe concentrate on those who will actually meet you..?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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I don't care too much if someone is married.

I do care that they use the term "honest."

"

this.......

and without me being judgemental.... if the risk of getting caught and the consequences that may arise from that are really worth the excitement of sex, then i am not sure that gives the most positive insight into that persons life......

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

Honestly no I don't care.. The only time it would be an issue is is your wife found out and actively looked for ppl you'd met.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I don't care too much if someone is married.

I do care that they use the term "honest."

this.......

and without me being judgemental.... if the risk of getting caught and the consequences that may arise from that are really worth the excitement of sex, then i am not sure that gives the most positive insight into that persons life......"

Meaning?

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By *edRapscallionMan
over a year ago

London

It absolutely bothers me. I value honesty and truthfulness, so I wouldn't want to be part of someone's lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

I don't care too much if someone is married.

I do care that they use the term "honest."

this.......

and without me being judgemental.... if the risk of getting caught and the consequences that may arise from that are really worth the excitement of sex, then i am not sure that gives the most positive insight into that persons life......

Meaning?"

okay..... lets play devils advocate for a bit....

"whats the worst thing that would happen if your partner found out you were on here and had played behind their back?"

(i'm guessing not great because if it wasn't bad there would be no need to hide it.....)

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich

yes, it would bother me. simply because i wouldnt want to be on the other side and have a partner cheating on me, what ever his reason may be.

being honest to strangers on the internet but not to your wife.. sorry, but it doesnt make sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these threads make us giggle people say they wont play with married guys/women yet it a fact that you probly already have as there no true way of knowing when swinging with strangers don't matter where you meet clubs partys dogging or home meet oh and lets not forget the dark rooms lol

its even got to a point now where couples who are not married to each other but are married lol

we _iew all singles as married or in a relationship of some sort just like we _iew all str8 men to be bi (well most)

no one will ever know but I guess the % of guys/women who are married is shockingly high

that's how we see it anyway

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I won't KNOWINGLY have sex with a lying partner.

I most probably have tho as the poster above points out.

I don't feel duped. I did my bit and asked.

I agree with View.

The sanctimonious claptrap that comes out of their defensive mouths is far more judgemental than anything any body else says.

No one really bothers except when it's shoved in your face.

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

No it does not bother me that you are married or that married people are on here without permission/acceptance.We are all on here for different reasons/needs.

As long as its strictly a "NSA arrangement then all's good.

Bambi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never knowingly meet a guys who was married or had a girlfriend, however wouldn't neccesarily ask either

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By *edRapscallionMan
over a year ago

London


"these threads make us giggle people say they wont play with married guys/women yet it a fact that you probly already have as there no true way of knowing when swinging with strangers don't matter where you meet clubs partys dogging or home meet oh and lets not forget the dark rooms lol

its even got to a point now where couples who are not married to each other but are married lol

we _iew all singles as married or in a relationship of some sort just like we _iew all str8 men to be bi (well most)

no one will ever know but I guess the % of guys/women who are married is shockingly high

that's how we see it anyway"

I already know I have, as someone I slept with's husband told me afterwards, and he wasn't best pleased. She hadn't told me she was married, nor that she had children. I felt like utter shite, hence the reason I'm as adamant about it as I am now. But as you say, it is hard to verify. Anyone I have doubts about, or who tell me they're in a relationship, I steer clear of. It's the best I can do unfortunately!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't really bother me as long as they're honest about it.

It's also kinda a turn on too.

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By *horehouseCouple
over a year ago

dissatisfied


"these threads make us giggle people say they wont play with married guys/women yet it a fact that you probly already have as there no true way of knowing when swinging with strangers don't matter where you meet clubs partys dogging or home meet oh and lets not forget the dark rooms lol

its even got to a point now where couples who are not married to each other but are married lol

we _iew all singles as married or in a relationship of some sort just like we _iew all str8 men to be bi (well most)

no one will ever know but I guess the % of guys/women who are married is shockingly high

that's how we see it anyway

I already know I have, as someone I slept with's husband told me afterwards, and he wasn't best pleased. She hadn't told me she was married, nor that she had children. I felt like utter shite, hence the reason I'm as adamant about it as I am now. But as you say, it is hard to verify. Anyone I have doubts about, or who tell me they're in a relationship, I steer clear of. It's the best I can do unfortunately!"

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

It bothers me which is why I choose not to play with married men.

Plenty of people are happy to si carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met married women in the past with full knowledge that they are cheating on their husband. What they want to do in their own personal life and how they justify it to themselves is entirely up to them.

In the interests of honesty, I'll also admit that just before the end of my marriage, I cheated on my wife. I'm not going to attempt to justify my actions, but all I would say is that in my experience , as well as others I know, nothing is ever as simple as a right or wrong choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who are we to judge! Your adults and make your own choice and we can't be responsible for the outcome! Married or not it's not my business to ask that question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women don't mind

They are the same as men

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

An easy excuse for what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

An easy excuse for what?"

I'm guessing he thinks people use him being married as an easy excuse to turn him down.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!!"

Very judgemental there yourself OP...

I have my opinion and nothing and no-one will change it or "put me in a box"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dishonesty is a huge turn off, so no, I won't meet a married man. Its quite easy to tell if they're married or not before meeting.

If I were ok with lying, I still wouldn't meet a married man, I wouldn't want the drama when the wife finds out, because she will.

As for reasons, there are none good enough to excuse fucking with someone's life. Not her cheating on you, not her not wanting to have sex with you, not her lying in a coma.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn't meet a married lady who was playing without permission. Without judging, it just goes against the grain, I just don't like all the deceit and skulduggery that goes with it but as you are open about it then people are free to choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not here to judge just genuinly wondering

As far as we are concerned sex and love are completely seporate but the foundation of a loving relationship is trust and honesty so if a marraige has got to a point where someone feels they have to seek it elsewhere without communicating that wish to the partner wouldnt it be better to just split we all know staying together for kids or money does more emotional harm than good and then both sides can start to find what they need out of a partner

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow


"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!!

I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one!

Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question "

im the male half of this couple and I was married too another lady who had cancer we wasn't together as a married couple but I stayed with her till the end so I no how you feel

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It doesnt bother me if someone is married just put it on your profile. what i cant bare is people bleating about it and trying to justify themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!!

I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one!

Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question im the male half of this couple and I was married too another lady who had cancer we wasn't together as a married couple but I stayed with her till the end so I no how you feel "

Oh, your poor wife. What a shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not here to judge and couldn't care less what they do

That being said, the bleating that people who cheat do turns my stomach and I dislike when they blame the absent partner.

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dishonesty is a huge turn off, so no, I won't meet a married man. Its quite easy to tell if they're married or not before meeting.

If I were ok with lying, I still wouldn't meet a married man, I wouldn't want the drama when the wife finds out, because she will.

As for reasons, there are none good enough to excuse fucking with someone's life. Not her cheating on you, not her not wanting to have sex with you, not her lying in a coma. "

Your opinion is welcome however I don't agree with it in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about. "

Fab isn't the place for love! Try tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices.

It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices.

It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. "

And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey

Judging is human nature we all do it on some level

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No one sought him out. He offered the info up. People responded.

In any case - who I have sex with is entirely my beeswax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices.

It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax.

And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey

Judging is human nature we all do it on some level "

No that would be me being non judgemental.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

!"

Having been on the receiving end of cheating it bothers us so it's not just an excuse. Each to their own so that's just our choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about.

Fab isn't the place for love! Try tinder"

People meet and fall in love on here quite often.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices.

It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax.

And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey

Judging is human nature we all do it on some level

No that would be me being non judgemental. "

but if you are saying you are are non judgemental on any level... i would have to call bs.... sorry...

whether it is on this... on on what someone wears...or looks like... on what they have in their shoppin basket... or what car someone drives.... we all do it on some level... and on different subjects...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

am I right thinking the majority are just fuck buds posing as couples these days?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm not here to be judged"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices.

It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax.

And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey

Judging is human nature we all do it on some level

No that would be me being non judgemental.

but if you are saying you are are non judgemental on any level... i would have to call bs.... sorry...

whether it is on this... on on what someone wears...or looks like... on what they have in their shoppin basket... or what car someone drives.... we all do it on some level... and on different subjects..."

huh?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices.

It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax.

And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey

Judging is human nature we all do it on some level

No that would be me being non judgemental.

but if you are saying you are are non judgemental on any level... i would have to call bs.... sorry...

whether it is on this... on on what someone wears...or looks like... on what they have in their shoppin basket... or what car someone drives.... we all do it on some level... and on different subjects..."

I never said on ANY level!

Yet I do aim to not judge because it's negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

You aren't being honest with your primary and that absolutely bothers me.

Yes it does make a difference in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I'm not here to be judged".... "

I am. I want someone to judge if I'm right for them,not think fuck it,I'll do her regardless.

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
over a year ago

..


"It goes against my morals completely.

If I was married and I found out he was on a site like this behind my back, I'd have his balls off & he'd be chucked out on the street and I'd tell all his friends & family what he's done."

& youd be right too young lass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


""I'm not here to be judged"....

I am. I want someone to judge if I'm right for them,not think fuck it,I'll do her regardless.

"

Funniest phrase I've read all day.

Does the OP even internet?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

if i was moralistic about having sex with married men, i wouldn't meet couples either

so people telling me which married men i can cheat on their partner with and who i cant...its nonsense..

or if it comes down to just about lying..i don't know anyone in the world who hasn't lied to someone, that would mean i couldnt have any sex at all..err wha?

or is it because of the 'marriage certificate' to me that's null and void anyway. swinging, means you've broken those vows that you made 'before your friends, family and 'god' so you are living a lie too ( technically) equal to everyone else.. so i don't care about peoples little social statuses. i just treat people as individuals, not owned by anyone else...and their life circumstances, isn't my business..

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about. "

Lol ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow "

Oh that status

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status "

Indeed!

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By *alacious RedWoman
over a year ago

croydon

I prefer not, I would like to run the risk of hurting someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we all fuck your wife?? What am i saying.. like we need permission!

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow

I think we all should just go on what we feel is rite for each person or couple no need too judge anyone as we all have skeltons in cupboards simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me personally yes your cheating on your wife?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me personally yes your cheating on your wife?!"

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

We see it this way...It is not our problem, therefore why would we really mind, Married guys have to live with it.

If you go to Clubs and play with single guys, how would you know or even ask

Too many saints with think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer genuinely singles or those who play with permission. Not judging those who are attached but it's not my preferred option.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices.

It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. "

Why would swingers not judge? Judging is human nature, Swingers are human ergo....

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!"

What was it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer married guys as there more safer for obvious reasons

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??"

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping

"

Cheats are all the same. Leave your bad karma on your own doorstep.

No excuses

You reap what you sow x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if i was moralistic about having sex with married men, i wouldn't meet couples either

so people telling me which married men i can cheat on their partner with and who i cant...its nonsense..

or if it comes down to just about lying..i don't know anyone in the world who hasn't lied to someone, that would mean i couldnt have any sex at all..err wha?

or is it because of the 'marriage certificate' to me that's null and void anyway. swinging, means you've broken those vows that you made 'before your friends, family and 'god' so you are living a lie too ( technically) equal to everyone else.. so i don't care about peoples little social statuses. i just treat people as individuals, not owned by anyone else...and their life circumstances, isn't my business.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It appears men don't care. I've updated mine to say married and cheating. I'll send abrupt replies. No pics.

I have mail already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It goes against my morals completely.

If I was married and I found out he was on a site like this behind my back, I'd have his balls off & he'd be chucked out on the street and I'd tell all his friends & family what he's done."

Thats what I like to see! grown up thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It appears men don't care. I've updated mine to say married and cheating. I'll send abrupt replies. No pics.

I have mail already. "

I why should they care? its a site for people who want to fuck each other, not play tiddleywinks

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I wouldn't meet someone who was married and on here without their partners consent. Why stay married??? Are you seriously happy to hurt your wife/husband as that what will happen when you inevitable get found out. Don't go giving me no hullshit about being together for kids or financial reasons. There's always a way out without hurting the people you supposedly claim to love!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheaters are cheaters in my book there is no valid reason to be cheating !!!! But that's my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

I bet this doesn't go down well.

Appreciate honesty though here in fab land.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

[Removed by poster at 31/07/16 09:04:31]

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I bet this doesn't go down well.

Appreciate honesty though here in fab land."

You appreciate honesty from someone who just wants to fuck you. I'm sure his wife would expect the same from someone who vowed to honour her!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We all judge even the Op.

It's called human nature. You may judge differently. You may judge it's none of your business, but we do all judge.

To not judge would to be walking around life like a zombie allowing anything to be done to you or by you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I bet this doesn't go down well.

Appreciate honesty though here in fab land.

You appreciate honesty from someone who just wants to fuck you. I'm sure his wife would expect the same from someone who vowed to honour her!"

I get your point. there is no excuse for cheating. I do appreciate guys being honest on here about it though. I'd rather that than be lied too. Whether I fuck them or not is a different matter!

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

I bet this doesn't go down well.

Appreciate honesty though here in fab land.

You appreciate honesty from someone who just wants to fuck you. I'm sure his wife would expect the same from someone who vowed to honour her!"

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"if i was moralistic about having sex with married men, i wouldn't meet couples either

so people telling me which married men i can cheat on their partner with and who i cant...its nonsense..

or if it comes down to just about lying..i don't know anyone in the world who hasn't lied to someone, that would mean i couldnt have any sex at all..err wha?

or is it because of the 'marriage certificate' to me that's null and void anyway. swinging, means you've broken those vows that you made 'before your friends, family and 'god' so you are living a lie too ( technically) equal to everyone else.. so i don't care about peoples little social statuses. i just treat people as individuals, not owned by anyone else...and their life circumstances, isn't my business..

"

I'll second that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a married person wants to come here for sexual gratification that's fine by me I'm sure they have their reasons, the same way I have my reasons for choosing not to meet them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

Yep.

A)don't agree with cheating so don't want to be a part of it.

B) don't want to get involved in the drama if the partner finds out.

C) people in a relationship are more awkward to arrange a meet with

There's enough genuinly single people to make it not worth the hassle of seeing someone married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't judge you for your reasons for playing without her or without permission...

however you can't judge us for not wanting to get involved with that possible drama nuclear bomb.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well thanks for everyone's opinions I was warned I may get a bit of a bashing for this post but overall it was a mixed response.

I have never tried to defend my actions as I know they are wrong and could potentially cause a lot of hurt.....I just wish I was whiter than white like some of the people on here

Oh well on with the sunny Sunday I have before me, lets see who I can fuck today behind her back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all judge even the Op.

It's called human nature. You may judge differently. You may judge it's none of your business, but we do all judge.

To not judge would to be walking around life like a zombie allowing anything to be done to you or by you."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping "

What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!!

I guess you wouldn't agree with that either

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Well thanks for everyone's opinions I was warned I may get a bit of a bashing for this post but overall it was a mixed response.

I have never tried to defend my actions as I know they are wrong and could potentially cause a lot of hurt.....I just wish I was whiter than white like some of the people on here

Oh well on with the sunny Sunday I have before me, lets see who I can fuck today behind her back "

See doing some judging of your own there.

Not easy to get through life without judging others is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dishonesty is a huge turn off, so no, I won't meet a married man. Its quite easy to tell if they're married or not before meeting.

If I were ok with lying, I still wouldn't meet a married man, I wouldn't want the drama when the wife finds out, because she will.

As for reasons, there are none good enough to excuse fucking with someone's life. Not her cheating on you, not her not wanting to have sex with you, not her lying in a coma. "

Personally, neither of us would meet others for sex alone. Mrs will be out of action for a bit soon & offered to try arrange some way for me to meet & get sex while she can't do it. I declined because I simply wouldn't want to & I know she would be the same.

Then we both saw a video on facebook of a guy who did a beautiful thing for his wife who was wheelchair-bound because of MS. It brought tears to my eyes because that to me is loving your partner, making them your everything, even when they can do nothing. That is the kind of man I aspire to be.

My point is, we see sex & love as very strongly linked when you're in a relationship. We wouldn't cheat on each other & look for the same attitude from anyone we meet.

I wouldn't "bash" the OP for being on this site, but equally a cheating partner has no chance of meeting us.

mr j

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping

What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!!

I guess you wouldn't agree with that either "

Agent Provocateur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping

What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!!

I guess you wouldn't agree with that either "

Exposing someone to STD's without their knowledge, so classy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping

What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!!

I guess you wouldn't agree with that either "

Wind up.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

I thought that being married meant a committment otherwise there would be little point in being married .

Have you addressed the issues as to why you have not told your wife . ?

I would not meet anyone who was married and meeting without their partners knowledge .

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping

What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!!

I guess you wouldn't agree with that either

Wind up. "

No if you follow the green arrow it seems to be something he wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married. With the one lady half my life.

I wanted to try non monogamy because I believe in it. She believes in monogamy and cannot see why she should share me.

It took 5 years of talking to get to this point. It would have been easier for me to cheat. But I didnt just want to have sex with women. I wanted to do it with her. I wanted the social side. To make friends.

I might never actually get my dream. But i made the right choice for me.

My wife would never agree to meeting up with a married man who is cheating. She would empathise too much with the other woman's pain.

I don't care as much. There are married women I want to meet. Perhaps because of my (potential) success I think everyone should try to talk to their partner about it but who am I to judge

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about.

Fab isn't the place for love! Try tinder

People meet and fall in love on here quite often. "

Plenty of threads on it too

As for the Q, not here to judge but won't meet knowingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It appears men don't care. I've updated mine to say married and cheating. I'll send abrupt replies. No pics.

I have mail already. "

I tried it for an hour. Like flies round shit they were.

Deleted it in disgust.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Good god, I thought I spoke a lot of shite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually ( and not having read all the thread ) this is the one thing we find difficult about swinging , have we played with a married man unknowingly ? probably yes , would we if we had known ? absolutely not

Unfortunately theres no way of knowing If there lying or not

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status.

Very sad and very disrespectful.

Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow

Oh that status

Indeed!

What was it??

He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping

What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!!

I guess you wouldn't agree with that either "

I just answered the question about the status never gave my opinion on the matter

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe


"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!!

I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one!

Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question "

This is a fab forum, you will be judged whether you like it or not. That is the nature of many people on here.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem.

It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections.

There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether.

Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair.

That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons"

I was messaged by a man this week who is married. My polite response was "no thanks you are a cheater not a swinger". In my honest opinion if you are in a committed relationship and you are meeting people for nsa sex behind your partners back you are cheating, fab member or not...

I swing with my fiance on here, recently i discovered he met a facebook friend for sex. He was cheating, not swinging. Wrong & no matter what your justification to yourself you know its wrong too else you would tell her.

I would meet an attached male if i knew his wife was aware and had no issue with it.

LMN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem.

It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections.

There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether.

Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair.

That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons

I was messaged by a man this week who is married. My polite response was "no thanks you are a cheater not a swinger". In my honest opinion if you are in a committed relationship and you are meeting people for nsa sex behind your partners back you are cheating, fab member or not...

I swing with my fiance on here, recently i discovered he met a facebook friend for sex. He was cheating, not swinging. Wrong & no matter what your justification to yourself you know its wrong too else you would tell her.

I would meet an attached male if i knew his wife was aware and had no issue with it.

LMN"

Is he still your fiance?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem.

It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections.

There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether.

Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair.

That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons

I was messaged by a man this week who is married. My polite response was "no thanks you are a cheater not a swinger". In my honest opinion if you are in a committed relationship and you are meeting people for nsa sex behind your partners back you are cheating, fab member or not...

I swing with my fiance on here, recently i discovered he met a facebook friend for sex. He was cheating, not swinging. Wrong & no matter what your justification to yourself you know its wrong too else you would tell her.

I would meet an attached male if i knew his wife was aware and had no issue with it.

LMN"

That one does baffles me somewhat if you have permission to play honestly, why behave dishonestly, only reason I can think of is that just for the pure kick of it or kink of getting caught.

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By *igshaft30Man
over a year ago

wigan

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's a 'problem' for me. Not interested in married men for several reasons.

- My own moral compass

- The fact you have to feet meets in around their lifestyle

- The danger of getting a call from an upset and/or angry woman saying "Who are you?"

That last one does happen too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

Yep that's what you call adultery not swinging . Ask your wife if it bothers her !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say 78% of 'single blokes' on here are in a relationship/married.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I'd say 78% of 'single blokes' on here are in a relationship/married. "

Why 78% what figures have you seen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP only you know the circumstances in your relationship which lead you to be on Fab, and at least you are upfront in your profile about being married - those who judge you will pass you by (maybe with a snide comment, but their opinions are irrelevant), those that aren't bothered with treat you as they would a single guy.

Personally I don't give a damn if a guy's attached or not as long as I know in advance. I won't send him home with stray hairs, make up on his clothes, smelling of my perfume, and at least I'll know he's not going to get all possessive and clingy like some guys do.

As a married guy I'd be more concerned with meeting a needy bunny-boiler (lots of those on here) than the opinions of a load of judgmental holier-than-thou keyboard warriors who think that they're the only ones allowed on here as they're 'real swingers'!

Personally I've never been turned down for being married - even when I've replied to men who've stated on their profiles they hate cheaters, pointing out that I'm precisely that!

Do your own thing, be discreet, and learn that your conscience is the only one that matters...why give a second thought to what strangers think of you?

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I would say more.....85% easily. At least the OP is stilling people what he's about from the start then it's up to the person if they wish to meet him given his circumstances. And to be honest I can guarantee we've all met someone who has told us they are not cheating on someone and we've banged them unknowingly. It's the nature of the site and that's why it's easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete estimation but any guy 26 yo upwards with good game and body that can't accommodate I'd put a 5er on there not single at all would also imagen same for lady's although expect some ladies are single mums so can't accom, obviously this is just an opinion ps I had an old profile this guess work is not based on 5 days membership on here and wish to cause no offence to anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP only you know the circumstances in your relationship which lead you to be on Fab, and at least you are upfront in your profile about being married - those who judge you will pass you by (maybe with a snide comment, but their opinions are irrelevant), those that aren't bothered with treat you as they would a single guy. I'd drink to that as well as other things X

Personally I don't give a damn if a guy's attached or not as long as I know in advance. I won't send him home with stray hairs, make up on his clothes, smelling of my perfume, and at least I'll know he's not going to get all possessive and clingy like some guys do.

As a married guy I'd be more concerned with meeting a needy bunny-boiler (lots of those on here) than the opinions of a load of judgmental holier-than-thou keyboard warriors who think that they're the only ones allowed on here as they're 'real swingers'!

Personally I've never been turned down for being married - even when I've replied to men who've stated on their profiles they hate cheaters, pointing out that I'm precisely that!

Do your own thing, be discreet, and learn that your conscience is the only one that matters...why give a second thought to what strangers think of you? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way it's that many, because at least 50% of single guys can't speak to women on here so they've got no hope in normal life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way it's that many, because at least 50% of single guys can't speak to women on here so they've got no hope in normal life "
obviously I don't get many messages off of guys (although I do get some lol) I think possibly because of some guys being so flippant with messages it probably proves the point they are in a relationship and it's their way of letting you know that they are after on sex nothing more by one liners and cock pics! I feel like an analyst today x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own - everybody has their own story...

Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about.

Some women mind attached men, some don't.

If married people would just get on with it and not try and justify their actions people wouldn't "judge".

How can you start a thread like this and not expect differing opinions? If the op doesn't want judgement, crack on and don't involve the forum.

having an opinion and being judged are two different things, people that don't know me are welcome to have an opinion people that know my story are the ones that can judge!!"

Arrogance is an ugly trait and whatever reason it is, playing the 'poor woe is me' sympathy card to get people to feel sorry for you won't work, you're still a cheater nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we all fuck your wife?? What am i saying.. like we need permission! "

Yes but you do realise that he's allowed to sleep with other people but he won't allow his wife to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting

hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The OP asked for our opinions, how giving our opinions can be seen as bashing the married or being self righteous keyboard warriors I'll never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!

Yep that's what you call adultery not swinging . Ask your wife if it bothers her !!"

If you are married then by definition that's also Adultery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting

hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect "

It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting

hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge "

If that is the case then I stand corrected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting

hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge "

Not true! His interpretation was right! Adultery is a married person having sex with someone other than their spouse with or without consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting

hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge its open to interpretation tbh but this is split 50/50 our opinion now is its the individuals choice we wont meet them others will ,don't think there will ever be a definitive answer

If that is the case then I stand corrected "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!!

I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one!

Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question "

What I find odd about this is you're honest to random people you want to hook up with yet you can't be honest with your wife.

One of the only people in this world that demands honesty.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I like messing around with married or attached women. No problem for me. Plus if the guy is messing around, I still don't care. Not my relationship. I'm just the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adultery seems to be open to interpretation with regards to this thread we think the op has a fantasy well this is the place for it just feel sorry for his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

You are cheating on your wife. It bothers some but not others. End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse?

I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!"

That's just blatant cheating. Feel sorry for your Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adultery seems to be open to interpretation with regards to this thread we think the op has a fantasy well this is the place for it just feel sorry for his wife "

It's not open to interpretation : it's any extra marital sex. Full stop. Consent isn't a consideration unless it's cited as reason for divorce etc

But you're probably right re: the rest of your comment

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