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"Each to their own - everybody has their own story... Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about. Some women mind attached men, some don't. " oh and congrats on page one miss brunette | |||
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"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem. It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections. There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether. Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair. " That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons | |||
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"You may not yet realise it OP but you've opened a whole can of worms It's going to be like Groundhog Day - another "cheater bashing" thread My 2p worth - everyone has their own backstory and reasons for being here - some more valid than others. If anyone doesn't want to meet a cheater then block and avoid. But it's rarely as simple or black and white as 'just get a divorce' that some will spout. On that note I'm backing away from the thread slowly as these tend to get fiesty! Good luck! " Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!! | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" I could give a fuck, but I don't play nice, so if a married man can explain away the restraint marks, the wax, whip marks and temporary tattoo "property of Miss Vee" etc on his arse to his wife, I'll meet them. Funnily enough they don't bother me! | |||
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"Each to their own - everybody has their own story... Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about. Some women mind attached men, some don't. oh and congrats on page one miss brunette" Thank you darling I'm really quite overwhelmed by it | |||
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"That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons" | |||
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"Each to their own - everybody has their own story... Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about. Some women mind attached men, some don't. " If married people would just get on with it and not try and justify their actions people wouldn't "judge". How can you start a thread like this and not expect differing opinions? If the op doesn't want judgement, crack on and don't involve the forum. | |||
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"You may not yet realise it OP but you've opened a whole can of worms It's going to be like Groundhog Day - another "cheater bashing" thread My 2p worth - everyone has their own backstory and reasons for being here - some more valid than others. If anyone doesn't want to meet a cheater then block and avoid. But it's rarely as simple or black and white as 'just get a divorce' that some will spout. On that note I'm backing away from the thread slowly as these tend to get fiesty! Good luck! Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!!" I do not reside in a box. | |||
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"You may not yet realise it OP but you've opened a whole can of worms It's going to be like Groundhog Day - another "cheater bashing" thread My 2p worth - everyone has their own backstory and reasons for being here - some more valid than others. If anyone doesn't want to meet a cheater then block and avoid. But it's rarely as simple or black and white as 'just get a divorce' that some will spout. On that note I'm backing away from the thread slowly as these tend to get fiesty! Good luck! Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!!" Bottom line though is people generally don't care. If you're looking for drama free, uncomplicated, no strings sex you don't want the drama of attached people. Nothing judgemental, just not wanting other people's dramas in order to get a shag. | |||
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"Each to their own - everybody has their own story... Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about. Some women mind attached men, some don't. If married people would just get on with it and not try and justify their actions people wouldn't "judge". How can you start a thread like this and not expect differing opinions? If the op doesn't want judgement, crack on and don't involve the forum." having an opinion and being judged are two different things, people that don't know me are welcome to have an opinion people that know my story are the ones that can judge!! | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married. As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all. | |||
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh." Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!! | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married. As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all." You don't like honest people? | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married. As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all." that's why I don't ever use the word "honest" in my profile as I know that would be an oxymoron / untrue. I say that I prefer to be 'upfront' so people can make an 'informed decision' about meeting. | |||
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh. Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!!" Because if you're willing to lie to your wife I don't see why you wouldn't lie to random people on the internet. Yes you're being honest that you're married, but I don't see why that means I'd have to believe everything else you said. And I'm not "taking the moral high ground", I just gave you my honest opinion. | |||
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh. Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!!" Married people can waste your time as well. | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married. As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all. You don't like honest people?" I don't care too much if someone is married. I do care that they use the term "honest." Surely, I do not need to explain that to you? It should be self-explanatory. | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married. As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all. You don't like honest people?" It's the using of the word honest when you are quite clearly being dishonest that would bother some. Why not swap the word honest for upfront. | |||
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"I am not here to judge and couldn't care less what they do That being said, the bleating that people who cheat do turns my stomach and I dislike when they blame the absent partner. " | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I could not give a rats arse whether someone is married. As soon as they use that word "honest," though, I am not interested in them at all. You don't like honest people? It's the using of the word honest when you are quite clearly being dishonest that would bother some. Why not swap the word honest for upfront. " Sound piece of advise thank you | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" So your wife knows your planning to meet people off here for your sexual gratification ??? | |||
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who I knew was married or in a relationship. And you saying that the reasons would shut everyone up, I probably wouldn't believe them tbh. Why wouldn't you believe my reasons? If I wanted to lie id have said I was single from the start....I see so many posts saying they've been let down by a fake, people aren't who they say they are, time waster this time waster that yet someone honest comes along and people want to take the moral high ground!! Because if you're willing to lie to your wife I don't see why you wouldn't lie to random people on the internet. Yes you're being honest that you're married, but I don't see why that means I'd have to believe everything else you said. And I'm not "taking the moral high ground", I just gave you my honest opinion. " The moral high ground comment wasn't aimed at you, it was a general comment. I don't ask people to believe everything I say but I'd rather people knew my situation | |||
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"I love judging people " But.... You know nothing | |||
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"I love judging people " Me too. | |||
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"I love judging people " Go for it!!! | |||
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"I am not here to judge and couldn't care less what they do That being said, the bleating that people who cheat do turns my stomach and I dislike when they blame the absent partner. " this.. OP you will never convince those who wont meet you after you've been upfront about your position.. its a waste of your time if you think by challenging other people's right to make such a decision that you will by force of argument or pontificating about moral high grounds etc.. maybe concentrate on those who will actually meet you..? | |||
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" I don't care too much if someone is married. I do care that they use the term "honest." " this....... and without me being judgemental.... if the risk of getting caught and the consequences that may arise from that are really worth the excitement of sex, then i am not sure that gives the most positive insight into that persons life...... | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" Honestly no I don't care.. The only time it would be an issue is is your wife found out and actively looked for ppl you'd met. | |||
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" I don't care too much if someone is married. I do care that they use the term "honest." this....... and without me being judgemental.... if the risk of getting caught and the consequences that may arise from that are really worth the excitement of sex, then i am not sure that gives the most positive insight into that persons life......" Meaning? | |||
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" I don't care too much if someone is married. I do care that they use the term "honest." this....... and without me being judgemental.... if the risk of getting caught and the consequences that may arise from that are really worth the excitement of sex, then i am not sure that gives the most positive insight into that persons life...... Meaning?" okay..... lets play devils advocate for a bit.... "whats the worst thing that would happen if your partner found out you were on here and had played behind their back?" (i'm guessing not great because if it wasn't bad there would be no need to hide it.....) | |||
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"these threads make us giggle people say they wont play with married guys/women yet it a fact that you probly already have as there no true way of knowing when swinging with strangers don't matter where you meet clubs partys dogging or home meet oh and lets not forget the dark rooms lol its even got to a point now where couples who are not married to each other but are married lol we _iew all singles as married or in a relationship of some sort just like we _iew all str8 men to be bi (well most) no one will ever know but I guess the % of guys/women who are married is shockingly high that's how we see it anyway" I already know I have, as someone I slept with's husband told me afterwards, and he wasn't best pleased. She hadn't told me she was married, nor that she had children. I felt like utter shite, hence the reason I'm as adamant about it as I am now. But as you say, it is hard to verify. Anyone I have doubts about, or who tell me they're in a relationship, I steer clear of. It's the best I can do unfortunately! | |||
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"these threads make us giggle people say they wont play with married guys/women yet it a fact that you probly already have as there no true way of knowing when swinging with strangers don't matter where you meet clubs partys dogging or home meet oh and lets not forget the dark rooms lol its even got to a point now where couples who are not married to each other but are married lol we _iew all singles as married or in a relationship of some sort just like we _iew all str8 men to be bi (well most) no one will ever know but I guess the % of guys/women who are married is shockingly high that's how we see it anyway I already know I have, as someone I slept with's husband told me afterwards, and he wasn't best pleased. She hadn't told me she was married, nor that she had children. I felt like utter shite, hence the reason I'm as adamant about it as I am now. But as you say, it is hard to verify. Anyone I have doubts about, or who tell me they're in a relationship, I steer clear of. It's the best I can do unfortunately!" | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" An easy excuse for what? | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! An easy excuse for what?" I'm guessing he thinks people use him being married as an easy excuse to turn him down. | |||
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"Bring on the Bashers.....im not going to reveal my reasons on the forum but believe me it will put people back in their boxes and firmly shut the lid!!!" Very judgemental there yourself OP... I have my opinion and nothing and no-one will change it or "put me in a box" | |||
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"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!! I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one! Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question " im the male half of this couple and I was married too another lady who had cancer we wasn't together as a married couple but I stayed with her till the end so I no how you feel | |||
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"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!! I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one! Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question im the male half of this couple and I was married too another lady who had cancer we wasn't together as a married couple but I stayed with her till the end so I no how you feel " Oh, your poor wife. What a shame | |||
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"I am not here to judge and couldn't care less what they do That being said, the bleating that people who cheat do turns my stomach and I dislike when they blame the absent partner. " | |||
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"Dishonesty is a huge turn off, so no, I won't meet a married man. Its quite easy to tell if they're married or not before meeting. If I were ok with lying, I still wouldn't meet a married man, I wouldn't want the drama when the wife finds out, because she will. As for reasons, there are none good enough to excuse fucking with someone's life. Not her cheating on you, not her not wanting to have sex with you, not her lying in a coma. " Your opinion is welcome however I don't agree with it in the slightest | |||
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"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about. " Fab isn't the place for love! Try tinder | |||
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"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices. It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. " And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey Judging is human nature we all do it on some level | |||
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"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices. It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey Judging is human nature we all do it on some level " No that would be me being non judgemental. | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? !" Having been on the receiving end of cheating it bothers us so it's not just an excuse. Each to their own so that's just our choice. | |||
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"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about. Fab isn't the place for love! Try tinder" People meet and fall in love on here quite often. | |||
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"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices. It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey Judging is human nature we all do it on some level No that would be me being non judgemental. " but if you are saying you are are non judgemental on any level... i would have to call bs.... sorry... whether it is on this... on on what someone wears...or looks like... on what they have in their shoppin basket... or what car someone drives.... we all do it on some level... and on different subjects... | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" am I right thinking the majority are just fuck buds posing as couples these days? | |||
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"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices. It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey Judging is human nature we all do it on some level No that would be me being non judgemental. but if you are saying you are are non judgemental on any level... i would have to call bs.... sorry... whether it is on this... on on what someone wears...or looks like... on what they have in their shoppin basket... or what car someone drives.... we all do it on some level... and on different subjects..." huh?! | |||
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"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices. It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. And that would be your judgement on the matter then hey Judging is human nature we all do it on some level No that would be me being non judgemental. but if you are saying you are are non judgemental on any level... i would have to call bs.... sorry... whether it is on this... on on what someone wears...or looks like... on what they have in their shoppin basket... or what car someone drives.... we all do it on some level... and on different subjects..." I never said on ANY level! Yet I do aim to not judge because it's negative. | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" You aren't being honest with your primary and that absolutely bothers me. Yes it does make a difference in my opinion. | |||
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""I'm not here to be judged".... " I am. I want someone to judge if I'm right for them,not think fuck it,I'll do her regardless. | |||
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"It goes against my morals completely. If I was married and I found out he was on a site like this behind my back, I'd have his balls off & he'd be chucked out on the street and I'd tell all his friends & family what he's done." & youd be right too young lass. | |||
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""I'm not here to be judged".... I am. I want someone to judge if I'm right for them,not think fuck it,I'll do her regardless. " Funniest phrase I've read all day. Does the OP even internet? | |||
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"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about. " Lol .... | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow " Oh that status | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow " | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status " Indeed! | |||
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"To me personally yes your cheating on your wife?!" | |||
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"I find it bemusing when some swingers judge others for their choices. It would be a better world if we minded our own beeswax. " Why would swingers not judge? Judging is human nature, Swingers are human ergo.... | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed!" What was it?? | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed! What was it??" He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed! What was it?? He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping " | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed! What was it?? He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping " Cheats are all the same. Leave your bad karma on your own doorstep. No excuses You reap what you sow x | |||
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"if i was moralistic about having sex with married men, i wouldn't meet couples either so people telling me which married men i can cheat on their partner with and who i cant...its nonsense.. or if it comes down to just about lying..i don't know anyone in the world who hasn't lied to someone, that would mean i couldnt have any sex at all..err wha? or is it because of the 'marriage certificate' to me that's null and void anyway. swinging, means you've broken those vows that you made 'before your friends, family and 'god' so you are living a lie too ( technically) equal to everyone else.. so i don't care about peoples little social statuses. i just treat people as individuals, not owned by anyone else...and their life circumstances, isn't my business.." | |||
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"It goes against my morals completely. If I was married and I found out he was on a site like this behind my back, I'd have his balls off & he'd be chucked out on the street and I'd tell all his friends & family what he's done." Thats what I like to see! grown up thinking | |||
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"It appears men don't care. I've updated mine to say married and cheating. I'll send abrupt replies. No pics. I have mail already. " I why should they care? its a site for people who want to fuck each other, not play tiddleywinks | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" I bet this doesn't go down well. Appreciate honesty though here in fab land. | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I bet this doesn't go down well. Appreciate honesty though here in fab land." You appreciate honesty from someone who just wants to fuck you. I'm sure his wife would expect the same from someone who vowed to honour her! | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I bet this doesn't go down well. Appreciate honesty though here in fab land. You appreciate honesty from someone who just wants to fuck you. I'm sure his wife would expect the same from someone who vowed to honour her!" I get your point. there is no excuse for cheating. I do appreciate guys being honest on here about it though. I'd rather that than be lied too. Whether I fuck them or not is a different matter! | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! I bet this doesn't go down well. Appreciate honesty though here in fab land. You appreciate honesty from someone who just wants to fuck you. I'm sure his wife would expect the same from someone who vowed to honour her!" | |||
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"if i was moralistic about having sex with married men, i wouldn't meet couples either so people telling me which married men i can cheat on their partner with and who i cant...its nonsense.. or if it comes down to just about lying..i don't know anyone in the world who hasn't lied to someone, that would mean i couldnt have any sex at all..err wha? or is it because of the 'marriage certificate' to me that's null and void anyway. swinging, means you've broken those vows that you made 'before your friends, family and 'god' so you are living a lie too ( technically) equal to everyone else.. so i don't care about peoples little social statuses. i just treat people as individuals, not owned by anyone else...and their life circumstances, isn't my business.. " I'll second that. | |||
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"If a married person wants to come here for sexual gratification that's fine by me I'm sure they have their reasons, the same way I have my reasons for choosing not to meet them. " | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" Yep. A)don't agree with cheating so don't want to be a part of it. B) don't want to get involved in the drama if the partner finds out. C) people in a relationship are more awkward to arrange a meet with There's enough genuinly single people to make it not worth the hassle of seeing someone married | |||
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"We all judge even the Op. It's called human nature. You may judge differently. You may judge it's none of your business, but we do all judge. To not judge would to be walking around life like a zombie allowing anything to be done to you or by you." | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed! What was it?? He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping " What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!! I guess you wouldn't agree with that either | |||
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"Well thanks for everyone's opinions I was warned I may get a bit of a bashing for this post but overall it was a mixed response. I have never tried to defend my actions as I know they are wrong and could potentially cause a lot of hurt.....I just wish I was whiter than white like some of the people on here Oh well on with the sunny Sunday I have before me, lets see who I can fuck today behind her back " See doing some judging of your own there. Not easy to get through life without judging others is it? | |||
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"Dishonesty is a huge turn off, so no, I won't meet a married man. Its quite easy to tell if they're married or not before meeting. If I were ok with lying, I still wouldn't meet a married man, I wouldn't want the drama when the wife finds out, because she will. As for reasons, there are none good enough to excuse fucking with someone's life. Not her cheating on you, not her not wanting to have sex with you, not her lying in a coma. " Personally, neither of us would meet others for sex alone. Mrs will be out of action for a bit soon & offered to try arrange some way for me to meet & get sex while she can't do it. I declined because I simply wouldn't want to & I know she would be the same. Then we both saw a video on facebook of a guy who did a beautiful thing for his wife who was wheelchair-bound because of MS. It brought tears to my eyes because that to me is loving your partner, making them your everything, even when they can do nothing. That is the kind of man I aspire to be. My point is, we see sex & love as very strongly linked when you're in a relationship. We wouldn't cheat on each other & look for the same attitude from anyone we meet. I wouldn't "bash" the OP for being on this site, but equally a cheating partner has no chance of meeting us. mr j | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed! What was it?? He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!! I guess you wouldn't agree with that either " Exposing someone to STD's without their knowledge, so classy. | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed! What was it?? He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!! I guess you wouldn't agree with that either " Wind up. | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" I thought that being married meant a committment otherwise there would be little point in being married . Have you addressed the issues as to why you have not told your wife . ? I would not meet anyone who was married and meeting without their partners knowledge . | |||
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"I think the OP shows his true colours via his status. Very sad and very disrespectful. Im happy to make a judgement - you reap what you sow Oh that status Indeed! What was it?? He wanted someone over to fuck quietly downstairs while the Mrs was upstairs sleeping What I also wanted was to fuck bareback then go upstairs and have my unknowing wife suck my cock straight after!! I guess you wouldn't agree with that either Wind up. " No if you follow the green arrow it seems to be something he wants. | |||
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"I only want single guys cos I'm hoping one will fall in love with me, can't fall in love if he's already got a bird. When I meet guys socially and all is well to proceed with a fuck meet, they'll come in asda with me for some treats and walk around with me putting our faces about. Fab isn't the place for love! Try tinder People meet and fall in love on here quite often. " Plenty of threads on it too As for the Q, not here to judge but won't meet knowingly. | |||
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"It appears men don't care. I've updated mine to say married and cheating. I'll send abrupt replies. No pics. I have mail already. " I tried it for an hour. Like flies round shit they were. Deleted it in disgust. | |||
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"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!! I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one! Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question " This is a fab forum, you will be judged whether you like it or not. That is the nature of many people on here. | |||
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"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem. It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections. There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether. Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair. That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons" I was messaged by a man this week who is married. My polite response was "no thanks you are a cheater not a swinger". In my honest opinion if you are in a committed relationship and you are meeting people for nsa sex behind your partners back you are cheating, fab member or not... I swing with my fiance on here, recently i discovered he met a facebook friend for sex. He was cheating, not swinging. Wrong & no matter what your justification to yourself you know its wrong too else you would tell her. I would meet an attached male if i knew his wife was aware and had no issue with it. LMN | |||
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"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem. It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections. There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether. Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair. That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons I was messaged by a man this week who is married. My polite response was "no thanks you are a cheater not a swinger". In my honest opinion if you are in a committed relationship and you are meeting people for nsa sex behind your partners back you are cheating, fab member or not... I swing with my fiance on here, recently i discovered he met a facebook friend for sex. He was cheating, not swinging. Wrong & no matter what your justification to yourself you know its wrong too else you would tell her. I would meet an attached male if i knew his wife was aware and had no issue with it. LMN" Is he still your fiance? | |||
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"Being honest about it - means it won't be a problem. It's the folks who aren't honest about it that creates a problem. It has led to very nasty events for those they have met, when unbeknowing spouses have discovered the connections. There are folks who will meet attached/married members - often those who are in a similar position - so it's not a total No-No altogether. Being honest about it, and giving folks the choice whether they want to meet or not - is only fair. That's why I changed my profile text to tell people I'm married problem is most people talk to me like I'm a piece of dirt on there shoe without knowing my reasons I was messaged by a man this week who is married. My polite response was "no thanks you are a cheater not a swinger". In my honest opinion if you are in a committed relationship and you are meeting people for nsa sex behind your partners back you are cheating, fab member or not... I swing with my fiance on here, recently i discovered he met a facebook friend for sex. He was cheating, not swinging. Wrong & no matter what your justification to yourself you know its wrong too else you would tell her. I would meet an attached male if i knew his wife was aware and had no issue with it. LMN" That one does baffles me somewhat if you have permission to play honestly, why behave dishonestly, only reason I can think of is that just for the pure kick of it or kink of getting caught. | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" Yep that's what you call adultery not swinging . Ask your wife if it bothers her !! | |||
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"OP only you know the circumstances in your relationship which lead you to be on Fab, and at least you are upfront in your profile about being married - those who judge you will pass you by (maybe with a snide comment, but their opinions are irrelevant), those that aren't bothered with treat you as they would a single guy. I'd drink to that as well as other things X Personally I don't give a damn if a guy's attached or not as long as I know in advance. I won't send him home with stray hairs, make up on his clothes, smelling of my perfume, and at least I'll know he's not going to get all possessive and clingy like some guys do. As a married guy I'd be more concerned with meeting a needy bunny-boiler (lots of those on here) than the opinions of a load of judgmental holier-than-thou keyboard warriors who think that they're the only ones allowed on here as they're 'real swingers'! Personally I've never been turned down for being married - even when I've replied to men who've stated on their profiles they hate cheaters, pointing out that I'm precisely that! Do your own thing, be discreet, and learn that your conscience is the only one that matters...why give a second thought to what strangers think of you? " | |||
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"There's no way it's that many, because at least 50% of single guys can't speak to women on here so they've got no hope in normal life " obviously I don't get many messages off of guys (although I do get some lol) I think possibly because of some guys being so flippant with messages it probably proves the point they are in a relationship and it's their way of letting you know that they are after on sex nothing more by one liners and cock pics! I feel like an analyst today x | |||
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"Each to their own - everybody has their own story... Personally I don't think we're here to judge other people's lives that we know nothing about. Some women mind attached men, some don't. If married people would just get on with it and not try and justify their actions people wouldn't "judge". How can you start a thread like this and not expect differing opinions? If the op doesn't want judgement, crack on and don't involve the forum. having an opinion and being judged are two different things, people that don't know me are welcome to have an opinion people that know my story are the ones that can judge!!" Arrogance is an ugly trait and whatever reason it is, playing the 'poor woe is me' sympathy card to get people to feel sorry for you won't work, you're still a cheater nothing more | |||
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"Can we all fuck your wife?? What am i saying.. like we need permission! " Yes but you do realise that he's allowed to sleep with other people but he won't allow his wife to | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start! Yep that's what you call adultery not swinging . Ask your wife if it bothers her !!" If you are married then by definition that's also Adultery | |||
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"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect " It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge | |||
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"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge " If that is the case then I stand corrected | |||
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"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge " Not true! His interpretation was right! Adultery is a married person having sex with someone other than their spouse with or without consent | |||
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"just another bash the married topic LoL never quite goes the same way when it's a female posting hey when it comes down to it every married couple that meets on here is an adulterer LoL forsaking all others ect ect It might be worth you checking the meaning of adulterer ie having sex without your partners knowledge its open to interpretation tbh but this is split 50/50 our opinion now is its the individuals choice we wont meet them others will ,don't think there will ever be a definitive answer If that is the case then I stand corrected " | |||
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"Clearly not as I stated on here without permission!! I mean honest to other fabbers as there's plenty of married guys on here who claim to be single I bet most women have been duped by one! Anyway not looking to be judged just asking the question " What I find odd about this is you're honest to random people you want to hook up with yet you can't be honest with your wife. One of the only people in this world that demands honesty..... | |||
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"I'm a married guy and am on here without permission does that bother people or is it an easy excuse? I have my reasons for being on here but want to keep home life separate from Fab and hey at least I'm being honest from the start!" You are cheating on your wife. It bothers some but not others. End of. | |||
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"Adultery seems to be open to interpretation with regards to this thread we think the op has a fantasy well this is the place for it just feel sorry for his wife " It's not open to interpretation : it's any extra marital sex. Full stop. Consent isn't a consideration unless it's cited as reason for divorce etc But you're probably right re: the rest of your comment | |||
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