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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that some people feel the need to belittle others on here?!

I have a pretty thick skin for the most part but I can't help react when men of a certain age assume I'm stupid just because of my age. It's probably the one thing that really irks me..

Anyone else want to share their frustrations and take my mind off mine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i changed my age filters to block out that age myself. sadly it was just a few guys spoiling it for the rest of them.

i've not got any frustrtaions right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually i might vent about my spelling...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some people feel the need to belittle others on here?!

I have a pretty thick skin for the most part but I can't help react when men of a certain age assume I'm stupid just because of my age. It's probably the one thing that really irks me..

Anyone else want to share their frustrations and take my mind off mine? "

I understand what you're saying. What annoys me even more is when I get messages from those men of a certain age (who are my preference mind you), who say that they don't think I'm stupid "like the other girls on here my age". Like.... why feel the need to put down an entire age group of females who they'd probabaly give their right arm to be with anyway?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I get fed up of people implying that pubic hair is unclean and that being slim means you're not as nice as people who aren't.

In real life I get really fed up of being patronised by all kinds of people because I'm not very tall or because I'm no longer young. The thing I find most annoying is people a similar age to my children asking me in a pitying tone if I have access to the internet and know how to use email.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get fed up of people implying that pubic hair is unclean and that being slim means you're not as nice as people who aren't.

In real life I get really fed up of being patronised by all kinds of people because I'm not very tall or because I'm no longer young. The thing I find most annoying is people a similar age to my children asking me in a pitying tone if I have access to the internet and know how to use email. "

Oh gosh, the pubic hair thing drives me nuts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pay no attention.

Any thing negative towards me just gets a laugh any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes irks me to the point where I might become offensive is covert or overt racism,self loathing or anti-ginger tendencies. See alot of people are OK with the distribution of offensive material but some who frequent the forums lose their mind when you give a bit back

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

It is unfortunate that you feel the need to exclude and entire age range because of the behaviour of others, it is they way of the world though. Some feel the need to exert their t'internet greatness by being rude, arrogant and generally ignorant. You do what you feel you need to make your experience fun no one signs up to Fab to be insulted or be the butt of rudeness.

Ignore them and crack on the life is too short.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

On the pubic hair issue - it really grinds my gears when people referring to those who are shaved as looking 'pre pubescent'. A mature woman's genitals in no way look pre pubescent any more than a bald man looks newborn!

Also - while I'm on my rant - do those who promote pubic hair as 'natural' also leave their armpits and legs unshaved? Because that's natural too.

That said, I have NO issue with individuals being shaved, unshaved or anything in between. I just don't like seeing insults aimed at people because of a choice they've made about their own bodies.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"On the pubic hair issue - it really grinds my gears when people referring to those who are shaved as looking 'pre pubescent'. A mature woman's genitals in no way look pre pubescent any more than a bald man looks newborn!

Also - while I'm on my rant - do those who promote pubic hair as 'natural' also leave their armpits and legs unshaved? Because that's natural too.

That said, I have NO issue with individuals being shaved, unshaved or anything in between. I just don't like seeing insults aimed at people because of a choice they've made about their own bodies. "

That's what I don't like about it, of you prefer something that preference doesn't need to be expressed in terms of an insult towards other people.

Concerning your other point we all choose which hair to shave. I leave the hair on my head alone for instance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now."

As you grow older the hair under your arms and on your legs becomes more sparse, hang on for 15 years and you will only need to shave every six months

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid? "

They tell me so...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

They tell me so..."

People often assume that the younger and older members of any group know nothing. Every time I used to tell my dad "I'm not stupid you know" he would reply "you've had me fooled for years"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now.

As you grow older the hair under your arms and on your legs becomes more sparse, hang on for 15 years and you will only need to shave every six months "

whoopee. i'm ok with never shaving again personally.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"Why is it that some people feel the need to belittle others on here?!

I have a pretty thick skin for the most part but I can't help react when men of a certain age assume I'm stupid just because of my age. It's probably the one thing that really irks me..

Anyone else want to share their frustrations and take my mind off mine? "

For someone with thick skin you look remarkably slim!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now.

As you grow older the hair under your arms and on your legs becomes more sparse, hang on for 15 years and you will only need to shave every six months "

an unexpected bonus as everything else gradually collapses..my leg hair is virtually non-existent now..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I get more than a little irked by the casual racism, sexism and homophobia that flutters around.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now.

As you grow older the hair under your arms and on your legs becomes more sparse, hang on for 15 years and you will only need to shave every six months

an unexpected bonus as everything else gradually collapses..my leg hair is virtually non-existent now.."

My leg hair has relocated on my chin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here goes the ranty bit lol it really naffs me offn boils my blood when younger guys message n when you decline them suddenly i am a dryed up old hag fat mingin up my own are cunt who should be grateful of the attention shown

FYI matey boys at 49 i feel i look sexier than i ever have great for my age n i know what i want n how i like it so i fuck like a beast n your not gettin none asshole and quite frankly you can pucker up n kiss my fat mingin up its self ass lol

i digress from the op,s rant thing is hun men mature at a snails pace and many BUT NOT ALL dont actually grow up till they have 1 foot in the grave n the other on a banana skin dont sweat the small things hun knobs will be knobs concentrate on the many lovely genuine guys who will talk to you n treat you like a lady and the sassy classy intelligent YOUNG WOMAN you are

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

people bullying other people under the morality banner...seriously makes me want to give them a taste of their own venom..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find people tend to get personal when they either realise that they have lost a argument or are not getting their own way.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"people bullying other people under the morality banner...seriously makes me want to give them a taste of their own venom.."

Id take a taste of my own venom from you, if you'd leave me any that is......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree far to much bullying on here under the hidden guise of sharing opinions you can share an opinion without getting personal or vicious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah why are cans of pop much much smaller than they used to be...... And curly wurlys tho used to be massive, and other bars of chocolates as well..... Does everything skrink with ages then or what...... Come to think of it I'm sure I once had a huge cock, well that's my excuse anyhow and I am sticking to it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your replies, I'm usually pretty good at laughing it off but I've been subject to the same thing twice today! I'm aware that I'm not always the most eloquent in my initial messages but I'm certainly not thick.

The sad thing is that the older gents are my preference and if some of them weren't complete bellends we'd probably get on famously. Ha!

It saddens me that having pubic hair is deemed unsanitary and even worse that some of you get rude remarks because of how you sculpt your own lady gardens. I blame porn! (I blame it for a lot of things, it makes me feel better)

Thanks for pepping me up some. I'm grateful. x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"people bullying other people under the morality banner...seriously makes me want to give them a taste of their own venom..

Id take a taste of my own venom from you, if you'd leave me any that is......"
kitty starts purring....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think your feet deffo do hun coz was a size 5 but 4 n half now other than that middle age spread has hit n things are blooming lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the same, just cause I'm young my intelligence gets questioned often especially if I were meeting older women, (I'm quite fond of them you see) sure, I'm not the smartest guy in the world and Ill say I'm very interesting to the right person.

seems loads of people here are highly judgemental by age on this site, I don't let it get to me though as I might find like-minded people like myself on here at one point.

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

I hate how I'm immediately dismissed because I'm not 5'11" or above!!

No attempt to get to know me, if I see 'prefer tall men' on a profile it's an immediate block.

I know we have our preferences and I get that and live with it, but it still annoys the hell out of me!

Maybe I'll buy some heels ????????

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah why are cans of pop much much smaller than they used to be...... And curly wurlys tho used to be massive, and other bars of chocolates as well..... Does everything skrink with ages then or what...... Come to think of it I'm sure I once had a huge cock, well that's my excuse anyhow and I am sticking to it "

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury I put it to you that Wagon Wheels are no longer suitable for wagons.

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn


"people bullying other people under the morality banner...seriously makes me want to give them a taste of their own venom.."

Go Kitty, get out those claws.... Then come curl up on my lap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike it when you are having banter on the forums and a small minded individual then resorts to abusive mail rather than continuing on thread, and then can't hack it and blocks you!

I know- I should suck it up!

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

Sorry I'm not in the mood for a rant I'm feeling all pink and fluffy tonight

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I get the same, just cause I'm young my intelligence gets questioned often especially if I were meeting older women, (I'm quite fond of them you see) sure, I'm not the smartest guy in the world and Ill say I'm very interesting to the right person.

seems loads of people here are highly judgemental by age on this site, I don't let it get to me though as I might find like-minded people like myself on here at one point."

People do judge by age, some have 55 as their upper limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

They tell me so..."

Do you find this a common outcome of conversation with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone for your replies, I'm usually pretty good at laughing it off but I've been subject to the same thing twice today! I'm aware that I'm not always the most eloquent in my initial messages but I'm certainly not thick.

The sad thing is that the older gents are my preference and if some of them weren't complete bellends we'd probably get on famously. Ha!

It saddens me that having pubic hair is deemed unsanitary and even worse that some of you get rude remarks because of how you sculpt your own lady gardens. I blame porn! (I blame it for a lot of things, it makes me feel better)

Thanks for pepping me up some. I'm grateful. x"

I am not a complete bell end, there is still some room for the rest of me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

They tell me so...

Do you find this a common outcome of conversation with you?"

Not at all, most people are pleasant enough.. But every so often one of these fellas turn up. I fail to see how anyone can make an assumption on someone's intelligence over a couple of messages on here. I mean, admittedly, I don't begin with discussing theoretical physics or anything.. Can you imagine the reaction to that?!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"people bullying other people under the morality banner...seriously makes me want to give them a taste of their own venom..

Go Kitty, get out those claws.... Then come curl up on my lap"
thank you

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By *am-RaiderMan
over a year ago

Corby

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By *am-RaiderMan
over a year ago

Corby


"Why is it that some people feel the need to belittle others on here?!

I have a pretty thick skin for the most part but I can't help react when men of a certain age assume I'm stupid just because of my age. It's probably the one thing that really irks me..

Anyone else want to share their frustrations and take my mind off mine? "

Don't worry your pretty little head about it darlin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get the same, just cause I'm young my intelligence gets questioned often especially if I were meeting older women, (I'm quite fond of them you see) sure, I'm not the smartest guy in the world and Ill say I'm very interesting to the right person.

seems loads of people here are highly judgemental by age on this site, I don't let it get to me though as I might find like-minded people like myself on here at one point.

People do judge by age, some have 55 as their upper limit "

Aww man that makes me sound bad, I do like women older than that but the reason I have a limit is because I find it difficult to talk women above that range, I have bumped into many that I have got on with though don't get me wrong

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By *am-RaiderMan
over a year ago

Corby


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

They tell me so...

Do you find this a common outcome of conversation with you?

Not at all, most people are pleasant enough.. But every so often one of these fellas turn up. I fail to see how anyone can make an assumption on someone's intelligence over a couple of messages on here. I mean, admittedly, I don't begin with discussing theoretical physics or anything.. Can you imagine the reaction to that?! "

I don't want to dumb this conversation down...but your arse is amazing...and it already has my name on it.

Sorry...just had to get that out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now.

As you grow older the hair under your arms and on your legs becomes more sparse, hang on for 15 years and you will only need to shave every six months

an unexpected bonus as everything else gradually collapses..my leg hair is virtually non-existent now..

My leg hair has relocated on my chin "

That's an unexpected bonus of the menopause too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never Judge a book by its cover is a maxim I stick with, people have the wonderful ability to suprise you when you least expect it. I think if we are a bit more open minded then where it leads is amazing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now.

As you grow older the hair under your arms and on your legs becomes more sparse, hang on for 15 years and you will only need to shave every six months

an unexpected bonus as everything else gradually collapses..my leg hair is virtually non-existent now..

My leg hair has relocated on my chin

That's an unexpected bonus of the menopause too "

The gift that keeps on giving

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Yeah why are cans of pop much much smaller than they used to be...... And curly wurlys tho used to be massive, and other bars of chocolates as well..... Does everything skrink with ages then or what...... Come to think of it I'm sure I once had a huge cock, well that's my excuse anyhow and I am sticking to it

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury I put it to you that Wagon Wheels are no longer suitable for wagons."

I agree - so as not to infringe the Trades Description Act I think they should herewith be called 'skateboard wheels'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah why are cans of pop much much smaller than they used to be...... And curly wurlys tho used to be massive, and other bars of chocolates as well..... Does everything skrink with ages then or what...... Come to think of it I'm sure I once had a huge cock, well that's my excuse anyhow and I am sticking to it

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury I put it to you that Wagon Wheels are no longer suitable for wagons.

I agree - so as not to infringe the Trades Description Act I think they should herewith be called 'skateboard wheels' "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

They tell me so...

Do you find this a common outcome of conversation with you?

Not at all, most people are pleasant enough.. But every so often one of these fellas turn up. I fail to see how anyone can make an assumption on someone's intelligence over a couple of messages on here. I mean, admittedly, I don't begin with discussing theoretical physics or anything.. Can you imagine the reaction to that?! "

Ive discussed plasma and high energy nuclear physics on here

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"i shaved my arm pits for the first time in 3 months, only because the skin there was hurting. like the hairs might have been rubbing the skin or something. it did help. but my pits are more smelly now.

As you grow older the hair under your arms and on your legs becomes more sparse, hang on for 15 years and you will only need to shave every six months

an unexpected bonus as everything else gradually collapses..my leg hair is virtually non-existent now..

My leg hair has relocated on my chin

That's an unexpected bonus of the menopause too

The gift that keeps on giving "

I'm really glad I am through the menopause but my skin is so dry now I feel myself turning to dust.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

They tell me so...

Do you find this a common outcome of conversation with you?

Not at all, most people are pleasant enough.. But every so often one of these fellas turn up. I fail to see how anyone can make an assumption on someone's intelligence over a couple of messages on here. I mean, admittedly, I don't begin with discussing theoretical physics or anything.. Can you imagine the reaction to that?! "

They actually write in the message that they think you are stupid? Like 'hey,nice ass but I think you're stupid'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

They actually write in the message that they think you are stupid? Like 'hey,nice ass but I think you're stupid'?"

Well using today's messages as an example, one bloke said 'have fun with your beautiful body, it's a shame it stimulates empty brains. Boring'... I was sorely tempted to reply 'ZOMG u fink I'm buttiful?! Thnx' but I couldn't bring myself to.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"What do they do to make you feel they assume you are stupid?

They tell me so...

Do you find this a common outcome of conversation with you?

Not at all, most people are pleasant enough.. But every so often one of these fellas turn up. I fail to see how anyone can make an assumption on someone's intelligence over a couple of messages on here. I mean, admittedly, I don't begin with discussing theoretical physics or anything.. Can you imagine the reaction to that?!

They actually write in the message that they think you are stupid? Like 'hey,nice ass but I think you're stupid'?"

Obvs Evie.....obvs.... doh are you fick ? or sommat ?

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