FabSwingers.com forum: What do winks mean to you

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Fuck all

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Unless you're very fit

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By *eeeee7Woman
over a year ago

over yonder

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water "
instant bock for me, if they cant send a message it shows a lack of interest and just winking anyone and everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nothing. I will sometimes look at the profile but generally ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me - on the very rare occasions I get one - it usually means a man has viewed my profile and is nearby and horny and is testing if I'm

'Fab straight' or not

From women or couples? No idea as they don't happen unless it's a forum 'wink someone' thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Means "what's up - can't be areas to write a message. Hope you notice me "

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

If I send a wink it's to show interest, appreciate that some people don't look at them, but if you're a female or couple you'll get hundreds of emails, I don't mean it as disrespectful or lazy, just can't see the point in blocking up inboxes.

If I wink and get a wink back then I'll send a proper message

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Similar to op, it means it's a tentative contact and expression of interest. Or you'll be around in an jour to shag me. Don't be late, if that was you that winked me.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me that someone might want to chat to me and might be too shy to start a conversation heh.

But then again that's just me and I'm too hopeful anyway hah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water instant bock for me, if they cant send a message it shows a lack of interest and just winking anyone and everyone"

Realy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water "

to me they mean ..oh ho, here's another lazy fooker who cba to write a message..

I usually ignore winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks can work ...If they had zero use or appeal the site would have removed this function by now

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Means the same as it would in a face to face meet, think it's a bit like me, fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely look at winks if ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If somebody winks at us we feel it means they are interested or intrigued with our profile.

We will have a look at their profile and if they look like a person/couple we would like to meet we will normally drop them a message and wink back. If we don't like the look of the profile we don't reply.

This can help save the "sorry not our type" email that we would have to send if we didn't want to chat to or meet the person/couple.

We once rejected a guy and her kicked off and replied with "I'm everybody's type"

...delete....... Block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont wink back even if im interested.. cant be bothered lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks can work ...If they had zero use or appeal the site would have removed this function by now

id rather have a poke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely pointless most of the time as they usually don't have a face pic so I ignore them on the whole.

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Winks can work ...If they had zero use or appeal the site would have removed this function by now

id rather have a poke

don't you have to be in the chat rooms for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to, but after awhile you realise...you're just asking the other party to make the effort ? Unless a profile says wink and we'll reply if interested I dont anymore.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

A wink to me is someone trying to get my attention. Or me trying to get theirs. If I get a wink back I'll send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That either they haven't read my profile or they can't read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will send a wink IF there is something about them I like but im not quite sure if they would like me.

Also if ive had a viewing and I like them I will wink to show I am interested come and talk to me.

It's not laziness there are reasons behind my winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nine times out of ten the winks I get are from totally unsuitable people trying their luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will send a wink IF there is something about them I like but im not quite sure if they would like me.

Also if ive had a viewing and I like them I will wink to show I am interested come and talk to me.

It's not laziness there are reasons behind my winks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely pointless most of the time as they usually don't have a face pic so I ignore them on the whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks can work ...If they had zero use or appeal the site would have removed this function by now

id rather have a poke

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...How hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually means I have grit in my eye... get some of of blokes on here, guess the grit in their eyes means they can't read straight on my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just no pleasing anyone is there?

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Absolutely pointless most of the time as they usually don't have a face pic so I ignore them on the whole."

Same here but occasionally there is a good pic and profile so we wink back and it's up to them to message first...If we wink first and get one back then we message first.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

They normally mean anther fab straight guys been looking at me

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"Means the same as it would in a face to face meet, think it's a bit like me, fun.

Yay! Not everyone thinks it's lazy!

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"Just no pleasing anyone is there?

Very very true mate!

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

That they are too lazy to type a message....

And commence the mad people winking at me, lol

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"If somebody winks at us we feel it means they are interested or intrigued with our profile.

This can help save the "sorry not our type" email that we would have to send if we didn't want to chat to or meet the person/couple.

We once rejected a guy and her kicked off and replied with "I'm everybody's type"

...delete....... Block

Fuck it, might just send you a message just so you can be polite & knock us back, You'll be the only ones so far that bother..

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"If I send a wink it's to show interest, appreciate that some people don't look at them, but if you're a female or couple you'll get hundreds of emails, I don't mean it as disrespectful or lazy, just can't see the point in blocking up inboxes.

If I wink and get a wink back then I'll send a proper message

I agree, sometimes I'm to shy to message xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do send winks out, it's not being lazy, it shows an interest and a way of breaking the ice, if I receive a wink I will look at their profile and see if I like what I see, and if I do, I'll message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water "

Yep I think it means this not that I get that many...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In send it to mean, I thought your profile was nice. Perhaps take a look at mine and wink back if you like it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are Interested in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow this has really devided opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks mean nothing to us, we just delete them every now and then.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

We see it as an expression of interest, an invitation to look at their profile in case they are someone we might otherwise not have spoken to.

Guarantees nothing, hardly offensive, harmless really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bugger all. Laziness and they want me to do the chasing. Nah, love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely nothing. I will sometimes look at the profile but generally ignore. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do send winks out, it's not being lazy, it shows an interest and a way of breaking the ice, if I receive a wink I will look at their profile and see if I like what I see, and if I do, I'll message them."

This works with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

States on our profile

" Wink if interested"

Never got the argument that it's lazy, it's a simple way to initiate a 2 way conversation if both parties like each other's profiles, after all why waste time initially sending some prolonged, witty, articulate message only to be ignored eh? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them. It's laziness & proof they can't be arsed to read my profile... so I can't be arsed to acknowledge their existence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We see it as an expression of interest, an invitation to look at their profile in case they are someone we might otherwise not have spoken to.

Guarantees nothing, hardly offensive, harmless really. "

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

If I wink and get a wink back then I'll send a proper message

I agree, sometimes I'm to shy to message xx"

And I just thought you were too lazy to write me

haha X

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Had some great meets from a wink. To me it's a sign of interest whether I send or receive them. Definately not a waste of time or being lazy. I do Send messages and winks. Well it works for me.

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"We see it as an expression of interest, an invitation to look at their profile in case they are someone we might otherwise not have spoken to.

Guarantees nothing, hardly offensive, harmless really. "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at who's winked at me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks can work ...If they had zero use or appeal the site would have removed this function by now

id rather have a poke

...How hard

not so hard that I end up on the floor!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't very often look at them x

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"Bugger all. Laziness and they want me to do the chasing. Nah, love."

Nah, they want you to wink back so you both know you're interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These days very little, unless they come from a lovely lady (hint bloomin' hint), however I remain eternally thankful for responding to a wink in my early weeks on Fab as it has turned out to equate to all levels of fun and fabulousness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at winks.

If you like the look of me then message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant say I pay any attention to it

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I always delete rare that I would look at a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think those that don't pay attention to winks are too busy going through messages in their inbox, hence the lazy comments on this thread, people asking for mesaages instead of winks, maybe they're the lazy ones? Just a thought.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Wow winks equate to lazy, that's one hell of a complex equivalent to be running.

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By *manda_EdinTVTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

Laziness

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water

to me they mean ..oh ho, here's another lazy fooker who cba to write a message..

I usually ignore winks

Talking of lazy fookers... cba because you can't be arsed to write it in full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally it's meh! But one of my most memorable fab fucks came off the back of a well placed wink

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I would rather receive a message, especially if from couples. I don't really understand the point of winks. A nice opening message works wonders. Xxxxx Suzi

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By *orn_ball11Man
over a year ago

Portrush

Sore wrist if done to long... Joke lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it means they've tried mailing and got sick of no replies and now they are trying something new. So they searched for weeks and finally picked the most exciting, horny, friendly and attractive profile they could find (mine, obvs) and decided a wink would be the way to woo such an amazingly fantastic old bag.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

A delete all every few days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never look at them..dont see the point of them at all..

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water "

A wink I receive i view as a invitation to check out their profile and message them if I'm interested .

If I send a wink its the same thing a invitation to check me out and if I receive a wink back to me once again its a invitation to message them.

I would rather use this method than to write untold messages in the hope of getting a response .

I think this method coupled with partaking in forum debates and hoping to get noticed that way is the best use of my time on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The impression that I have gotten from opinion on the forums (and actually reading folks profiles) so far is that ladies and couples aren't keen on getting winks, but if they send you one they expect a response! Pretty much covers it.

Aaaaaand we're done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing. I never look at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobodys mentioned the wink and friend request at the same time..grrr

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"The impression that I have gotten from opinion on the forums (and actually reading folks profiles) so far is that ladies and couples aren't keen on getting winks, but if they send you one they expect a response! Pretty much covers it.

Aaaaaand we're done!

Correctamundo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think those that don't pay attention to winks are too busy going through messages in their inbox, hence the lazy comments on this thread, people asking for mesaages instead of winks, maybe they're the lazy ones? Just a thought."

Yes the adage "it's just lazy to wink" mmm really? Oh we hear the cry of well my inbox is just too full blah blah, maybe just hide your profile or block people from messaging you and go look for people yourself eh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaaaand we're done!

Hit the nail on the head here my friend

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By *am-RaiderMan
over a year ago

Corby

As an outnumbered non porn star membered member of FAB I am grateful for ANY form of contact. And if the wink or message happens to be from a couple or even *gasp* ....a woman I am totally fucking overjoyed.

Women on here get inundated.

Lots of men here get bugger all first contacts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent one wink, to a stunning couple that had filters on which meant those over 35 couldn't message, so Sent a cheeky wink as I'm 36! Nothing ventured nothing gained! Altho nothing was gained as they ignored it hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaaaand we're done!

Correctamundo

hehe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just take them as an initial sign of interest. I usually don't reciprocate though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaaaand we're done!

Hit the nail on the head here my friend

Cheers Geezer. Simples really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone is potentially interested but has no idea how to send an initial message

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water

A wink I receive i view as a invitation to check out their profile and message them if I'm interested .

If I send a wink its the same thing a invitation to check me out and if I receive a wink back to me once again its a invitation to message them.

I would rather use this method than to write untold messages in the hope of getting a response .

I think this method coupled with partaking in forum debates and hoping to get noticed that way is the best use of my time on here ."

Totally agree with you.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

When I send one, it means that I like your profile, but don't want to waste your time by sending you a message that will get deleted.

Never know when I get one what it means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water

to me they mean ..oh ho, here's another lazy fooker who cba to write a message..

I usually ignore winks

Talking of lazy fookers... cba because you can't be arsed to write it in full

Good!! That's one less wink for me to ignore

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

if i wink it means you can get past my filters..so i dont wink very often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means we should have blocked them after the fifth mail we didn't reply to....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never looked at them. I don't have opportunity and sort of seems like saying "I like you but expect you to put the effort it"

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

Damned if you do, damned if you don't!

Going to sit in my couch fort, does anyone have some glove puppets and some crayons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink to me is simply the same as a smile across a crowded pub or out in the street, it simply means ' hello, you look nice' nothing more and nothing less, I don't block people who wink and will always respond either with a wink in return or with a "thanks for the wink" message, however I fully understand the reasons why lady's and couples can get annoyed at them as hundreds of winks would just be a pain...

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Damned if you do, damned if you don't!

Going to sit in my couch fort, does anyone have some glove puppets and some crayons?

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yes you can talk to the puppet and tell it everything you wouldnt tell anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like winks cos it shows someone is showing an interest and testing the water

much easier sorting winks out than one line messages saying hows you what ya doing or fancy a fuck

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By *am-RaiderMan
over a year ago

Corby

"if i wink it means you can get past my filters..so i dont wink very often"

That's an interesting aspect of winking..didn't realise that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just looked;

My winks are roughly ten blokes to every couple. Only a few single girls.

Mind you my filters will tell couples and females I'm not looking for them although they aren't blocked.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

If I wink I like. If people wink at me and I like I'll wink back. If they then don't message... their loss lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing. I have 34 new winks.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Nothing to me, maybe something for Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't notice them until days later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Do you like what you see?' or 'Oi.... Talk to me dammit'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are pretty harmless as an expression of interest. I'll look at the winks and message them most of the time.

I tend to do a bit of both if I'm interesting in someone. Either way it means hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely pointless most of the time as they usually don't have a face pic so I ignore them on the whole.

Same here but occasionally there is a good pic and profile so we wink back and it's up to them to message first...If we wink first and get one back then we message first."

This is how I use it. Most profiles complain of all the messages so a unobtrusive wink is an ideal alternative. almost all of my connections have come this way and it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaaaand we're done!

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By *hemonkeyheadMan
over a year ago

Reading

winks confuse me. got a wink from somebody who i didn't think was at all interested in me - one of those "sent a message and it was deleted" ones. i didn't dare send a message, the website has this big ominous warning about repeat messages, so i thought "oh well" and didn't do anything with it

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By *hemonkeyheadMan
over a year ago

Reading

half the time i think winks are sent my way by accident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They mean zero to me...rarely even look to see who has winked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect for most men who send them they are treated in the same way as if they send a tailored message having read a woman or couples profile and appealing to what they want. They are ignored!

for men that receive them they bring nothing but tears of joy at finally being noticed

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

...means "hi" or "I like you in a fanciable way"

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

Nothing I never bother with them!..

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send very few out.. When I do it's usually because I really really like the look of them...

But they live the other end of the country so a meet is unlikely. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink to me means they've got a fly in their eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water "
yes that's how I view them

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over a year ago

Seems I'm the only one who responds to winks. I don't think they're lazy and if i like the profile I'll wink back. I don't expect a guy to put in loads of effort to write a tailored initial message for potentially no return.

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over a year ago

"Seems I'm the only one who responds to winks. I don't think they're lazy and if i like the profile I'll wink back. I don't expect a guy to put in loads of effort to write a tailored initial message for potentially no return."

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

I'll second that response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks. They initiated a couple of responses to talk. Catches the attention of somebody I didn't notice.

It flattering, and should always be taken that way. Unless your negative and think hat person has been 'lazy'. They might be lazy, but you don't know that unless your a clairvoyant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me they mean "look at me - any interest?" If i like them, i wink back, if not, i move on.

Winks from people hundreds of miles away are just "you look nice". No meets there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe unsure how they feel or a little shy so they risk a wink

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it seems to be a bit of a split then. But it seems that most of the people that ignore winks also seem to ignore messages that have been sent. And I'm not talking one liners I'm saying a message that has taken more then a few seconds to write and actually shows you have been reading the profile. I don't think they are lazy sending a wink again it's an I'm interested if you are to send a wink back. It doesn't mean the recipient has to put the effort in when I get a wink back I will always send a message and start off the conversation.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We bulk delete winks but always reply to messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like getting a wink or two,I just can't wink back from the mobile version of this site but I'd send them instead of messaging depending on how confident I feel at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the hidden profile with no avatar!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the hidden profile with no avatar!

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water "

The same. If we wink it means we are interested, but unsure if we fit their wants or needs.

I check the winks, if interested we wink back or message.

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By *ilvercharmCouple
over a year ago

Our gate

Winks for us means we're interested

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

Remember first year on here didn't understand wink.I hae loads didn't look till I was told .but u do look now do reply on most even thanks

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By *oredbusinessmanMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"Damned if you do, damned if you don't!

Going to sit in my couch fort, does anyone have some glove puppets and some crayons?

yes you can talk to the puppet and tell it everything you wouldnt tell anyone else

Sounds like a plan! But no stealing my crayons!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wink and get a wink back then I'll send a proper message

That's the way we work the winkage. Obviously not everyone knows that, which is obviously disgraceful !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it to me is same as a glance or a wink in real life. they have looked.. and they are letting me know intent and then its up to me of I take it further.

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over a year ago

If I wink and get a wink back then I'll send a proper message

That's the way we work the winkage. Obviously not everyone knows that, which is obviously disgraceful !

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always forget to check tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always forget to check tbh"

I don't intentionally leave them unchecked. They just kinda languish there, unnoticed and unloved for a while. Heh!

Basically, if you wanna get someone's attention, a message will probably be a lot more welcome (and vice versa)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me that it's a no win situation.

1. Complaints- no one reads profile

2. Complaints - get so many messages can't reply .

3. Complaints - Winks show lazyNess.

4. Complaints- single guys ( the worst)

Any other options available?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water "

to us, it means I like the look of you, have a look at me please.

Cal

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over a year ago

"Ok so here is the question what does a wink mean to you. For me it means I'm interested and testing the water

to us, it means I like the look of you, have a look at me please.

Cal"

Yep thats the way I de take it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wink at a lady and get a wink back, I'll send a message based on the thought that at least she hasn't completely ignored me (like 99% of people on here do). I got tired of writing nice introductory messages which had thought put into them, only to see them being deleted, usually without even being read.

Now I wink...and by doing that I've made contact with a couple of really nice ladies who I've become friends with...and hopefully will progress from there. Have had one really nice meet, and hoping for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I receive a wink it's normally followed by a "sorry that wasnt for you" message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wink and get a wink back then I'll send a proper message

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Seems to me that it's a no win situation.

1. Complaints- no one reads profile

2. Complaints - get so many messages can't reply .

3. Complaints - Winks show lazyNess.

4. Complaints- single guys ( the worst)

Any other options available?

Not really...

1...just read the profile...it's not difficult

2...We always reply to all messages

3...Too many winks to handle them all as we wouldn't wink back without checking a profile which means all of the time/work falls on us...and we get a lot of winks.

4...Lots of single guys message and the vast majority are really nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To us a wink means we like ur profile/pic's, if u get one Bck we send a message

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it means I'm interested in knowing more and I like the look/ sound of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To us a wink means we like ur profile/pic's, if u get one Bck we send a message

Jo x"

If we get a wink and like the profile we wink back and then expect a message, if we wink it means we are interested and like the profile but are too busy with work or life to compose a suitable message, if u.ex wink back we sit down at night and compose a decent message

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