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By *essnervousnelly OP   Woman
over a year ago

london

How do you tell someone you're not attracted to the pic they send if no face pic on their profile?

Have tried being polite but don't want to offend... Always seem to upset the person.. Help please

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"How do you tell someone you're not attracted to the pic they send if no face pic on their profile?

Have tried being polite but don't want to offend... Always seem to upset the person.. Help please "

We tell people regular that we are not interested.its hard to start with but most people dont harrass once we've told them.you occcasionally get the saddo who keeps asking why?please give me a chance?i tfend to lose my patience with these,and dont mind up setting them with "you are ugly with a tiny cock"..rarely do i need to use that line thoigh..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you can either be honest : thank you for the picture - you're not what I'm looking for but I wish you all the best on the site.

Or you can sugar the pill a little - ah you're a good looking chap but not the type I go for - good luck on the site.

People have different tastes - not everyone is going to like everyone.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Seriously? Just say "sorry not my type" and block. Otherwise you'll get 'what is your type?' etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to say something along the lines of, "We do not feel that we would be compatible but wish you well."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look lovely, but your not my type sorry. Then if they get abusive you just say look I wouldn't fuck you in the dark now do one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you tell someone you're not attracted to the pic they send if no face pic on their profile?

Have tried being polite but don't want to offend... Always seem to upset the person.. Help please "

We just say "sorry your not what we are looking for"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Well you can either be honest : thank you for the picture - you're not what I'm looking for but I wish you all the best on the site.

Or you can sugar the pill a little - ah you're a good looking chap but not the type I go for - good luck on the site.

People have different tastes - not everyone is going to like everyone. "

I've used variations of the above: never had a nasty retort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me ""

I sense a backstory here Steve....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the best possible way ...the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just message saying sorry but not my type

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By *essnervousnelly OP   Woman
over a year ago

london


"How do you tell someone you're not attracted to the pic they send if no face pic on their profile?

Have tried being polite but don't want to offend... Always seem to upset the person.. Help please

We tell people regular that we are not interested.its hard to start with but most people dont harrass once we've told them.you occcasionally get the saddo who keeps asking why?please give me a chance?i tfend to lose my patience with these,and dont mind up setting them with "you are ugly with a tiny cock"..rarely do i need to use that line thoigh.."

Thanks that is how I've tried to be - everyone has a type and I am sure I am not to everyone's liking so I think people should take it on the chin and move on... I get some snooty messages back...

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By *essnervousnelly OP   Woman
over a year ago

london


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me ""

I'm laughing so hard

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I say thanks but no thanks and wish them well on the site.

If I mention type or say that I'm not meeting at the moment that leaves it open for them to keep messaging and I really don't want to get cornered into telling someone their picture looks like a police sketch of a kiddy fiddler

It's not rude to simply say no. As long as the tone is pleasant noone should get arsey. If they do then I feel fine in offering a sarcastic slapdown and/or reporting and blocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say sorry not what I'm looking for

I find honesty is always the best policy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say "sorry you're not my type", can't see any other way

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By *essnervousnelly OP   Woman
over a year ago

london


"Well you can either be honest : thank you for the picture - you're not what I'm looking for but I wish you all the best on the site.

Or you can sugar the pill a little - ah you're a good looking chap but not the type I go for - good luck on the site.

People have different tastes - not everyone is going to like everyone.

I've used variations of the above: never had a nasty retort! "

Thanks I've tried the 'not sure we'd be a match' ie I'm not attracted to no avail... Yours look good though I will use them

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me "

I sense a backstory here Steve.... "

It's not my fault that I have a sensitive gag reflex!

Poor Steve ended up mopping and scrubbing the floor in a well known Brighton cafe for ages as I got taken away by ambulance and treated for shock...

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By *essnervousnelly OP   Woman
over a year ago

london


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me "

I sense a backstory here Steve.... "

Yes def more detail needed please

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By *essnervousnelly OP   Woman
over a year ago

london

Thanks guys seems like I'm on the right track good feedback and some giggles from me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me "

I sense a backstory here Steve.... "

Yeah - some clever dude in pontefract and Wales. Derby. Southampton. Let's see, even bloody Penge!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block ... End of .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me "

I sense a backstory here Steve....

Yeah - some clever dude in pontefract and Wales. Derby. Southampton. Let's see, even bloody Penge!!! "

Blimey, he moves around a bit Steve......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Sorry you're not my type/not for me' and ignore any subsequent messages trying to engage. Block if necessary. It's not rude or hurtful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it comes down to the level of information held by the person messaging, if they expect an outcome, and dont get it, they will respond negatively as a reflex action, it more a showing of them than of you, and i think the people who aren't patient enough to accept that not everybody is looking for the same as what they are, tend to have an imaginary idea of what this site is, which is often never achievable, people just lack a sense of connection really.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

just say thanks for the picture but youre not really my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you can either be honest : thank you for the picture - you're not what I'm looking for but I wish you all the best on the site.

Or you can sugar the pill a little - ah you're a good looking chap but not the type I go for - good luck on the site.

People have different tastes - not everyone is going to like everyone.

I've used variations of the above: never had a nasty retort! "

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me "

I sense a backstory here Steve....

It's not my fault that I have a sensitive gag reflex!

Poor Steve ended up mopping and scrubbing the floor in a well known Brighton cafe for ages as I got taken away by ambulance and treated for shock... "

How big is his cock?!

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"How do you tell someone you're not attracted to the pic they send if no face pic on their profile?

Have tried being polite but don't want to offend... Always seem to upset the person.. Help please

We tell people regular that we are not interested.its hard to start with but most people dont harrass once we've told them.you occcasionally get the saddo who keeps asking why?please give me a chance?i tfend to lose my patience with these,and dont mind up setting them with "you are ugly with a tiny cock"..rarely do i need to use that line thoigh..

Thanks that is how I've tried to be - everyone has a type and I am sure I am not to everyone's liking so I think people should take it on the chin and move on... I get some snooty messages back... "

So do we.I find them amusing, and if I'm bored like when I'm in work I don't mind dousing petrtol on the flame, and like to see how many replies it takes for me to break them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say 'bloody hell, Steve, I've heard of living nightmares but you make me "

I sense a backstory here Steve....

It's not my fault that I have a sensitive gag reflex!

Poor Steve ended up mopping and scrubbing the floor in a well known Brighton cafe for ages as I got taken away by ambulance and treated for shock...

How big is his cock?! "

Steve, STEVE, STEVE!!!!!!!!

Scarlet wants a cockpick!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them straight.. if they get arsey about it just block

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