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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So is swinging something you've always been interested in or were you swayed?

Males - how did you convince your ladies?

Ladies - how easily were you swayed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would it just be the male "convincing" the woman? Why not the other way round?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is swinging something you've always been interested in or were you swayed?

Males - how did you convince your ladies?

Ladies - how easily were you swayed?"

Or vice versa

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I thought about it from childhood when I heard of Roman parties and didn't ever consider it wasn't a good thing for adults. I always fancied grapes fed to me.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i went to a club about 6 years ago with someone...for a weekend because i found out hed been and i wanted to go...

i was then celibate for four years

i decided i didnt want to be celibate anymore

i went to a club on my own

heard about fab while i was there

i joined up..

no swaying..i wanted to...then and now..

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

No one convinced me... I'm single

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Either way round, I'm a guy so just from my point of view.

Just wondered if people that would never considered it were eventually curious etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is swinging something you've always been interested in or were you swayed?

Males - how did you convince your ladies?

Ladies - how easily were you swayed?"

You are surely not starting up the, "What is swinging" debate?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Either way round, I'm a guy so just from my point of view.

Just wondered if people that would never considered it were eventually curious etc

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i was in long term monogamous relationships before 6 years ago..but i was lucky i had adventurous lovers..i went o fisrt club that first time to play with a wiman because that hadnt been part of my life uptil then..felt with some women, yes,all my life... explored in the physical..no..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i went to a club about 6 years ago with someone...for a weekend because i found out hed been and i wanted to go...

i was then celibate for four years

i decided i didnt want to be celibate anymore

i went to a club on my own

heard about fab while i was there

i joined up..

no swaying..i wanted to...then and now.."

I do so like a lady that knows her mind!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No debate at all...I get what swinging is lol

I find it all very interesting but I know the Mrs just wouldn't. I would like to sample certain things, I know she wouldn't (I've asked haha) so I just wanted to see if most people were always interested in it.

By the way we have amazing sex a lot of the time so that's not a problem

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"i went to a club about 6 years ago with someone...for a weekend because i found out hed been and i wanted to go...

i was then celibate for four years

i decided i didnt want to be celibate anymore

i went to a club on my own

heard about fab while i was there

i joined up..

no swaying..i wanted to...then and now..

I do so like a lady that knows her mind! "
there was a process that went on internally before i came on the scene as a single..mainly it was about relationships in general, what was 'normal' what would be ok around my kids, what they felt about what relationships were...i talked to my young people and realised very quickly, that the taboos in the younger generation are not what they were when we were their age..i then realised they had already contemplated gender identity, polyamory and what was ok for them and what wasnt..it freed me up enormously..i learnt a lot from listening to their perceptions..ot was shortly after that conversations that i joined the scene x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A female introduced me and then slowly corrupted my already kinky self.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hahaha I think the best thing to do is for me to keep chipping away hopefully she'll change her mind in the future..

She ain't into girls (wtf?!) and I couldn't see her letting another girl near me...haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet my hubby on an adult site. After a couple of year I went back on with no success, a friend said about this and I've never looked back.

I'm currently working on my hubs, and tips?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Definitely easier for women on this site.

Do you both play seperately as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just show her this thread & see if that sways your missus OP.

Though, if I was her I'd have your balls off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm only asking for advice? We've been together 12 years and neither have swayed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm only asking for advice? We've been together 12 years and neither have swayed"

But you're in a relationship, on here as a single man, no mention of your girlfriend on your profile, but you're asking for advice on a public forum and being, in my opinion, a tad crude about her. That just smacks of disrespect to me and isn't a nice way to talk about someone you're meant to love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And added to that, she's already told you she's not interested, so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i took a lot of convincing and first trip to a club i left in tears - who would have thought that a different fella - and 7 years later im the one starting play in clubs and parties and attending ladies events as fast as i can find them - i m still sweetness and light ask anybody who knows me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I haven't tried to meet anyone it was just on a whim I created it...I don't think I was being crude? Certainly didn't mean to..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't tried to meet anyone it was just on a whim I created it...I don't think I was being crude? Certainly didn't mean to.."

It sounds like you want to meet people out of your relationship. And discussing the sex life between you and someone you love when she - I can only assume - has no idea you're on here, never mind discussing your sex life.

That's crude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Doubt I ever will meet anyone without her being involved, hence the reason for the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doubt I ever will meet anyone without her being involved, hence the reason for the question."

I'll say it again - you've mentioned she's already not interested, why push the issue - for her happiness or yours?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Both otherwise what's the point, would imagine sex would be any good if all parties aren't having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both otherwise what's the point, would imagine sex would be any good if all parties aren't having fun "

But if she's said she's not interested then she won't enjoy it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahaha I think the best thing to do is for me to keep chipping away hopefully she'll change her mind in the future..

She ain't into girls (wtf?!) and I couldn't see her letting another girl near me...haha

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this reply makes me dislike you - why try and chip away at something the person you care about doesnt want to do - saying wtf when she doesnt like girls - sounds like youre trying to say all the right things so we side with you but really you want your own way - and reading your profile is like its written by a different person chatting on this thread -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'm a good guy although I've obviously not presented myself correctly, maybe I should change my profile. Chip away? How would you know exactly? WFT, as in girls bodies are a million times better looking why wouldn't she (I failing at trying to be slightly funny), i don't know anyone on here so why would I try to say 'the right things'?

Anyway it all really doesn't matter at the end of the day. I was only looking at things that might spice things up, if she doesn't want to fair play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I'm a good guy although I've obviously not presented myself correctly, maybe I should change my profile. Chip away? How would you know exactly? WFT, as in girls bodies are a million times better looking why wouldn't she (I failing at trying to be slightly funny), i don't know anyone on here so why would I try to say 'the right things'?

Anyway it all really doesn't matter at the end of the day. I was only looking at things that might spice things up, if she doesn't want to fair play.

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pick at me all you like - youre the one that said chip away and the thought made me cringe - i went to a club at weekend and witnessed a woman who didnt really want to go on a bed in a certain room - she wasnt forced but could tell she was out of her comfort zone - i fast forwarded your situation where you chipped away and your lady was in a situation where she wasnt comfy but just sit it out and you might like it - may only be a social meet in a coffee shop with a swinging couple - but shes not interested - no mention of her in your profile - so rightly or wrongly i dislike you - and feel for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahaha I think the best thing to do is for me to keep chipping away hopefully she'll change her mind in the future..

She ain't into girls (wtf?!) and I couldn't see her letting another girl near me...haha

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My dick head ex was like you. He tried to 'convince' me to try swinging. Little did he know I'd swung before. I went along with it. He couldnt get it up in group play so he was dumped....

and I stayed and have the time of my life. Let's hope your girlfriend is like me and if she's hot send her my way (you can stay where you are tho)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah I see what your saying, I've not spoken about swinging. I've brought up the idea of watching her with another woman that's all. I have mentioned it twice.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

A friend of mine told me there was a site that allowed you access to 1000s of woman that you could meet up with for casual fun, he still hasn't told me the name of that site so I joined here instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You've jumped to conclusions my dear. I treat my lady well, we have all we need and have a great sex life. You only live once, why not try things once in your short lifetime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bloke on the other site I was on said this one was better. I have an FWB from that site, which was all I wanted initially but I have found I get excitement and a buzz free new meets, even we don't do great sex., FWB does some sex meets but I do much more XXX

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"You've jumped to conclusions my dear. I treat my lady well, we have all we need and have a great sex life. You only live once, why not try things once in your short lifetime"
she isnt on here with you..thats the point...some would say that you being on here without here.you werent treating her well at all...this is some peoples view on here..you have a single profile, you are seen to be playing/ perving or whatever without your other half, who now youve asked a bunch of us how to introduce her to swinging...cmon....and calling strangers 'my dear' can sound rather patronising...just saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right ok fair play.. still being called out without anyone knowing a jot about me bar a few forum posts.

I do see the point your making, but that doesn't define me as a person

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Right ok fair play.. still being called out without anyone knowing a jot about me bar a few forum posts.

I do see the point your making, but that doesn't define me as a person "
sweet i get that..but you can see how some others will see it..im just trying to point out their perspective as it comes out again and again on here....they arent interested in you as a person, they are interested in disagreeing with your approach to this issue, you havent even got to 'being interested in you' yet..welcome to the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right ok fair play.. still being called out without anyone knowing a jot about me bar a few forum posts.

I do see the point your making, but that doesn't define me as a person "

no but its all we had to go on - i didnt say you were any type of person just said that i disliked you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No i get it, I shouldn't have the account but gaining advice via Google just don't cut it..

People change, situations change...maybe it's something we will explore in the future..maybe not..

Maybe we should just buy a flashlight and a new dildo and pretend we're in a 4some...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol thanks for clearing that up.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"No i get it, I shouldn't have the account but gaining advice via Google just don't cut it..

People change, situations change...maybe it's something we will explore in the future..maybe not..

Maybe we should just buy a flashlight and a new dildo and pretend we're in a 4some... "
x

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