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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go for it. who cares what others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it would look perfectly normal, lots of sun screen thou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it's perfectly 'normal' (whatever normal is).

You'll often see lots of people on their own sitting on a beach and relaxing in whatever way suits them best and, besides, who is anyone else to judge you, just go for it and enjoy the sunshine while it lasts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go, people will be too busy enjoying the sun themselves to notice.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Nothing weird at all, crack on and enjoy an afternoon on the beach

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Just do it, we get so few opportunities in this country. Got to make the most of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All those with a dozen screaming kids demanding attention will look at your serenity with envy.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Everyone will stare at you and think that you've got no mates...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "

I am thinking of doing the same thing...

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

I can usually go anywhere and sit and read! Once you get used to it, you don't care and it's really relaxing! Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everyone will stare at you and think that you've got no mates... "

I'm asking because I have issues with anxiety and I don't like being seen out in public by myself in situations like that.

Comments like yours don't exactly help.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op why would people find it weird? Would you think it weird and why, sorry i just think it was a strange question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it

Now and then when I get me time I've often jumped on a train to Skegness and found a nice spot on the beach and just sat there reading and people watching

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "

I've travelled across the world alone. I just don't pay attention to others. If they want to stare, let em. They aren't on my Christmas card list so what they think is irrelevant to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone will stare at you and think that you've got no mates...

I'm asking because I have issues with anxiety and I don't like being seen out in public by myself in situations like that.

Comments like yours don't exactly help."

Take no notice like someone said go out and enjoy the weather we don't get to much

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

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When I lived in Brighton I spent many Saturdays or Sundays sat on the beach on my own.

If you like your own company then what does it matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all the time. I even sit on the beach in the winter! I often take all my study books with me as its better than just studying constantly at home.

Mind you, sand in the calculator is a real bugger!!

Enjoy because when it's back to raining next week you will kick yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone will stare at you and think that you've got no mates...

I'm asking because I have issues with anxiety and I don't like being seen out in public by myself in situations like that.

Comments like yours don't exactly help."

You see it all the time. Not everyone is joined at the hip. It is perfectly normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 19/07/16 12:26:32]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A day alone on the beach is by far better then my day alone at work ... Get your self off !!! Enjoy the sun

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "

What a strange question, do we need to be joined at the hip with someone to appear normal?

I envy you. I'm off because a sink hole appeared at one of my local stations and after the commute home last night by bus a two hour bus journey didn't appeal today. If there were a beach nearby that's where I'd be!

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

Hope you have a wonderfully relaxing day. As me Mam would say: take a sun hat and lots of sunscreen and some after sum for the way home xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope you have a wonderfully relaxing day. As me Mam would say: take a sun hat and lots of sunscreen and some after sum for the way home xxx"

And a couple of quid for an ice cream!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing remotely strange about someone lying on the beach reading.

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "

Perfect idea. Wish I lived close enough to the beach to do just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "

Seems perfectly normal to me!! In fact I'm quite jealous !! Go and enjoy to hell what anyone else thinks!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it OP! Chillax and immerse yourself in the surroundings and lose yourself in the book

I frequently take myself off to the beach and enjoy the solitude even though others are around (if that makes sense)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 19/07/16 12:26:32]"

And no... I didn't miss the "they'll think you won't have a job too" comment.

Cute how you can make statements like that but you delete it straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always go to the beach on my own with a book. Bliss.

Enjoy yourself OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 19/07/16 12:26:32]

And no... I didn't miss the "they'll think you won't have a job too" comment.

Cute how you can make statements like that but you delete it straight away. "

I think you should go, regardless, do what makes you happy and just think, if you do, it's another milestone that you've conquered xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what book you're reading, if you start reading something like Twilight then they'll think you're weird

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By *ark jamiesonMan
over a year ago

twickenham


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "
I go to beach on my own a lot its fine am going tomorrow Friday and saturday

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Nobody but nobody will think badly of you for sitting by yourself. And I bet lots of people who *are* there with friends or family will envy you your solitude ... you won't be responsible for rubbing sun cream on others, or for their safety, nor will you be under any obligation to converse or fit in with other people's schedules. You can listen to whatever music you like without constantly taking your headphones in and out to respond to the people you're with. And if you take food and drink you won't have to share it !

What real reason is there NOT to go ?

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP going from your replies on this thread I think it's a bad idea.

Maybe pick somewhere less public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doing things on your own is liberating. Go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone will stare at you and think that you've got no mates... "

Well you certainly know how to boost people's confidence.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If you rule your life by what other people think it's not going to be much of a life. Do what the fuck you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "

Take two chairs with it, it will look like your mates gone for a walk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you rule your life by what other people think it's not going to be much of a life. Do what the fuck you like "

We actually agree on something

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"If you rule your life by what other people think it's not going to be much of a life. Do what the fuck you like

We actually agree on something "

Shhhh don't tell anyone

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By *ark jamiesonMan
over a year ago

twickenham

look just come with me best option by far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love solitude, if that makes us weird who cares x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You best hurry before it gets too busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "
I love my own company at times x so just go for it x

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Im sure there will be many sat on beaches across the land reading by themselves, you really shouldnt worry what others think anyway...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Phah. So I AM going out.

Next problem is that it's 26 degrees out so I need to find some small clothing that's still decent

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Oh come on now... I think the comment about people thinking you have no mates was supposed to be funny.

If you don't state in the OP the full story you can't expect people to be mind readers. How would anyone know you have issues with anxiety?

My _iew is that you shouldn't feel anxious or worried about what other people think of you going to the beach alone but if you do then go somewhere you won't feel so anxious... it's supposed to be enjoyable for you. What about a local park with quiet spots or similar. I'd guess that no-one will pay any attention or even notice that you're by yourself, going to the beach on a sunny day is not out of the ordinary whether you're on your own or in a crowd.

Have fun whatever you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go.for it ! I am usually with pooch when I go for a wander,

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Take a bucket & spade for when you're bored of reading. Making sand castles is fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it!

There is no beach near me, but a lovely park with a river running through it..

I often go there by myself, have a paddle and then sit on the bank watching the world go by...

Stuff what other people think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jools does it, so would I if I enjoyed the sun.

Would rather go swimming tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You still here, go women, go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go on my own with a book, I would care what anyone else thought

Go you lucky thing !!!

I'm stuck at work and devastated I'm not in the sun :'-(

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid? "

I'm going to give you some advice here. It's advice that has held me in good sted throughout my life. Advice that, when the chips are down, and the pressures on, I get a little voice in my head that simply says:

"Fuck 'em"

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By *alacious RedWoman
over a year ago

croydon


"I would go on my own with a book, I would care what anyone else thought

Go you lucky thing !!!

I'm stuck at work and devastated I'm not in the sun :'-("
Ahhh me, I go most places by myself, I do get the odd glance when I build a sand castle but my day, my simple fun! Smiles to all.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Wished I live near the sea,you're lucky if you do so go and enjoy yourself. People will look that's human nature we don't walk around with our eyes closed do we,oh and treat yourself to an icrecream

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Meh.

I'm really used to going places on my own in my own company, but today I just want to go to the beach and find a spot to read.

Would you think that someone just sat on the beach by themselves would look a bit weird, or is it perfectly normal and I'm just being paranoid?

I'm going to give you some advice here. It's advice that has held me in good sted throughout my life. Advice that, when the chips are down, and the pressures on, I get a little voice in my head that simply says:

"Fuck 'em""

I like that voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sitting on a beach on my own. People will often come and chat to you - I've found.

Lots of people end up sat on their own even if they go with others, as everyone else goes off swimming in the sea. I have more fun doing life guard observing for scientific purposes.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - can understand your anxiety, my ex suffers with it. But just go for it and enjoy your afternoon, scorchers like this don't happen often!

Chances are no one will notice anyway - put it this way, you could be in work this afternoon like me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

normal but expect to be chatted up

some blokes might be a pain and sit with you and get on your nerves so say your hubbies joining you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just locked my front door then realised I didn't have my beach towel.

Let's try this again

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