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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There have been a few threads, have seen, where people bemoan those little clauses some people put in their profiles (you know the type of thing, "insert this work or phrase in first messages so I know you've read it") as if these are a bad idea.

The whole point of a profile is that people read it (this does seem to escape some people),,,

A profile may contain pertinent facts that you may wish to know so you don't waste a load of messaging time only to find out that you do not click.

I don't have one of those phrases myself but...They can be a good idea, I think.As it is, when it becomes apparent that someone has not read mine, I just think "what a tw*t" and nobody wants to be thought of as a tw*t, do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There have been a few threads, have seen, where people bemoan those little clauses some people put in their profiles (you know the type of thing, "insert this work or phrase in first messages so I know you've read it") as if these are a bad idea.

The whole point of a profile is that people read it (this does seem to escape some people),,,

A profile may contain pertinent facts that you may wish to know so you don't waste a load of messaging time only to find out that you do not click.

I don't have one of those phrases myself but...They can be a good idea, I think.As it is, when it becomes apparent that someone has not read mine, I just think "what a tw*t" and nobody wants to be thought of as a tw*t, do they?"

You have a point. I am afraid though that as soon as I see that in a profile, I lose all interest in the person. I don't know why. But, at least in my case, it is a bit of a self-defeating technique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often just skim read to see of there's one of them bits...then often leave if their is. I might stop for a quick giggle if theirs one of those worthless legal disclaimer things on their too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get loads of messages daily having a key word in the subject shows that they have read your profile and possible meet with the requirements you're looking for, it's a good filter as you can just delete the rest without even looking at their profile, guess this would apply to the single ladies more than anyone else.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

No problem with 'secret words' here...

If I have reached that pint, the profile has really held my interest. That also means there are usually enough points to get a conversation going at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ask time wasters to identify themselves as such in their message title.

You'd be surprised how many people do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not concerned if they haven't read my profile. People can get to know me other ways.

They might get to read it later and we laugh about what's on there, and then get naked and make love.

It doesn't always go like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not concerned if they haven't read my profile. People can get to know me other ways.

They might get to read it later and we laugh about what's on there, and then get naked and make love.

It doesn't always go like this. "

Spot on, why do people get so worked up about having their profiles read , surely you can't describe yourself accurately on a swinging profile, most people just write bull shit anyway. And the ones with disclaimers and secret words are hilarious

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Honestly, 90% of what people notice on a profile is visual.

You can write War & Peace about your life/likes/dislikes but some eejit will just go, "Nice tits," followed by the customary, "Fancy a fuck?" PM.

'S about it, I'm afraid.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I always read profiles and try to show I've read it when messaging by stating something init. Plus they might actually say what they're looking for and it might just save you time in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always read profiles and try to show I've read it when messaging by stating something init. Plus they might actually say what they're looking for and it might just save you time in the long run. "

Doubt it, it is faster to send a quick intro message than read some of the long winded bilge that is written

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not concerned if they haven't read my profile. People can get to know me other ways.

surely you can't describe yourself accurately on a swinging profile, most people just write bull shit anyway. And the ones with disclaimers and secret words are hilarious "

Code words are for school children in the playground

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I get annoyed when people don't read my profile because I'm looking for very specific things.

Small talk like "how was your weekend" and being asked "when are you free" daily really gets me too... If people spent two mins reading my profile they wouldn't ask those two questions so willy nilly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get annoyed when people don't read my profile because I'm looking for very specific things.

Small talk like "how was your weekend" and being asked "when are you free" daily really gets me too... If people spent two mins reading my profile they wouldn't ask those two questions so willy nilly!

"

Fair comment, do you ever search for suitable people and send the first message??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get annoyed when people don't read my profile because I'm looking for very specific things.

Small talk like "how was your weekend" and being asked "when are you free" daily really gets me too... If people spent two mins reading my profile they wouldn't ask those two questions so willy nilly!

"

So, how are you doing??

I've read your page coz your gorgeous. I've not and will not mail you because of the 5'11" request. I read everything on people's pages. but how can you get annoyed when somebody asks how's your weekend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There have been a few threads, have seen, where people bemoan those little clauses some people put in their profiles (you know the type of thing, "insert this work or phrase in first messages so I know you've read it") as if these are a bad idea.

The whole point of a profile is that people read it (this does seem to escape some people),,,

A profile may contain pertinent facts that you may wish to know so you don't waste a load of messaging time only to find out that you do not click.

I don't have one of those phrases myself but...They can be a good idea, I think.As it is, when it becomes apparent that someone has not read mine, I just think "what a tw*t" and nobody wants to be thought of as a tw*t, do they?"

Well I do

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Yes I look and send first messages and I get annoyed about the weekend question because it says in my profile I work weekends!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not concerned if they haven't read my profile. People can get to know me other ways.

They might get to read it later and we laugh about what's on there, and then get naked and make love.

It doesn't always go like this.

Spot on, why do people get so worked up about having their profiles read , surely you can't describe yourself accurately on a swinging profile, most people just write bull shit anyway. And the ones with disclaimers and secret words are hilarious "

I wouldn't say I get particularly worked up over the issue, it's just that I put relevant information in there then someone starts chatting with me, we seem to be getting along fine then they say "oh...I didn't realise that PERTINENT FACT that's PLAIN TO SEE"....and somehow it's my fault.

Like I said before, a certain word springs to mind.

(I do realise that I'm in danger of seeming a little worked up so..I'll just carry on with my ice cold glass of lager, in the glorious sunshine, in this leafy shaded pub garden, while everyone else is hard at work.....and ill calm down a bit....cheerz)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

since I changed my profile and what I'm looking for I do get more tailored messages, so they must be reading it, whether that's before or after they look at the pics I neither know nor care

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"I'm not concerned if they haven't read my profile. People can get to know me other ways.

They might get to read it later and we laugh about what's on there, and then get naked and make love.

It doesn't always go like this.

Spot on, why do people get so worked up about having their profiles read , surely you can't describe yourself accurately on a swinging profile, most people just write bull shit anyway. And the ones with disclaimers and secret words are hilarious

I wouldn't say I get particularly worked up over the issue, it's just that I put relevant information in there then someone starts chatting with me, we seem to be getting along fine then they say "oh...I didn't realise that PERTINENT FACT that's PLAIN TO SEE"....and somehow it's my fault.

Like I said before, a certain word springs to mind.

(I do realise that I'm in danger of seeming a little worked up so..I'll just carry on with my ice cold glass of lager, in the glorious sunshine, in this leafy shaded pub garden, while everyone else is hard at work.....and ill calm down a bit....cheerz)"

and chilling in sunshine in back garden here

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Even if someone puts the chosen words in the subject line to proove they have read a profile who is to say that you will want to meet anyway..?! I skim read profiles.

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

My original profile was maybe a little too specific..

"Looking for a female heiress with big knorks and has own brewery"..

Got very little response to that.

Subsequently changed it too "anybody"... Even less reponse to that....

Now my profile is just there as a light hearted read..

It's better than the one liner.. "LOOKING FOR A SHAG" or the polar opposite of "the Ten Commandments according to Mein Kampf!"... Looking for that middle ground to please the masses.

Personally,I read the profiles to the end mostly, it's common courtesy... but very rarely do they ever give an insight into the individual.

Then they start to wonder why they get such rubbish emails!!

A polite email with a throw away line such as "how was your weekend" is not worth throwing your toys out about, the tone of the message has to be conveyed some how..

Not everyone can write eloquently or has the confidence to write more than a one liner..that doesn't make them a bad person..

The ones that send messages such as "I wanna fuck ya till you bleed cos you look a total Slag".... Those probably are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not concerned if they haven't read my profile. People can get to know me other ways.

They might get to read it later and we laugh about what's on there, and then get naked and make love.

It doesn't always go like this.

Spot on, why do people get so worked up about having their profiles read , surely you can't describe yourself accurately on a swinging profile, most people just write bull shit anyway. And the ones with disclaimers and secret words are hilarious

I wouldn't say I get particularly worked up over the issue, it's just that I put relevant information in there then someone starts chatting with me, we seem to be getting along fine then they say "oh...I didn't realise that PERTINENT FACT that's PLAIN TO SEE"....and somehow it's my fault.

Like I said before, a certain word springs to mind.

(I do realise that I'm in danger of seeming a little worked up so..I'll just carry on with my ice cold glass of lager, in the glorious sunshine, in this leafy shaded pub garden, while everyone else is hard at work.....and ill calm down a bit....cheerz)"

If a person has a long profile and they stick the pertinent facts in the middle or at the end l have no sympathy as they have wasted my time.

Statements such as does not meet blacks or Asians, or anything that is important to the profile holder i.e must be a registered budgie owner put upfront.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me - if someone's forum post have caught my attention I will then look at photos, and see where they are based. If the are somewhere I am likely to be eg London or Manchester then I will often mail straight away, others I will add to hotlist, and then see when I am free

There are a few people I have hotlisted but not mailed for various reasons - not sure if intreasted or to far away, unless I book weekend near them unlikely to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just ask time wasters to identify themselves as such in their message title.

You'd be surprised how many people do "

Seriously?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not concerned if they haven't read my profile. People can get to know me other ways.

They might get to read it later and we laugh about what's on there, and then get naked and make love.

It doesn't always go like this. "

I keep my profile short because people don't read them. It's easy to find out if there's a connection without reams of text.

I do what makes me happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile is hugely long. Loads of folk actually read it, there are no code words, no hidden messages and not much literary content. We don't mind answering folk who ask for code words, though we have never bothered...

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


" A polite email with a throw away line such as "how was your weekend" is not worth throwing your toys out about, the tone of the message has to be conveyed some how..."

Oh believe me there were no toys thrown out when I receive those emails, I take it you implied that because I'm young...

As a single man, perhaps if you had 50+ of these emails every Monday it would start to grind your gears when you know if people read your profile rather than just wanking over pics, they would know your weekend was mainly working! And the men who don't get replies to their samey emails are the ones who throw their toys out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just read a profile to see if it says NO BLACKS . That way I can block them.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


" A polite email with a throw away line such as "how was your weekend" is not worth throwing your toys out about, the tone of the message has to be conveyed some how...

Oh believe me there were no toys thrown out when I receive those emails, I take it you implied that because I'm young...

As a single man, perhaps if you had 50+ of these emails every Monday it would start to grind your gears when you know if people read your profile rather than just wanking over pics, they would know your weekend was mainly working! And the men who don't get replies to their samey emails are the ones who throw their toys out "

Damn at the moment I just wank over your pics

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Well now you know I work weekends as a bonus!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Well now you know I work weekends as a bonus! "

Damn I don't work weekends lol

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..


" A polite email with a throw away line such as "how was your weekend" is not worth throwing your toys out about, the tone of the message has to be conveyed some how...

Oh believe me there were no toys thrown out when I receive those emails, I take it you implied that because I'm young...

As a single man, perhaps if you had 50+ of these emails every Monday it would start to grind your gears when you know if people read your profile rather than just wanking over pics, they would know your weekend was mainly working! And the men who don't get replies to their samey emails are the ones who throw their toys out "

Wasn't directly aimed at yourself.. Tossing yer toys is just a saying and nothing to do with age.

Right that's the direction and youngism issue sorted..

It was a generalisation that the non booker prize short listers amongst us (myself definitely included there) should be given a bit of leniency...

Perhaps we should use a secret code in all correspondence...

"illiterate fecker.. Gis a reed"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the point in "secret words", it's usually pretty obvious if someone has read my profile.

While I'm not offended if people don't, i do find that if someone can't spend 60seconds to find out what i might/might not like, I'm probably not going to take the time to see if we're compatible.

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