FabSwingers.com forum: I've decided what the most annoying message is.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's the messages where they say "can I ask you a question" Just ask the fucking question mun! Feel obligated then to respond saying, what, what what!!!!!???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was aaked that and said yes once. The guy asked me if I liked to take 10 inches. I said no. He said ok.

The end.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The stock reply for that is "You just did."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The stock reply for that is "You just did.""

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I was aaked that and said yes once. The guy asked me if I liked to take 10 inches. I said no. He said ok.

The end.

If I said that, you'd say 'you're taking the piss'

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"It's the messages where they say "can I ask you a question" Just ask the fucking question mun! Feel obligated then to respond saying, what, what what!!!!!???"

I usually say Can I ask you a question they say yes and I walk off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's the messages where they say "can I ask you a question" Just ask the fucking question mun! Feel obligated then to respond saying, what, what what!!!!!???

I usually say Can I ask you a question they say yes and I walk off.

How would someone you're messaging know you've walked off?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've been asked that a few times. Stupidly say 'go on then' they ask and my response is usually something like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was aaked that and said yes once. The guy asked me if I liked to take 10 inches. I said no. He said ok.

The end.

If I said that, you'd say 'you're taking the piss'

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"It's the messages where they say "can I ask you a question" Just ask the fucking question mun! Feel obligated then to respond saying, what, what what!!!!!???

I usually say Can I ask you a question they say yes and I walk off.

How would someone you're messaging know you've walked off?"

I meant in real life

But can I ask you a question ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

What was the question again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Even more annoying is that he went offline straight after sending it! I'll never know what he wants to ask now!

Damn myself for being so curious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a bloke say you ever had 8inches I said wow no but had 10 and 3cms lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a 'can I ask you a question' message the other day. Now usually I ignore but this time I replied to ask away. His reply - love your boobs. FFS that's why I usually ignore!! Lesson learnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a 'can I ask you a question' message the other day. Now usually I ignore but this time I replied to ask away. His reply - love your boobs. FFS that's why I usually ignore!! Lesson learnt."

That's a statement... he should have asked can I see your tits.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Once had:

'Can I ask you a question?'

'Go on then.'

'How are you?'

I mean, wtf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one that grates my tits is...."Boo!!"

Wtf is that all about?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never a thought provoking question is it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's never a thought provoking question is it."

He never asked, I'll never know!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I always reply, with "you just did game over", never as of yet had a reply to that, guessed it helped them too realise how much of a prat they look asking a question to ask a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooh, i got the intelligent guys version.

can you clarify something for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooh, i got the intelligent guys version.

can you clarify something for me?

And it is only feir for you to do so !

Goddammit I am on fire tonight

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All these hours and was basically asking if I could tell how big his penis was from showing a picture of just the bell end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's never a thought provoking question is it.

He never asked, I'll never know!"

How frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All these hours and was basically asking if I could tell how big his penis was from showing a picture of just the bell end. "

Why would someone ask that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooh, i got the intelligent guys version.

can you clarify something for me?

And it is only feir for you to do so !

Goddammit I am on fire tonight

*makes note to change user name*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooh, i got the intelligent guys version.

can you clarify something for me?

And it is only feir for you to do so !

Goddammit I am on fire tonight

*makes note to change user name*

Fair*

sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the only answer is us guys dont send any messages at all that will save you women getting pissed off all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooh, i got the intelligent guys version.

can you clarify something for me?

And it is only feir for you to do so !

Goddammit I am on fire tonight

*makes note to change user name*

Fair*

sorted "

haha, i am tempted to use that name after a few seconds of thinking about it.

but something more classy, like a version of justice in greek or something...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the only answer is us guys dont send any messages at all that will save you women getting pissed off all the time

That would be great thanks!

Can I ask you a question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the "can I ask you any question" approach a few weeks ago. I said yes, as long as it wasn't do I want to meet or if it has anything to do with sex. He never replied

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"ooh, i got the intelligent guys version.

can you clarify something for me?

And it is only feir for you to do so !

Goddammit I am on fire tonight

*makes note to change user name*

Fair*

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haha, i am tempted to use that name after a few seconds of thinking about it.

but something more classy, like a version of justice in greek or something..."

Themis (Greek goddess of justice)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the only answer is us guys dont send any messages at all that will save you women getting pissed off all the time

That would be great thanks!

Can I ask you a question?"

I am of no interest to you what so ever soooooo no you cant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always respond 'no' and then they ask anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ooh, i got the intelligent guys version.

can you clarify something for me?

And it is only feir for you to do so !

Goddammit I am on fire tonight

*makes note to change user name*

Fair*

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haha, i am tempted to use that name after a few seconds of thinking about it.

but something more classy, like a version of justice in greek or something...

Themis (Greek goddess of justice) "

my real name is a greek goddess name.

i was looking but equity i don't really fancy. will keep feir for now, might go back to something that relates to my real name.

best go to sleep, got to go out in the morning and don't know why i'm still awake even looking things up on the internet.

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

Every few weeks For over a year the same guy sends the same message .... ...can i ask you a question ...... If we ask what he will say does your mrs do big we have replied with all sorts of sarcastic comments and off he goes For another few weeks or so am sure he creates an account just to send those 2 messages to us

I guess he doesn't do any harm bless him lol

(Jo)

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Can I ask you a question?, and May I ask you a question?

Two entirely different questions?

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By *ark jamiesonMan
over a year ago

twickenham

some people are easily annoyed I think its more to do with do I fancy that person or not ,if you don't the message will be annoying

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I just generally say no

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"some people are easily annoyed I think its more to do with do I fancy that person or not ,if you don't the message will be annoying

That's a good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In future I will stick to my 'Hey' message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never understood why women get the hump over that question to be honest.

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By *appyjack890Man
over a year ago

North loncolnshire

We could have a sweepstake pn what the question is

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By *otnolongerwifeCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm thoughts on the matter is that there is someone out there engaging in a little pop psychology, and roping a bunch of desperate single men into paying for a seminar called something like "how to seduce any women online with no effort."

After 25 mins of the presenter whipping them up into a frenzy, he says something like..."all you need to do is send them a message saying 'Can I ask you a question?' The female mind is such that they will be so intrigued by your mysteriousness they will immediately reply asking what, furiously masturbating at the keyboard awaiting your reply. It works even better if you have no profile pics or a short, no-substance profile to increase the aura of mystery surrounding you. That will be £500 quid, please".

They can't all be a case of independent invention, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say you just did... byeeee!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It's never a thought provoking question is it."

Sadly no, and I have such curiosity of mind I always let them ask lol!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"The stock reply for that is "You just did.""

My stock reply is delete. I hate being manipulated.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"The stock reply for that is "You just did."

My stock reply is delete. I hate being manipulated."

Aww, it's not necessarily a manipulation

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"The stock reply for that is "You just did."

My stock reply is delete. I hate being manipulated.

Aww, it's not necessarily a manipulation

Yes it is. It's manipulating you into a response instead of just asking the bloody question which may be deleted. However, when I've responded it has deteriorated to me saying no followed by why not etc. Bollocks to that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Shall we all send 10 guys a message saying "can I ask you a question?"

See if it annoys them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall we all send 10 guys a message saying "can I ask you a question?"

See if it annoys them!"

I would be OK with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys struggle to approach women in real life or behind a computer screen I think we should cut some slack tbh and stop bitching, the only messages I get annoyed at are when men won't take no for an answer then I get annoyed, but anything other than that doesn't bother me after life's too short to worry about a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the only answer is us guys dont send any messages at all that will save you women getting pissed off all the time

Not all women think like that, least I like to think not

But I'm part of a couple in here maybe it's different single girls

good luck on here seems you guys need it

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"The stock reply for that is "You just did."

My stock reply is delete. I hate being manipulated.

Aww, it's not necessarily a manipulation

Well, we will have to agree to disagree. Sometimes it might be simply an honest, straight person asking permission to ask you a personal or sexual question.

Even if it's a guy trying to inspire my curiosity in order to get a response I do not agree that is manipulation, it's simply a tactic in my book, and a fairly obvious one at that!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Some guys struggle to approach women in real life or behind a computer screen I think we should cut some slack tbh and stop bitching, the only messages I get annoyed at are when men won't take no for an answer then I get annoyed, but anything other than that doesn't bother me after life's too short to worry about a message

I tend to agree, no offense to the OP but I feel sorry for all the ordinary guys on here who just have no idea how to break through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isnt it the point of this site to message people or am i missing something here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There really is no right approach.

All one can do is interact on a basic level.

Having a half decent profile with a few non explicit pics in public (and private pics in private) undoubtedly helps.

A polite message, to me, says something along the lines of 'Hi, this is me, this is what I look like, this is what I'm looking for and if either or is attracrive to you say Hi back and we'll see if we have any common ground'

The worst that can happen is that you get a 'no thanks', you get ignored or you get blocked.

OK the occasional idiot might be abusive but Fab has methods for dealing with that.

But that approach might bore the recipient to tears.

So what ? At least you haven't been rude, crude or offensive in sending it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to agree, no offense to the OP but I feel sorry for all the ordinary guys on here who just have no idea how to break through."

Yes no offense to the OP either but I think guys get a raw deal sometimes because you can't please everyone all the time and as long as a guys polite and respectful I think they should be cut some slack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isnt it the point of this site to message people or am i missing something here?"

You won't get anywhere not messaging

Just message and be yourself and if they like you they'll message back, if not remember don't chase just focus on people who do interact with you

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By *ark jamiesonMan
over a year ago

twickenham

I think the most common introduction is going to be a polite one eg hi how are you etc hopefully with a name and pic and surely boring as it probably is its better than "ello darling you've got great tits can I fuck you"

with a very hairy shrivelled cock pic

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

typical

the op has every right to start a thread on what ever she likes everyone else does she finds those messages annoying that doesn't make her wrong or a bad person

Theres mo harm in people posting there view people are different but why cant those that disagree post there view and leave it there instead of going on and on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isnt it the point of this site to message people or am i missing something here?

You won't get anywhere not messaging

Just message and be yourself and if they like you they'll message back, if not remember don't chase just focus on people who do interact with you

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the most common introduction is going to be a polite one eg hi how are you etc hopefully with a name and pic and surely boring as it probably is its better than "ello darling you've got great tits can I fuck you"

with a very hairy shrivelled cock pic"

I never get called darling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She isn't slagging off all men, just pointing out that some do that stupid ask you a question thing to try and get us interested in chatting.

Some of the answers in here on what the questions actually are should be slagged off tbf. Glad i've never said they can ask me something.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"typical

the op has every right to start a thread on what ever she likes everyone else does she finds those messages annoying that doesn't make her wrong or a bad person

No-one here is saying that, people are just expressing their own opinions.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"It's the messages where they say "can I ask you a question" Just ask the fucking question mun! Feel obligated then to respond saying, what, what what!!!!!???"

It seems to me there's little thought or little imagination...

Given that the person has messaged I don't understand why the question couldn't be included in the message where they d be introducing themselves anyway.. likelihood is if the recipient doesn't find you attractive you're not going to get a response anyway.. Maybe I'm being too logical.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"some people are easily annoyed I think its more to do with do I fancy that person or not ,if you don't the message will be annoying

Also think it can depend on your mood when you receive a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"typical

the op has every right to start a thread on what ever she likes everyone else does she finds those messages annoying that doesn't make her wrong or a bad person

Theres mo harm in people posting there view people are different but why cant those that disagree post there view and leave it there instead of going on and on "

And equally so people have a right to respond

I don't recall anyone saying the OP was a bad person in fact I recall people saying no offence but offering their opinion which just because it doesn't match her view isn't a bash at her just another person's take on it

Everyone has a right to an opinion but not a right to bash others for disagreeing or discussing it ....just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isnt it the point of this site to message people or am i missing something here?

You won't get anywhere not messaging

Just message and be yourself and if they like you they'll message back, if not remember don't chase just focus on people who do interact with you

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"typical

the op has every right to start a thread on what ever she likes everyone else does she finds those messages annoying that doesn't make her wrong or a bad person

Theres mo harm in people posting there view people are different but why cant those that disagree post there view and leave it there instead of going on and on

And equally so people have a right to respond

Everyone has a right to an opinion but not a right to bash others for disagreeing or discussing it ....just saying

The voice of reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"typical

the op has every right to start a thread on what ever she likes everyone else does she finds those messages annoying that doesn't make her wrong or a bad person

Theres mo harm in people posting there view people are different but why cant those that disagree post there view and leave it there instead of going on and on

And equally so people have a right to respond

Everyone has a right to an opinion but not a right to bash others for disagreeing or discussing it ....just saying

The voice of reason

thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only sad fucker who likes getting asked that lol love trying to guess what they are going to ask x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The stock reply for that is "You just did.""

Pinching that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me."

well they are nice boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

well they are nice boobs

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lol thank you but you can see what im saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall we all send 10 guys a message saying "can I ask you a question?"

See if it annoys them!"

But then they would panic that they had got some attention, wouldn't know what to say and then delete profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

well they are nice boobs

lol thank you but you can see what im saying

Well all I can see is boobs

But yes I do get what you are saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall we all send 10 guys a message saying "can I ask you a question?"

See if it annoys them!

But then they would panic that they had got some attention, wouldn't know what to say and then delete profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

well they are nice boobs

lol thank you but you can see what im saying

Well all I can see is boobs

But yes I do get what you are saying

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my point exactly lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall we all send 10 guys a message saying "can I ask you a question?"

See if it annoys them!

But then they would panic that they had got some attention, wouldn't know what to say and then delete profile

Nope wouldn't panic, may or may not answer the question though

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me."

I get the same and I've only got feet showing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

I get the same and I've only got feet showing. "

Wow gorgeous feet

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

I get the same and I've only got feet showing.

Wow gorgeous feet

I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

I get the same and I've only got feet showing.

Wow gorgeous feet

I know.

Do you own a db9? Thats got to be a favorite they ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the worst is whenthey just tell you something. Like Nice pic etc! What the fu&k you supposed to reply apart from geeee thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

I get the same and I've only got feet showing.

Wow gorgeous feet

I know.

Do you own a db9? Thats got to be a favorite they ask"

Are you Valentino Rossi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"youre stunning when they can only see boobs lol. that annoys me.

I get the same and I've only got feet showing. "
lol better than no compliments i suppose x

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"It's the messages where they say "can I ask you a question" Just ask the fucking question mun! Feel obligated then to respond saying, what, what what!!!!!???"

This reminds me of the child that says "Dad..." every time he wants to talk to you...so every time you have to say "yes, what"....just say what you want to say...

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