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my gf lives in america.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

right well, i got together with this american lass who was living here, we were together for 2 years but then she had to move back to america.

i love her but im not going to see her except maybe once a year, untill im able to move over there.

what i want to know is what people think about me being on a site like this, she doesnt know about it and i doubt she will be doing anything like this over there. i have had a couple of meets, i tend to feel quite guilty after them.

do you think i should just stop and wait for her or do you think its ok as shes over there?

any help would be appreiciated thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As its a long time and a long distance relationship why not agree to meet other people while you are apart. How would you feel if she met other people.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Ultimately your choice.

My opinion, give it up and be true to her.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"any help would be appreiciated thank you"

I'm sure you know the answer

I doubt you'll receive my sympathy regards cheating, that's what it appears to me.

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By *mack my bumMan
over a year ago

Hayle

Not my place to say mate only u know how u feel. If ur feelin guilty then come off here but if u can live wiv ur self then stay

it's a long distance relatiosip very long dist wil she stay faithful?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Whatever you do - I would suggest not to do it secretly but discuss it openly.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Ultimately your choice.

My opinion, give it up and be true to her.

"

but if you stay, be honest on your profile so as to allow informed choices to be made by all parties.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If u r asking here u obviously have a gut feeling if it's right or not... Go with that gut feeling

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By *mack my bumMan
over a year ago

Hayle

Put it like this ur profile says u have played already now how did u feel afters? If it was guilt and disgust then it ain't for u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i bet she has nice teeth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

haha aye she has nice teeth. shes honestly got nice everything, shes well more than i thought i would ever get.

yeah im probs just gonna quit this.

might stay on just to keep in touch with a few folk but no meets for me now lol

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By *mack my bumMan
over a year ago

Hayle

U went with ur gut gud 4 u

Hope it all works out mate

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

You'll carry on doing this regardless and notwithstanding what any one else says, if you really thought this was wrong you wouldn't even consider doing it in the first place.Just a quick question, how would you feel if you founs out she was shagging all and sundry? You know what you'll end up doing so whatever is said here is moot Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"haha aye she has nice teeth. shes honestly got nice everything, shes well more than i thought i would ever get.

yeah im probs just gonna quit this.

might stay on just to keep in touch with a few folk but no meets for me now lol"
you must do whats wright for you ......... and be true to youself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like everything you ok meeting a whore for casual sex but would never marry or settle down with one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they do say the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else lol x

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I've just had a quick peep at your profile, thought you must be a little older if you were seeing her for 2 years and she's gone back to the US - bit gobsmacked now as you just seem too young to be having these kinds of dilemas - imoo imust add! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're 19, been with your girl for two years but you've already been on site a year and meeting?

When did she return to the States exactly?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

she moved back last february

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"You're 19, been with your girl for two years but you've already been on site a year and meeting?

When did she return to the States exactly? "

I'm glad we're on the same wavelength, made me wonder too, Z

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"she moved back last february"

Like in February 2010?

I can't help you with advice on what you should do, only you can decide what to do.

I can say that had I stayed on the path I was on at 19 I'd have been married and divorced with a couple of kids in tow now no doubt. You're young enough to do whatever the hell you like and not have too many worries about it really. You should probably be having this conversation with your chick though. What does she want?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

she moved back last february, i was either late 16 or early 17 when i got with her

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"she moved back last february"

Where abouts in America? There are some great deals on flights at the moment, you may be able to get together more often than you think. Z

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Why can't you move over there now? you're young enough to go for it, you're young and in love so go for it! Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

im trying to finish uni and sort stuff out here first, but as soon as thats out the way im going

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"im trying to finish uni and sort stuff out here first, but as soon as thats out the way im going"

Good for you, hope it works out, Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i tend to feel quite guilty after them".

And there's your answer. My two penn'orth as an old fart and for what it's worth is that the guilt will eventually destroy whatever relationship you have. As other posters have said be true to yourself and do the right thing by your girlfreind whatever you decide that might be. No easy answers I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"haha aye she has nice teeth. shes honestly got nice everything, shes well more than i thought i would ever get.

yeah im probs just gonna quit this.

might stay on just to keep in touch with a few folk but no meets for me now lol"

you could have quite easily asked her to leave her teeth behind. you could have looked at them every night when you where on fab perving then

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