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Posting a social meet request - any success?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not being entitled, but do they actually work without the promise of anything sexual?

I ask as I had meets posted for a social on my birthday last a year, a few weeks in advance, but I never had any interest for it. Today I've advertised a local social meet but the only replies I've had are from two men who are 50 & 70 miles away (that's not local in my book!) who said they'd like more than just a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried three times to get a social and to go to the cinema withour succees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but her ass is a lot sexier then your,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've posted requesting social meets on numerous occasions, have had a little success, meeting up with two couples and two single guys. Although we did travel a fair bit for two of those x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but her ass is a lot sexier then your,

"

Haha yes that's true, I can't argue with that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've posted requesting social meets on numerous occasions, have had a little success, meeting up with two couples and two single guys. Although we did travel a fair bit for two of those x"

Yeah, I'd consider traveling for one, but it's a gorgeous sunny day by the seaside today where I am, and I just fancied spending a nice day with some company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a coffee before once but I find it difficult to get one organised. Esp weekends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've posted requesting social meets on numerous occasions, have had a little success, meeting up with two couples and two single guys. Although we did travel a fair bit for two of those x

Yeah, I'd consider traveling for one, but it's a gorgeous sunny day by the seaside today where I am, and I just fancied spending a nice day with some company "

If only I was near to you

Sure you will find someone

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I've not tried to be honest, but from most interactions I've had on here if there's no sex promised there's no interest :/

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Held a coffee morning in was fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've not tried to be honest, but from most interactions I've had on here if there's no sex promised there's no interest :/"

I agree! Ironic how my local updates is full of people actually wanting to meet today but it's all for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not tried to be honest, but from most interactions I've had on here if there's no sex promised there's no interest :/"

I'll 'fancy a fuck' message you straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple of social only meets and had a great time.

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By *ittle Miss CheeksWoman
over a year ago

,Around Devon

I do have a lot of success but that's probably because I only do a social for a first meet, which is also written on my profile.

Guess I'm just lucky

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've posted several social meets and unless sex is being guaranteed they never really pan out to be honest, though I have had maybe 2 meets from them x

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By *otnolongerwifeCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I also likewise failed. I got an offer for a babysitter last minute for my birthday, but failed to get a social meet, despite spending most of the day running around trying to get one sorted.

I thought "had I had more time", but it looking like it may be an issue with the type of meet in general.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do have a lot of success but that's probably because I only do a social for a first meet, which is also written on my profile.

Guess I'm just lucky

"

But have they been from a "meet today" request?

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"I've not tried to be honest, but from most interactions I've had on here if there's no sex promised there's no interest :/

I'll 'fancy a fuck' message you straight away "

Woohoo!

Dammit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet a few from fab socially and just as friends, had a nice time mostly.

The problem I find is most couples and ladies don't believe a guy wont try to push it at a social.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

socials work for us usually its beach or bar, then take it from there..connie x

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Female socials would be fun too...but nope!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I meet a few from fab socially and just as friends, had a nice time mostly.

The problem I find is most couples and ladies don't believe a guy wont try to push it at a social."

But have those socials been from a "meet today" request?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet a few from fab socially and just as friends, had a nice time mostly.

The problem I find is most couples and ladies don't believe a guy wont try to push it at a social."

I know you would

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Done socials usually to explore possibilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe update your status a couple days before so people can get in touch before they've made plans.

I've found this to work better as lots of guys have their kids at weekends but could maybe work around it with notice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet a few from fab socially and just as friends, had a nice time mostly.

The problem I find is most couples and ladies don't believe a guy wont try to push it at a social.

But have those socials been from a "meet today" request?"

One which she posted, said she could pop into the shop for a cup of tea and she did, still does every now and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on a few socials and always enjoy them. Think because there is no expectation or pressure for physical fun that the atmosphere can be a lot more relaxed and gives you a chance to see if there is a really good genuine sexual chemistry between you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't mind going to a social meet request.

Only ever had 1 meet on here which was a social, I had great fun at it so I would definitely say yes to another .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet a few from fab socially and just as friends, had a nice time mostly.

The problem I find is most couples and ladies don't believe a guy wont try to push it at a social.

I know you would "

No, no I am a good boy me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes thy do and sometimes they dont - we tend to only post meets when we find ourselves unexpectedly free and nothing been arranged - if quick messages to friends and hotlist producs nothing we put up a meet - met some nice people that way but if nothing happens we just trot along to a club

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"I'm not being entitled, but do they actually work without the promise of anything sexual?

I ask as I had meets posted for a social on my birthday last a year, a few weeks in advance, but I never had any interest for it. Today I've advertised a local social meet but the only replies I've had are from two men who are 50 & 70 miles away (that's not local in my book!) who said they'd like more than just a social. "

I've always fancied you a little ruby. I would very happily take you to a wonderful new crazy golf place near me. And, afterwards we could have a tesco meal deal. That is sandwich, crisps AND a drink...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes, ive always had a social from the ones ive put up but ive only put 4 up in 9 years. I also do a lot of normal socials. People prefer not to have sex with me i think

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most guys just won't do a social without expecting to play. I personally think it's the only way as you can tell if there's chemistry or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet socially unless it's someone I already know as you might not click and if it's social there's not let down on either side.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I cant speak for everyone but I'm quite happy to meet socially.

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By *illo0069Man
over a year ago

litherland


"I'm not being entitled, but do they actually work without the promise of anything sexual?

I ask as I had meets posted for a social on my birthday last a year, a few weeks in advance, but I never had any interest for it. Today I've advertised a local social meet but the only replies I've had are from two men who are 50 & 70 miles away (that's not local in my book!) who said they'd like more than just a social.

I've always fancied you a little ruby. I would very happily take you to a wonderful new crazy golf place near me. And, afterwards we could have a tesco meal deal. That is sandwich, crisps AND a drink..."

ha ha ha quality how could she refuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh i think I'd steer clear of anyone advertising a social meet on thier birthday.

Call me cyclical but it kinda screams "treat me", maybe not the case but I'd never message to find out.

On the whole though I think for many there's little time to get meets and they dont want to waste thier time having a drink with people before then having to arange another time again in the future for a possible meet meet.

Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Plus many people have a greater fear of being stood up/meeting in public.

I mean imagine if the person looked nothing like thier pics then got loud and arsey on the pub when you said no.

It would be mortifying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh i think I'd steer clear of anyone advertising a social meet on thier birthday.

Call me cyclical but it kinda screams "treat me", maybe not the case but I'd never message to find out.

On the whole though I think for many there's little time to get meets and they dont want to waste thier time having a drink with people before then having to arange another time again in the future for a possible meet meet.

Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Plus many people have a greater fear of being stood up/meeting in public.

I mean imagine if the person looked nothing like thier pics then got loud and arsey on the pub when you said no.

It would be mortifying "

I arranged a meet on my birthday. Someone I'd been to chatting to for some while and die to distance a social wasn't possible. Only thing I wanted to be treated to was a bloody good orgasm

alas .... It wasn't to be as no show due to oversleeping !!! Typical there was no one within reasonable distance that day for a meet. Makes me weary now tbh

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


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Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

"

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I ended up taking myself for a walk instead. I was brilliant company, however I'm unable to write myself a gushing verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope...posted and got nada x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, OP, if I'd have known you were looking for a social yesterday Marc and I would have been there today. Instead we took the dogs out for a 6 mile walk.

I think its hard to find people for social meets on this site. That's understandable. By I'm more than happy with them and am always looking for people to just hang out with. If anyone is look on for that in or around York, give me a shout

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey, OP, if I'd have known you were looking for a social yesterday Marc and I would have been there today. Instead we took the dogs out for a 6 mile walk.

I think its hard to find people for social meets on this site. That's understandable. By I'm more than happy with them and am always looking for people to just hang out with. If anyone is look on for that in or around York, give me a shout "

Awwww damn we will definitely do something soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting."

Are you saying he attacked you/ripped your clothes off?

How would haveing met him in a pub first have stopped that if as soon as you were alone together after the social he decided to attack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting."

Me too! Lots of guys seem to forget women are afraid for their safety

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"

Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting.

Are you saying he attacked you/ripped your clothes off?

How would haveing met him in a pub first have stopped that if as soon as you were alone together after the social he decided to attack."

Yes that is what I am saying, if I had met him in a pub first then I would have known if I wanted to have sex with him or not, if I subsequently decided to then meet back at mine, then it wouldn't have been such a traumatic experience don't you agree?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting.

Are you saying he attacked you/ripped your clothes off?

How would haveing met him in a pub first have stopped that if as soon as you were alone together after the social he decided to attack.

Yes that is what I am saying, if I had met him in a pub first then I would have known if I wanted to have sex with him or not, if I subsequently decided to then meet back at mine, then it wouldn't have been such a traumatic experience don't you agree? "

I think getting attacked is going to be just as traumatic, if youve met previously in a pub or not tbh.

Do they still sell those little plastic stinger keyring spikes?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We have no success when posting meet request be they social or something else. Far easier to just email others and take it from there

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"

Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting.

Are you saying he attacked you/ripped your clothes off?

How would haveing met him in a pub first have stopped that if as soon as you were alone together after the social he decided to attack.

Yes that is what I am saying, if I had met him in a pub first then I would have known if I wanted to have sex with him or not, if I subsequently decided to then meet back at mine, then it wouldn't have been such a traumatic experience don't you agree?

I think getting attacked is going to be just as traumatic, if youve met previously in a pub or not tbh.

Do they still sell those little plastic stinger keyring spikes?

"

I didn't say I was attacked, I said I had an unwanted/traumatic experience, and being 5'1 and 7.5 stone, it was a very unnerving situation to be in and why I will never put myself in that situation ever again, why you are trying to find fault is beyond me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting.

Are you saying he attacked you/ripped your clothes off?

How would haveing met him in a pub first have stopped that if as soon as you were alone together after the social he decided to attack.

Yes that is what I am saying, if I had met him in a pub first then I would have known if I wanted to have sex with him or not, if I subsequently decided to then meet back at mine, then it wouldn't have been such a traumatic experience don't you agree?

I think getting attacked is going to be just as traumatic, if youve met previously in a pub or not tbh.

Do they still sell those little plastic stinger keyring spikes?

I didn't say I was attacked, I said I had an unwanted/traumatic experience, and being 5'1 and 7.5 stone, it was a very unnerving situation to be in and why I will never put myself in that situation ever again, why you are trying to find fault is beyond me "

I asked if you were saying hou were attacked and you said "yes thats what im saying".

Surely you an see how i got you were attacked from that???

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


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Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting.

Are you saying he attacked you/ripped your clothes off?

How would haveing met him in a pub first have stopped that if as soon as you were alone together after the social he decided to attack.

Yes that is what I am saying, if I had met him in a pub first then I would have known if I wanted to have sex with him or not, if I subsequently decided to then meet back at mine, then it wouldn't have been such a traumatic experience don't you agree?

I think getting attacked is going to be just as traumatic, if youve met previously in a pub or not tbh.

Do they still sell those little plastic stinger keyring spikes?

I didn't say I was attacked, I said I had an unwanted/traumatic experience, and being 5'1 and 7.5 stone, it was a very unnerving situation to be in and why I will never put myself in that situation ever again, why you are trying to find fault is beyond me

I asked if you were saying hou were attacked and you said "yes thats what im saying".

Surely you an see how i got you were attacked from that???

"

My fault, I wasn't reading to finely after seeing you thought that meeting socially first wouldn't have stopped the same thing from happening, so I do apologise for that.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I met someone for a social. Well I thought why not, we're in the same town. We got on, we laughed and joked, we drank till 3 o'clock in the morning, (I started work at 8 )

Long story short, we've been a couple since Dec

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Much easier to just arange the meet chat on the sofa/bed to make sure youre both ok/fancy the other snd if you do crack on.

Sorry but I used to do this until I had a really bad experience and ended up practically naked within minutes because he looked and thought I want me a bit of that, that stopped me meeting for months, so now always meet in public! And if men don't get that, then they are not worth meeting.

Are you saying he attacked you/ripped your clothes off?

How would haveing met him in a pub first have stopped that if as soon as you were alone together after the social he decided to attack.

Yes that is what I am saying, if I had met him in a pub first then I would have known if I wanted to have sex with him or not, if I subsequently decided to then meet back at mine, then it wouldn't have been such a traumatic experience don't you agree?

I think getting attacked is going to be just as traumatic, if youve met previously in a pub or not tbh.

Do they still sell those little plastic stinger keyring spikes?

I didn't say I was attacked, I said I had an unwanted/traumatic experience, and being 5'1 and 7.5 stone, it was a very unnerving situation to be in and why I will never put myself in that situation ever again, why you are trying to find fault is beyond me

I asked if you were saying hou were attacked and you said "yes thats what im saying".

Surely you an see how i got you were attacked from that???

My fault, I wasn't reading to finely after seeing you thought that meeting socially first wouldn't have stopped the same thing from happening, so I do apologise for that. "

Ahh ok crosses wires.

Yes i can see how you mean that pressure/coercion without violence/attacking can be an issue if meeting alone for the first time.

As i think that kind of personality is more easily seen in a social situation vs somone who is likley to use physical violence which can be much easier hidden.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I've posted occasional ones weekday daytimes and generally had too much response so generally ditched the idea!

Maybe it's geographical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bloke it's generally more the physical side that's a risk, which is why i turn up wearing body armour, stab proof pants and reonforced knuckles :l

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I tried three times to get a social and to go to the cinema withour succees "

I offered, but you moaned about travelling to lincoln hehe.

But back to the question,

I don't even bother putting a social meet up any more , never had any success in the past

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