FabSwingers.com forum: I've had

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As in ...

'I've had him' or 'I've had her'

It just doesn't sit right with me

Like it somehow devalues / cheapens the meet and/or the person you've met

Am I becoming sensitive in my middle age ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I am wary... I don't wanna feel like a trophy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about 'I've been there' or 'done that'

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Smashed their back doors in is heaps better

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

it is some peoples thing....it's not mine.

i am sensitive and i dont mind admitting it either. i value the people i see and spend time with. sometimes i feel this attitude is the way they cope with this scene in their minds. they usually have characteristics that i can spot and thus avoid x

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Is it not just a shortened version of "i've had sex with him/her"?

Does that sentence offend you also?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I have no objection to being objectified if it gets me laid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's why I am wary... I don't wanna feel like a trophy "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind being objectified. No wait, I quite like it actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will be polite as ever

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"That's why I am wary... I don't wanna feel like a trophy

This

U can both jump into my cabinet!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it not just a shortened version of "i've had sex with him/her"?

Does that sentence offend you also?"

It doesn't offend me, but it hardly makes for worthwhile comment either

In the context of Fab 'I've met with him/her' seems perfectly adequate

In terms of 'real life' it wouldn't be something worthy of mention

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Oh that boy's a slag

The best you ever had....

I blame the artic monkeys....

You're just old bussy

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Is it not just a shortened version of "i've had sex with him/her"?

Does that sentence offend you also?

It doesn't offend me, but it hardly makes for worthwhile comment either

In the context of Fab 'I've met with him/her' seems perfectly adequate

In terms of 'real life' it wouldn't be something worthy of mention"

Ah, well perhaps it's the people who feel the need to comment who actually offend you? Personally apart from to my fab girlfriends I don't feel the need to talk to anyone about anyone i've met!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never write anything sexual in a verification nor would i like it if the gentleman did the same towards me. I don't sleep with every guy I attend a social with. If I do then I see it as the sex is only between the both of us. No one else needs to know details. After all what I enjoy with one person, doesn't necessarily mean I'll enjoy it with the next guy I may meet. I think it's important to just let others know whether my meet is easy going, comfortable to be alone with and if he looks like his pics.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

I've had........

Implies something is done to someone rather than the experience shared.

It's all contextual and relationship dependent....

I find it vulgar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it is so derogatory.

I much prefer to say 'I slung one up her'.

Or 'Was hanging out the back of that last night'.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Is it not just a shortened version of "i've had sex with him/her"?

Does that sentence offend you also?

It doesn't offend me, but it hardly makes for worthwhile comment either

In the context of Fab 'I've met with him/her' seems perfectly adequate

In terms of 'real life' it wouldn't be something worthy of mention

Ah, well perhaps it's the people who feel the need to comment who actually offend you? Personally apart from to my fab girlfriends I don't feel the need to talk to anyone about anyone i've met!"
you discuss you meets with your fab girlfriends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree it is so derogatory.

I much prefer to say 'I slung one up her'.

Or 'Was hanging out the back of that last night'."

Or "I've been balls deep in her clunge"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree it is so derogatory.

I much prefer to say 'I slung one up her'.

Or 'Was hanging out the back of that last night'.

Or "I've been balls deep in her clunge"?"

good one.

Been going at it hammer a tongs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*and

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's a bit crass...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smacks of the lads down the pub.

At least that's what I hear when I walk past the bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexamafied them up ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Listen to Phil Ochs 'I've had her'

Released in 60's or 70's ... bit long but revealing to a degree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the expression, I'd have a go on that.

Makes someone sound like a fairground attraction.

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By *illo0069Man
over a year ago

litherland

"That's why I am wary... I don't wanna feel like a trophy

This

U can both jump into my cabinet!!!!!!

ha ha best reply .

how many shelves have u got

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By *illo0069Man
over a year ago

litherland

up to ur nuts in guts

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"Like the expression, I'd have a go on that.

Makes someone sound like a fairground attraction. "

You are right. It HAS to beee eee eee eeee eeeee perrrrrfect. !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As in ...

'I've had him' or 'I've had her'

It just doesn't sit right with me

Like it somehow devalues / cheapens the meet and/or the person you've met

Am I becoming sensitive in my middle age ?

It's not a term I like either. Seems to be about the act, not about the person

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To me it's about possession, taking someone and using them. It's not a way someone would refer to a mutually fun time.

It's not a nice way to refer to sex with anyone.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"To me it's about possession, taking someone and using them. It's not a way someone would refer to a mutually fun time.

It's not a nice way to refer to sex with anyone."

oh my Dom owns my ass..but he wouldnt go round saying 'ive had her', completely different in my opinion..

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"That's why I am wary... I don't wanna feel like a trophy

This

U can both jump into my cabinet!!!!!!

ha ha best reply .

how many shelves have u got

He he several!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"To me it's about possession, taking someone and using them. It's not a way someone would refer to a mutually fun time.

It's not a nice way to refer to sex with anyone.

oh my Dom owns my ass..but he wouldnt go round saying 'ive had her', completely different in my opinion.."

Ownership in a D/s sense is a bit different. That's ownership with respect.

There's no respect in the "I've had her" sense.

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By *illo0069Man
over a year ago

litherland

"That's why I am wary... I don't wanna feel like a trophy

This

U can both jump into my cabinet!!!!!!

ha ha best reply .

how many shelves have u got

He he several!

ooo any room b4 they full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when people say going back for more - not an eat as much as you want buffet yanno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Notches.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Blue plaques

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't think I use that phrase.

I think I just say I've met them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not seen many women say it, but I could be wrong...I usually am

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"That's why I am wary... I don't wanna feel like a trophy

This

U can both jump into my cabinet!!!!!!

ha ha best reply .

how many shelves have u got

He he several!

ooo any room b4 they full

There's a little bit of room left

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