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Making the most of our Fab experience - applying common sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry for the (really!) long post - bear with me please - but for as long as I've been on Fab there's always been members on here complaining about the conduct of others and how it impacts their enjoyment of the site and even how it impacts their personal lives.

Now in an ideal world, we'd all be very respectful of each other and everyone would behave in way that we were all happy with. Yay, what a utopia that would be!

Sadly though, we don't live in that perfect world and there will always be trolls, people with personal agendas, and people with very different ethics and values to us.

So we can do two things: Either let them get to us, or do all we can to mitigate against them impacting our enjoyment of the site.

So rather than blaming others, how about a radical suggestion that we start to take some personal ownership and accountability for our own experiences on here?

Now obviously it's up to each individual to manage their account as they see fit, but surely applying a few common sense principles will help, for example:

- If you're on a casual sex site advertising for no-strings sex and your filters are open, accept that no amount of whinging will stop the idiots hitting your inbox. Either expect it and ignore them, or if it does bother you put up filters to prevent incoming messages and go looking for meets yourselves. You can't have it both ways.

- If you are a guy who's been rejected, accept that the ladies and couples on here get inundated and, however handsome and fit you think you are, you might not be what they're looking for. If you're rejected or ignored move on and don't let yourself get wound up and reply like a git with abuse - it does nobody any favours

- If you're concerned about privacy and being 'outed' by the press or others to your families and friends, don't have clear face pics in your public gallery on a publically accessible website. If you want to maintain public face pics, accept that all expectations of anonymity and privacy have gone.

- If you're going to post anything controversial on the forums or your profile etc (either words or pictures) then don't be surprised if people react negatively to it. Court controversy and it's likely to follow.

Of course I could go on with many more examples but this post is already far too long.

As I say - in an ideal world we'd all get on and respect each other. But we don't - so manage your expectations, apply common sense and make the most of the far from perfect situation we find ourselves in and don't blame others if you haven't done all you can at your end to prevent the downsides.

Its not rocket science. Is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on !

Accept the game

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Not a lot wrong with any of that ...

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I like blaming others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common sense? Coming from a male profile? There's a feckin' First!

Seriously, though - Well said - Yes, you're perfectly right!

Admin/Mods - can we make this required reading for anyone joining the site, please lol.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester


"Sorry for the (really!) long post - bear with me please - but for as long as I've been on Fab there's always been members on here complaining about the conduct of others and how it impacts their enjoyment of the site and even how it impacts their personal lives.

Now in an ideal world, we'd all be very respectful of each other and everyone would behave in way that we were all happy with. Yay, what a utopia that would be!

Sadly though, we don't live in that perfect world and there will always be trolls, people with personal agendas, and people with very different ethics and values to us.

So we can do two things: Either let them get to us, or do all we can to mitigate against them impacting our enjoyment of the site.

So rather than blaming others, how about a radical suggestion that we start to take some personal ownership and accountability for our own experiences on here?

Now obviously it's up to each individual to manage their account as they see fit, but surely applying a few common sense principles will help, for example:

- If you're on a casual sex site advertising for no-strings sex and your filters are open, accept that no amount of whinging will stop the idiots hitting your inbox. Either expect it and ignore them, or if it does bother you put up filters to prevent incoming messages and go looking for meets yourselves. You can't have it both ways.

- If you are a guy who's been rejected, accept that the ladies and couples on here get inundated and, however handsome and fit you think you are, you might not be what they're looking for. If you're rejected or ignored move on and don't let yourself get wound up and reply like a git with abuse - it does nobody any favours

- If you're concerned about privacy and being 'outed' by the press or others to your families and friends, don't have clear face pics in your public gallery on a publically accessible website. If you want to maintain public face pics, accept that all expectations of anonymity and privacy have gone.

- If you're going to post anything controversial on the forums or your profile etc (either words or pictures) then don't be surprised if people react negatively to it. Court controversy and it's likely to follow.

Of course I could go on with many more examples but this post is already far too long.

As I say - in an ideal world we'd all get on and respect each other. But we don't - so manage your expectations, apply common sense and make the most of the far from perfect situation we find ourselves in and don't blame others if you haven't done all you can at your end to prevent the downsides.

Its not rocket science. Is it? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't disagree with any of that op, so I wont, well said

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Not my fault!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Sorry for the (really!) long post - bear with me please - but for as long as I've been on Fab there's always been members on here complaining about the conduct of others and how it impacts their enjoyment of the site and even how it impacts their personal lives.

Now in an ideal world, we'd all be very respectful of each other and everyone would behave in way that we were all happy with. Yay, what a utopia that would be!

Sadly though, we don't live in that perfect world and there will always be trolls, people with personal agendas, and people with very different ethics and values to us.

So we can do two things: Either let them get to us, or do all we can to mitigate against them impacting our enjoyment of the site.

So rather than blaming others, how about a radical suggestion that we start to take some personal ownership and accountability for our own experiences on here?

Now obviously it's up to each individual to manage their account as they see fit, but surely applying a few common sense principles will help, for example:

- If you're on a casual sex site advertising for no-strings sex and your filters are open, accept that no amount of whinging will stop the idiots hitting your inbox. Either expect it and ignore them, or if it does bother you put up filters to prevent incoming messages and go looking for meets yourselves. You can't have it both ways.

- If you are a guy who's been rejected, accept that the ladies and couples on here get inundated and, however handsome and fit you think you are, you might not be what they're looking for. If you're rejected or ignored move on and don't let yourself get wound up and reply like a git with abuse - it does nobody any favours

- If you're concerned about privacy and being 'outed' by the press or others to your families and friends, don't have clear face pics in your public gallery on a publically accessible website. If you want to maintain public face pics, accept that all expectations of anonymity and privacy have gone.

- If you're going to post anything controversial on the forums or your profile etc (either words or pictures) then don't be surprised if people react negatively to it. Court controversy and it's likely to follow.

Of course I could go on with many more examples but this post is already far too long.

As I say - in an ideal world we'd all get on and respect each other. But we don't - so manage your expectations, apply common sense and make the most of the far from perfect situation we find ourselves in and don't blame others if you haven't done all you can at your end to prevent the downsides.

Its not rocket science. Is it? "

Well said that man!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you said that at NASA, they'd all shout "oh yes it is!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this Dan is why your one of my favourite coffee meet fabbers

Spot on with this post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And this Dan is why your one of my favourite coffee meet fabbers

Spot on with this post "

Agh! I was doing so well too but now I need flapjack! There's some downstairs .. I'm going to have to go buy some now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And this Dan is why your one of my favourite coffee meet fabbers

Spot on with this post

Agh! I was doing so well too but now I need flapjack! There's some downstairs .. I'm going to have to go buy some now! "

Yes do it, you know you want too

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Sorry for the (really!) long post - bear with me please - but for as long as I've been on Fab there's always been members on here complaining about the conduct of others and how it impacts their enjoyment of the site and even how it impacts their personal lives.

Now in an ideal world, we'd all be very respectful of each other and everyone would behave in way that we were all happy with. Yay, what a utopia that would be!

Sadly though, we don't live in that perfect world and there will always be trolls, people with personal agendas, and people with very different ethics and values to us.

So we can do two things: Either let them get to us, or do all we can to mitigate against them impacting our enjoyment of the site.

So rather than blaming others, how about a radical suggestion that we start to take some personal ownership and accountability for our own experiences on here?

Now obviously it's up to each individual to manage their account as they see fit, but surely applying a few common sense principles will help, for example:

- If you're on a casual sex site advertising for no-strings sex and your filters are open, accept that no amount of whinging will stop the idiots hitting your inbox. Either expect it and ignore them, or if it does bother you put up filters to prevent incoming messages and go looking for meets yourselves. You can't have it both ways.

- If you are a guy who's been rejected, accept that the ladies and couples on here get inundated and, however handsome and fit you think you are, you might not be what they're looking for. If you're rejected or ignored move on and don't let yourself get wound up and reply like a git with abuse - it does nobody any favours

- If you're concerned about privacy and being 'outed' by the press or others to your families and friends, don't have clear face pics in your public gallery on a publically accessible website. If you want to maintain public face pics, accept that all expectations of anonymity and privacy have gone.

- If you're going to post anything controversial on the forums or your profile etc (either words or pictures) then don't be surprised if people react negatively to it. Court controversy and it's likely to follow.

Of course I could go on with many more examples but this post is already far too long.

As I say - in an ideal world we'd all get on and respect each other. But we don't - so manage your expectations, apply common sense and make the most of the far from perfect situation we find ourselves in and don't blame others if you haven't done all you can at your end to prevent the downsides.

Its not rocket science. Is it? "

well said!

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley

I agree with this wholeheartedly. Unfortunately though common sense is far from common!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"But I like blaming others. "

I blame you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snog.

A very wise op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Main problem is whoever it really concerns "I didn't read much but got the jist" most probably won't read it and within a day or so it will be pushed back to page 127,327 or whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I like blaming others.

I blame you!"

That's good because I blame you

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"But I like blaming others.

I blame you!

That's good because I blame you "

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

Our motto in life is be happy. Life will throw enough shit your way to be sweating the small stuff.

If in the process you can make other happy too, bonus. But never ever,make yourself feel better by putting others down.

And obviously, fancy a fuck?

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry for the (really!) long post - bear with me please - but for as long as I've been on Fab there's always been members on here complaining about the conduct of others and how it impacts their enjoyment of the site and even how it impacts their personal lives.

Now in an ideal world, we'd all be very respectful of each other and everyone would behave in way that we were all happy with. Yay, what a utopia that would be!

Sadly though, we don't live in that perfect world and there will always be trolls, people with personal agendas, and people with very different ethics and values to us.

So we can do two things: Either let them get to us, or do all we can to mitigate against them impacting our enjoyment of the site.

So rather than blaming others, how about a radical suggestion that we start to take some personal ownership and accountability for our own experiences on here?

Now obviously it's up to each individual to manage their account as they see fit, but surely applying a few common sense principles will help, for example:

- If you're on a casual sex site advertising for no-strings sex and your filters are open, accept that no amount of whinging will stop the idiots hitting your inbox. Either expect it and ignore them, or if it does bother you put up filters to prevent incoming messages and go looking for meets yourselves. You can't have it both ways.

- If you are a guy who's been rejected, accept that the ladies and couples on here get inundated and, however handsome and fit you think you are, you might not be what they're looking for. If you're rejected or ignored move on and don't let yourself get wound up and reply like a git with abuse - it does nobody any favours

- If you're concerned about privacy and being 'outed' by the press or others to your families and friends, don't have clear face pics in your public gallery on a publically accessible website. If you want to maintain public face pics, accept that all expectations of anonymity and privacy have gone.

- If you're going to post anything controversial on the forums or your profile etc (either words or pictures) then don't be surprised if people react negatively to it. Court controversy and it's likely to follow.

Of course I could go on with many more examples but this post is already far too long.

As I say - in an ideal world we'd all get on and respect each other. But we don't - so manage your expectations, apply common sense and make the most of the far from perfect situation we find ourselves in and don't blame others if you haven't done all you can at your end to prevent the downsides.

Its not rocket science. Is it? "

I hardly ever complain about anything..

and I advocate most of what you mention but if I don't like how a particular person behaves on here I do one of two things..

but come on...everyone enjoys a good old moan/whinge/rant every now and again so I cant see people suddenly seeing the light and converting into happy clappy individuals just for the collective harmony of the FAB forums, however nice an idea that is

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