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When life gives you a kicking how do you deal?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get physical.

Managed to bake 24 cupcakes, a choc fudge and 2 coffee walnuts.

Then mowed the lawns after my 3 year old went to bed.

Then started painting the living room.

Just about to bathe then bed.

What do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound off to my friends. have a cider. Cry! today has been truly hideous. I'm lucky to have a friend come round tonight with Wok&Go tho which has cheered me up a bit

Hope you're ok Xxx

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

That's a good way of dealing.

Productive and easy to think while you work.

Sadly I tend to curl up in bed and sleep it off. Which doesn't work too well as I get the shakes when stressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk Pooch , up on our hill we can sit and think , plus its a dashed hard climb .

Hope you Ok xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and let it wash over me, not worry about it (things are as they are), sleep on it, and things invariably tend to better (or at least clearer) in the morning

Hope all is ok lovely, keep smiling x

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Put on a brave face and pretend everything is fine to the world.....until im alone at home

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Mines simple..I hit the gym before I hit someone..and working with kids who have been excluded from mainstream schools,let's just say their lucky the gym is very close lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, can you have another bad day & do all that around my house please?!

Only joking, hope tomorrow is a better day for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I become single minded and vow not to let whatever it is beat me.

I feed off the negativity and find I become really driven.

If all that fails then its time for vodka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I colour a lot.

Last time I had a stressful week I completed a really busy double spread within five days, absolute non-stop.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It depends.

When I'm well then I wallow for a minute and then fight back.

When I'm ill I go to bed... for a long time.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Suck it up and get on with it. Bad times don't last for ever. Even if you think they'll never end.

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By *elightfully Devilish xxxCouple
over a year ago

crazyland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Power through,sleep then fuck.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've not had any crap for a long time until recently.

I acknowledge its ok to feel crap if crap is happening and it's ok if I cry.

I talk to friends and formulate a plan of action that will resolve things.

Then I work a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i clean.. or take the car for a thrash or play one of my instruments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get physical.

Managed to bake 24 cupcakes, a choc fudge and 2 coffee walnuts.

Then mowed the lawns after my 3 year old went to bed.

Then started painting the living room.

Just about to bathe then bed.

What do you do?"

Similar - make a to-do list, load up on podcasts and keep my brain quiet by doing until I'm shattered.

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Being productive, being creative, taking exercise of some sort are all great ways of putting a positive spin on a crap situation. The original issue(s) won't necessarily disappear but setting out to achieve something useful can be very reassuring and distracting. I tend to do probably the worst thing and bottle stuff up which I brood upon until I explode at some future point. Must remind myself to follow some of the examples here and get myself an interesting colouring book for the next occasion I feel the world's against me or just go for a long walk.

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm stressed or annoyed then I box. A personal trainer I see is teaching me to box and it's such a fabulous stress buster.

If I'm unwell I go to bed and overdose on Netflix. This is what I've done for the last 2 days and I feel rested already.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Kick life in the balls and say fuck you and carry on as normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grab my kindle and disappear into an alternate universe until I feel ready to deal with my own shit, sometimes I run out of books before that point is reached!

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lie down in the dark with my headphones on and drift away with the music.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I clean my bathroom. The rest of the house maybe a dump but my bathroom sparkles. Sadly the rest of house now needs to sparkle & be germ free.

My frustration will be taken out on my lawns at the weekend if it stops fucking raining!!!

Talking to friends really helps too xx

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By *appyjack890Man
over a year ago

North loncolnshire

I just go to the gym and pound away on the treadmills etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I clean my bathroom. The rest of the house maybe a dump but my bathroom sparkles. Sadly the rest of house now needs to sparkle & be germ free.

My frustration will be taken out on my lawns at the weekend if it stops fucking raining!!!

Talking to friends really helps too xx"

I'LL be there - I will do the rest of the house xx

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Define 'life giving you a kicking' and I'll tell you how I respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out on my bike or loose my self in my music

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Exercise, talk, spend time in nature, express emotion - shout, cry etc. Nourish myself, sunlight, space, good people, music, quietness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I either go for a walk with music in or get myself a new book and while away an evening reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Switch my decks on and have a rummage through my vinyl find some old tunes that i had forgotten about or turn the computer on and make a new tune

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walk in Bradgate Park. It's calm and beautiful surroundings help

Mind you i walk there most days anyway cus i love it so much !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had 3 years of a kicking

Since my wife went to Heaven, my whole world's gone to Hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had 3 years of a kicking

Since my wife went to Heaven, my whole world's gone to Hell"

Sorry to hear of your loss. Grief can be a terrible thing and, forgive me from saying so, but if you're still feeling like that three years later then maybe you should consider some support. I'm sure your wife wouldn't want you to suffer like this. Good luck fella

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

I first cry. And then I just tackle it head on.

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have had too much crap in my past so now for something to get me down has to be really bad - i jut think ah fuck it now if its happened so what - nothing i can do to change it - i store feelings though and if i get hurt you WILL know about it one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to hideaway from the world and take stock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its just a shit day I'll go and play with (wind up) the kids cuz they're hilarious.

If its bad for a couple of weeks I well and truly self destruct!! Usually everybody around me can see if happening at the start and try to help me steer clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to the cage and take it out on my training partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to Mr then clean like a woman possessed, sometimes I go for a drive as driving relaxes me too and allows me time to think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I go out for a drive to somewhere I can collect myself. Usually arrive with completely cooked brakes, 2mm less on my tyres and a very hot engine.

Marsden Rocks have been a preferred destination, before they became enemy territory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clean non stop until my heads on straight. Then go do something about it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do I deal with it. I sit down with a coffee. And I think.

By the end of the coffee, I have dealt with it and I move forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a Newcastle fan I just usually have a few beers, shout fuck fuck fuckity fuck a few times then do it all again the following weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a Newcastle fan I just usually have a few beers, shout fuck fuck fuckity fuck a few times then do it all again the following weekend "

See you at Hillsbrough

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Simple...find Paul and then everything's alright again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I retreat from the world, won't talk to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I retreat from the world, won't talk to anyone.

"

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to get creative/productive...

Made 5 new pieces this week... it helps take my mind off things I don't want to deal with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a duck of two halves, I run and sleep.

Intense physical activity and then curl up under the duvet and shut the world out

More often than not though I'm just able to count to ten and then get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get physical.

Managed to bake 24 cupcakes, a choc fudge and 2 coffee walnuts.

Then mowed the lawns after my 3 year old went to bed.

Then started painting the living room.

Just about to bathe then bed.

What do you do?"

Next time you're in that mood give me a ring I've got loads of jobs that need doing

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By *ovis69 and green eyesMan
over a year ago

valleys

Depends on mood when it happens, as a rule it is gym & Mmm/kickboxing usually dies truck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on whar it is really. If it's something that is happening to me directly, I plaster on a big smile, stuff all my feelings deep deep down and carry on. Once every 5 years or so I have a major strop where all the pent up rage explodes.

If it is happening to a loved one I go into action mode to get it resolved.

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By *parkly MittensWoman
over a year ago

My own little world

Put on a brave face, my big girl pants and get on with stuff. Then in the evening I'll have a beer and a cry.

Music helps too.

Big hugs Red x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a Newcastle fan I just usually have a few beers, shout fuck fuck fuckity fuck a few times then do it all again the following weekend

See you at Hillsbrough "
you sure will

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks


"I get physical.

Managed to bake 24 cupcakes, a choc fudge and 2 coffee walnuts.

Then mowed the lawns after my 3 year old went to bed.

Then started painting the living room.

Just about to bathe then bed.

What do you do?"

I wish I was so productive…if I was life would have less opportunity to deal me a kicking…oh the irony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a bomb shell dropped on me so dealing with a lot of stress right now just not sure how to deal with it apart from stay positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just look around and see people with worse things to deal with and it makes me feel so lucky

Even when you think life is not fair to you there are literally millions who have it a lot worse.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"I clean my bathroom. The rest of the house maybe a dump but my bathroom sparkles. Sadly the rest of house now needs to sparkle & be germ free.

My frustration will be taken out on my lawns at the weekend if it stops fucking raining!!!

Talking to friends really helps too xx

I'LL be there - I will do the rest of the house xx"

xxx I'm so lucky to have you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I vent, I just have to let it out to someone. I hate bottling things up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hug my daughter. Sleep more, don't sleep at all, don't eat, over eat, listen to music, depends, sometimes I just laugh at how many things can happen in such a small amount of time. Sit on my grans grave stone have a fag with her and moan that she could have stayed here a bit longer, sit on my nans memorial bench and moan at her for leaving me as well. Then wallow and dwell on things, then play candy crush flat out for days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really do anything, I just carry on.... only a bit more grumpier

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