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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Huh?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now "

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda."

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have clearly missed something.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda."

There are rules?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such is life. Move on!

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

with most sites today you are going to get the internet trolls or keyboard warriors, the idiots that like to pick fights and start aguments unfortunately

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other "

Tell me about it...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"There are rules?????"

Forum rules? Yes, quite a few. And mods with vapesabres and ban hammers to enforce them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have clearly missed something. "

Me too! Unless it's the thread requesting to fab a picture.

But yes, OP, people should consider what they say and how it impacts people.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"with most sites today you are going to get the internet trolls or keyboard warriors, the idiots that like to pick fights and start aguments unfortunately"

And people who are thoughtless or just don't care what impact their words have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let them get you down. Keep smiling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've got to put this into context bearing in mind all the threads / comments posted.

Also with the exception of a few, we don't know each other & we're not really 'friends' ~ I _iew it as just a group of people that comment on a forum that's forever changing people & dynamic wise.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"I have clearly missed something. "

Your a man ... ... easily done ..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be told: like Thumper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have clearly missed something.

Your a man ... ... easily done .."

Shall I tell them Courtney, or will you?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

...ooooooo im in trouble now ...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have clearly missed something.

Your a man ... ... easily done ..

Shall I tell them Courtney, or will you?"

I think I've missed a few things this morning, Dan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other "

The problem is everybody is different

Some people have a don't give a shit attitude, they say things just to be nasty and when people as nasty to them its water off a ducks back

What some don't understand is not everybody is like that

Not everybody can shrug at abuse

Some people care, they are careful what they write as they don't want to upset other and when others upset them they care

But all they get from others is "shit happens, move on" like we are supposed to go through life emotionless

Yes ok this is the internet but when somebody on here is rude or nasty its still a real person saying these things to you and some people on here can be really rude/cruel, sad thing is certain people seem to come on here just for that very reason

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sadly you'll never change other people so you have to alter your reaction to it. There's really no need to be rude in any circumstances and it's much easier to say nothing than waste time being nasty. It appears some people just can't help themselves. It's thoughtless and unnecessary but it won't change.

If you see a post that you feel is uncalled for then report it. I don't believe in turning a blind eye and I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am glad I stayed out of whatever happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am glad I stayed out of whatever happened"

Me too

I don't have a clue what they are talking about

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

The problem is, some people think it's OK to say horrible things and shout people down on the forums. It would be nearly impossible to act in the same way in 'real' non-virtual life, as no-one would have anything to do with you. In a forum these people can just pop up, be offensive or hurtful then go away again.

A lot (most) fab members I have met in person say they avoid the forums as it's too easy to suddenly be pounced on. That' sad.

Let's be nice and try to listen to what people have to say and answer in a non confrontational way

MrB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other "

It seems to me that humans are preconditioned to be nasty to each other, it goes back to early humans who were originally nomadic hunter gatherers, hardly crossing with others. Then at some point in our history, decided to settle and create territories and boundaries, thats when the instinct to fall out, argue and fight reared its head. We can't help falling out, bullying and generally being quite nasty to others especially from the comfort of our defined online internet boundaries. Hope all that makes sense. Lol.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for "

See my comment: that's what Thumpers mum says to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am glad I stayed out of whatever happened

Me too

I don't have a clue what they are talking about "

I guess somebody has been mean again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for "

Agreed. It's something most people tend to forget when they start to attack / take the piss out of the newbie single males who dare to post on here too. Respect for all would be spiffing x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for

Agreed. It's something most people tend to forget when they start to attack / take the piss out of the newbie single males who dare to post on here too. Respect for all would be spiffing x"

It's horrible to see a newbie say the 'wrong' thing and be shredded by a pack of keyboard wolves. Surely much better to spend that message saying something helpful / educational?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for

Agreed. It's something most people tend to forget when they start to attack / take the piss out of the newbie single males who dare to post on here too. Respect for all would be spiffing x

It's horrible to see a newbie say the 'wrong' thing and be shredded by a pack of keyboard wolves. Surely much better to spend that message saying something helpful / educational?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alas, some folk just seem to need to be 'orrible and make others feel shit.

Yeah, yeah no rules, but still... Just don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I missed whatever it was XXX

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do."

Me too but it's not a popular stance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this going to be another drip feeding of information thread where come post 150 we find out the key peices of information that changes the context of everything before?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To me, the thoughtless threads are just as bad, or the ones where someone is trying to be nice to one person and ends up insulting a group of others.

For example, posting on a pro-BBW thread to compliment large women and saying they don't like bags of bones.

A lot just don't think or don't realise what they're saying.

It really wears me down how much people are compared and pigeon holed on here and how much we hear about what's perfect/imperfect in terms of looks.

Most of the things deemed inadequate or imperfect aren't things people can change. It's what they got in the genetic lottery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But why is knitter sad? (that's definitely against the rules)

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It takes strength to be gentle and kind.

-Morrissey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My earlier post sounded like I don't give a fuck, which is pretty much as far from the truth as can be.

I do care what's said on here but I've learnt not to let it affect me. I was deeply upset by comments on 2 threads running this time last year so much so I logged off & didn't log in for a few weeks.

I learnt then that some people really didn't care what they said or who they upset as long as they posted within the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It takes strength to be gentle and kind.

-Morrissey."

The same Morrissey a judge described as 'sly'

Ooooh crikey! I like the smiffs though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do.

Me too but it's not a popular stance."

Thankfully I give no shits about being popular.

Having suffered a bully in real life I just think it's more important to stand up to them and deal with the consequences of that rather than stand by and watch someone being ripped to shreds.

I'm glad I'm not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It takes strength to be gentle and kind.

-Morrissey.

The same Morrissey a judge described as 'sly'

Ooooh crikey! I like the smiffs though "

The words are equally as valid though

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person."

Yes same. What a silly sausage I was!

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By *rchie_pMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now "

I have absolutely no idea what's Goin on here but on another note it's raining again :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

Of course some people will

I wouldn't say I've ever got upset but certain people have pissed me off on many occasions

And not always when their comments have been aimed at me

There are certain people who only seem to post when they are ripping apart or being rude

I've seen many quoted posts that have been nasty and straight away I've knows who's wrote it and when I've traced the thread back to the original post that was quoted, yep it's them, that annoys be because I sorry but I can't help thinking, why have you got to be rude all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something. "

I've got a really bad knot in my back today, fancy giving it a rub?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seem to be a lot of keyboard warriors on the forums unfortunately who revel in making snide comments on threads. I don't think it's acceptable at all as its bullying plain and simple. Agree with an earlier poster, if you have nothing nice to say, keep it zipped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

I'm like you and let things wash over me and smile, but some people do, yes. To us it's pixels on a screen - others take things to heart and it can upset them - sadly this is why some trolls do it all the more as they know the impact it has!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do.

Me too but it's not a popular stance."

Yep, I've done it and was accused of being in the clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions."

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

I've got a really bad knot in my back today, fancy giving it a rub?"
o naked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person."

I find it incredibly difficult to be upset over words written on the web. Perhaps it's me, i'm not the most sensitive of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!"

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

I have absolutely no idea what's Goin on here but on another note it's raining again :/"

Now that has upset me.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Look at society with plastic surgery commonplace amongst women and growing for men, eating disorders and self harm a serious problem, the diet and beauty industries massive, young girls of 5 and 6 thinking they are fat and wanting to diet, models eating paper and taking drugs to keep their weight down to what's expected of them.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person.

I find it incredibly difficult to be upset over words written on the web. Perhaps it's me, i'm not the most sensitive of people. "

Me too, I usually just laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person.

I find it incredibly difficult to be upset over words written on the web. Perhaps it's me, i'm not the most sensitive of people.

Me too, I usually just laugh."

Me too yet I do get upset over Racist comments !

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not the most kind person all of the time on here but I have given out loads of profile advice and been helpful as well. I'm not as Mary Poppinsy as I could be but that's just me. I have a daft sense of humour and I like word play and sometimes the combination loses its meaning in the translation so to speak so what I've written isn't always exactly what I meant.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

I'm like you and let things wash over me and smile, but some people do, yes. To us it's pixels on a screen - others take things to heart and it can upset them - sadly this is why some trolls do it all the more as they know the impact it has! "

Lots of people do take things to heart. When someone is nasty then it doesn't really matter whether it's simply an attempt to be funny or whether it's intentionally nasty, if the recipient is vulnerable or just having an off day, it has the power to hurt and that, to me, is pretty unkind. I don't feel the need to be mean to anyone. I'm not able to understand the reasons behind it. I just know that there's clearly something wrong with the person who thinks that's it's okay to be horrible to a stranger from the other side of a computer.

For me, it certainly provides much more information than the verification system ever will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Of course some people will

I wouldn't say I've ever got upset but certain people have pissed me off on many occasions

And not always when their comments have been aimed at me

There are certain people who only seem to post when they are ripping apart or being rude

I've seen many quoted posts that have been nasty and straight away I've knows who's wrote it and when I've traced the thread back to the original post that was quoted, yep it's them, that annoys be because I sorry but I can't help thinking, why have you got to be rude all the time "

Again, perhaps it's me. I couldn't much care who says what about me on here. I know not everyone will like me and i don't expect them too. If they choose to be mean that's more a reflection on them so just smile and leave them to their bitterness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

glad i had a lie-in - dont be sad knitter some people are just horrid and its their insecurities usually that makes them act that way - xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Look at society with plastic surgery commonplace amongst women and growing for men, eating disorders and self harm a serious problem, the diet and beauty industries massive, young girls of 5 and 6 thinking they are fat and wanting to diet, models eating paper and taking drugs to keep their weight down to what's expected of them.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not."

What I'm about to say is a huge generalisation but...people with low self esteem tend to look for things that reinforce their low opinion of themselves rather than things that boost them up. I've seen it here and among friends you can tell them 100 times they're slim, good looking or whatever but they will believe the one person who tells them they aren't. While I believe we need to stand up for people, people need to stand up for themselves too. So to an extent I agree with the _iew that unless you're pretty tough you should keep away from places like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread. "

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now "

HUGS... forget the haters

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread. "

I'll see you there!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I'm not the most kind person all of the time on here but I have given out loads of profile advice and been helpful as well. I'm not as Mary Poppinsy as I could be but that's just me. I have a daft sense of humour and I like word play and sometimes the combination loses its meaning in the translation so to speak so what I've written isn't always exactly what I meant. "

This is a big problem. You can write something and it sounds right in your head, but another person can take it differently to how you meant.

Text has no tone to it. Sometimes you can see a thread suddenly spiral out of control from this.

Dry humour is difficult to get across too.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here."

My mercenary moral support can be bought with ice cream.

Tears of your enemies are an additional flake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Look at society with plastic surgery commonplace amongst women and growing for men, eating disorders and self harm a serious problem, the diet and beauty industries massive, young girls of 5 and 6 thinking they are fat and wanting to diet, models eating paper and taking drugs to keep their weight down to what's expected of them.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not."

I really am numb to external influence it seems...

i've always been pretty none caring of what folk say to me or expect of me and just bumbled through life doing my own thing.

Again though...i'm really not the most sensitive of souls.

i was always taught that i would never please everyone so that maybe helped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here.

My mercenary moral support can be bought with ice cream.

Tears of your enemies are an additional flake"

Ah tears of my enemies, that's how I keep my hair all soft and shiny.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

There is a big difference in voicing an opinion and being intentionally cruel and unkind. The lines are often blurred on here. Some sit on the line and dip their toe into the unkind, some just jump in head first.Challenge or report if you feel it's against rules. One shouldn't allow others to affect you on behalf of others upset. As John Niven wrote in his book the second coming.Just be kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As some of you're aware, I like a kiss, fuck, avoid thread. One couple in particular have messaged me directly on numerous occasions saying Avoid and then go on to explain why. I find it quite funny really but I often think why would anyone do that?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here.

My mercenary moral support can be bought with ice cream.

Tears of your enemies are an additional flake"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Look at society with plastic surgery commonplace amongst women and growing for men, eating disorders and self harm a serious problem, the diet and beauty industries massive, young girls of 5 and 6 thinking they are fat and wanting to diet, models eating paper and taking drugs to keep their weight down to what's expected of them.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not.

What I'm about to say is a huge generalisation but...people with low self esteem tend to look for things that reinforce their low opinion of themselves rather than things that boost them up. I've seen it here and among friends you can tell them 100 times they're slim, good looking or whatever but they will believe the one person who tells them they aren't. While I believe we need to stand up for people, people need to stand up for themselves too. So to an extent I agree with the _iew that unless you're pretty tough you should keep away from places like this."

It's not difficult to find things to reinforce negative thoughts though when there are so many "which is better?" threads and threads discussing the perfect whatever.

I mean, the perfect female nipple? Who knew women could have imperfect nipples? Is there nothing at all that women are not suposed to meet some standard on? And it's the same for men to some extent. Height, cock size, cut/uncut, hairy/not hairy.

Everyone has to be assessed and rated and it can't be done quietly when deciding whom to meet. No, it has to be discussed to death here. Every damned day.

I'm not saying we need to blow smoke up each others arses all the time, just stop with the constant comparisons and debating what's best.

It's not necessarily about insecurity either. Sometimes it's from seeing the effects it has on others. Or having been there inthe past and not wanting anyone else to feel that way.

I've seen some truly awful things on here.

On a "Which is best, real or augmented boobs?" thread, (naturally fake was used in place of augmented), I remember a guy expressing that he prefers real by saying, "fake boobs look like two tennis balls thrown against velcro".

There's just no need for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!"

A cute one if that can help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!"

I actually don't think I've ever seen you put anything mean on here

If I'm honest you make me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As some of you're aware, I like a kiss, fuck, avoid thread. One couple in particular have messaged me directly on numerous occasions saying Avoid and then go on to explain why. I find it quite funny really but I often think why would anyone do that?! "

Kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Look at society with plastic surgery commonplace amongst women and growing for men, eating disorders and self harm a serious problem, the diet and beauty industries massive, young girls of 5 and 6 thinking they are fat and wanting to diet, models eating paper and taking drugs to keep their weight down to what's expected of them.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not.

What I'm about to say is a huge generalisation but...people with low self esteem tend to look for things that reinforce their low opinion of themselves rather than things that boost them up. I've seen it here and among friends you can tell them 100 times they're slim, good looking or whatever but they will believe the one person who tells them they aren't. While I believe we need to stand up for people, people need to stand up for themselves too. So to an extent I agree with the _iew that unless you're pretty tough you should keep away from places like this.

It's not difficult to find things to reinforce negative thoughts though when there are so many "which is better?" threads and threads discussing the perfect whatever.

I mean, the perfect female nipple? Who knew women could have imperfect nipples? Is there nothing at all that women are not suposed to meet some standard on? And it's the same for men to some extent. Height, cock size, cut/uncut, hairy/not hairy.

Everyone has to be assessed and rated and it can't be done quietly when deciding whom to meet. No, it has to be discussed to death here. Every damned day.

I'm not saying we need to blow smoke up each others arses all the time, just stop with the constant comparisons and debating what's best.

It's not necessarily about insecurity either. Sometimes it's from seeing the effects it has on others. Or having been there inthe past and not wanting anyone else to feel that way.

I've seen some truly awful things on here.

On a "Which is best, real or augmented boobs?" thread, (naturally fake was used in place of augmented), I remember a guy expressing that he prefers real by saying, "fake boobs look like two tennis balls thrown against velcro".

There's just no need for it. "

How about a participation trophy?

Sorry but lets face it the vast majority of "small talk" conversations are often "which do you think is best". Given the nature of this site that will largley revolve around humans physical appearances or sexual performance.

On a gaming forum xbox/ps4 or pc.

On a pc forum nvidia or amd, Intel or amd.

Car/bike forums fully synthetic or mineral oil. (Holy shit if you think discusions here get mean, personal or heated go ask "which oil is best" on a a petrol head forum.

And so it goes for everything.

Because it is the exchange of knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.

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Totally agree with that one

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I can be a bitch but it's usually in response to people being critical or rude to others, an attempt at humour which didn't come across well or sheer impatience.

I have a dreadful lack of patience.

I don't set out to be mean to anyone unless they are being mean or unfairly judgemental and critical. I am very sarcastic though..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here.

My mercenary moral support can be bought with ice cream.

Tears of your enemies are an additional flake

Ah tears of my enemies, that's how I keep my hair all soft and shiny. "

I'd like to think I don't have enemies - though I'm probably being naive! On the forums I have regular disagreements with a couple of people - Bella Donna for instance - but only people who I know are able to have a reasoned argument without feeling upset or victimised - and if I argue with someone on here it means I feel that they have the intellect to argue back!! I really don't see the point of having a 'forum fight' with someone who can't string a sentence together. It wouldn't be fair on them and I'd feel like a bully! I will say if I disagree with them though!

Btw - have we worked out what thread/comment knitter's post refers to yet? I've had a quick scan and can't see anything out of the ordinary!

Most people are nice Knitter - some aren't and never will be! It's something we just have to accept and learn to live with! You can't prick the conscience of someone who doesn't have one!

Chin up petal!! Xx

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

For the most part I can ignore the petty little rain clouds of doom that frequent the forums, but there are times when I think someone is out of order and I say so.

If someone's mean to me I try to shrug it off but sometimes it is hard. I was bullied as a kid, and a few years ago I had to tolerate 2 years of online bullying. It's hard to rise above it sometimes when some people deserve a smack in the face with a shovel, and you know full well they wouldn't dare speak like that to your face.

What I don't get are those deliberately miserable people, who have nothing nice to say about anyone or anything, but are apparently an expert on everything. They usually cry 'clique!' if more than one person agrees on a point of _iew that differs from theirs, or they comment on every thread just to hear the sound of their own voice, so to speak. It must be very sad and lonely in their world, and I feel sorry for them.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

It's certainly a way to work out who the sociopaths/grunts are.

Well. Mostly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!"

I,m wondering if it's me, I can be quite outspoken but I am just putting across my point of _iew not being mean. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

On a "Which is best, real or augmented boobs?" thread, (naturally fake was used in place of augmented), I remember a guy expressing that he prefers real by saying, "fake boobs look like two tennis balls thrown against velcro".

There's just no need for it. "

Ahhh, Dee don't bring up that thread, I get ashamed, that's the one I said the you know what comment.


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

A cute one if that can help "

Thank you very much, I like cute!


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

I actually don't think I've ever seen you put anything mean on here

If I'm honest you make me laugh "

Yeah mean is the wrong word, just honest I suppose.

Oh and look at me with the multi quotes, I'm on my laptop for a change!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"For the most part I can ignore the petty little rain clouds of doom that frequent the forums, but there are times when I think someone is out of order and I say so.

If someone's mean to me I try to shrug it off but sometimes it is hard. I was bullied as a kid, and a few years ago I had to tolerate 2 years of online bullying. It's hard to rise above it sometimes when some people deserve a smack in the face with a shovel, and you know full well they wouldn't dare speak like that to your face.

What I don't get are those deliberately miserable people, who have nothing nice to say about anyone or anything, but are apparently an expert on everything. They usually cry 'clique!' if more than one person agrees on a point of _iew that differs from theirs, or they comment on every thread just to hear the sound of their own voice, so to speak. It must be very sad and lonely in their world, and I feel sorry for them. "

Agree.

I'm told I'm nicer, calmer and more friendly in person. That's because people usually don't say some of the shit they say on here in person. If they did, my response would be the same as it is here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

On a "Which is best, real or augmented boobs?" thread, (naturally fake was used in place of augmented), I remember a guy expressing that he prefers real by saying, "fake boobs look like two tennis balls thrown against velcro".

There's just no need for it.

Ahhh, Dee don't bring up that thread, I get ashamed, that's the one I said the you know what comment.

Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

A cute one if that can help

Thank you very much, I like cute!

Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

I actually don't think I've ever seen you put anything mean on here

If I'm honest you make me laugh

Yeah mean is the wrong word, just honest I suppose.

Oh and look at me with the multi quotes, I'm on my laptop for a change!"

Bloody hell how did you do that ???

Gathered all the posts quotes in on post ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

I,m wondering if it's me, I can be quite outspoken but I am just putting across my point of _iew not being mean. X"

Hahaha I bet everyone thought that abt themseleves lol

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Have a hug xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.

"

If that's the case then it's awful! Bullying is horrible and shouldn't be tolerated anywhere! Fab is supposed to be our escape from the real world - and to me that means an escape from the 'slings and arrows' of the real world as well as the freedom to admit I like sex with people I don't love!! We should all think before we type!! Xx

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Ahhh, Dee don't bring up that thread, I get ashamed, that's the one I said the you know what comment."

Sorry, it was just something I found particularly vile and it sticks in my memory.

I don't even have augmented boobs but it's just so nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.

If that's the case then it's awful! Bullying is horrible and shouldn't be tolerated anywhere! Fab is supposed to be our escape from the real world - and to me that means an escape from the 'slings and arrows' of the real world as well as the freedom to admit I like sex with people I don't love!! We should all think before we type!! Xx"

Make a single male account peach then post roughly the same thing from your ladies account and the guys account

Watch the very very differnt replies you get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

I,m wondering if it's me, I can be quite outspoken but I am just putting across my point of _iew not being mean. X

Hahaha I bet everyone thought that abt themseleves lol "

I didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

I,m wondering if it's me, I can be quite outspoken but I am just putting across my point of _iew not being mean. X

Hahaha I bet everyone thought that abt themseleves lol

I didn't "

Oh I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP. "

Boom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP. "

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.

If that's the case then it's awful! Bullying is horrible and shouldn't be tolerated anywhere! Fab is supposed to be our escape from the real world - and to me that means an escape from the 'slings and arrows' of the real world as well as the freedom to admit I like sex with people I don't love!! We should all think before we type!! Xx"

If that does go on I would put myself forward to be abused by people and have negativity directed at me, any nasty pm's off people, direct them to me.

I'm not gonna lie, I do enjoy arguing and not just on here but in the real world too even have to get friends to order food for me cos I'm banned from entering some of my local takeaways and don't get me started on people driving too close behind me.

I'd rather someone say "you scare me" rather than them say oh you're beautiful or sexy, yeah off you fuck mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to grasp what's going on but I've obviously missed something.

I know I'm new here, and lots of people are. But the fact is, bullying isn't new. And just like a school playground there are people who try to bully, but there are more good people around that won't let it happen. .

Especially on here, where most of the good people are 6ft plus, and work out! And they enjoy looking after pretty ladies. or protecting the nerds so the pretty ladies like them even more.

Ignore them. They will go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.

If that's the case then it's awful! Bullying is horrible and shouldn't be tolerated anywhere! Fab is supposed to be our escape from the real world - and to me that means an escape from the 'slings and arrows' of the real world as well as the freedom to admit I like sex with people I don't love!! We should all think before we type!! Xx

If that does go on I would put myself forward to be abused by people and have negativity directed at me, any nasty pm's off people, direct them to me.

I'm not gonna lie, I do enjoy arguing and not just on here but in the real world too even have to get friends to order food for me cos I'm banned from entering some of my local takeaways and don't get me started on people driving too close behind me.

I'd rather someone say "you scare me" rather than them say oh you're beautiful or sexy, yeah off you fuck mate."

You just made me laugh! We're polar opposites - but I'd really love a night out with you! I'd be wearing armour plating though!

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

I'm nice to people, people are nice to me. I don't think anyone has ever deliberately offended me and vice versa.

I've witnessed that old adage "what goes around comes around" on the forums in many ways, good and bad, and where it's negative I've seen people give as good as they get (and then take offence).

I personally don't give time to out right abuse, nastiness or negativity on Fab, it's not real life and words on a screen can easily be taken out of context.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Sorry Knitter now I have you as an image of Bonnie Langford.I will scream and scream until I make myself sick. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even on forums, nothing wrong with showing a little compassion.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid."

I'm not sure that's true. I'm almost certain that comedians in general are hiding a pile of insecurities and issues that you'd never expect. Don't let a stage presence fool you into thinking they don't have insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

I'm not sure that's true. I'm almost certain that comedians in general are hiding a pile of insecurities and issues that you'd never expect. Don't let a stage presence fool you into thinking they don't have insecurities. "

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid."

They might not come across as insecure, but that's the whole idea! It's easy to make yourself feel bigger by belittling other people.

I like those comics but I don't know about there inner securities.

I guess most timid people are insecure, but the big mouths, especially online ones, will be people bigging themselves up.

MrB

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

In life we come across these people all the time...

The Audi driver that flashes you continually to get outta his way then gives a rude hand gesture or shouts abuse outta the window as he passes...

The person in a shop or restaurant that is not getting the level of service they expect so loudly, verbally abuses the poor member of staff, usually belittling their position..

The arsehole on a packed train or bus that has their bag on a seat and refuses to move it when asked politely...

Yep, you know them..

Commonly referred to as tossers, this type of inbred primate never evolved and was unable to grasp the socal skills that decent people attained...

Usually found congregating in pubs and Indian restaurants, the only way they have found to communicate with their evolved counterparts is by use of expletives shouted loudly and belching..

These poor creatures can be identified by their call which sounds a lot like "Oihyafuckingcunt" and poor coordination whilst navigating to the nearest kebab establishment.

Fortunately, evolution has proven that such dim witted creatures will not survive and are sometimes found as road kill with their Audis parked in trees or hugging lamp posts..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for

Agreed. It's something most people tend to forget when they start to attack / take the piss out of the newbie single males who dare to post on here too. Respect for all would be spiffing x

It's horrible to see a newbie say the 'wrong' thing and be shredded by a pack of keyboard wolves. Surely much better to spend that message saying something helpful / educational?"

Except the ones that moan the worst about mean people are usually the ones that jump on newbies etc like a pack of wolves!!

(I don't mean you OP.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something. "

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In life we come across these people all the time...

The Audi driver that flashes you continually to get outta his way then gives a rude hand gesture or shouts abuse outta the window as he passes...

The person in a shop or restaurant that is not getting the level of service they expect so loudly, verbally abuses the poor member of staff, usually belittling their position..

The arsehole on a packed train or bus that has their bag on a seat and refuses to move it when asked politely...

Yep, you know them..

Commonly referred to as tossers, this type of inbred primate never evolved and was unable to grasp the socal skills that decent people attained...

Usually found congregating in pubs and Indian restaurants, the only way they have found to communicate with their evolved counterparts is by use of expletives shouted loudly and belching..

These poor creatures can be identified by their call which sounds a lot like "Oihyafuckingcunt" and poor coordination whilst navigating to the nearest kebab establishment.

Fortunately, evolution has proven that such dim witted creatures will not survive and are sometimes found as road kill with their Audis parked in trees or hugging lamp posts.. "

Ha ha ha this really made me laugh mostly because I drive and Audi, only eat kebabs and Indian food and swear like an Navi with road rage

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better "

I don't message men. He might think I want to touch his hoo-har or some thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better

I don't message men. He might think I want to touch his hoo-har or some thing "

Haaa ok now I know what you wanted to do to me haha

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better

I don't message men. He might think I want to touch his hoo-har or some thing

Haaa ok now I know what you wanted to do to me haha "

Only with my thumb, mr pervo

Oh fuck! It's a be nice thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better

I don't message men. He might think I want to touch his hoo-har or some thing

Haaa ok now I know what you wanted to do to me haha

Only with my thumb, mr pervo

Oh fuck! It's a be nice thread "

Steve I can see your wonker

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

The people who bully and crash through peoples feelings and opinions should remember the little green arrow.

If they hope to swing with others, do they think that people want to invite someone who has scant regard for others thoughts and feelings into a meet ?

We wouldn't, I imagine others would feel the same.

Keep it fun xx

MrB

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"There is a big difference in voicing an opinion and being intentionally cruel and unkind. The lines are often blurred on here. Some sit on the line and dip their toe into the unkind, some just jump in head first.Challenge or report if you feel it's against rules. One shouldn't allow others to affect you on behalf of others upset. As John Niven wrote in his book the second coming.Just be kind."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better

I don't message men. He might think I want to touch his hoo-har or some thing

Haaa ok now I know what you wanted to do to me haha

Only with my thumb, mr pervo

Oh fuck! It's a be nice thread

Steve I can see your wonker "

It's for another thread. I think I killed the thread when "da beast" appeared

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better

I don't message men. He might think I want to touch his hoo-har or some thing

Haaa ok now I know what you wanted to do to me haha

Only with my thumb, mr pervo

Oh fuck! It's a be nice thread

Steve I can see your wonker

It's for another thread. I think I killed the thread when "da beast" appeared "

Is that how you introduce him

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

Why not message him instead, he'd probably appreciate that and you might feel better

I don't message men. He might think I want to touch his hoo-har or some thing

Haaa ok now I know what you wanted to do to me haha

Only with my thumb, mr pervo

Oh fuck! It's a be nice thread

Steve I can see your wonker

It's for another thread. I think I killed the thread when "da beast" appeared

Is that how you introduce him "

Yeah, and then people look all around, then look at me with a confused look, put their glasses on, have a peer in and then say 'oh'

I've changed it to this one. This one is called 'Bite my cushions'

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid."

No I disagree, that is just one way of reacting to insecurity, there are plenty who over-compensate, after all, the root of arrogant narcissism is self-loathing.

I would go further and say the more aggressive and mean the behaviour the more damaged the person - some of the most fucked up people on fabs are on this forum lol!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

No I disagree, that is just one way of reacting to insecurity, there are plenty who over-compensate, after all, the root of arrogant narcissism is self-loathing.

I would go further and say the more aggressive and mean the behaviour the more damaged the person - some of the most fucked up people on fabs are on this forum lol!! "

I really am getting paranoid

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't own someone else's reaction. I own my behaviour and don't go out to offend.

If someone is offended, not my issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pic of my arsehole is back up now. If you don't like it you don't have to look or comment on it. Xxx

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

No I disagree, that is just one way of reacting to insecurity, there are plenty who over-compensate, after all, the root of arrogant narcissism is self-loathing.

I would go further and say the more aggressive and mean the behaviour the more damaged the person - some of the most fucked up people on fabs are on this forum lol!!

I really am getting paranoid "

QED

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other "

Oh don't you dare start me knitter! It's a fuck feast on many of them of them and they get away with it while others you have to reread a dozen times to see what happened. I'm glad you posted this ...the more it's raised a the more people see that others don't think it's funny the better. Thanks...cwtsh.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I don't own someone else's reaction. I own my behaviour and don't go out to offend.

If someone is offended, not my issue. "

Very true, but the 'don't go out to offend' is the crucial bit.

People take offence too easily on here, and people write with intent to offend too often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

No I disagree, that is just one way of reacting to insecurity, there are plenty who over-compensate, after all, the root of arrogant narcissism is self-loathing.

I would go further and say the more aggressive and mean the behaviour the more damaged the person - some of the most fucked up people on fabs are on this forum lol!! "

It's a good place to find out what people are like.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

What's gone on here then?!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

No I disagree, that is just one way of reacting to insecurity, there are plenty who over-compensate, after all, the root of arrogant narcissism is self-loathing.

I would go further and say the more aggressive and mean the behaviour the more damaged the person - some of the most fucked up people on fabs are on this forum lol!!

It's a good place to find out what people are like."

It would certainly be a good place to research a psyche thesis lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, the thoughtless threads are just as bad, or the ones where someone is trying to be nice to one person and ends up insulting a group of others.

For example, posting on a pro-BBW thread to compliment large women and saying they don't like bags of bones.

A lot just don't think or don't realise what they're saying.

It really wears me down how much people are compared and pigeon holed on here and how much we hear about what's perfect/imperfect in terms of looks.

Most of the things deemed inadequate or imperfect aren't things people can change. It's what they got in the genetic lottery."

Agree with this. Ive had some hurtful things said to me simply because I lack hair and wear specs. It's not as if im even unique in that respect, there's plenty of pics on here of fems getting it on with bald men, yet it seems to count against some. Very odd indeed.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"What's gone on here then?!"

The world (aka forum) has been put to rights

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I don't own someone else's reaction. I own my behaviour and don't go out to offend.

If someone is offended, not my issue.

Very true, but the 'don't go out to offend' is the crucial bit.

People take offence too easily on here, and people write with intent to offend too often."

I agree but the level of self awareness is sadly lacking and the people who protest at times, some do exactly what they happy clap on these types of threads.

It ain't going to change as the regulars evolve and change behaviour, sadly forgetting what it was like to be new, inexperienced on forums, not as clever in word smithing an answer and they will be at the mercy of the more articulate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's gone on here then?!"

Good question.. im only guessing its nastiness going on somewhere.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"What's gone on here then?!

The world (aka forum) has been put to rights "

Good,anyone being nasty will be squished well and truly! Yes I know this is nasty,but...

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"What's gone on here then?!

Good question.. im only guessing its nastiness going on somewhere."

That's because there's some sad little soul's around

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

No I disagree, that is just one way of reacting to insecurity, there are plenty who over-compensate, after all, the root of arrogant narcissism is self-loathing.

I would go further and say the more aggressive and mean the behaviour the more damaged the person - some of the most fucked up people on fabs are on this forum lol!!

It's a good place to find out what people are like."
x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm not generally a fan of people who 'say it like it is', which is usually a cover-all for wanting to, or to readily upset others, when they spout stuff that is reasonably likely to hurt others.

We all have the potential to load the straw that breaks the camel's back, dealing the fatal blow to someone's well being or life. If you lack empathy, take some steps to learn how to communicate in a less destructive way and increase your motivation to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are mean and bitchy are often the most insecure. It's blindingly obvious. Rise above, OP.

Jimmy carr and frankie boyle dont quote xome across as insecure.

Nor the vast majority of mean people.

I know its a fun little thing to say.

just like when people go "homophobic people are actually just repressing thier own homosexual urges".

But it's tripe, the most insecure tend to be quiet and reasonably timid.

No I disagree, that is just one way of reacting to insecurity, there are plenty who over-compensate, after all, the root of arrogant narcissism is self-loathing.

I would go further and say the more aggressive and mean the behaviour the more damaged the person - some of the most fucked up people on fabs are on this forum lol!!

It's a good place to find out what people are like. x"

follow the green arrow and things can often be revealed...We all make mistakes or say something out of character at times...but the general gist of character can be seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not generally a fan of people who 'say it like it is', which is usually a cover-all for wanting to, or to readily upset others, when they spout stuff that is reasonably likely to hurt others.

We all have the potential to load the straw that breaks the camel's back, dealing the fatal blow to someone's well being or life. If you lack empathy, take some steps to learn how to communicate in a less destructive way and increase your motivation to do so."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keyboard bullies...it'll come back to bite them

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm not generally a fan of people who 'say it like it is', which is usually a cover-all for wanting to, or to readily upset others, when they spout stuff that is reasonably likely to hurt others.

We all have the potential to load the straw that breaks the camel's back, dealing the fatal blow to someone's well being or life. If you lack empathy, take some steps to learn how to communicate in a less destructive way and increase your motivation to do so."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't own someone else's reaction. I own my behaviour and don't go out to offend.

If someone is offended, not my issue.

Very true, but the 'don't go out to offend' is the crucial bit.

People take offence too easily on here, and people write with intent to offend too often.

I agree but the level of self awareness is sadly lacking and the people who protest at times, some do exactly what they happy clap on these types of threads.

It ain't going to change as the regulars evolve and change behaviour, sadly forgetting what it was like to be new, inexperienced on forums, not as clever in word smithing an answer and they will be at the mercy of the more articulate

"

I often see your posts as the voice of reason on threads.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I don't own someone else's reaction. I own my behaviour and don't go out to offend.

If someone is offended, not my issue.

Very true, but the 'don't go out to offend' is the crucial bit.

People take offence too easily on here, and people write with intent to offend too often.

I agree but the level of self awareness is sadly lacking and the people who protest at times, some do exactly what they happy clap on these types of threads.

It ain't going to change as the regulars evolve and change behaviour, sadly forgetting what it was like to be new, inexperienced on forums, not as clever in word smithing an answer and they will be at the mercy of the more articulate

I often see your posts as the voice of reason on threads."
thank you very much

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I'm not generally a fan of people who 'say it like it is', which is usually a cover-all for wanting to, or to readily upset others, when they spout stuff that is reasonably likely to hurt others.

We all have the potential to load the straw that breaks the camel's back, dealing the fatal blow to someone's well being or life. If you lack empathy, take some steps to learn how to communicate in a less destructive way and increase your motivation to do so."

That's a very fair post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not generally a fan of people who 'say it like it is', which is usually a cover-all for wanting to, or to readily upset others, when they spout stuff that is reasonably likely to hurt others.

We all have the potential to load the straw that breaks the camel's back, dealing the fatal blow to someone's well being or life. If you lack empathy, take some steps to learn how to communicate in a less destructive way and increase your motivation to do so."

Hopefully they will take your advice and see its rewarding to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not generally a fan of people who 'say it like it is', which is usually a cover-all for wanting to, or to readily upset others, when they spout stuff that is reasonably likely to hurt others.

We all have the potential to load the straw that breaks the camel's back, dealing the fatal blow to someone's well being or life. If you lack empathy, take some steps to learn how to communicate in a less destructive way and increase your motivation to do so.

That's a very fair post "

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Illetigitimis non carborundum.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I don't own someone else's reaction. I own my behaviour and don't go out to offend.

If someone is offended, not my issue.

Very true, but the 'don't go out to offend' is the crucial bit.

People take offence too easily on here, and people write with intent to offend too often.

I agree but the level of self awareness is sadly lacking and the people who protest at times, some do exactly what they happy clap on these types of threads.

It ain't going to change as the regulars evolve and change behaviour, sadly forgetting what it was like to be new, inexperienced on forums, not as clever in word smithing an answer and they will be at the mercy of the more articulate

I often see your posts as the voice of reason on threads."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By all means have an opinion but dont attack someone personally especially if you know nothing about them - those are the rules i tend to follow

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not generally a fan of people who 'say it like it is', which is usually a cover-all for wanting to, or to readily upset others, when they spout stuff that is reasonably likely to hurt others.

We all have the potential to load the straw that breaks the camel's back, dealing the fatal blow to someone's well being or life. If you lack empathy, take some steps to learn how to communicate in a less destructive way and increase your motivation to do so."

Maybe how i should have said it

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"By all means have an opinion but dont attack someone personally especially if you know nothing about them - those are the rules i tend to follow "

Unfortunately some people see someone putting, strongly, an opinion that differs from theirs as a personal attack and abusive, even when it's neither personal nor abusive.

Some cannot take anyone disagreeing with them. It often turns to "if you disagree, you don't have to read it, just pass by". If that happened we'd have threads of nothing but people agreeing with each other, with no discussion or debate. It'd be boring as hell.

People shouldn't be personally attacked for posting, (although if they start of by being negative, rude, judgemental and/or insulting they are less likely to get a positive response), but nor should they expect nobody will disagree with them, or that nobody should.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

Some people get off pissing others off.

That's why I don't get involved in any serious threads. I'm not thick. I just can be doing with arguing.

On the other hand. Fancy a fuck knitter?

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people get off pissing others off.

That's why I don't get involved in any serious threads. I'm not thick. I just can be doing with arguing.

On the other hand. Fancy a fuck knitter?

MrsSB "

**grabs car keys and bolts for the car**

On my way sexy lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Late to the party, looks like I missed something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pic is back in hot pics. Fab it IF you like it. xxx

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"Some people get off pissing others off.

That's why I don't get involved in any serious threads. I'm not thick. I just can be doing with arguing.

On the other hand. Fancy a fuck knitter?

MrsSB

**grabs car keys and bolts for the car**

On my way sexy lady "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now "

Totally agree, it's a shame some people feel the need to post a negative comment, attack the OP fa thread, or cast judgement when it's not asked for, rather than simply posting a comment in context with the thread or simply not posting at all.

Some post opinion when it's not asked for our even warranted

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I like to debate things, and argue, but contrary to popular belief, I don't argue for the sake of it. I disagree when I actually disagree.

There are just a lot of people/opinions on here I disagree with!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to debate things, and argue, but contrary to popular belief, I don't argue for the sake of it. I disagree when I actually disagree.

There are just a lot of people/opinions on here I disagree with!"

Im not talking about debate. Its when people are intentionally cruel.

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.

If that's the case then it's awful! Bullying is horrible and shouldn't be tolerated anywhere! Fab is supposed to be our escape from the real world - and to me that means an escape from the 'slings and arrows' of the real world as well as the freedom to admit I like sex with people I don't love!! We should all think before we type!! Xx

Make a single male account peach then post roughly the same thing from your ladies account and the guys account

Watch the very very differnt replies you get.

"
Just a small point but I feel we should discourage the creation of fake accounts even in the interest of social experiment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to debate things, and argue, but contrary to popular belief, I don't argue for the sake of it. I disagree when I actually disagree.

There are just a lot of people/opinions on here I disagree with!

Im not talking about debate. Its when people are intentionally cruel."

I'll probably get shot down in pieces for this comment ~ but I do feel sometimes people open themselves for a bashing.

For example I wouldn't start a thread asking for Fabs or do you like my boobs as I know people would express the good, the bad & the ugly!

I can't control this element of a public forum so I wouldn't go there.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I like to debate things, and argue, but contrary to popular belief, I don't argue for the sake of it. I disagree when I actually disagree.

There are just a lot of people/opinions on here I disagree with!

Im not talking about debate. Its when people are intentionally cruel.

I'll probably get shot down in pieces for this comment ~ but I do feel sometimes people open themselves for a bashing.

For example I wouldn't start a thread asking for Fabs or do you like my boobs as I know people would express the good, the bad & the ugly!

I can't control this element of a public forum so I wouldn't go there.

"

I've started threads asking for fabs for some of the male forumites when they've been in top pics. I think they get a raw deal in terms of appreciation of their pics sometimes.

I wouldn't ask for myself though because I think it's needy and a bit daft. Oh, except for some joke posts when one of my pics was close to 1000 fabs.

I don't understand why some people care so much about fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to debate things, and argue, but contrary to popular belief, I don't argue for the sake of it. I disagree when I actually disagree.

There are just a lot of people/opinions on here I disagree with!

Im not talking about debate. Its when people are intentionally cruel.

I'll probably get shot down in pieces for this comment ~ but I do feel sometimes people open themselves for a bashing.

For example I wouldn't start a thread asking for Fabs or do you like my boobs as I know people would express the good, the bad & the ugly!

I can't control this element of a public forum so I wouldn't go there.

"

With splinters in my arse I'm going to do my 'thing' of sitting on the fence here and agree with both _iewpoints

People being intentionally nasty or spiteful is a right c**tish thing to do and it's totally unnecessary. They do it as they know (or hope) to provoke a reaction or upset people.

However - everyone KNOWS what people can be like on Internet forums so it's not going to be a surprise when people do react that way.

Therefore if you open yourself and make yourself an easy target, those c**tish people are going to, unfortunately, take a shot!

Take care people and protect yourselves from the flak wherever possible if the incoming is likely to hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to debate things, and argue, but contrary to popular belief, I don't argue for the sake of it. I disagree when I actually disagree.

There are just a lot of people/opinions on here I disagree with!

Im not talking about debate. Its when people are intentionally cruel.

I'll probably get shot down in pieces for this comment ~ but I do feel sometimes people open themselves for a bashing.

For example I wouldn't start a thread asking for Fabs or do you like my boobs as I know people would express the good, the bad & the ugly!

I can't control this element of a public forum so I wouldn't go there.

With splinters in my arse I'm going to do my 'thing' of sitting on the fence here and agree with both _iewpoints

People being intentionally nasty or spiteful is a right c**tish thing to do and it's totally unnecessary. They do it as they know (or hope) to provoke a reaction or upset people.

However - everyone KNOWS what people can be like on Internet forums so it's not going to be a surprise when people do react that way.

Therefore if you open yourself and make yourself an easy target, those c**tish people are going to, unfortunately, take a shot!

Take care people and protect yourselves from the flak wherever possible if the incoming is likely to hurt "

Said better than I could, thanks Dan x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i have been on much harsher forums than this..i am not a malicious person however, i am not good at shutting up, when it comes to people being bullied( from my perspective) and i occasionally have a mood on me that wants to pick at bullying righteous types of people and pull them apart, so they know what it feels like...mostly i avoid that which would get me going...but round a full moon....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just feel I show say that although this thread is about me. The thread in question that turned nasty towards me was NOT started by me but by someone who wanted to get in my knickers. They started a thread without my knowledge to get my new pic on to pg1. The thread was already nasty towards me by a regular forum member before I even new it was up. I got it removed but by then I was alrwady being made to look like a "laughting stock". Hence my removal of the pic.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I just feel I show say that although this thread is about me. The thread in question that turned nasty towards me was NOT started by me but by someone who wanted to get in my knickers. They started a thread without my knowledge to get my new pic on to pg1. The thread was already nasty towards me by a regular forum member before I even new it was up. I got it removed but by then I was alrwady being made to look like a "laughting stock". Hence my removal of the pic. "

Never saw it, nor would I likely have posted on it.

You often see threads put up by others, usually 'has so and so left' and they turn nasty.

I avoid all type of love in threads and let me be clear that I am not against them as others righty enjoy them... Bitterness and jealousy exist, it's not nice being on the receiving end of it but the second you allow it to impact you, they win.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I hadn't noticed anything untoward in the forums today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hadn't noticed anything untoward in the forums today. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for contributing Everyone.

Knitter

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

You can make me scream all you want, OP

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

(don't ya just love me when I do that?)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

**laughs wickedly**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I have noticed since my very first day here is some people jump on someone because their comments have hit a nerve. They then write a sarcastic,scathing retort (one that is cleverly worded so they don't get a ban) and sit back,waiting for the ensuing argument. The OP fights back and the throwing your dummy out of the pram remarks start rolling in. New male profiles often get jumped on and called misogynistic because they haven't realised you can't say anything sexual on the forums because women take offence.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Or two.

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