FabSwingers.com forum: Lonely

By *each_Pitt OP Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I have literally nobody in my life. Not a friend, not a lover. No-one.

I'm feeling quite upset about it.

I don't know how to fix it. I actually think it must be me.

Is there anyone whose been in a similar situation? How can I help myself? Any advice would be welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have people you know at work? Neighbours? Someone you see every day by the shops that you always smile at? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe get a puppy? They can be hard work but are loyal companions

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I have literally nobody in my life. Not a friend, not a lover. No-one.

I'm feeling quite upset about it.

I don't know how to fix it. I actually think it must be me.

Is there anyone whose been in a similar situation? How can I help myself? Any advice would be welcome."

I sympathise. Try an art class or painting club.

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By *each_Pitt OP Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Just started a new job and they are mostly a good bit younger than me. I suppose there's potential there given a bit of time.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

"Just started a new job and they are mostly a good bit younger than me. I suppose there's potential there given a bit of time."

I was kind of in the same situ and signed up for dancing classes. Having a great time

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By *each_Pitt OP Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Maybe get a puppy? They can be hard work but are loyal companions

I would LOVE a dog but working full time and living alone it wouldn't be fair. Brill idea but no go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just started a new job and they are mostly a good bit younger than me. I suppose there's potential there given a bit of time."

Do you have a hobby or something you have wanted to try, maybe joint a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean. When I first moved here I had no one - everyone I knew was in the US and all the people I work with are much older than me.

Try meetup. They have some fun groups and it's a great way to meet new people. Give it time and you'll build friendships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not download the meetup app & see if there are any groups in your area? Mrs has used it & ive got it for work trips to London. You can go along & do all sorts with like minded people from board games to meals out to shows to arts & crafts.

It's not just you! *hug*

mr j

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I have literally nobody in my life. Not a friend, not a lover. No-one.

I'm feeling quite upset about it.

I don't know how to fix it. I actually think it must be me.

Is there anyone whose been in a similar situation? How can I help myself? Any advice would be welcome."

I've moved about a bit and started over a few times. It gets more difficult as you get older to make friends doesn't it. Like others have said... Hobbies, classes, gym membership, even try arranging a social with someone from here local to you? I used to find that once I was in the right frame of mind and open to meeting new people... You find one person and then others just seem to arrive into your life.

Then you remember you quite liked the solitude and get rid of them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

firstly learn to love your personal space.. I love the peace i get on rare moments of solitude..

as already been suggested find groups.. even if its just coffee mornings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't give any more advice as i would just be repeating what everyone else has said but I'm sending *cuddles* to you, things will get better xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just started a new job and they are mostly a good bit younger than me. I suppose there's potential there given a bit of time."

Try a website that helps people to a city that has social events you can go to and meet new friends. I can not put it up here as think that is against forum rules. Try putting in City and then Social in google. It will help x

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Yes meet up is good too. I have been out several times with a local group. Great bunch of like-minded people

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's tough being at the top of a pyramid, as it's isolated. The more unique you may be, the fewer other people may seem like you.

It's not a mark of anything negative. Just take it as a sign, as you are, that potential opportunity may await.

Start small and take some steps, any steps, that may give you a different experience. You're used to some isolation, so might resist an overload of social action.

Your situation may have become more pronounced as others have coupled up or you've matured into the person that you are today.

Engage often with others, to set some new balls rolling. Habits will become stronger, as you oil your social gears. Speak with anyone about anything - perhaps some limits!

Pursue your major interests socially - sharing these is a good connector. Think of some voluntary work you could do - I've volunteered since I was at school and met some great people, including new friends.

Or explore a new hobby/interest that appeals. Learning is a good leveller and bringer together. Autumn class timetables are probably out now, so check those too.

There are a lot of social activity groups that people join into for friendship and satisfying things to do.

Take it one fairly small step at a time, so that you can track progress and not be overwhelmed.

If old friends are potentially good to reconnect with, create a. List and work through it - but they may represent you as you were.

Fab has socials,so enlist - a good honest base, where you can probably be more yourself.

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