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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many people have cancelled a meet because they had what they thought was a better offer and they get let down ? Or had a meet cancel them (this has happened to me) and then the other meet doesnt show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this happen to me. It sucks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know enough about fab to know that the grass is never greener on the other side!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a meet to cancel

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've had people hedge their bets. Because we only meet socially first time some people will hang on to see if a play meet comes up before confirming, it's fair enough they owe us nothing and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's a shit way to treat people and I'd never make definite arrangements to meet someone then let them down. Some people do though. Unfortunately .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

This is something we'd never do and yes, we've been in the situation to do this. If we arrange to meet then we meet regardless of what other offers become available, always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me, too, it sucks, but that's Fab

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've had it done to me, especially when I've made it clear that the first meet is just to decide if we definitely both want to play.

The irony being that if I say I'll meet for coffee I'm there. I've had guys message me apologising profusely after their sure thing meet let them down or didn't match the pictures.

The other irony is that if we're just meeting for coffee we can meet for twenty minutes, decide if we want to make plans and then they can trot off to their sure thing and I won't be offended! Oddly they never seem to work that one out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goodness yes, had it done to me on more than one occasion. It sucks as my time is very limited so when I meet I need guaranteed show ups. Thankfully the men I do meet haven't let me down yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!"

Get all five over and get them all to fuck you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a guy did it to me and it felt shite. When his better offer let him down he messaged me late that night asking to go meet him told him to fuck right off

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

No I haven't and I'd be pretty naffed of if someone did it to me

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I havent as i think its not good form,i had a man cancel me when i had a single profile.He said it was childcare issues,but he had a new verification next day.Miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the feeling this has happened to me..because I want a social first..it seemed to me they were waiting on a play offer and changed their story to me..I won't give a second chance.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!"

Stagger the times of the meets. So if you get let down you have options then if you don't you can send messages apologising and offering a raincheck. This only works if noone is travelling too far and if you've given them maybe an hours notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!

Get all five over and get them all to fuck you "

Behave woman! Although the idea of having 5 guys on all 4's in a line with bum holes ready to be licked, that would be quite good!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Provided a meet cancels early enough don't care why. Never had a meet not show up and we would never dream of cancelling on the off chance that another meet would be better. We have in the past turned down offers as we were already meeting then afterwards slightly regretted it but that is for a different thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had that happen with a regular partner. It happens. I've had to choose between a few men on more than one occasion. For me the choice is not who is more attractive but who will give me what I want at that particular time,or how convenient they are if I don't have much travelling time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't cancel on someone because a better offer was on the table. For me the person I'm arranging to meet is the best offer.

I'd be well pissed off if someone cancelled on me for that reason, they wouldn't get another chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, we've been cancelled on because the dude's grandfather was in the hospital...only to see a verification from a hot single woman the next day. Maybe was better at comforting him than we would have been

It used to bother me. But now I realize that fab is shitty like that on occasion. People are shitty on occasion. We just always have a Plan B now.

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By *am-RaiderMan
over a year ago

Corby


"Yes a guy did it to me and it felt shite. When his better offer let him down he messaged me late that night asking to go meet him told him to fuck right off "

He got a better offer than you?

No way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one arranged to meet me then found out the day before he'd arranged to meet my friend at the same time. None too bright cos he got to meet neither, but he sure as hell saw what he was missing out on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've had it done to me, especially when I've made it clear that the first meet is just to decide if we definitely both want to play.

The irony being that if I say I'll meet for coffee I'm there. I've had guys message me apologising profusely after their sure thing meet let them down or didn't match the pictures.

The other irony is that if we're just meeting for coffee we can meet for twenty minutes, decide if we want to make plans and then they can trot off to their sure thing and I won't be offended! Oddly they never seem to work that one out "

very, very few people truly understand or want nsa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes being a single parent I know what you mean there.

I think that their is nothing more annoying than When you get time to play and people say that they want to meet and then don't turn up

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By *am-RaiderMan
over a year ago

Corby


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!

Get all five over and get them all to fuck you

Behave woman! Although the idea of having 5 guys on all 4's in a line with bum holes ready to be licked, that would be quite good!"

Does a man have to meet with your rigourous dimension checks in order to benefit from your tongue on his ring?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!"

gang bang.

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a guy did it to me and it felt shite. When his better offer let him down he messaged me late that night asking to go meet him told him to fuck right off

He got a better offer than you?

No way!

"

Yes can you believe it! He made out our meet wasn't definite but it was. He ended up alone in hotel room anyhow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I could handle the excitement of arranging multiple meets.

Plus, having 5 conversations at once would be far too confusing. Prefer to focus my attention in one place, and, if it didn't come off then, there's always hand cream and a tissue

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Happens to me all the time. In a way I am thankful as I wouldn't want to meet the sort of guy who would do that.

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!"

If they all turn up, you're in for a good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!

Get all five over and get them all to fuck you

Behave woman! Although the idea of having 5 guys on all 4's in a line with bum holes ready to be licked, that would be quite good!"

Lmao !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy i had met lots text me to cancel our weekend as i was driving the 70 miles to his house.

He actually told me it was because another fem had asked him to go to a party with her.

It wasn't a nice feeling

He them had the cheek a few weeks later to ask me to meet him again ... i said no obviously lol. In fact he still asks me to meet him !!!

He complains that he doesn't get many meets ... not suprising if he treats them the same as he treated me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a guy did it to me and it felt shite. When his better offer let him down he messaged me late that night asking to go meet him told him to fuck right off "

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I've had it done to me, especially when I've made it clear that the first meet is just to decide if we definitely both want to play.

The irony being that if I say I'll meet for coffee I'm there. I've had guys message me apologising profusely after their sure thing meet let them down or didn't match the pictures.

The other irony is that if we're just meeting for coffee we can meet for twenty minutes, decide if we want to make plans and then they can trot off to their sure thing and I won't be offended! Oddly they never seem to work that one out

very, very few people truly understand or want nsa."

Very true.

I wouldn't even be that miffed if they gave me plenty of notice and asked to reschedule, but they either disappear or no show then come whining back after they've been let down by their sure thing (21 yr old with model like pics who wanted full description of what was going to happen and wanted them to come round right now... ) and then get stroppy when I'm not prepared to give them a second chance.

I can generally spot them though, they often 'just ask' me whether there will be sex straight away, "so might we go to a hotel or to yours after?" which they will ask a few times. Ask once and they're just asking, ask repeatedly and they're trying to decide whether to meet established profile with multiple veris for coffee and hopefully a promise or to meet new hot too good to be true unverified profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never had a meet to cancel "
ah

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes a guy did it to me and it felt shite. When his better offer let him down he messaged me late that night asking to go meet him told him to fuck right off

"
u did rite

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a guy i had met lots text me to cancel our weekend as i was driving the 70 miles to his house.

He actually told me it was because another fem had asked him to go to a party with her.

It wasn't a nice feeling

He them had the cheek a few weeks later to ask me to meet him again ... i said no obviously lol. In fact he still asks me to meet him !!!

He complains that he doesn't get many meets ... not suprising if he treats them the same as he treated me !"
totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a guy did it to me and it felt shite. When his better offer let him down he messaged me late that night asking to go meet him told him to fuck right off

u did rite "

He thought I was overreacting and was odd with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt even consider do this.

I had a meet/social last saturday. The Friday night before i was asked over by a couple that I've met before but i turned them as i didnt think it would be right for my meet the following day to turn up all tired and the fact was i was excited and looking foward to Saturday i didnt want anything to change that

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

thats really bad form......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people have cancelled a meet because they had what they thought was a better offer and they get let down ? Or had a meet cancel them (this has happened to me) and then the other meet doesnt show?"
instant block for me, very insulting and yes I've had it done but never done it myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mrs got cancelled on with some BS story about not being able to get a room at a particular hotel, Mrs checked herself and they had plenty of rooms, next day he displayed a veri from a couple he met

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I had a guy i had met lots text me to cancel our weekend as i was driving the 70 miles to his house.

He actually told me it was because another fem had asked him to go to a party with her.

It wasn't a nice feeling

He them had the cheek a few weeks later to ask me to meet him again ... i said no obviously lol. In fact he still asks me to meet him !!!

He complains that he doesn't get many meets ... not suprising if he treats them the same as he treated me !"

I had one guy tell me while driving to a party that he was bringing another woman along. Horrible feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a guy i had met lots text me to cancel our weekend as i was driving the 70 miles to his house.

He actually told me it was because another fem had asked him to go to a party with her.

It wasn't a nice feeling

He them had the cheek a few weeks later to ask me to meet him again ... i said no obviously lol. In fact he still asks me to meet him !!!

He complains that he doesn't get many meets ... not suprising if he treats them the same as he treated me !

I had one guy tell me while driving to a party that he was bringing another woman along. Horrible feeling. "

Charming man lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I have or if they did, I didn't notice

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey

Happened to me . 25 messages , 2 phone calls giving her directions of how to get to mine...then nothing . An hour later she texted she couldn't meet because......she was dog sitting . Hmmm , apparently at 2am she had suddenly aquired a pet . Next day on fab she put up a veri from a man who fucked her on the beach that night . My thoughts go out to that poor abandoned dog .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a guy i had met lots text me to cancel our weekend as i was driving the 70 miles to his house.

He actually told me it was because another fem had asked him to go to a party with her.

It wasn't a nice feeling

He them had the cheek a few weeks later to ask me to meet him again ... i said no obviously lol. In fact he still asks me to meet him !!!

He complains that he doesn't get many meets ... not suprising if he treats them the same as he treated me !

I had one guy tell me while driving to a party that he was bringing another woman along. Horrible feeling. "

WTF!!

that's taking the piss, NSA or not it's totally disrespectful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't usually get many meets do to working. so when one is arranged I keep to it (please note this ladys). Had a couple cancel on me .it's crap but life carries on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happened to me . 25 messages , 2 phone calls giving her directions of how to get to mine...then nothing . An hour later she texted she couldn't meet because......she was dog sitting . Hmmm , apparently at 2am she had suddenly aquired a pet . Next day on fab she put up a veri from a man who fucked her on the beach that night . My thoughts go out to that poor abandoned dog . "

Haha poor dog indeed. That's bad form though

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Yep has happened to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they openly admit that they are meeting someone else?! What the hell? No sick kids or poorly grandma lies?!

Wow

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I had a guy i had met lots text me to cancel our weekend as i was driving the 70 miles to his house.

He actually told me it was because another fem had asked him to go to a party with her.

It wasn't a nice feeling

He them had the cheek a few weeks later to ask me to meet him again ... i said no obviously lol. In fact he still asks me to meet him !!!

He complains that he doesn't get many meets ... not suprising if he treats them the same as he treated me !

I had one guy tell me while driving to a party that he was bringing another woman along. Horrible feeling. "

Tsk. It seems that no strings gets confused with no respect, that was a horrible way to carry on

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Do they openly admit that they are meeting someone else?! What the hell? No sick kids or poorly grandma lies?!

Wow "

Not always but a verification the next day is usually a sign.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Happened to me last minute so I went for drinks with my girlfriends instead

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By *oharleyMan
over a year ago

Hexham


"I've had this happen to me. It sucks! "

I just wouldn't cancel!! It's an ignorant thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god. I've just remembered one I did. I drove 30 mins to his house (im a scardey car driver too!) rang him. He put it down. Then he txt and said 'you were late I'm in the pub'... I was 4 mins after the agreed time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do they openly admit that they are meeting someone else?! What the hell? No sick kids or poorly grandma lies?!

Wow "

Well he was all plans then started getting vague closer to the time. I realised he had made plans with someone else too and god knows who else. Went with another girl in the end

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Happened to me last minute so I went for drinks with my girlfriends instead "

This

Always have a back up plan to still have great times.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh god. I've just remembered one I did. I drove 30 mins to his house (im a scardey car driver too!) rang him. He put it down. Then he txt and said 'you were late I'm in the pub'... I was 4 mins after the agreed time "

Blimey the pub must have been close handy . I wouldn't even count four minutes as late.

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god. I've just remembered one I did. I drove 30 mins to his house (im a scardey car driver too!) rang him. He put it down. Then he txt and said 'you were late I'm in the pub'... I was 4 mins after the agreed time "
. I can be at yours in morning goodnitegirl say 9am ill even bring the bacon sandwiches I won't be late x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Goodness yes, had it done to me on more than one occasion. It sucks as my time is very limited so when I meet I need guaranteed show ups. Thankfully the men I do meet haven't let me down yet! "

I wouldn't treat anyone so shabbily but its happened to me. I've had an excuse offered then up pops a new veri. Clearly not the reason given then ! How rude.

I'm always honest and tell doneone where they're at with me. If I get a cancellation in good time, I have a couple of people happy to be on stand-by What grinds my tears are no-shows or last minute drop outs.

We need to get the message out there.. a social can be a quick cuppa en route to a play meet elsewhere! Guys you can do BOTH !

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey


"Happened to me . 25 messages , 2 phone calls giving her directions of how to get to mine...then nothing . An hour later she texted she couldn't meet because......she was dog sitting . Hmmm , apparently at 2am she had suddenly aquired a pet . Next day on fab she put up a veri from a man who fucked her on the beach that night . My thoughts go out to that poor abandoned dog .

Haha poor dog indeed. That's bad form though "
well , could've been worse ....could've been a goldfish .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs typos !!! Grrr sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I would not do that.

It has happened to me though. Makes you laugh when guys moan about not being able to get meets then behave badly like this.

Worse though is being left high and dry as I was earlier this week. No message to cancel, no apology, just blocked! How rude some people can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow at least when that happens to me I give them half hour so that if they are genuine and just running late it gives them time to arrive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean their I had a couple that have done that to me this morning after saying that they were setting off to attend my party last night from Doncaster 3 hours later still no sign of them and suddenly i have been blocked

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I usually allow 15mins but after that I start ringing my friends

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I was supposed to have a single male meet last night. I had cancelled two potential nights out with my best girlfriends. The meet cancelled with notice. It's not the first time and I don't expect it to be the last. Sadly it has made the Mr, reconsider hotwifing.. he has put more filters on messages. Now we are club meets only. This swinging is supposed to be about fun! We as a couple are letting other men share the Mr's wife and they let us down, Their loss I say.. on to the next... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me. Had been seeing this guy for a while and made an arrangement for him to come round to mine.He messaged me to say this woman he'd been chatting with had also asked him round and he hoped I wouldn't mind, but he was off to meet her! Actually, I DID mind and never met him again. But he got his comeuppance, she never put out and he had a very long drive for nothing.

I know how it made me feel, so would never do it to anyone else. I have had a morning meet and then an afternoon meet on the same day though, but I don't think that counts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, has happened to me too. Very disrespectful in my view.

But the most ridiculous occasion though was a woman who I had just met send me a message less than an hour after we had actually parted ways; I thought it was going to be a "thanks for a lovely time" message. No, I shit you not "sorry I couldn't meet you tonight something came up at home, gutted I couldn't meet you"

I just responded with "oh right, what message did you send him, one about you left your knickers on his hotel floor?"

Blocked!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a meet? "

you see when a man and a woman and/or couple like each other they arrange to see each other face to face. If they are all happy then they get naked and things happen that you would not chat to your local vicar about, (unless its the local vicar you are with, lol).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, has happened to me too. Very disrespectful in my view.

But the most ridiculous occasion though was a woman who I had just met send me a message less than an hour after we had actually parted ways; I thought it was going to be a "thanks for a lovely time" message. No, I shit you not "sorry I couldn't meet you tonight something came up at home, gutted I couldn't meet you"

I just responded with "oh right, what message did you send him, one about you left your knickers on his hotel floor?"

Blocked!! "

Omg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, has happened to me too. Very disrespectful in my view.

But the most ridiculous occasion though was a woman who I had just met send me a message less than an hour after we had actually parted ways; I thought it was going to be a "thanks for a lovely time" message. No, I shit you not "sorry I couldn't meet you tonight something came up at home, gutted I couldn't meet you"

I just responded with "oh right, what message did you send him, one about you left your knickers on his hotel floor?"

Blocked!! "

OMG, that's hillarious!

If you're going to lie make sure you cover your arse at all times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah happened to me meant to be my first meet agreed to meet the day came and gone tried contacting her and nothing next day shes online and turns out she ditched me for a quick meet instead of a very long and dirty night that was planned still though it was her loss lol

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"We've had people hedge their bets. Because we only meet socially first time some people will hang on to see if a play meet comes up before confirming, it's fair enough they owe us nothing and vice versa."

We had a social arranged for Weds and the guy cancelled at the last minute.He said that he had an opportunity to play that night and would rather do that.At least he bothered to tell us !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We've had people hedge their bets. Because we only meet socially first time some people will hang on to see if a play meet comes up before confirming, it's fair enough they owe us nothing and vice versa.

We had a social arranged for Weds and the guy cancelled at the last minute.He said that he had an opportunity to play that night and would rather do that.At least he bothered to tell us ! "

Yep! As I said I think that's fair enough...whether you're prepared to meet them again is another story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say that I can't believe it but sadly I can. Earlier this year I had a terrible record with cancelled meets, if I have an arranged meet them that's that, I don't hedge my bets nor line up alternates. I'd rather sit home alone and treat people fairly than use people for my own sexual gratification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had people cancel saying they unwell and they then show a veri from someone else guess we were on the standby list .

Had the last laugh bumped into them at a club when they saw the Mrs was even better in the flesh tried to put it right

But we don't play with shallow people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think it's a shit way to treat people and I'd never make definite arrangements to meet someone then let them down. Some people do though. Unfortunately . "

We totally agree with the above, respect. xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It would be an instant way to filter out people that you'd never consider meeting again. The forum has had a fair few posts where someone received a cancellation, their meets who had been at death's door etc, only to see them get a verification from someone, for the same day.

I respect other people and expect the same in return. If we've gone out of our way to make arrangements to meet, which may include child care cover, booking a room or travel tickets, then it's not respectful to cancel, just because someone else caught your fancy.

If you have several people who may meet you, then staggered socials is fairly easy to achieve. Staggered shags is too, if you'd like this. Otherwise, it's simple to not string people along by doing preliminary vetting of future potential meets and arranging other dates/times.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Never had it to be honest and i always do a social meet first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people have cancelled a meet because they had what they thought was a better offer and they get let down ? Or had a meet cancel them (this has happened to me) and then the other meet doesnt show?"

I had a guy cancel on me for another meet

Give him his dues though he was honest and told me

He text to say he was meeting somebody else now but would still like to meet me so could we rearrange

Then text me about two hours later asking if I as still free as the other meet didn't show calling her a time waster

The irony

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"How many people have cancelled a meet because they had what they thought was a better offer and they get let down ? Or had a meet cancel them (this has happened to me) and then the other meet doesnt show?

I had a guy cancel on me for another meet

Give him his dues though he was honest and told me

He text to say he was meeting somebody else now but would still like to meet me so could we rearrange

Then text me about two hours later asking if I as still free as the other meet didn't show calling her a time waster

The irony "

You didn't meet him did you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would never cancel a meet for another meet, if I didn't care about meeting somebody that much I'd cancel on them I wouldn't arrange to meet in the first place

I think it's just people keeping their options open by arranging meets with people they aren't that bothered about but if a better offer comes along they will dump them, and if a better offer does not come along, well second choice is better than a wank

I just wouldn't arrange a meet with second choice in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people have cancelled a meet because they had what they thought was a better offer and they get let down ? Or had a meet cancel them (this has happened to me) and then the other meet doesnt show?

I had a guy cancel on me for another meet

Give him his dues though he was honest and told me

He text to say he was meeting somebody else now but would still like to meet me so could we rearrange

Then text me about two hours later asking if I as still free as the other meet didn't show calling her a time waster

The irony

You didn't meet him did you?!"

No I told him I'd arranged a meet with a couple now so wasn't free

He text back asking if we could make it a 4sum

I said no

I hadn't I was sat at home in my PJs watching telly but I went telling him that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outside of fab I've done it very rarely. Generally in my single days among my circle of FWB it was first come first served, regardless of their standing.

I consider it very bad manners. But conversely making it a hard rule can be problematic since on a couple of occasions it has seen me end up scheduling 2 new partner meets on the same evening knowing the likelihood is one would flake... and then neither do... which is problematic. Especially when one of them end up being your girlfriend for the next 2 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

heard all the excuses, the best one was her dog had died but she forgot i had her on snapchat and the next day she was posting videos of her dog chasing a ball in the kitchen lol.when i said something she admitted she had another offer, who canceled on her at the last minute.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"How many people have cancelled a meet because they had what they thought was a better offer and they get let down ? Or had a meet cancel them (this has happened to me) and then the other meet doesnt show?

I had a guy cancel on me for another meet

Give him his dues though he was honest and told me

He text to say he was meeting somebody else now but would still like to meet me so could we rearrange

Then text me about two hours later asking if I as still free as the other meet didn't show calling her a time waster

The irony

You didn't meet him did you?!

No I told him I'd arranged a meet with a couple now so wasn't free

He text back asking if we could make it a 4sum

I said no

I hadn't I was sat at home in my PJs watching telly but I went telling him that "

Excellent . I can't believe there are guy's out there that actually back out of a meet for someone supposedly better then get back in touch when the supposedly better meet doesnt turn up,cheeky fuckers!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I've had it done to me. Now only do first meet at clubs so I don't waste time if someone wants to fuck me around or lose their nerve. Life's too short for bullshit and crumbs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like this about tonight. I really want to get shagged but what if I ask 5 people and they all want to meet, I'd have to cancel on 4 then which would make me feel shit. Or what if I only ask one person out of the 5 and then they don't show, then I've fucked it for myself by asking the wrong person. Oh what to do what to do, please someone tell me what to do!

Get all five over and get them all to fuck you "

Baaaad to the bone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it the other way round once too

A guy mailed me on here asking if I wanted to join him and a female he was meeting that night

Sent me her profile name asked me to have a look se what I thought

So I replied no thanks and that I didn't meet couples

He replied back saying would I meet him alone then

When I pointed out he wasn't alone as he already had a meet planned he replied he will cancel her if I'll meet him as he would sooner meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once thought of arranging a meet with someone. But then I cancelled thinking about meeting them because I spotted someone else I thought I might arrange a meet with. My problem was that I thought I had only one evening available to arrange a meet. In the interests of fairness and to avoid being a timewaster I cancelled thinking about meeting anyone. I thought that was the best thing to do.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"I had it the other way round once too

A guy mailed me on here asking if I wanted to join him and a female he was meeting that night

Sent me her profile name asked me to have a look se what I thought

So I replied no thanks and that I didn't meet couples

He replied back saying would I meet him alone then

When I pointed out he wasn't alone as he already had a meet planned he replied he will cancel her if I'll meet him as he would sooner meet me "

He was probably messaging her telling her he was meeting you and would she like to join you. I've seen this tactic before with guys thinking its a 'more attractive' offer to a woman to meet a couple so they play two off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never had this but have been asked by regular meets to let down someone else i was meeting so they could meet me instead. i think it's rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep,

Had this happen to me......meet arranged numbers and address given by the woman In question....then 1 hour before I gets a message sorry have to cancel..... Ok she gave me notice....

She's on my hotlist and what appears but a veri for the time she had arranged to meet me....

It's not good but hey life goes on

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"We've had people hedge their bets. Because we only meet socially first time some people will hang on to see if a play meet comes up before confirming, it's fair enough they owe us nothing and vice versa.

We had a social arranged for Weds and the guy cancelled at the last minute.He said that he had an opportunity to play that night and would rather do that.At least he bothered to tell us !

Yep! As I said I think that's fair enough...whether you're prepared to meet them again is another story "

We won't be giving him another chance and he is on our block list now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have never done this - do unto others and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet planned this year, my FWB who I really wanted to see asked to meet the same morning, I told the first bloke I only had until a certain time and met him, he was cool as he only had limited time himself, then met with FWB straight after. I don't like to cancel at last minute and would not do it to meet a different man. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a guy i had met lots text me to cancel our weekend as i was driving the 70 miles to his house.

He actually told me it was because another fem had asked him to go to a party with her.

It wasn't a nice feeling

He them had the cheek a few weeks later to ask me to meet him again ... i said no obviously lol. In fact he still asks me to meet him !!!

He complains that he doesn't get many meets ... not suprising if he treats them the same as he treated me !"

Why didn't u block him. I would have done

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