FabSwingers.com forum: Real Life VS Fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've always been curious as to whether many of the people here have different standards than they do in a real life setting.

Would guys who say they like BBW's date them? Would ladies who reject messages from guys, reject them if they approached them in a club or on the street? Would older women look twice at a man half they're age and vice versa?

I would love to get everyone's views on it

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I look for different things in real life to here.

Here is about NSA sex. Life is more about relationships.

I can't compare the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same. I'm shamefully shallow, I don't lower my standards. Although some of the men who have showed interest, make me laugh because I know they wouldn't normally look twice at me

Girl X

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I've always been curious as to whether many of the people here have different standards than they do in a real life setting.

I would love to get everyone's views on it "

Different - yes, totally. That doesn't mean lower or higher, though in some ways they are some of each. But certainly different.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I like to think i keep the same standards here as in real life,i have to like and fancy someone to take it further in both worlds.

I am picky ,so we don't meet unless we are both happy with the couple and that means we meet less .miss.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think it's like chalk and cheese

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I look for different things in real life to here.

Here is about NSA sex. Life is more about relationships.

I can't compare the two."

Yes I'd say it's the same for us we don't actively look for nsa sexual activity outside of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure the supply / demand dynamics are different in the real world. I guess it depends on what people are looking for - a shag or a life partner / boyfriend / girlfriend?

The pot of available choices are likely to be different in many cases so the criteria for acceptance will probably be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the supply / demand dynamics are different in the real world. I guess it depends on what people are looking for - a shag or a life partner / boyfriend / girlfriend?

The pot of available choices are likely to be different in many cases so the criteria for acceptance will probably be different "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for the same guys on here as I do in the real world, the same guys are interested in me on here as they are in everyday life though in the real world I've never been approached by someone I don't find attractive but on here I get approached in the way of receiving messages from people I don't find attractive. Maybe on here they have more courage to approach rather than coming up to me in a bar or a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say I'm different from here to the real world. I have to fancy someone to have fun with them. I can't just go with any tom dick or harry because he offered his penis , lol, although I do think men put everything to one side and think with their penis 99% of the time.

I've actually spoke to a few good looking guys and asked why they're even on here if they aren't meeting... their response is always "I don't find it hard to meet girls in a club but they are usually shit in bed" I don't blame the guys tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for exactly the same in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for different things in real life to here.

Here is about NSA sex. Life is more about relationships.

I can't compare the two."

kinda agree with this one... Difficult to compare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe that in a club setting people see things differently, if nothing else you can't filter according to exact age or judge someone according to their ability to take a photo or construct a sentence.

People may have the same standards according to looks etc but personality and everything else plays a much larger part then.

Fab is a very harsh and unforgiving place at times, people are much warmer when they're not sat behind a screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's just a line to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's just a line to be honest!"

Yeah, you're probs right lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me (fem) I have found that fab has widened my outlook on life. In the real world I never used to look twice at larger ladies especially, but going to clubs and meeting people on here I've found a liking for them if that makes sense. But I still have to be attracted to them personality wise as well as physically as I always have done.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I do believe that in a club setting people see things differently, if nothing else you can't filter according to exact age or judge someone according to their ability to take a photo or construct a sentence.

People may have the same standards according to looks etc but personality and everything else plays a much larger part then.

Fab is a very harsh and unforgiving place at times, people are much warmer when they're not sat behind a screen"

I'm much fluffier when people aren't around spouting shit.

In person I kick off far less because most people won't say some of the vile shit some come out with on here.

I'm the same person though. If I object here, I'd object in person.

I think people think more though, in general, about what they say and how. Plus there's the added benefit of facial expression, tone etc. So people get on better.

And if not at least you can actually punch them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am exactly the same on here...just not d*unk lol... I like all kinds of guys so....have seen a few guys I know would probably never look twice at me tho...I am fine with that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say would I meet them if I wasn't with Tony if answer is yes we arrange a meet x marie

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I would look for the same in real life, someone who is my age and has the ability to make me laugh, I have no interest in young men, I'm not bothered if you are built like a Greek god or not and I can be quite abrupt if someone over steps the mark with me hence I have no problem deleting and blocking on here.

I'm not here for fantasy

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

this is part of my life, so is the BDSM scene i dont separate the two..why would i?

i dont do nilla dating because it doesnt interest me so guys that approach me outside the scene get told the circumstances i dont hide anything..just like here if they arent what im looking for, they get a no thanks. what you see is what you get...my friends know my lifestyle and my family know, or know i date non exclusively...

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Fab' to us, is the real world. We've not changed out standards and remain to treat people with the respect they deserve, whether we're attracted to them or not. M

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To me there is a Domestic energy and a Free energy in my life, I play both differently, however the underlaying values are the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have different standards on fab then I did when I was dating in real life. I focus much more on looks here. I'm here to have sex, not a relationship, so certain aspects of a guy's character just simply aren't as important to me. And I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Not everyone can be as amazing as Marc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect that half the people wouldn't meet in real life or be seen with quite a few people off here, if it wasn't just to scratch an itch

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I think in real life personality is more important than looks and I prefer to be with people who I have something in common with.

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