FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In a short space of time we seem to have a lot of verifications. We haven't played on every meet and some veris do state that. Me and my partner have differing views on whether lots of veris are a benefit or hindrance. He loves em, I think just as having none, too many verifications can be off putting. So what do the rest of you think....

Are lots of veris over a short space of time off putting?

How many people read every verification listed on a profile?

How many read just a couple?

How many people just look at the quantative data (the verification summary) as opposed to the qualitative data (actual verifications) ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just hide mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just hide mine"

He likes to display ours!!!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

It matters little to me how many veris a person has, if we tick each other's boxes and get along then I don't see that it really matters who else they have met. I don't display graphic/play veris anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It matters little to me how many veris a person has, if we tick each other's boxes and get along then I don't see that it really matters who else they have met. I don't display graphic/play veris anyway

Lol am I gonna have to eat my words tomorrow!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just hide mine

He likes to display ours!!!"

Does he?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the veri summary to see when the latest one was, as in are they currently active? Beyond that I couldn't give a toss! I've been to socials and had several in the space of a week, it means nothing. I've met people who have got over a hundred some who have a handful.

If people are going to be judgemental then let them, ultimately it says far more about them than you

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just hide mine

He likes to display ours!!!

Does he? "

Yep, he doesn't leave much for the imagination at times

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I look at the veri summary to see when the latest one was, as in are they currently active? Beyond that I couldn't give a toss! I've been to socials and had several in the space of a week, it means nothing. I've met people who have got over a hundred some who have a handful.

If people are going to be judgemental then let them, ultimately it says far more about them than you"

Thank you, reassuring to hear that not everyone looks at the count alone and assumes we are at it like rabbits lol chance would be a fine thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are going to be judgemental then let them, ultimately it says far more about them than you"
i agree here. I have been judged cos i have a few verifies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

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totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people care when someone has "too mamy" veris. People write about it all the time in the forums.

Lots of people don't care.

I personally don't care.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**"Too many"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one event can produce an abundance of veris from a social , club or party night -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of people care when someone has "too mamy" veris. People write about it all the time in the forums.

Lots of people don't care.

I personally don't care."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"**"Too many"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"one event can produce an abundance of veris from a social , club or party night - "

True although we don't have many like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"one event can produce an abundance of veris from a social , club or party night -

True although we don't have many like that!"

in that case i envy your energy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"one event can produce an abundance of veris from a social , club or party night -

True although we don't have many like that!

in that case i envy your energy

We were eager beavers to start with...we do more socials that. Play dates now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"one event can produce an abundance of veris from a social , club or party night -

True although we don't have many like that!

in that case i envy your energy

We were eager beavers to start with...we do more socials that. Play dates now

Than play dates now even!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again. "

I have 339 meet verifications, the majority of which are one offs. Its a site feature, nothing more, and anyone who judges someone for meeting people for a sex on a site set up to help people meet for sex should be ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again.

Damnnnnnnn that's a lot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again.

I like ur thinking but from discussion with some of those we have met they've suggested less is sometimes more, we are 3 months in and already have 20 on our summary !

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again.

Damnnnnnnn that's a lot

I get around.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again.

I like ur thinking but from discussion with some of those we have met they've suggested less is sometimes more, we are 3 months in and already have 20 on our summary !"

Look, you can't ever run your profile on the say so of others. You choose what to say, and what not to say. If you don't want people to see how many verifications you have, hide the summary and some of your veris. Easy. I hide any over 2 years old because, really, whats the point of them being there? But I still have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again.

Damnnnnnnn that's a lot

I get around.

I like your style

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

You get a lot of "verification politics" as a single guy. I've had veris who've left and some who have returned, wanted re-verifiying and left again...and so on.

My verification summary makes me look like the biggest manwhore on the planet!

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

It's a difficult one. Too many suggests you'll go with anyome yet only a couple in a year or so says you'll rarely meet. There's a couple we know that have 250 plus verifications but they host parties and we are happy to see them every few weeks so the number doesn't really matter. If a guy Emms was interested in had 30 ish plus veris then I'd step in and say no thank you. It's all about who you want to meet for what reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my old singles profile I went from having all mine on show (I clocked up a few in the short space I was on here, not all meets) then I listened to some sound advice from a couple of people and hid the most graphic ones, I liked mine but I think at the end I only had one showing.

Now we only have one veri and that's the way it's staying, unless we are on a social of course!

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have they met? More than once? Are they still meeting? That's all I need to know. I have no problem if they display 4 or 40. Or 400

Lol ours are all one off veris, those we have met again didn't verify us again.

I like ur thinking but from discussion with some of those we have met they've suggested less is sometimes more, we are 3 months in and already have 20 on our summary !

I hide mine that are more than a year old, as you say, there's no point in them being there. I've had repeat meets that haven't reverified and social meets that I haven't requested veris from. It's all just a game

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a difficult one. Too many suggests you'll go with anyome yet only a couple in a year or so says you'll rarely meet. There's a couple we know that have 250 plus verifications but they host parties and we are happy to see them every few weeks so the number doesn't really matter. If a guy Emms was interested in had 30 ish plus veris then I'd step in and say no thank you. It's all about who you want to meet for what reason. "

"Too many suggests you will go with anyone..." This is exactly what I don't want to be portrayed because that really isn't the case!!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

ive had alot over the last year..i got told even when i had less that it was off pitting, even though alot were social meets from clibs etc.. however i think my veris show me as a consistent person character wise..so i want more than a few on display so this week i decided to hide the majority from last year, showing i am active,

i also dont repeat veri, very often, so really it doesnt paint a full picture but as i have the choice i display quite a few.

do i care for veris..i like to read a few, yes, i like to see if their personality is portrayed through them and whether it matches what they want on their profile..it helps me gain insight into what they like, will do and if they are social or not x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On my old singles profile I went from having all mine on show (I clocked up a few in the short space I was on here, not all meets) then I listened to some sound advice from a couple of people and hid the most graphic ones, I liked mine but I think at the end I only had one showing.

Now we only have one veri and that's the way it's staying, unless we are on a social of course!

G x"

Thank you, I'm sensing those that play as a couple do take the number of veris into account. Do we perhaps do this because as couples we subconsciously think more people greater risks?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ive had alot over the last year..i got told even when i had less that it was off pitting, even though alot were social meets from clibs etc.. however i think my veris show me as a consistent person character wise..so i want more than a few on display so this week i decided to hide the majority from last year, showing i am active,

i also dont repeat veri, very often, so really it doesnt paint a full picture but as i have the choice i display quite a few.

We like our veris because they do describe our characters and they are consistent with each other, they also show we are genuine and its nice to have that bit of feedback too on a personal level but I am guilty of looking at the number of veris in the past when we first started swinging and thinking to myself...risky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to show them but it puts some people off they just aren't compatible.

Verifications don't 100% show a person's sexual history.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've hidden mine before and now am showing them. Doesn't make a blind bit of difference. No one ever mentions them. I don't really care if people makes judgement about mebadedon them or not. They are there as an indication I'm real and turn up for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My input.

A few are a nice confirmation that they chat it meet.

Lots give me an idea they meet lots of people and chat to anyone.

Loads of verifications tell me to walk away, I would be in a long line of shags they've had. Fun I'm sure, but not what I personally need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't care if someone has none or lots. I actually only have one to show that I'm real but have met many more times. I never ask for them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I might hide them all again. I quite like the Spartan look.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I don't read them. I do look at who has written them though. It's a good way of working out if you are actually the persons type or not

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I usually look briefly if I'm interested in meeting someone but the number doesn't bother me and I'm only mildly interested in content.

I look a bit more closely if someone seems as though they may not be who or what they claim or if something feels off about them.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Do what i do. Just what i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do also think though that if someone has none at all to view that that might point to them hiding something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do also think though that if someone has none at all to view that that might point to them hiding something. "

I've hidden 2, 1 because I only met them to buy some tickets so is totally unrelated to this other than it would confirm I am the person in my pictures. The other one referred to me as a milf and I really don't like that word and I'm sensitive about my age so don't show that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We show a few of ours ... just a small selection .

If we showed them all the site would run out of space !

And they're all play meets .

We don't play with just anyone either....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't read them. I do look at who has written them though. It's a good way of working out if you are actually the persons type or not"

I like lots of different 'types' of people so I stopped looking at veri's in this way. Just because some only has veri's from one type of person, doesn't necessarily mean they won't like me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for ur replies, u have been very helpful x

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe

We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

No big deal for me...tho I always hide the ones from str8 blokes for discretion..never sure why they verify tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs "

Mind boggling isn't it!

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs

Mind boggling isn't it!"

Very much, you dont want to look like a slut but hey it is a sex site after all haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like many i find no veris or no veri for many months suggest they are not really interested in meeting. It may not be fair but that is how i view it.

If you are meeting just for hot NSA sex then, for me, more veris are better than a few as it shows they are keen, experienced and most of all they actually turn up and have a good time!!!

Refusing to show them. Whilst I support their right not to show them, it suggests to me they are either embarrassed to be on here or, for some reason, they feel superior to others who do show them. I am however sure they have as many other explanations for hiding them as those who don't turn up to meets at the last minute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs

Mind boggling isn't it!

Very much, you dont want to look like a slut but hey it is a sex site after all haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs

Mind boggling isn't it!

Very much, you dont want to look like a slut but hey it is a sex site after all haha

Enjoy yourselfs don't worry what others think. It's the Warwickshire way Don't you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs

Mind boggling isn't it!

Very much, you dont want to look like a slut but hey it is a sex site after all haha

Enjoy yourselfs don't worry what others think. It's the Warwickshire way Don't you know

They can think what they want...I'm in don't care mode tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs

Mind boggling isn't it!

Very much, you dont want to look like a slut but hey it is a sex site after all haha

Enjoy yourselfs don't worry what others think. It's the Warwickshire way Don't you know

They can think what they want...I'm in don't care mode tonight

Good on you. You do Wark's proud

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are in exactly the same situation and i wondered the same Mrs

Mind boggling isn't it!

Very much, you dont want to look like a slut but hey it is a sex site after all haha

Enjoy yourselfs don't worry what others think. It's the Warwickshire way Don't you know

They can think what they want...I'm in don't care mode tonight

Good on you. You do Wark's proud

Always try my best!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I display mine as I like guys I may potentially meet to know what I'm like and what others have thought. All my veris have become semi regular fuck buddies so I like to think I'm doing something right lol

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I just display the summary.

Although those verified me don't mind me displaying them, I feel more comfortable to protect their confidentiality (because I'm a CD).

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Discretion comes to mind,,,

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

I find the whole veri thing quite interesting..its more the quality than the quantity...some folk may have loads and its because they go to socials/clubs/parties.and they're all good...a little thought gone into them.

Some folks may have loads because they may fuck anyone that says hello..ie not particularly choosy...which is fine.. its supposed to be a swingers' site, which by definition isn't really a hook up site for singles..which is easy for me to say as a single male.

In my early days I did meet one or two with countless one or two line veris...afterwards I realised why..they weren't quality meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find the whole veri thing quite interesting..its more the quality than the quantity...some folk may have loads and its because they go to socials/clubs/parties.and they're all good...a little thought gone into them.

In my early days I did meet one or two with countless one or two line veris...afterwards I realised why..they weren't quality meets."

Quality far outweighs quantity babe x

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

Some folks may have loads because

they may fuck anyone that says hello..ie not particularly choosy...which is fine.. its supposed to be a swingers' site, which by definition isn't really a hook up site for singles..which is easy for me to say as a single male.

In my early days I did meet one or two with countless one or two line veris...afterwards I realised why..they weren't quality meets.

Quality far outweighs quantity babe x

That's what I was trying to say!!

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By *eeeee7Woman
over a year ago

over yonder

In my early days I did meet one or two with countless one or two line veris...afterwards I realised why..they weren't quality meets.

Quality far outweighs quantity babe x

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