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"I can be terrible at actually getting round to meet, there's people who ive been speaking to for over a year before getting rpund to meeting." I'm the same... But that's purely cos I don't have enough hours in my day or days In my week... I completely forget who I am supposed to be meeting or said I will meet ... My memory seems to fail me more these days | |||
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"Thanks Wolf and MzQT - I wondered if those of us up in the middle of the night as well as the many here who are poor sleepers, would be more in need of time. " I actually suffer from insomnia (diagnosed) and when I fall asleep I fall asleep.. There is no set time... So yes I could do with a bit more time ... Like yourself I don't feel refreshed and myself ... I don't want to meet anyone when I'm too tired and cba | |||
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"I can be terrible at actually getting round to meet, there's people who ive been speaking to for over a year before getting rpund to meeting. I'm the same... But that's purely cos I don't have enough hours in my day or days In my week... I completely forget who I am supposed to be meeting or said I will meet ... My memory seems to fail me more these days " Ooh thank goodness it's not just me.. The thought of doing itinerarys for all meets is really off putting..  | |||
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"I see a lot of complaints from guys about timewasters - others do too. I'm 'needy' though, in particular it can take me a long time to get myself sorted and it's the right time. Like most of us, I'm busy and have lots of things going on. I often sleep badly and won't meet when I'm not energised and at my best. And if I'm slow, a number of potential meets stacks up - and I'm supposed to remember who they all are! Do men need less time, they're not particularly needy?" Oh goodness, that sounds so familiar! That describes me a lot of the time too. | |||
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"I can be terrible at actually getting round to meet, there's people who ive been speaking to for over a year before getting rpund to meeting. I'm the same... But that's purely cos I don't have enough hours in my day or days In my week... I completely forget who I am supposed to be meeting or said I will meet ... My memory seems to fail me more these days Ooh thank goodness it's not just me.. The thought of doing itinerarys for all meets is really off putting.. "Haha I just think 'oh well, so I offend someone plenty more fish (whoops wrong site)' | |||
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"Thanks Wolf and MzQT - I wondered if those of us up in the middle of the night as well as the many here who are poor sleepers, would be more in need of time. I actually suffer from insomnia (diagnosed) and when I fall asleep I fall asleep.. There is no set time... So yes I could do with a bit more time ... Like yourself I don't feel refreshed and myself ... I don't want to meet anyone when I'm too tired and cba " Yes! Same here. Sometimes I just don't feel in the right place to meet. I can go for weeks, months sometimes, at a time when I just don't feel like it. Even if I want to meet someone, I feel like yes but just not now. It's annoying when those times happen to correspond with feeling horny though! | |||
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"I can be terrible at actually getting round to meet, there's people who ive been speaking to for over a year before getting rpund to meeting. I'm the same... But that's purely cos I don't have enough hours in my day or days In my week... I completely forget who I am supposed to be meeting or said I will meet ... My memory seems to fail me more these days Ooh thank goodness it's not just me.. The thought of doing itinerarys for all meets is really off putting..
Haha I just think 'oh well, so I offend someone plenty more fish (whoops wrong site)' "Some guys think I am stringing them along and it can be difficult to explain I do want to meet but I need to be in the right headspace. A lot don't understand what I mean and think I'm trying to blow them off, which I'm not (if I mean no, I say no). Some get impatient and give up. But hey, it's got to be right for everyone involved. | |||
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"Thanks Wolf and MzQT - I wondered if those of us up in the middle of the night as well as the many here who are poor sleepers, would be more in need of time. I actually suffer from insomnia (diagnosed) and when I fall asleep I fall asleep.. There is no set time... So yes I could do with a bit more time ... Like yourself I don't feel refreshed and myself ... I don't want to meet anyone when I'm too tired and cba Yes! Same here. Sometimes I just don't feel in the right place to meet. I can go for weeks, months sometimes, at a time when I just don't feel like it. Even if I want to meet someone, I feel like yes but just not now. It's annoying when those times happen to correspond with feeling horny though!" Amen to that.. I actually haven't had any sort of fun in a long while and been horny as but just can't bring myself to meet anyone. I want to but it feels like too much effort. Sometimes I see someone I really want to meet and I think yes I'll do it and then all of a sudden it's just like 'yeah, no, maybe another time' | |||
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"And if caught on-site, it'll often trigger half a dozen additional messages asking 'when then?'. I think some people can just pop their shoes on - showered I hope - and get out to shag. I need a slow shagger precautionary label or flashing symbol or something. " I actually had someone stop talking to me cos of this ... If I am on fab I must be meeting so why not him... Didn't understand the concept of the forum | |||
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" Some guys think I am stringing them along and it can be difficult to explain I do want to meet but I need to be in the right headspace. A lot don't understand what I mean and think I'm trying to blow them off, which I'm not (if I mean no, I say no). Some get impatient and give up. But hey, it's got to be right for everyone involved." I think we have to appreciate men get their fair share of time wasters too; when we genuinely can't meet cos we don't feel right in ourselves they paint us with the same brush as the others .. Almost like the single male stereotype lol | |||
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"And if caught on-site, it'll often trigger half a dozen additional messages asking 'when then?'. I think some people can just pop their shoes on - showered I hope - and get out to shag. I need a slow shagger precautionary label or flashing symbol or something. " Again, yes! Exactly this. | |||
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" Some guys think I am stringing them along and it can be difficult to explain I do want to meet but I need to be in the right headspace. A lot don't understand what I mean and think I'm trying to blow them off, which I'm not (if I mean no, I say no). Some get impatient and give up. But hey, it's got to be right for everyone involved. I think we have to appreciate men get their fair share of time wasters too; when we genuinely can't meet cos we don't feel right in ourselves they paint us with the same brush as the others .. Almost like the single male stereotype lol " Probably very true. I suppose if they don't know I am quite happy to say no if that's what I mean they can't possibly know that if I say yes, but not now, I mean it. | |||
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"If I'm too busy to meet they move on. I don't get asked "when then". "More fool them. For moving on I mean. They're very sensible not to pester because I expect you'd react in the same way I do  | |||
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"If I'm too busy to meet they move on. I don't get asked "when then".
More fool them. For moving on I mean.
They're very sensible not to pester because I expect you'd react in the same way I do "Feisty is good.   xx | |||
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"If I'm too busy to meet they move on. I don't get asked "when then".
More fool them. For moving on I mean.
They're very sensible not to pester because I expect you'd react in the same way I do
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"Thanks Wolf and MzQT - I wondered if those of us up in the middle of the night as well as the many here who are poor sleepers, would be more in need of time. I actually suffer from insomnia (diagnosed) and when I fall asleep I fall asleep.. There is no set time... So yes I could do with a bit more time ... Like yourself I don't feel refreshed and myself ... I don't want to meet anyone when I'm too tired and cba Yes! Same here. Sometimes I just don't feel in the right place to meet. I can go for weeks, months sometimes, at a time when I just don't feel like it. Even if I want to meet someone, I feel like yes but just not now. It's annoying when those times happen to correspond with feeling horny though!" This
I blame male vagueness.. Its always "lets me next week... Then next week rolls by.. "
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"Thanks Wolf and MzQT - I wondered if those of us up in the middle of the night as well as the many here who are poor sleepers, would be more in need of time. I actually suffer from insomnia (diagnosed) and when I fall asleep I fall asleep.. There is no set time... So yes I could do with a bit more time ... Like yourself I don't feel refreshed and myself ... I don't want to meet anyone when I'm too tired and cba Yes! Same here. Sometimes I just don't feel in the right place to meet. I can go for weeks, months sometimes, at a time when I just don't feel like it. Even if I want to meet someone, I feel like yes but just not now. It's annoying when those times happen to correspond with feeling horny though! This
I blame male vagueness.. Its always "lets me next week... Then next week rolls by.. "
"In my case it's usually my vagueness. I can't say when I'll feel like meeting until I feel like meeting. Some guys are very patient, some aren't. I feel like I'm messing them about sometimes by saying yes but not now but I can't help it if I'm not in the mood to meet. I don't arrange things and then flake though. I'll only arrange something when I actually want to. | |||
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"If I'm too busy to meet they move on. I don't get asked "when then". "When then? | |||
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"I think there are more people like this on here than you would believe, there are always discussions about mojo loss and the like. It's not so simple for guys either, it's not just a question of wash and go, there is a great deal of pressure on the single guy to 'perform'. If a meet goes badly it's often said that the guy was crap. That can weigh heavy on people and sometimes it can make people not want to meet" I can understand why guys might feel under pressure. I feel under pressure in some ways but I am glad I don't have to worry about controlling wayward body parts! | |||
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"Do yous mean yous dont drop everything when a guy asks if you fancy a fuck?? "No but I don't expect a guy to drop everything for me either | |||
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"I think there are more people like this on here than you would believe, there are always discussions about mojo loss and the like. It's not so simple for guys either, it's not just a question of wash and go, there is a great deal of pressure on the single guy to 'perform'. If a meet goes badly it's often said that the guy was crap. That can weigh heavy on people and sometimes it can make people not want to meet" I would see it as it takes two people to have a crap meet but I know what you mean. | |||
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"Do yous mean yous dont drop everything when a guy asks if you fancy a fuck??
No but I don't expect a guy to drop everything for me either "Id never ask if a guy fancied a fuck | |||
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"I'm rubbish. I take forever to get round to meeting someone! Life just gets in the way. I have kids which makes it difficult and ongoing health issues of my own meaning lots of time in and out of hospital. I'm make it clear from the beginning that this is the case tho, and if that's not good enough, tough. "Whether u explain it to them or u don't majority of the time it makes no difference. They just think u are there to waste their time. | |||
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"Do men need less time, they're not particularly needy?" As you can see by the plethora of verifications I have, I meet anyone at the drop of a hat. | |||
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"Do men need less time, they're not particularly needy? As you can see by the plethora of verifications I have, I meet anyone at the drop of a hat." You seem pretty easy, to be honest.  | |||
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"I'm rubbish. I take forever to get round to meeting someone! Life just gets in the way. I have kids which makes it difficult and ongoing health issues of my own meaning lots of time in and out of hospital. I'm make it clear from the beginning that this is the case tho, and if that's not good enough, tough.
Whether u explain it to them or u don't majority of the time it makes no difference. They just think u are there to waste their time. "Let them think that. I couldn't give a toss  I'm way to hard faced to care about that. I have enough veris for people to see I'm a real person who does meet (eventually...) and if they aren't prepared to wait, then it's their loss. I don't mind  | |||
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"Do men need less time, they're not particularly needy? As you can see by the plethora of verifications I have, I meet anyone at the drop of a hat. You seem pretty easy, to be honest. "Like Sunday morning. | |||
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I don't even meet now, i know this isn't what i want. | |||
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"I'm rubbish. I take forever to get round to meeting someone! Life just gets in the way. I have kids which makes it difficult and ongoing health issues of my own meaning lots of time in and out of hospital. I'm make it clear from the beginning that this is the case tho, and if that's not good enough, tough.
Whether u explain it to them or u don't majority of the time it makes no difference. They just think u are there to waste their time.
Let them think that. I couldn't give a toss I'm way to hard faced to care about that. I have enough veris for people to see I'm a real person who does meet (eventually...) and if they aren't prepared to wait, then it's their loss. I don't mind "To be fair I am the same | |||
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"I can be terrible at actually getting round to meet, there's people who ive been speaking to for over a year before getting rpund to meeting. I'm the same... But that's purely cos I don't have enough hours in my day or days In my week... I completely forget who I am supposed to be meeting or said I will meet ... My memory seems to fail me more these days " big 80's style filofax is the way to go | |||
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"Is there a gender difference on this?" if you cba then you cba... there should be a name for it, like swingers lethargy.. I am sure most people feel the same way at some point, regardless of what they say on here | |||
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"I'm rubbish. I take forever to get round to meeting someone! Life just gets in the way. I have kids which makes it difficult and ongoing health issues of my own meaning lots of time in and out of hospital. I'm make it clear from the beginning that this is the case tho, and if that's not good enough, tough.
Whether u explain it to them or u don't majority of the time it makes no difference. They just think u are there to waste their time.
Let them think that. I couldn't give a toss I'm way too hard faced to care about that. I have enough veris for people to see I'm a real person who does meet (eventually...) and if they aren't prepared to wait, then it's their loss. I don't mind "Fixed it for you #grammarnazi | |||
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"I'm needy as well, and do the same as you OP and forget who people are if they haven't bothered keeping in touch. Lol, a penis called steve messaged me asking if i remembered him, everyone is called steve, chris or paul online, idk who the fuck you are steves penis...
I don't even meet now, i know this isn't what i want."Haha, yeah, I know JUST how that goes - had another one this morning, lovely chest - but wtf did we talk about 3 weeks ago??? I'm totally not a swinger anyway, it's just so much easier to meet people I already know and like, it takes me ages to meet someone new! | |||
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"it's not forgetfulness for me tbh, most men do not make themselves memorable." There is that too. | |||
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"I'm rubbish. I take forever to get round to meeting someone! Life just gets in the way. I have kids which makes it difficult and ongoing health issues of my own meaning lots of time in and out of hospital. I'm make it clear from the beginning that this is the case tho, and if that's not good enough, tough.
Whether u explain it to them or u don't majority of the time it makes no difference. They just think u are there to waste their time.
Let them think that. I couldn't give a toss I'm way too hard faced to care about that. I have enough veris for people to see I'm a real person who does meet (eventually...) and if they aren't prepared to wait, then it's their loss. I don't mind
Fixed it for you #grammarnazi"Piss off you! | |||
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"Thanks Wolf and MzQT - I wondered if those of us up in the middle of the night as well as the many here who are poor sleepers, would be more in need of time. I actually suffer from insomnia (diagnosed) and when I fall asleep I fall asleep.. There is no set time... So yes I could do with a bit more time ... Like yourself I don't feel refreshed and myself ... I don't want to meet anyone when I'm too tired and cba Yes! Same here. Sometimes I just don't feel in the right place to meet. I can go for weeks, months sometimes, at a time when I just don't feel like it. Even if I want to meet someone, I feel like yes but just not now. It's annoying when those times happen to correspond with feeling horny though! Amen to that.. I actually haven't had any sort of fun in a long while and been horny as but just can't bring myself to meet anyone. I want to but it feels like too much effort. Sometimes I see someone I really want to meet and I think yes I'll do it and then all of a sudden it's just like 'yeah, no, maybe another time' " This sums me up. The body is willing but the mind, not so much at the moment | |||
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"Thanks Wolf and MzQT - I wondered if those of us up in the middle of the night as well as the many here who are poor sleepers, would be more in need of time. I actually suffer from insomnia (diagnosed) and when I fall asleep I fall asleep.. There is no set time... So yes I could do with a bit more time ... Like yourself I don't feel refreshed and myself ... I don't want to meet anyone when I'm too tired and cba Yes! Same here. Sometimes I just don't feel in the right place to meet. I can go for weeks, months sometimes, at a time when I just don't feel like it. Even if I want to meet someone, I feel like yes but just not now. It's annoying when those times happen to correspond with feeling horny though! Amen to that.. I actually haven't had any sort of fun in a long while and been horny as but just can't bring myself to meet anyone. I want to but it feels like too much effort. Sometimes I see someone I really want to meet and I think yes I'll do it and then all of a sudden it's just like 'yeah, no, maybe another time' This sums me up. The body is willing but the mind, not so much at the moment "Yep | |||
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"I see a lot of complaints from guys about timewasters - others do too. I'm 'needy' though, in particular it can take me a long time to get myself sorted and it's the right time. Like most of us, I'm busy and have lots of things going on. I often sleep badly and won't meet when I'm not energised and at my best. And if I'm slow, a number of potential meets stacks up - and I'm supposed to remember who they all are! Do men need less time, they're not particularly needy?" Well yes ... and also not all women are like you . We have children and have to fit everything in , but still get out two or three evenings a week for fun | |||
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"I see a lot of complaints from guys about timewasters - others do too. I'm 'needy' though, in particular it can take me a long time to get myself sorted and it's the right time. Like most of us, I'm busy and have lots of things going on. I often sleep badly and won't meet when I'm not energised and at my best. And if I'm slow, a number of potential meets stacks up - and I'm supposed to remember who they all are! Do men need less time, they're not particularly needy? Well yes ... and also not all women are like you . We have children and have to fit everything in , but still get out two or three evenings a week for fun "blimey what excuses do you come up with to both be out together that amount of times a week... | |||
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"it's not forgetfulness for me tbh, most men do not make themselves memorable." | |||
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"Sophie, and all, thank you. You are spot-on. Lxx " You're very welcome. I hope this uplifts many here who perhaps thought they were unusual odd ones out. Life in the slow lane is absolutely fine  | |||
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"I see a lot of complaints from guys about timewasters - others do too. I'm 'needy' though, in particular it can take me a long time to get myself sorted and it's the right time. Like most of us, I'm busy and have lots of things going on. I often sleep badly and won't meet when I'm not energised and at my best. And if I'm slow, a number of potential meets stacks up - and I'm supposed to remember who they all are! Do men need less time, they're not particularly needy? Well yes ... and also not all women are like you . We have children and have to fit everything in , but still get out two or three evenings a week for fun
blimey what excuses do you come up with to both be out together that amount of times a week..."Simple ... that we have a life too | |||
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