FabSwingers.com forum: Personality or Looks? Which one turns you on most?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it better to have sex with a person who has a great personality or looks great? Tell me your experiences

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

The thing I find most sexy about a person is thier mind and personality. Thier intelligence, sense of humour and warmth are much more likely to win me over then what they look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personallity (but all us mingers say that pmsl)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DEFFO personality but there needs to be attraction to some degree of course xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality then the rest just follows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither."

All about the cock ?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I like grumpy old fuckers so under rated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personallity (but all us mingers say that pmsl)

This

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

There has to be a physical attraction

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By *llebWoman
over a year ago

Poulton Le Fylde

So when trawling through this site , perhaps on a search, what entices you to stop and contact.

Something they wrote in their profile?

Can you honestly say that when searching looks has nothing to do with what you're looking for ?

Being honest, I have to say the eye candy element and location has a lot to do with who I contact and respond to

Oh and cock size isn't a deal breaker as I'm so sick of seeing the cock compared to a can of deodorant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humans are very visual, so appearance first then personality, perhaps that's where I'm going wrong - off to get a new face!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Looks attract me to the person, their personality keeps my interest.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"So when trawling through this site , perhaps on a search, what entices you to stop and contact.

Something they wrote in their profile?

Can you honestly say that when searching looks has nothing to do with what you're looking for ?

Being honest, I have to say the eye candy element and location has a lot to do with who I contact and respond to

Oh and cock size isn't a deal breaker as I'm so sick of seeing the cock compared to a can of deodorant

My inbox is that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I have had better sex with average looking than on the odd occasions that I have gone for a 'pretty boy'.

Of course now I have both so!

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Chemistry..

..followed by Physics in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So when trawling through this site , perhaps on a search, what entices you to stop and contact.

Something they wrote in their profile?

Can you honestly say that when searching looks has nothing to do with what you're looking for ?

Being honest, I have to say the eye candy element and location has a lot to do with who I contact and respond to

Oh and cock size isn't a deal breaker as I'm so sick of seeing the cock compared to a can of deodorant

A profile with no pics but text I like will attract me.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I need both to some extent. Both looks and personality need to appeal.

If one aspect appeals very strongly, however, I can be more flexible on the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks will attract me initially, but the personality will keep me attracted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks will attract me initially, but the personality will keep me attracted.

Same here its building up conversation and getting to know some.one and having a chuckle

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By *llebWoman
over a year ago

Poulton Le Fylde

Miss Shallow here doesn't even to stop to look & read if there's no photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

first instance is looks but if they dont make me laugh then no good - good looks dont make for nice person or good sex

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

There surely has to be a sexual attraction regardless, unless it's an ice cold fook you're after I suppose.

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By *isselvieWoman
over a year ago

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Guys who can get inside my mind and inspire me to be naughty generally get inside my knickers too

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"Looks will attract me initially, but the personality will keep me attracted.

Same here its building up conversation and getting to know some.one and having a chuckle

Same here

MrsSB

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By *llebWoman
over a year ago

Poulton Le Fylde

"There surely has to be a sexual attraction regardless, unless it's an ice cold fook you're after I suppose."

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

looks like I'm screwed on both fronts as I don't have looks or personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i wanna date. Both. If i want a fuck. Looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"looks like I'm screwed on both fronts as I don't have looks or personality "

You are exactly the type I'd mail. I read profiles.

Don't put yourself down. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I'm more drawn to someone who is witty and intelligent, I find if someone can make me laugh then I know I'll have a good time with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually I'm more drawn to someone who is witty and intelligent, I find if someone can make me laugh then I know I'll have a good time with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality! I was interested in a good looking woman at a club, but after seeing she had an arrogant attitude about her, put me off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its good to know that you could look like a cows backside but most of the fab ladies dont mind as long as you can make them laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its good to know that you could look like a cows backside but most of the fab ladies dont mind as long as you can make them laugh

Ha ha !!!

Love it

Honesty is always the best policy , unless you want to be the odd one out and tell it like it is .

Of course looks are a major part , if not the only part initially .

If the looks are good and the personality matches it's a bonus , but if they look like a cows backside we ain't gonna find out if they make us laugh

There would be nothing worse than having a meet with someone who wasn't physically gonna do it for you would there ? It's alright for women , a bit of lube applied on the sly and no ones the wiser , but for us guys ? All the viagra in the world won't do a thing if she doesn't do it for us is it ?

And that would be embarressing and demeaning for everyone . Very poor etiquette indeed .

So let's be honest , how many people would happily jump into bed with anyone who they didn't find physically attractive ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its good to know that you could look like a cows backside but most of the fab ladies dont mind as long as you can make them laugh

Ha ha !!!

Love it

Honesty is always the best policy , unless you want to be the odd one out and tell it like it is .

Of course looks are a major part , if not the only part initially .

If the looks are good and the personality matches it's a bonus , but if they look like a cows backside we ain't gonna find out if they make us laugh

And that would be embarressing and demeaning for everyone . Very poor etiquette indeed .

So let's be honest , how many people would happily jump into bed with anyone who they didn't find physically attractive ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

A big cock, I couldn't care less if they are as funny as Mrs Merton, as intelligent as Stephen Fry.... I am looking to suck cock.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Its good to know that you could look like a cows backside but most of the fab ladies dont mind as long as you can make them laugh

Why I often flop my cock out...never fails to create a giggle.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

For sex alone then looks

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"looks like I'm screwed on both fronts as I don't have looks or personality

You are exactly the type I'd mail. I read profiles.

Don't put yourself down. x"

Your far too kind

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Its good to know that you could look like a cows backside but most of the fab ladies dont mind as long as you can make them laugh

Why I often flop my cock out...never fails to create a giggle.

You don't look like a cows backside though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"DEFFO personality but there needs to be attraction to some degree of course xx

This, definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So when trawling through this site , perhaps on a search, what entices you to stop and contact.

Something they wrote in their profile?

Can you honestly say that when searching looks has nothing to do with what you're looking for ?

Being honest, I have to say the eye candy element and location has a lot to do with who I contact and respond to

Oh and cock size isn't a deal breaker as I'm so sick of seeing the cock compared to a can of deodorant

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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Obviously. 'big tits' is the correct answer.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Is it better to have sex with a person who has a great personality or looks great? Tell me your experiences"

In a pub club supermarket etc situation there has to be that initial attraction of the look to get you interested but in say a work environment there might be a slow burner where someone's personality makes you interested.

In my local there is a girl that comes in all tits and make up and a lot of the guys flock to her, but to me her attitude is unattractive so I talk to a plain jane with a great soh and we have a brilliant night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"A big cock, I couldn't care less if they are as funny as Mrs Merton, as intelligent as Stephen Fry.... I am looking to suck cock. "

Yes, I like a nice looking man with a nice looking cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well on this site looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, if I don't fancy them it's never going to happen but if after talking for a while we have little connection they don't look so good. On here I'm very shallow but when looking for a relationship personality wins the day, I've dated some odd looking men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality, please.

A profile that hints at intelligence, humour and a lack of cynicism is more beautiful than any picture.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I don't think I am shallow, I just like to meet men I find reasonably attractive the same way as they usually do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't choose. One without the other wouldn't turn me on.....unless i was going to be blindfolded (if i didn't find them attractive) or they were going to be gagged (if i didn't like their personality)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality? is this a dating site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personality? is this a dating site?

No....but i like someone with a bit of imagination otherwise it's hard work!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I need both to some extent. Both looks and personality need to appeal.

If one aspect appeals very strongly, however, I can be more flexible on the other."

Exactly. When window shopping on a website obviously the physical is usually what attracts initially, but I can be 'caught' by wit and charm, or something entirely unexpected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personality? is this a dating site?

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no and its not just a lets fuck anyone site....not for some of us

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I like a bit quirky as I think this is sexy as fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm to spend a couple of hours or all night with someone they have to have something other than a nice face and body,or I'll die of boredom.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Personality, please.

A profile that hints at intelligence, humour and a lack of cynicism is more beautiful than any picture."

Wow, aren't you a gem among men lol! I love what you've written actually, shame you're so far away.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I am attracted to a beautiful bloke. He turns out to be a boring , self obsessed, uneducated, dull dull dull bastard. = NO SEX.

I am NOT attracted to an ordinary looking bloke. He turns out to be a laugh a minute, astute at keying in to others, conniving, sweetly manipulative, charming , safe, knowledgable , chirpy , non desperate take me or leave me type. = Sex ....

So ...personality in the end I guess.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Both please. The wrong looks or personality can kill it.

And the right looks or personality can take me to heaven - assuming there's more than an adequate provision of the other.

It's hard for many of us to really reveal much more than a whisper of our personality within a short profile text. (will fill in later, etc). So having a chat helps me connect to the person, sensing their warmth and traits that I like.

The forum does let us have a reasonable go at finding the gist of someone, so is a good place to find people that you'd be drawn to. Hello my lovelies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am attracted to a beautiful bloke. He turns out to be a boring , self obsessed, uneducated, dull dull dull bastard. = NO SEX.

So ...personality in the end I guess."

Ok , I totally get the ordinary guy and there may not be a physical attraction until he turns out to have an engaging personality .

But what if he is truly unattractive to you ?

Not ordinary , but everything you dislike physically ?

Would his personality still be enough ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks, I'm shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter to me, it is just a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks initially, but if personality isn't there , it won't go further

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I am attracted to a beautiful bloke. He turns out to be a boring , self obsessed, uneducated, dull dull dull bastard. = NO SEX.

So ...personality in the end I guess.

Ok , I totally get the ordinary guy and there may not be a physical attraction until he turns out to have an engaging personality .

But what if he is truly unattractive to you ?

Not ordinary , but everything you dislike physically ?

Would his personality still be enough ? "

Good question. No.

But mine might be dependent on the kink... the dirty aspect rather than the attraction one.....

It's all kinds of complicated now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks attract me to the person, their personality keeps my interest.

This 100% for me x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. If he smells bad .. all deals are off.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

On here initially it's all about the looks but personality kicks in when you start to actually talk or meet. If you don't click, if there's no chemistry, then that's the end surely.

Much the same in real life but it's easier to talk and so personality becomes more important. Thankfully ')

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

A dirty personality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me Shallow Hal but I ain't having sex with someone I don't find physically attractive.

Saying that if they're as dull as ditch water they ain't getting in my knickers even if they do look like an Adonis.

#FussyFucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality every time. seeing as not many guys seem to want to show their personality i am shallow as fuck and go for looks, might as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm going to meet someone I have to be attracted to both, personality and looks.

If she lacks personality then might as well meet up with a starfish.

I don't find her attractive, then I don't find her attractive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have to have some physical attraction as well as someone who can hold a conversation and has a good sense of humour.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Well having chatted all day with a woman including her adding me as a friend, I'd say i have a good personality.

But the moment i send her a pic, I'm blocked. Either she's a racist c*nt or shallow. either way, she wasn't a looker anyway so I'm better off

#rantover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have to say both. They're not mutually exclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always found a great personality always caught my attention more so than just looks.

"‘You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful and then you actually talk to them, and five minutes later they’re as dull as a brick. Then there’s other people, and you meet them and think, not bad, they’re okay. And then you get to know them, and their face just sort of becomes them, like their personality’s written all over it. And they just turn into something so beautiful."

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Both,,, defo both

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

Looks for on here as I aint too interested in personality. But if I'm vanilla dating then there has to be personality to go with the looks x

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Personality can mean that someone you might not be initially attracted to soon becomes irresistible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality can mean that someone you might not be initially attracted to soon becomes irresistible"

This

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Personality can mean that someone you might not be initially attracted to soon becomes irresistible"

This is true. And the reverse!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality can mean that someone you might not be initially attracted to soon becomes irresistible"

Very true

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Looks but i wouldnt meet someone just because of the way they looked though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try as I might (I've tried) I can't get with anyone if they are devoid of wit and charm.

Even in clubs, I find there has to be an element of fun and humour before we get naked.

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By *annylondon500Man
over a year ago

mitcham

I wish I was good looking

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Personality for me, I have to get on with someone

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By *immerframes R usCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

spot on, could not have said it better myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be personality, but that only works once you've got to know them, we all base an initial attraction on the physical side, I'd sooner be with a really funny average looking person than a boring stunner!... the personality will make the average looking person stunning

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Attraction at first.. but if a horrible personality..a big turn off for me. At end of the day.. on here we go by pics and profile text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its best to have both...then theres no problem

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By *hefireinsideWoman
over a year ago

Cork

Being attracted to someones looks can lead to good sex; attraction to looks & personality.. Great sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly looks because he can be the funniest and most articulate person ever but if I don't fancy him....it's not going to happen. I haven't really met anyone with a dull personality...just a few that don't like to chat too much...just like to fuck!!!

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