FabSwingers.com forum: A new breed of idiot

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

***Hides***

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"***Hides***"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just single men, couples and ladies do it too, don't think it's a new breed of idiot - perhaps a full moon coming up haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck them. You are too pretty and sexy to bother the time. Where's Wally pants are awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

Still smarting and I didn't message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

I know exactly what you mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

Still smarting and I didn't message!

You can't message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

Still smarting and I didn't message!

You can't message

With all due respect I never want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small minds, small dicks. Block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

Because however infinitesimally small their chances are, they are still greater than if they didn't message at all. Just like the lottery, you've got to be in it to win it...

Either that or they believed someone in a forum who said that looks weren't important and the women on here go crackers for your personality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A new breed you say? A newer and more powerful idiot?

I have competition......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they think by being polite about not being what you want means they're a 'nice' guy. and nice guys should get all the girls.

it is stupid though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they think by being polite about not being what you want means they're a 'nice' guy. and nice guys should get all the girls.

it is stupid though."

When will the idiots on here learn that if a woman says she want's slim/athletic, she wants slim/athletic. She doesn't want a slightly chubby guy who goes to the gym and is trying his absolute best to shape up. She wants slim/athletic!

If a woman says she wants guys 6 foot and over, she want's guys 6 foot and over. Not 5'10, not 5'11, not 5'11 and 63/64ths, 6 foot!

If a woman says "no body or pubic hair", it means no body or pubic hair. Not "well I keep it very short, trimmed and tidy". She wants you to look like a naked mole-rat!

After all, why should anybody compromise in even the slightest way? That's fucking stupid! Nice guys get fuck all in the world. To get your own way, you have to be a cunt!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

I like those ones. It makes it simple to block them immediately because they already know why they've been blocked.

I still feel justified in blocking the ones who aren't what I'm looking for but didn't read my profile, but I'm always aware they won't know why they've been blocked and will probably pop up on here at some point, moaning about all the bitches that block them for "no reason".

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Nice guys get fuck all in the world. To get your own way, you have to be a cunt!"

No, but you do have to be what the other person wants

I don't want to meet cunty men either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they think by being polite about not being what you want means they're a 'nice' guy. and nice guys should get all the girls.

it is stupid though.

If a woman says she wants guys 6 foot and over, she want's guys 6 foot and over. Not 5'10, not 5'11, not 5'11 and 63/64ths, 6 foot!

If a woman says "no body or pubic hair", it means no body or pubic hair. Not "well I keep it very short, trimmed and tidy". She wants you to look like a naked mole-rat!

After all, why should anybody compromise in even the slightest way? That's fucking stupid! Nice guys get fuck all in the world. To get your own way, you have to be a cunt! "

i don't have half that stuff up, all i have is age ranges. apologising for being 10+ yrs out of them is stupid. i've even rarely had guys 20+ yrs out of them doing this.

being a cunt gets you blocked on here, nothing more than that. being a liar might get you some of what and that doesn't make you nice.

genuinely nice guys respect women and their choices. they might not get what they want but they also will not offend women or disrespect them. and this is what so many guys do not understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have preferences but if you get chatting and the banter is there then sometimes you can see past it and someone who is respectful and funny and easy going in my eyes is way more important than if he's 5"11 rather than 6" Mrs A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice guys get fuck all in the world. To get your own way, you have to be a cunt! "

That's bullshit dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice guys get fuck all in the world. To get your own way, you have to be a cunt!

That's bullshit dude."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being a cunt gets you blocked on here, nothing more than that.

Plenty of things get you blocked on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but you do have to be what the other person wants

I don't want to meet cunty men either!"

Who would? Maybe it's better to say that unless a person finds you attractive, being nice or not is a moot point. It won't make any difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being a cunt gets you blocked on here, nothing more than that.

Plenty of things get you blocked on here..."

yes it does and if you haven't been offensive then it's nothing to do with you personally, but nobody wants to meet a cunt is my point. being one will not get you what you want on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it does and if you haven't been offensive then it's nothing to do with you personally, but nobody wants to meet a cunt is my point. being one will not get you what you want on here.

Maybe not so much on here, but in life in general. Take politicians for example, most of them got where they are by screwing someone else over somewhere along the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it does and if you haven't been offensive then it's nothing to do with you personally, but nobody wants to meet a cunt is my point. being one will not get you what you want on here.

Maybe not so much on here, but in life in general. Take politicians for example, most of them got where they are by screwing someone else over somewhere along the line."

you can't block politicians sadly. be good if you could. or even that they had to adhere to the rules they created for us. idk why but people like others doing stuff on their behalf so that's not gonna change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either that or they believed someone in a forum who said that looks weren't important and the women on here go crackers for your personality...

Oh that made me chortle

First one of a new day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

For this reason I copy and paste " Fancy a fuck " and send it with 10 cock pics. If you ask 100 times someone has to say yes. It's a numbers game

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

Now you see, I look at the profile first. As I have (when visible) "I will not respond to anyone outwith what I'm looking for" on mine, if they don't, the message is deleted unread.

I'm getting old, I don't have the time or inclination to repeat myself. The result? Seven angst free enjoyable years on Fab, no trauma, drama or abuse because I'm in control.

I suspect some people get off on drama!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice guys get fuck all in the world. To get your own way, you have to be a cunt!

That's bullshit dude."

He's young.

He'll learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

Good morning I am not whatykur looking for but......

Lolsorry I could not resist

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

Totally agree, well said that girl xxx

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

Good morning I am not whatykur looking for but......

Lolsorry I could not resist

You're just hoping pooch can get you out if things go wrong aren't you Taff? Or do you have insider knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He'll blame Pooch for putting whiskey in his morning coffee on the poor spelling.......

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No, but you do have to be what the other person wants

I don't want to meet cunty men either!

Who would? Maybe it's better to say that unless a person finds you attractive, being nice or not is a moot point. It won't make any difference."

Not really. Being a cunt guarantees not getting what you want.

Sometimes being nice gives you a chance of getting what you want.

However, if you're outside someone's age range or other states preferences, messaging anyway ain't being nice. If they wanted messages from people of your age/height/whatever, that/those traits would be included in their preferences on their profile.

Anyone who thinks they were nice in their message to someone whose profile criteria they didn't meet, is deluded. They basically sent spam they knew wasn't wanted.

A lot of guys - and possibly some women/couples, though I don't recall ever seeing any - moan about being blocked "for no reason ". There's always a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but you do have to be what the other person wants

I don't want to meet cunty men either!

Who would? Maybe it's better to say that unless a person finds you attractive, being nice or not is a moot point. It won't make any difference."

This ain't the site for everyone.

Some men get frustrated as their expectations aren't being met, some women's demands are excessive, something they possibly wouldn't achieve in real life.

Combination of the 2 results in said men getting all shitty at any rejection possibly more so when they think the woman was punching above her weight in the 1st instance.....said woman gets pissed off & ups her preferences even more...viscious circle ensues!

Obvs that doesn't apply to all & sundry but you get the gist.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

I suspect some people get off on drama!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

Because however infinitesimally small their chances are, they are still greater than if they didn't message at all. Just like the lottery, you've got to be in it to win it...

Either that or they believed someone in a forum who said that looks weren't important and the women on here go crackers for your personality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get, 'I don't live in Edinburgh but can give you great sex...... '

Hold on, let me drive an 80 mile round trip cause I can't get great sex in Edinburgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

They're just trying to get into your knickers with a different approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading profiles is what makes it easier for us, we may like the look of someone, but if there are things that are not compatible with us or they are strict in what they like, we will never approach them, what is the point? there are always other people. Generally, you eventually find people who you like and they like you also. It think sometime people think its a free for all, but really and trully it isn't. Rapport, trust and respect are really big here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just bizarre, block for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah well- I would never have met my other half if I had stuck rigidly to my ideals.

And yes he isn't perfect but then neither am I x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are for many hard rules and soft rules, hard rules are definite no no's which tend to be written in profiles. Soft rules rarely get mentioned in profiles and they tend to be very flexible. You are right that taking a chance could mean it may happen, however people also got to respect that no does indeed mean no, just because someone gets rejected it does not mean they should get nasty with it. Like I said before just because people are on here does not necessarily mean its a free for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Height is non negotiable to me. Age is more a preference, and anything else I would consider at the time. I get stick for the height thing all the time but I'm not about to change my mind so I just delete and block if they persist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a new breed of idiot, its the same breed that has evolved slightly and learned a new 'trick' lol

As always.. Just run your own profile how you see fit, you only have yourself to please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah well- I would never have met my other half if I had stuck rigidly to my ideals.

And yes he isn't perfect but then neither am I x"

I can be flexible occasionally

If I see something in their profile that piques my interest, for instance..

And height wise 5'11" is fine sometimes... But I'm not going to take a chance on anyone who is at least 5" shorter than me however nice their personality is

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

It's not just the men who are stupid, we were recently contacted by two couples in the last few days. The first has their profile hidden (because they get too many messages) and will only communicate through kik(whatever that is). The second refuses to show any pics of mr, "because of his job"... even after receiving our face pics, no! we're not allowed to see what he looks like...

How do we know if we're interested in you if we don't know what you look like and you tell us nothing about you.

Stupid people

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

How do we know if we're interested in you if we don't know what you look like and you tell us nothing about you.

Stupid people

Cal"

Yeah some women who message are terrible too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trouble is, there's a lot of cunts about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trouble is, there's a lot of cunts about."

A fair and valid point , made in such a succinct way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either that or they believed someone in a forum who said that looks weren't important and the women on here go crackers for your personality...

Oh that made me chortle

First one of a new day

Glad someone appreciates my cynical brand of sarcasm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Rapport, trust and respect are really big here.

But what if one were not allowed to build said rapport based on their looks and or physical stats?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

I understand completely... Block button is getting worn out

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

I understand completely... Block button is getting worn out

My block list is so huge it meeps fracturing and blocked people fall out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. Being a cunt guarantees not getting what you want.

Sometimes being nice gives you a chance of getting what you want.

Anyone who thinks they were nice in their message to someone whose profile criteria they didn't meet, is deluded. They basically sent spam they knew wasn't wanted.

The trouble is, it's not always clear if people's age/height/weight etc ranges are hard and fast limits, or merely guidelines.

For example, as a general rule I'm not that interested in women under 25. That doesn't mean I would never consider messaging one though, it would just reduce the chance of it. It's a minor, not a major.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

I understand completely... Block button is getting worn out

My block list is so huge it meeps fracturing and blocked people fall out of it

*keeps

It's not the roadrunner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

I understand completely... Block button is getting worn out

My block list is so huge it meeps fracturing and blocked people fall out of it

*keeps

It's not the roadrunner."

If the block button had a MEEP sound effect I'd use it more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

I understand completely... Block button is getting worn out

My block list is so huge it meeps fracturing and blocked people fall out of it

*keeps

It's not the roadrunner."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trouble is, there's a lot of cunts about.

A fair and valid point , made in such a succinct way

It's what i do...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on

I understand completely... Block button is getting worn out

My block list is so huge it meeps fracturing and blocked people fall out of it

*keeps

It's not the roadrunner.

If the block button had a MEEP sound effect I'd use it more.

If I used it any more I might blow the server up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

that happens ALL the time,,yea just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

ooooooo i like attitude in a fox xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Meep

And that's just in the last hour

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm just old school idiot

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Meep

Meep

And that's just in the last hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meep

Meep

And that's just in the last hour

Is that a "wide vehicle " reversing?.....

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Meep

Meep

And that's just in the last hour

I think we may have a new euphemism for blocking someone

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Meep

Meep

And that's just in the last hour

Is that a "wide vehicle " reversing?....."
does your bum look big in that?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Meep

Meep

And that's just in the last hour

Is that a "wide vehicle " reversing?.....

does your bum look big in that?

Or maybe it's does that look big in your bum?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meep

Meep

And that's just in the last hour

Is that a "wide vehicle " reversing?....."

I already meeped you

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

It may be the same type of idiot but in a shiny new package, which when you open said package is half the size inside

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"What is it with men who message saying 'I'm not what you are looking for but...,' and then they get all arsey when you say (politely) no thanks?

Well it's no more mrs nice ...

Block city from now on "

I had one this morning although he didn't get arsey with my reply.

My frustration with these messages leaked out a bit though.

On the one hand I don't think being blunt with someone who has knowingly ignored what I've said is unreasonable, whilst on the other I think I ought to just block and move on without telling them how much I appreciate them ignoring what I want because it doesn't fit what they want.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

You are gorgeous that's why they chance it.

K x

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