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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she recognised you from real life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over "

Hey at least you didn't chat with her for 5 weeks before hand...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over "

Would it have helped if she had told you that you are unattractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shrug your shoulders and move on dude. No point in ranting about it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

People often describe those who have blocked them as "ignorant", which seems like a strange use of the word.

How are they ignorant? Of what are they ignorant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What difference would a message saying that she was blocking have actually made?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One less just forget it and move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just her way of saying you're not her type..and by blocking you she knows she wont chat to you again unless she wants too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harsh I know. But peopl react different ways, I'm unsure how I would tell somebody that I'm not physically attracted to them. Although I get it if I'm told, I'm not comfertable in telling a girl, there not good looking to me.

Maybe blocking or deleting is an easy safe option.

Accept it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just her way of saying you're not her type..and by blocking you she knows she wont chat to you again unless she wants too"
that's fair, though we didn't speak about arranging a meet, it was just general chat, so her not being attracted to me was irrelavent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often think people are somewhat cold when it comes to these threads.

OP, this has happened to me before and it does hurt at first. I can see why it would bother you. However, it is pretty standard around here and something you just kind of get used to. There will be plenty who are attracted to you.

And to anyone asking, yes, I would personally prefer if someone just said I wasn't for them then to be blocked out of the blue. It does make a difference - closure makes a difference. Maybe not to circumstances, but to mindsets.

Everyone claims they want messages that show the person messaging wants them and isn't just copy and pasting tons of messages and then wonders why it bothers someone to be rejected in such a careless way.

People should do what they want, including blocking without rejection. That's fine. But I can understand the emotional response it often redults in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often think people are somewhat cold when it comes to these threads.

OP, this has happened to me before and it does hurt at first. I can see why it would bother you. However, it is pretty standard around here and something you just kind of get used to. There will be plenty who are attracted to you.

And to anyone asking, yes, I would personally prefer if someone just said I wasn't for them then to be blocked out of the blue. It does make a difference - closure makes a difference. Maybe not to circumstances, but to mindsets.

Everyone claims they want messages that show the person messaging wants them and isn't just copy and pasting tons of messages and then wonders why it bothers someone to be rejected in such a careless way.

People should do what they want, including blocking without rejection. That's fine. But I can understand the emotional response it often redults in. "

Perfect.

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By *Sin or Not 2SinCouple
over a year ago

A hop skip n a jump

Some people do not have the confidence to reject someone with a message as they fear it comes across as harsh so the simple thing to do is delete or block. There is no right or wrong way to do things on here and manners do seem to go out of the window

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

It wasn't very nice of her, some people are a bit tactless. I was blocked by someone because of a remark I made on facebook, some people are too touchy.

She should of just said sorry but youre not really my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People often describe those who have blocked them as "ignorant", which seems like a strange use of the word.

How are they ignorant? Of what are they ignorant?"

I wouldn't use ignorant either. I would call them cunts x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"People often describe those who have blocked them as "ignorant", which seems like a strange use of the word.

How are they ignorant? Of what are they ignorant?

I wouldn't use ignorant either. I would call them cunts x"

Yeah cunts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often think people are somewhat cold when it comes to these threads.

OP, this has happened to me before and it does hurt at first. I can see why it would bother you. However, it is pretty standard around here and something you just kind of get used to. There will be plenty who are attracted to you.

And to anyone asking, yes, I would personally prefer if someone just said I wasn't for them then to be blocked out of the blue. It does make a difference - closure makes a difference. Maybe not to circumstances, but to mindsets.

Everyone claims they want messages that show the person messaging wants them and isn't just copy and pasting tons of messages and then wonders why it bothers someone to be rejected in such a careless way.

People should do what they want, including blocking without rejection. That's fine. But I can understand the emotional response it often redults in. "

Absolutely this.

People whine when they perceive others as treating them like a piece of meat yet do the exact same to other people!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

chin up welcome and good luck

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over "

Some people are that pathetic that it gives them a little sese of superiority or power trip etc (imagine!) Bless lol

Fuck em...well u cant but you know what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the same thing happen to me only a few days ago! I sent the pic as was asked from me, I got blocked immediately.

Bit shocked but then I laughed.

If they can't be arsed to say no thanks, you're not my type, I'm delighted I didn't get to meet their rude selves in person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing to do is just have a face pic available on your profile, that way they'll know what you look like before hand saves a lot of trouble

But I appreciate many aren't comfortable with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard to accept when you've been chatting and get dismissed on a purely physical level, sadly there's not a lot that you can do OP, take it on the chin and move on. No one is attractive to everyone and perceptions of beauty change, keep your self belief and don't become bitter about it. Trust me it will come good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got blocked for refusing a second meet.

Its fickle on here .....so get some rhino skin and pour a glass of wine and listen to the Worzels.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've chatted with a lady and all going well until I sent a face pic. Too ugly to fuck, I guess. C'est la vie.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I know it can be difficult after chatting for a bit to say 'sorry you're not my type' because I don't enjoy doing it myself.

I do do it though. Blocking is pretty cowardly but I know some people take rejection very badly and blocking can avoid comeback.

If I felt I had to block in this situation I'd send the sorry message before blocking.

When I make first contact, (when my face pics aren't public, as they are currently), I usually send face pics with the message. That way people can decide before any exchange of messages, after which it can be more difficult to say no.

It would be easier if everyone had clear body pics and sent a face pic with messages.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I've chatted with a lady and all going well until I sent a face pic. Too ugly to fuck, I guess. C'est la vie. "

Maybe she found out you're a shit shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos she is afraid of rejection, but as she contacted you first, she should of send it first.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over "

Think of it this way.. "You were out of her league,'. You're a 10 she was a 2.

Feel better.

My work here is done.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I got blocked for refusing a second meet.

Its fickle on here .....so get some rhino skin and pour a glass of wine and listen to the Worzels."

If you didn't want a second meet, why did it matter if you were blocked?

Maybe it was sour grapes and they wanted to remove your veri or maybe it was so they didn't accidentally contact you again.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over

Think of it this way.. "You were out of her league,'. You're a 10 she was a 2.

Feel better.

My work here is done. "

That is possible.

I've declined people because I didn't think they'd be interested in me in the past.

Now I try to let them make up their own mind rather than deciding what they'll think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People need to stop thinking they're ugly if they get rejected. I'm attracted to certain people, but not others, some of the men I turn down because 'm not attracted to are quite good looking, but may not have a certain something that another might

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just put a face pic on my profile; saves the drama.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've chatted with a lady and all going well until I sent a face pic. Too ugly to fuck, I guess. C'est la vie.

Maybe she found out you're a shit shag? "

No, she knew already!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we'd spoken and faces had been swapped I'd say not for me and wish them well xx

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By *errygTV/TS
over a year ago

denton

i block people who hi x, or dont read profile, you maybe put something in your mail that triggered the block,move on theres people joining everyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op we have blocked lots of people, don't take it personally mate. It just makes it easier. That being said it is a little rude if you've been chatting and then you just get blocked, but then there are some really rude people about.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"People need to stop thinking they're ugly if they get rejected. I'm attracted to certain people, but not others, some of the men I turn down because 'm not attracted to are quite good looking, but may not have a certain something that another might "

^ this. Sometimes a no from me is actually a not right now. I go through phases during which I'm less interested in meets so less likely to say yes to someone, even if another time I'd be over them like a rash!

I think most of us have phases like that.

I've also had guys message me about a meet several weeks/months after they ignored a message from me. Either they missed my message, forgot to answer or accidentally deleted it, or I looked more attractive after they'd been declined by everyone hotter and they'd finally got round to me!

I try not to second guess now though sometimes it's difficult not to.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I've chatted with a lady and all going well until I sent a face pic. Too ugly to fuck, I guess. C'est la vie.

Maybe she found out you're a shit shag?

No, she knew already! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She could have said you weren't for her, maybe it was a guy masquerading as a woman so couldn't send a pic, maybe she recognised you. Who knows.

I try not to block but I have if you get those who wAnt to use you as wank fodder. It goes along the lines of -

hi,

hi back ,

how's you?

I'm good thanks,

my cock is throbbing want to see?

No thanks

It's really hard now

No that's not what I'm into

I'll show you

Then I get to the point where I think, they really aren't getting this, the blood is all in their cock and I block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose one way of looking at it, is that, someone may not like a person based on a pic but may feel differently if meeting in person, and vice versa.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"She could have said you weren't for her, maybe it was a guy masquerading as a woman so couldn't send a pic, maybe she recognised you. Who knows.

I try not to block but I have if you get those who wAnt to use you as wank fodder. It goes along the lines of -

hi,

hi back ,

how's you?

I'm good thanks,

my cock is throbbing want to see?

No thanks

It's really hard now

No that's not what I'm into

I'll show you

Then I get to the point where I think, they really aren't getting this, the blood is all in their cock and I block. "

I'd have blocked at "it's really hard now" stage. You have more patience than I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She could have said you weren't for her, maybe it was a guy masquerading as a woman so couldn't send a pic, maybe she recognised you. Who knows.

I try not to block but I have if you get those who wAnt to use you as wank fodder. It goes along the lines of -

hi,

hi back ,

how's you?

I'm good thanks,

my cock is throbbing want to see?

No thanks

It's really hard now

No that's not what I'm into

I'll show you

Then I get to the point where I think, they really aren't getting this, the blood is all in their cock and I block.

I'd have blocked at "it's really hard now" stage. You have more patience than I!"

I give one extra chance. Just in case.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I suppose one way of looking at it, is that, someone may not like a person based on a pic but may feel differently if meeting in person, and vice versa. "

Yup.

I can tell if I don't find someone attractive (physically) from a photo but to be sure I do, I have to meet them.

I can't easily translate a 2D pic into an idea of a 3D face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She could have said you weren't for her, maybe it was a guy masquerading as a woman so couldn't send a pic, maybe she recognised you. Who knows.

I try not to block but I have if you get those who wAnt to use you as wank fodder. It goes along the lines of -

hi,

hi back ,

how's you?

I'm good thanks,

my cock is throbbing want to see?

No thanks

It's really hard now

No that's not what I'm into

I'll show you

Then I get to the point where I think, they really aren't getting this, the blood is all in their cock and I block. "
she sent me a body pic, I didn't recognise her tattoo so don't think she recognised me haha I'm not fussed now, was just a little annoyed before, can I not close this thread?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"She could have said you weren't for her, maybe it was a guy masquerading as a woman so couldn't send a pic, maybe she recognised you. Who knows.

I try not to block but I have if you get those who wAnt to use you as wank fodder. It goes along the lines of -

hi,

hi back ,

how's you?

I'm good thanks,

my cock is throbbing want to see?

No thanks

It's really hard now

No that's not what I'm into

I'll show you

Then I get to the point where I think, they really aren't getting this, the blood is all in their cock and I block. she sent me a body pic, I didn't recognise her tattoo so don't think she recognised me haha I'm not fussed now, was just a little annoyed before, can I not close this thread? "

Nope. Unless you pm a mod and ask them to do it.

Otherwise it will close at 175 posts.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"People need to stop thinking they're ugly if they get rejected. I'm attracted to certain people, but not others, some of the men I turn down because 'm not attracted to are quite good looking, but may not have a certain something that another might "

So this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a face picture with a first message. Saves any hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People overestimate how much they mean to the person who sent the face pic. They daren't say that you're not their type in case you are so beset with sorrow that you immediately set off to Tibet to live the remainder of your days as a monk.

Or. Blocking is just easier. Lol. I'm sure we've all been on both sides of the coin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send a face picture with a first message. Saves any hassle."

You've also got your boat race on pro pic, as I also currently do.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"People need to stop thinking they're ugly if they get rejected. I'm attracted to certain people, but not others, some of the men I turn down because 'm not attracted to are quite good looking, but may not have a certain something that another might

So this!!! "

I think, actually, she did think I was ugly because she was happy to chat with me before she saw my face. It was only after she say it that she blocked me.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over "

People block for all sorts of random reasons. Wouldn't worry about it mate on wards and upwards I say

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I ask for a face pic early on to avoid any awkwardness. I've been accused of being a man before for doing that!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send a face picture with a first message. Saves any hassle."

Ermh...what ?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I ask for a face pic early on to avoid any awkwardness. I've been accused of being a man before for doing that!!!! "

Me too. And a pic collector!

Yes with an entire internet at my fingertips I join sites like this and send messages to strangers in order to collect their face photos...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People need to stop thinking they're ugly if they get rejected. I'm attracted to certain people, but not others, some of the men I turn down because 'm not attracted to are quite good looking, but may not have a certain something that another might "

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"I got blocked for refusing a second meet.

Its fickle on here .....so get some rhino skin and pour a glass of wine and listen to the Worzels."

Wurzels!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block ugly ones who message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a face pic and in not attracted to them I say nicely they are not first me but then I do block as I have had so many guys after a week try and try again.. so makes it easier not getting the same message over and over x

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"I block ugly ones who message "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people do not have the confidence to reject someone with a message as they fear it comes across as harsh so the simple thing to do is delete or block. There is no right or wrong way to do things on here and manners do seem to go out of the window "

Also some people can tend to take it as an open debate on why they are not for you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Dunno O.P. What do you think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over

Would it have helped if she had told you that you are unattractive?"

I hate it when this happens but a simple no thanks is all I look for..,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send a face picture with a first message. Saves any hassle.

Ermh...what ?"

I don't really see a small avatar of half my face as a real face picture to be honest.

I know I'd want to see a proper face picture if I were me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I received a message from a woman last night, we chatted a little then she said she would send me a face pic, if I sent her 1 first, so I sent her a couple, to which she read my message and immediately block me, nice confidence booster haha. Now I know I'm not gonna be every women's type, why settle for maybe 7/10 when there's probably many 10/10 on here, but why not just tell me she wasn't interested , rather than being ignorant and blocking me, especially when she initiated the conversation in the first place. Rant over "

Lucky escape

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