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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you feel if your on a meet if the other person had an erection and then they lose it,what would you do in this situation,as it happened to me for the first time and i feel awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Performance anxiety..it happens. Probably nowt to do with you. Just take a break or something. Willie's are a pain at the best of times

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

This is not (so far) a problem for me. Just concentrate on getting the other person to relax and everything flows more easily

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By *illy big bolloxMan
over a year ago

Newark

Its all down to nerves and maybe if it was his first time, a bit of stage fright.

It will be nothing you have or haven't done, don't beat yourself up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you feel if your on a meet if the other person had an erection and then they lose it,what would you do in this situation,as it happened to me for the first time and i feel awful."

Why do you feel awful my love . It certainly won't be your fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd put it down to nerves but if it continued to happen I'd get a complex aboit it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you feel if your on a meet if the other person had an erection and then they lose it,what would you do in this situation,as it happened to me for the first time and i feel awful."

Get on your knees and start sucking lol , if that doesn't get a guy back up then I'm afraid nothing will lol xx

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe sing to him, or perhaps wear a hat.

Works for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know men feel bad about it but women do to,and i had met him before and everything was fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know men feel bad about it but women do to,and i had met him before and everything was fine."

So you know it works. Just having a bad day. Anyway. He still has his tongue and fingers

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Everyone is human.

I know when I was with my FWB recently we had a great time, paused for a bit for some wine and catch my breath and I couldn't get it up. Maybe I got too relaxed about it, as I usually go hard as soon as the wind picks up.

We both joked about it and continued with the second session.

Being open and honest about it may alleviate the anxiety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know men feel bad about it but women do to,and i had met him before and everything was fine.

So you know it works. Just having a bad day. Anyway. He still has his tongue and fingers

My personal experience, I have never met a man that uses his 'tongue and fingers' in this situation. It's always a 'sorry' and then leaves. Must be me then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know men feel bad about it but women do to,and i had met him before and everything was fine.

So you know it works. Just having a bad day. Anyway. He still has his tongue and fingers

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I know but i departed as felt bad

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive had sex with a few men in my time. Not everything is perfect everytime its not a porn show. Just dont make an issue out of it cause the guy might be feeling abit bleugh. Stress, anxious, nerves, all sorts of reasons. Just one of those things

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I know men feel bad about it but women do to,and i had met him before and everything was fine."
well tbere you go probaly just " one of those days"

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

It wouldn't bother me at all, I used to see a chap who had had cancer and it affected his erection but boy could he kiss and the rest I the foreplay was very enjoyable, I have never been one to put pressure on a guy to perform because further anxiety makes things worse for them

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I often wonder if it's my fault if a guy loses, or can't get an erection. It's not something I stress about or make any fuss or big deal about though. It happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often wonder if it's my fault if a guy loses, or can't get an erection. It's not something I stress about or make any fuss or big deal about though. It happens."

Whether it's my fault or not I always feel like it is... Or rather I think I'm made to feel like it is...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I often wonder if it's my fault if a guy loses, or can't get an erection. It's not something I stress about or make any fuss or big deal about though. It happens.

Whether it's my fault or not I always feel like it is... Or rather I think I'm made to feel like it is... "
Exactly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had that problem with a women I was seeing, thought had health problem. We stopped met another woman on another site. No problems. Sometimes its just pyshcological and pressure eased off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is a factor aswell my dick has a mind of its own,sometimes he doesnt want to play and other times i have to beat the fucker with a bat to get it down...its an evil bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age is a factor aswell my dick has a mind of its own,sometimes he doesnt want to play and other times i have to beat the fucker with a bat to get it down...its an evil bastard"

Careful bats have claws and teeth

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A lady sent me a suggestion in a message. That got me hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age is a factor aswell my dick has a mind of its own,sometimes he doesnt want to play and other times i have to beat the fucker with a bat to get it down...its an evil bastard

Careful bats have claws and teeth

Its ok it was a cricket bat,im not that daft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Performance anxiety..it happens. Probably nowt to do with you. Just take a break or something. Willie's are a pain at the best of times"

Yeh I think we've all had this at some point. Its best to relax and just do some very nice alternative play. Its not the end of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I think everyone has very good and valid points

i do however understand that it would impact on confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can happen at any time - anxiety etc.

Most probably not you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us men are not all porn stars you now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo performance anxiety for sure..dont sweat it, it happens sometimes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us men are not all porn stars you now

What say it isn't so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often wonder if it's my fault if a guy loses, or can't get an erection. It's not something I stress about or make any fuss or big deal about though. It happens.

Whether it's my fault or not I always feel like it is... Or rather I think I'm made to feel like it is... "

I was made to feel like this for years as other half couldn't get or stay hard .. got myself a playmate and so far not had any problems so must have not been me after all !

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us men are not all porn stars you now

What say it isn't so

Ha... its true..apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us men are not all porn stars you now

What say it isn't so

Im VWE 10+ im an heavy cummer a repeater,long stayer,clean,nice smelling,devilishly handsome,but alas not a porn star

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you feel if your on a meet if the other person had an erection and then they lose it,what would you do in this situation,as it happened to me for the first time and i feel awful."

You lost your erection?

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I didn't feel bad when it happened with me. I have seen him before. I knew he was stressed with stuff. I just got him to lie down and gave him a hot oil massage. Sometimes what we want and what we get are beyond our control. Why would you feel awful? If you have seen him before and he came back you must know he wanted to have sex with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't a big deal and shouldn't be made into one either as that will just compound the anxiety and it'll never rise.

Nerves is a killer for a good erection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us men are not all porn stars you now

What say it isn't so

Im VWE 10+ im an heavy cummer a repeater,long stayer,clean,nice smelling,devilishly handsome,but alas not a porn star"

Hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that it happens when im nervious about pleasing the Lady. I over come it by spending more time with my head between her legs lol

Ady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us men are not all porn stars you now

What say it isn't so

Im VWE 10+ im an heavy cummer a repeater,long stayer,clean,nice smelling,devilishly handsome,but alas not a porn star

Hello

I might have been lying about 99.9% of the above,but the other 1% is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this was a thread about Japanese politics!

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By *ymanMan
over a year ago

Wigan

Jump start it again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me a couple of times, different men. I didn't know if it was due to nerves or them not fancying me. I didn't make a fuss at all and let them know it was ok. On the inside I was dying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often wonder if it's my fault if a guy loses, or can't get an erection. It's not something I stress about or make any fuss or big deal about though. It happens.

Whether it's my fault or not I always feel like it is... Or rather I think I'm made to feel like it is...

I was made to feel like this for years as other half couldn't get or stay hard .. got myself a playmate and so far not had any problems so must have not been me after all !

A x "

Don't get me wrong ... It hasn't been all men just some and it's horrible when they don't reassure u in anyway. Self-esteem takes a knock, I have even ran out of a fab meets home crying cos that's how shit I felt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened today. Up in.. Start. Down.

I left swiftly... But remained polite.

I'm now frustrated.

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"I thought this was a thread about Japanese politics! "

Sirry iriot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often wonder if it's my fault if a guy loses, or can't get an erection. It's not something I stress about or make any fuss or big deal about though. It happens.

Whether it's my fault or not I always feel like it is... Or rather I think I'm made to feel like it is...

I was made to feel like this for years as other half couldn't get or stay hard .. got myself a playmate and so far not had any problems so must have not been me after all !

A x

I think they make us feel like shit cuz their embarrassed ...yes men have "problems" but to make us feel responsible is not fair and messes with our confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can happen to anyone...especially in a new situation, or if sex is long and toilet breaks etc needed. A bit of life has to be put back into the ol fella.

Don't do what is the common go to for women and start thrashing the life out of the poor sod's willy...more likely to get him hard by gently kissing his neck and slowly, slowly I tell ya, working your way down...

I read a long time ago that by the time a man first touches a woman's vagina it should already be wet...if not, there hasn't been enough play beforehand...apply that little snippet to a cock in need of (standing to) attention

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

"I thought this was a thread about Japanese politics! "

My first thought too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us men are not all porn stars you now

What say it isn't so

Im VWE 10+ im an heavy cummer a repeater,long stayer,clean,nice smelling,devilishly handsome,but alas not a porn star

Hello

I might have been lying about 99.9% of the above,but the other 1% is true"

Modest too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had this problem luckily but would be sorry if I did x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know men feel bad about it but women do to,and i had met him before and everything was fine."

Could be just stress...

... he needs to man up and concentrate all his efforts on you and make sure you have an enjoyable time even if that's without penetrative sex.

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

Any man who says he has never had performance anxiety either is lying, has an inexhaustible supply of Cialis/Viagra, or always wears a cock ring!

Neither party should feel that they are unattractive .....

A swift prostate massage might help

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Help them find it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us men are not all porn stars you now

What say it isn't so

Im VWE 10+ im an heavy cummer a repeater,long stayer,clean,nice smelling,devilishly handsome,but alas not a porn star

Hello

I might have been lying about 99.9% of the above,but the other 1% is true"

Damn it Rossi do you know how hard it is to find a VWE 10+ heavy cummer repeater,long stayer,clean,nice devilishly hsndsome man

Stop messing with a girls dreams will ya

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

I dip my 2 inch monster in cement before any meet, so losing an erection is never an issue....unless they have a chisel stashed up their growlers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you feel if your on a meet if the other person had an erection and then they lose it,what would you do in this situation,as it happened to me for the first time and i feel awful.

You lost your erection?

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I said the other person not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pam, it's not you honestly.

I worry so much about getting a meet off here because of this very reason. I'm old.

It's mostly an age related thing, and it's happening to me more and more. It starts fine, but then fades to a semi sometimes.

I'm still turned on and horny, but not rock solid. Sooo frustratin. Thankfully, I'm also good with the rest of my body! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pam, it's not you honestly.

I worry so much about getting a meet off here because of this very reason. I'm old.

It's mostly an age related thing, and it's happening to me more and more. It starts fine, but then fades to a semi sometimes.

I'm still turned on and horny, but not rock solid. Sooo frustratin. Thankfully, I'm also good with the rest of my body! X"
aw bless you ,youre not old

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over a year ago

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