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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm finding it hard on here as I'm so picky with my guys (i no )

But also they guys that I do talk to etc they don't want to talk and get to know you they all want to rush meets.. and I don't do that.. makes me think they are only after one time wonders again that's not what I'm after

Sorry I no its not rant day but needed to get it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pfft charming.

Actually, no, good point, I just talk about your butt all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pfft charming.

Actually, no, good point, I just talk about your butt all the time. "

LOL that you do indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pfft charming.

Actually, no, good point, I just talk about your butt all the time.

LOL that you do indeed "

It's really cute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pfft charming.

Actually, no, good point, I just talk about your butt all the time.

LOL that you do indeed

It's really cute."

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

love the world as it is, or change yourself, its the only thing you can control

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am extrovert i will chat to anyone about anything i find its often this way i am attracted to someone dont be scared to open yourself up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am extrovert i will chat to anyone about anything i find its often this way i am attracted to someone dont be scared to open yourself up "

Thanks maybe I need to

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

There's nothing wrong with being picky. Just remember, regular meets start with just one. If it doesn't work out after the first one are you likely to want to meet again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am extrovert i will chat to anyone about anything i find its often this way i am attracted to someone dont be scared to open yourself up

Thanks maybe I need to "

One of my best friends refers to me as an optimistic fairy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We could talk if you want, get to know each other.....

Fancy a shag in 2017?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We could talk if you want, get to know each other.....

Fancy a shag in 2017? "

LOL wouldn't be that long but they all want to meet after a day or 2... but if that talk is still on the cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a balance to be struck here, we dont just jump into bed with people, thats not our way, but equally far too many people on here are way too prickly about socials.

With every meet we have tried to arrange there has been the either implicit or explicit understanding that there would be a social first, likely in a public setting, coffee or a beer etc. And that to us ought to be something you can arrange at a relatively early point in the conversation. It should not take a month to decide if you are happy to have a drink with someone.

Unfortunately most people on here either want someone who can come round and drop their knickers at the drop of a hat, or someone who wants to schedule their sex life on geological time.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"love the world as it is, or change yourself, its the only thing you can control

xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding it hard on here as I'm so picky with my guys (i no )

But also they guys that I do talk to etc they don't want to talk and get to know you they all want to rush meets.. and I don't do that.. makes me think they are only after one time wonders again that's not what I'm after

Sorry I no its not rant day but needed to get it out "

I never rush things when it comes to meeting, I like socials as you get to know the person and then you can find out if there's that special spark you need to take the next step and if it's there, great, but by no means do I rush the next step.

Socials are awesome, if they agree to a social (without the promise of a blowjob at the end of the night), definitely worth taking them up in the offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We could talk if you want, get to know each other.....

Fancy a shag in 2017?

LOL wouldn't be that long but they all want to meet after a day or 2... but if that talk is still on the cards "

Will pencil you in, shall we say late July early August...hopefully won't be pissing down all the time then!

But fully agree unless we have specifically posted a meet on the day, the chances of us just getting up and going off meeting are next to none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding it hard on here as I'm so picky with my guys (i no )

But also they guys that I do talk to etc they don't want to talk and get to know you they all want to rush meets.. and I don't do that.. makes me think they are only after one time wonders again that's not what I'm after

Sorry I no its not rant day but needed to get it out "

I've been here a month longer than you and still do not have a meet. Seems like I'm more picky than you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stick to your guns kiddo

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm picky too. All ladies line up and I'll pick a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a balance to be struck here, we dont just jump into bed with people, thats not our way, but equally far too many people on here are way too prickly about socials.

With every meet we have tried to arrange there has been the either implicit or explicit understanding that there would be a social first, likely in a public setting, coffee or a beer etc. And that to us ought to be something you can arrange at a relatively early point in the conversation. It should not take a month to decide if you are happy to have a drink with someone.

Unfortunately most people on here either want someone who can come round and drop their knickers at the drop of a hat, or someone who wants to schedule their sex life on geological time. "

We're slightly different, we don't get anywhere near as much free time as we'd like. So if we want to meet another couple, planning a social just to have a drink isn't really what we'd want.

We've found meeting at clubs provides be best of both, the chance to have a drink and a chat, then if everyone's happy the night can progress elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a balance to be struck here, we dont just jump into bed with people, thats not our way, but equally far too many people on here are way too prickly about socials.

With every meet we have tried to arrange there has been the either implicit or explicit understanding that there would be a social first, likely in a public setting, coffee or a beer etc. And that to us ought to be something you can arrange at a relatively early point in the conversation. It should not take a month to decide if you are happy to have a drink with someone.

Unfortunately most people on here either want someone who can come round and drop their knickers at the drop of a hat, or someone who wants to schedule their sex life on geological time.

We're slightly different, we don't get anywhere near as much free time as we'd like. So if we want to meet another couple, planning a social just to have a drink isn't really what we'd want.

We've found meeting at clubs provides be best of both, the chance to have a drink and a chat, then if everyone's happy the night can progress elsewhere "

See that would be fine, we've usually suggested a half-way house solution. A drink near to one of our places, depending on who can accomodate and who can travel. That way if it progresses and all are keen, it can be moved on to the bedroom relatively swiftly. If not, then noone is under any pressure and everyone is on neutral ground.

Unfortunately it usually gets to that point and the person starts to ghost. Usually straight after asking for contact details. I can think of around 5-6 verified members who have done this in the last month. Acted very keen, asked for direct contact through say Kik or Skype, our dedicated playtime kik and skype profiles have been provided and we've not heard a peep out of them. Not even a hello or a skype add.

Can only presume that these people enjoy wasting their time and that of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not going to quote and take up loads of room.

But we've started taking the approach of declining to provide Skype, kik (especially kik) etc to prove that we're genuine.

We've got plenty of veries on here and are willing to go on the chat rooms.

But from experience it's single fem profiles, probably fakes...maybe not. Asking for kik almost instantly, always sends alarm bells ringing for a picture collector.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm finding it hard on here as I'm so picky with my guys (i no )

But also they guys that I do talk to etc they don't want to talk and get to know you they all want to rush meets.. and I don't do that.. makes me think they are only after one time wonders again that's not what I'm after

Sorry I no its not rant day but needed to get it out "

Totally understand, don't think I'd actually be brave enough to do this as a single woman, the thought of meeting up somewhere quiet with a complete stranger makes my blood run cold, even with hubby there to protect me I want to know who the hell it is im meeting and get a feel for them first.

I also find it really hard to find guys I'm attracted to on here because pics don't give away that personality or glint in the eye that makes me think yes I want to climb him like a tree! An awesome profile can go a long way to getting that feel from someone but I rarely get it solely from pics

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ya that's why I like kik after talking on here for a little while.. can can do live pics etc to show that you are real and then go from there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah they are going to be disappointed with us, we dont do nudes on here. Careers to think about.

Possible thats what they were after i guess but it doesnt make much sense either way, they cant get anything by ending the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm finding it hard on here as I'm so picky with my guys (i no )

But also they guys that I do talk to etc they don't want to talk and get to know you they all want to rush meets.. and I don't do that.. makes me think they are only after one time wonders again that's not what I'm after

Sorry I no its not rant day but needed to get it out

Totally understand, don't think I'd actually be brave enough to do this as a single woman, the thought of meeting up somewhere quiet with a complete stranger makes my blood run cold, even with hubby there to protect me I want to know who the hell it is im meeting and get a feel for them first.

I also find it really hard to find guys I'm attracted to on here because pics don't give away that personality or glint in the eye that makes me think yes I want to climb him like a tree! An awesome profile can go a long way to getting that feel from someone but I rarely get it solely from pics

Mrs x"

Agree there profiles with nothing on didn't tell anyone much at all.. but with the meeting that's why I like to get to know then exchange photos etc first not meet after a day of talking xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to socialise and chat with people. But hell..trying to get a conversation out of some people on here is a serious work of art. Its very difficult to make a decent chat when all you're getting from a person is yes no and maybe. This happens a lot!

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