FabSwingers.com forum: In another life.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been doing some late night pondering, due to the fact I can't get to sleep.

I've been on fab a couple of times, each time meeting some really great people- often just socials and not play.

I always respect boundaries and relationships, and the fact people have their private lives.

There's been a few people I wish I had met elsewhere though.

Meeting people through fab always seems to cheapen friendships a little, or at least make them more disposable in my eyes. For example, because we met just for sex-we therefore can't talk about anything else as that's not cno strings'

I don't want this to be construed as another dating vs. Fab thread.

But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"I've been doing some late night pondering, due to the fact I can't get to sleep.

I've been on fab a couple of times, each time meeting some really great people- often just socials and not play.

I always respect boundaries and relationships, and the fact people have their private lives.

There's been a few people I wish I had met elsewhere though.

I don't want this to be construed as another dating vs. Fab thread.

But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'

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nothing wrong with that , lots of couples have got together on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's up to the people to define the rules and not the function of the site, if it's mutual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'"

Have you ever told someone as much?

I know what you mean about respecting other people's motivations for being here, but I don't see the harm in being honest with someone you like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'

Have you ever told someone as much?

I know what you mean about respecting other people's motivations for being here, but I don't see the harm in being honest with someone you like."

I'm always mindful of sounding like bunny boiler material!

Some people I've maintained a good friendship with, as each of us have decided to move on.

Telling someone that you like them seems to instantly change the dynamics of any 'arrangement' in place...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always mindful of sounding like bunny boiler material!

Some people I've maintained a good friendship with, as each of us have decided to move on.

Telling someone that you like them seems to instantly change the dynamics of any 'arrangement' in place... "

Of course, it's not a trivial concern. I'd hope, in your case, that your honesty and how clearly you respect the other person's choices would make the 'bunny-boiler' worry redundant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'

Have you ever told someone as much?

I know what you mean about respecting other people's motivations for being here, but I don't see the harm in being honest with someone you like.

I'm always mindful of sounding like bunny boiler material!

Some people I've maintained a good friendship with, as each of us have decided to move on.

Telling someone that you like them seems to instantly change the dynamics of any 'arrangement' in place...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have people i meet have aex with and we get on then i have people i have sex with who becone good friends and talk about stuff frienda talk about and its and its nice asking advice from the opposite se . i just happen to have sex witb them as well. If your talking about running of into the aun set and lice happily ever after i dont think id think of anybody in that way

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By *appyguy17Man
over a year ago

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a girl i met on here is one of my best friends.....we text most days.......we help each other out if we need it.........it's refreshing to have someone you can literally chat to about anything x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's up to the people to define the rules and not the function of the site, if it's mutual."

Wise words.....

Communication is king.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of our best friends is someone I met on the Lovehoney discussion boards- if anyone asks we say we met through another forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am looking to date and on loads of dating sites. But if I met someone here who wanted to date then I would happily do that. But I wouldn't be swinging on here with them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There are so many people I would have liked to have been non fab friends with but its not (I'm assuming) what they wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that there is necessarily a stigma associated, I've met people on here that I count as good and true friends. It's just about letting things happen naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not interested in just meeting for sex and then going.

I like to be able to actually have a conversation with someone over a drink or meal as well as have sex with them.

Some may not want that and that's fine, I just wouldn't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not interested in just meeting for sex and then going.

I like to be able to actually have a conversation with someone over a drink or meal as well as have sex with them.

Some may not want that and that's fine, I just wouldn't meet them."

The best meets that I've had are the ones where I feel connected to my partner, not emotionally but I know them and I enjoy their company, where I feel like I'm making a friend rather than just performing a bodily function

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real friendships start where ever they start, I don't think it matters where you met sometimes there is a long lasting connection sometimes not.

I believe that you might start out just having sex but maybe later on become friends just out of chance.

Life has no rules really only the ones you make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have made some friends on here - quite a few when i mentally went through who we chat and message quite regularly and i have to say most of the conversations are actually non-fab related - we have always said about the people we meet if they cant/wont chat the small stuff then nothing else will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think i would have met certain guys if they weren't just using me for sex.

sad to say the only freinds i now have on here are the ones i have not fucked and have no intention of doing so. everyone else only wants sex and not much else and is crap at NSA as well, like doing it in a way that doesn't leave me feeling used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been doing some late night pondering, due to the fact I can't get to sleep.

I've been on fab a couple of times, each time meeting some really great people- often just socials and not play.

I always respect boundaries and relationships, and the fact people have their private lives.

There's been a few people I wish I had met elsewhere though.

I don't want this to be construed as another dating vs. Fab thread.

But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'

Couldn't disagree more. The socials I have had have been like meeting your friends for a drink or lunch and had the same conversation as if I had met someone out the blue. Sex never actually came into the conversation. Good conversation and banter....whether you click or not is a different story x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually meeting someone would be a start. Had so many false starts its untrue!!

I would probably feel a little awkward talking about the sex straight away, unless there was an instant lust/attraction. I think I'd prefer to just chat, lots of eye contact and let nature take her course

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