FabSwingers.com forum: Why do some guys become abusive here?

By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I've had a couple of really nasty messages from guys I have declined recently.

I try to send a 'no thanks' message, rather than just deleting their message. Most guys seem to appreciate this.

These two guys were really nasty, and it upset me. I have blocked them, and I know that they are not typical of all chaps here.

Still left me hurt and in need of a hug x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you letting nobodies on a website hurt your feelings? Fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of really nasty messages from guys I have declined recently.

I try to send a 'no thanks' message, rather than just deleting their message. Most guys seem to appreciate this.

These two guys were really nasty, and it upset me. I have blocked them, and I know that they are not typical of all chaps here.

Still left me hurt and in need of a hug x"

Personally I find it's the ironic or specific requirements woman who warrant a stern telling how ironic or niave they are...

But women are far from kind...

Heigtist

Abusive

Rude

Time wateres

Ive seen them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of really nasty messages from guys I have declined recently.

I try to send a 'no thanks' message, rather than just deleting their message. Most guys seem to appreciate this.

These two guys were really nasty, and it upset me. I have blocked them, and I know that they are not typical of all chaps here.

Still left me hurt and in need of a hug x"

Unfortunately they see it as a bruised ego. They've probably come onto the site thinking they are gods gift and can have a plethora of ladies at their disposal and didn't expect to be rebuked at all, and the only way their inferior, feeble minds can cope is to resort to type and become abusive.

Hope this helps ?

And big hugs from a fellow Essex forumite

xxx

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

have a hug..

and ignore the ones who act in that way..

they are a minority amongst the single guys and frankly you probably ducked a bullet so to speak..

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By *rinkydonkyMan
over a year ago

Hinckley

"Why are you letting nobodies on a website hurt your feelings? Fuck them. "
......yeh fuck them..... hang on isn't that what they want lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are you letting nobodies on a website hurt your feelings? Fuck them. "

Very much this.

But I can offer tea and hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the same as real life the same things happen when guys get the knock back, unfortunalty

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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Thank you.

I know we are all kinky dirty fuckers here. But it doesn't mean I don't have feelings.

Thank you for the hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get them as well ..block them

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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Why are you letting nobodies on a website hurt your feelings? Fuck them.

Very much this.

But I can offer tea and hugs."

Thank you, lovely Hatter xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO men who go down the abusive and offensive message route have no social skills ...

They would probably run a mile in the real world if invited to chat to a real woman so they go online and assume the keyboard warrior approach

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Because some people are just naturally foul, horribly arrogant and have a ridiculous sense of entitlement. While I agree there's absolutely no need for such pathetic abusive responses, try to take some comfort from the fact your instinct to reject them in the first place was obviously spot on.

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are you letting nobodies on a website hurt your feelings? Fuck them. "
i agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are you letting nobodies on a website hurt your feelings? Fuck them. "

This.

Also, why do women tend to focus on the negatives? Just block the sad gits and move on.

Also, you're under no obligation whatsoever to send any reply at all. Decent men understand that fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys just can't take rejection, even if it's politely put

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Thank you.

I know we are all kinky dirty fuckers here. But it doesn't mean I don't have feelings.

Thank you for the hugs xx"

It's easier to not reply if you're not interested. I've never had an abusive message on here other than ones that I've sent a polite, no thanks, you're not my type. Then you just open yourself to replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you.

I know we are all kinky dirty fuckers here. But it doesn't mean I don't have feelings.

Thank you for the hugs xx

Awaits polite decline lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A no thank you message is always appreciated rather than just a simple delete but the majority of use also understand that the amount of msgs women get and its simply impossible to reply to them all.

Unfortunately there are men on here who just can't handle rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you're one up on me OP; I get nasty viscous messages from people I've never interacted with. I put it down to the cockwomble coefficient.

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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Because some people are just naturally foul, horribly arrogant and have a ridiculous sense of entitlement. While I agree there's absolutely no need for such pathetic abusive responses, try to take some comfort from the fact your instinct to reject them in the first place was obviously spot on.

Ms G"

Thank you, Mrs G xx

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"try to take some comfort from the fact your instinct to reject them in the first place was obviously spot on.

Ms G"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of really nasty messages from guys I have declined recently.

I try to send a 'no thanks' message, rather than just deleting their message. Most guys seem to appreciate this.

These two guys were really nasty, and it upset me. I have blocked them, and I know that they are not typical of all chaps here.

I don't understand why blokes get abusive towards women giving them shit for for not replying I have had loads of messages that have just been deleted but I don't take it personal. It all comes down to personal preference and if you don't choose to talk to a person for whatever reason that's your choice. Don't let a few bellends on here spoil your experience they are just proving you were right in ignoring them. Imagine how they would of treated you if you met them x

Still left me hurt and in need of a hug x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they're not gentlemen and a refusal often offends.

Block and move on.

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By *otty69Couple
over a year ago

bedford

Its Not just guys, couples can be just as bad,but ignore block and move on easiest thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the same can be asked and said of a lot of couples!!

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By *ackett1962Man
over a year ago

harrow

I had a guy message me last week, I replied and said unless he has a pic or veri I wouldn't chat. Got called all the names under the sun and when I posted a thread about it I got a 48 hour time out!!!. Didn't even mention his name. People can be so rude and there is absolutely no need for it.

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

Just block move on will get that type I use to but took no notice but their is decent ones on here still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...Fuck them. "

But not literally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of really nasty messages from guys I have declined recently.

I try to send a 'no thanks' message, rather than just deleting their message. Most guys seem to appreciate this.

These two guys were really nasty, and it upset me. I have blocked them, and I know that they are not typical of all chaps here.

Still left me hurt and in need of a hug x"

I'm sorry this has happened and it shouldn't but unfortunately it's all too much part of fab. Rejection is hard to swallow..some handle it better than others.

This may sound really wierd at first but I'm glad for your sake that you feel hurt....why I say that is because you haven't become hard and thick skinned like so many on here. Many applaud the thick skinned and laud it around the forums...but you can tell the the think skinned ones easily in how they respond...theirs an unattractive hardness about it. Sensitivity is seen as a dirty word in places like this and those people tend to be singled out to unfortunately. A big hug goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be told 'no thanks' it sets my mind at rest lol. If i got abusive towards every woman that said no to me, i would be here forever and blocked by just about all.

Only cowards abuse people on line, they probably dont even have the courage to approach a woman in the real world. Take solice from the fact your instinct on them must have been spot on.

Massive hugs op (i do like hugs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...Fuck them.

But not literally

Perish the thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can't be patient and the amount of messages woman recieve I can imagine being very high or you just don't want to no if this is so they should respect your dicision not to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean by a couple of messages and them click their fingers and you didn't go ???

That about sums what some think this site is all about ? Think some have forgotten that a bit of politeness and some attraction is needed ?

Block and forget !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IMO men who go down the abusive and offensive message route have no social skills ...

They would probably run a mile in the real world if invited to chat to a real woman so they go online and assume the keyboard warrior approach

....but not exclusively men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did it actually bother you that much

laugh at the poor sad fucker and move on. Mrs A x

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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Thank you, everyone who has responded with messages of support, and for the hugs & tea.

I know that these guys are in the minority, but still manage to be hurtful.

Hugs back to you all xxx

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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Did it actually bother you that much

laugh at the poor sad fucker and move on. Mrs A x"

...yes, it did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...Fuck them.

But not literally

Perish the thought

Sooooo mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the same can be asked and said of a lot of couples!!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once got a 'no thanks' reply from a woman, i messaged her saying thank you for taking the time to reply to me anyway and take care. 3 days later we met for coffee which led to fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of really nasty messages from guys I have declined recently.

I try to send a 'no thanks' message, rather than just deleting their message. Most guys seem to appreciate this.

These two guys were really nasty, and it upset me. I have blocked them, and I know that they are not typical of all chaps here.

Still left me hurt and in need of a hug x"

Never had any abusive msgs from any guys at all but that's out of order - hugs to you hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once got a 'no thanks' reply from a woman, i messaged her saying thank you for taking the time to reply to me anyway and take care. 3 days later we met for coffee which led to fun"

That's what we get - just a polite "thank you for the reply"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did it actually bother you that much

laugh at the poor sad fucker and move on. Mrs A x

...yes, it did."

You were decent enough to tell them you decline and they abused you for that, which is horrible. Lots of folk don't like being told no, even some couples and women (but alas, mostly men it seems. Bloody ego is a killer)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you, everyone who has responded with messages of support, and for the hugs & tea.

I know that these guys are in the minority, but still manage to be hurtful.

Hugs back to you all xxx"

They truly are a minority, there are decent guys on here and these abusive guys give us a bad name. Don't let them get you down, they're not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once got a 'no thanks' reply from a woman, i messaged her saying thank you for taking the time to reply to me anyway and take care. 3 days later we met for coffee which led to fun

That's what we get - just a polite "thank you for the reply""

Manner cost nothing, they can also go a long way

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Because they hide behind a keyboard and suddenly it makes them think they are something special

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"the same can be asked and said of a lot of couples!!"

Can be said of all demographics..

block , report,

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"I had a guy message me last week, I replied and said unless he has a pic or veri I wouldn't chat. Got called all the names under the sun and when I posted a thread about it I got a 48 hour time out!!!. Didn't even mention his name. People can be so rude and there is absolutely no need for it."

If you check out the forum rules you will see you can't air dirty washing whether you name people or not.

You also shouldn't be disputing a ban on the forum either as you would be banned for that also.

It would save you being confused about the rules if you read them

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very often that women message men first, but on the odd occasion it has happened to me i have always given the lady the benefit of the doubt anyway. If it turns out she isnt for me i just then the chat fizzle out

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP... report and block

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