FabSwingers.com forum: Influenced by verifications..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've just been chatting to a friend about this topic this morning as its recently been bothering me. Their views are completely different to mine, which is fine. I'm interested to hear yours.

Would you look at someone's verifications and instantly decide not to mail them based on the type of people they have met?

For me, yes. If I see a guy who has only met slim/petite ladies then I won't mail, maybe just hotlist them for a perv, as I would assume they are way out of my league.

What about you guys?

BG x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here

If a guy mails me and all his verification are from slim/young women I wouldn't reply, I'd just assum he had mailed me by mistake or one of those guys who mails all woman in the hope he got a reply and not looked at my profile properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm kind of the same re: being not as skinny or young as someone's previous meets but ive for better with this as ive got older.

There is a local female that if she has veried someone I won't meet them. I don't need her drama and shit in my life.

And any veris mentioning bareback I won't meet. Yes I won't bb but condoms break and I don't want higher risk than needs be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

See that's the sensible things to do

But I can't help myself

I need to know if I feel I can measure up and usually the answers no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than anything, they tend to give me an indication of the sort of person they're more likely to meet, which hopefully might include me

Or probably? more crucially, the sort of person they meet and that might put me off them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for it if I think they're fit! Sod the verifications. What I think matters more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

See that's the sensible things to do

But I can't help myself

I need to know if I feel I can measure up and usually the answers no"

Hence why I hide mine, not because I don't want ppl to read them, but my taste of women are wide and can vary and I certainly don't want to make anybody insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's to try and judge their personality and what type of person they are and who they go after. If all their veris are 'This slut has gr8 tits and givs a cracking blow job. Fucked her in the arse and she luvved it!'that would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy has met lots of petite slim women then yes, it would mean I'd obviously not be their type, cos I'm a tall lard ass.

I want a guy to want to meet me because he fancies me, not because he's desperate for a shag and willing to compromise his preferred body type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. But I like lots of different people types to so I understand that other people may be the same. Verifications of lots of the same type of people mean nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

See that's the sensible things to do

But I can't help myself

I need to know if I feel I can measure up and usually the answers no

Hence why I hide mine, not because I don't want ppl to read them, but my taste of women are wide and can vary and I certainly don't want to make anybody insecure. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nothing on my profile but a couple of verifications so it's the only thing to go by. It seems a lot of people do read and judge from them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been chatting to a friend about this topic this morning as its recently been bothering me. Their views are completely different to mine, which is fine. I'm interested to hear yours.

Would you look at someone's verifications and instantly decide not to mail them based on the type of people they have met?

For me, yes. If I see a guy who has only met slim/petite ladies then I won't mail, maybe just hotlist them for a perv, as I would assume they are way out of my league.

What about you guys?

BG x "

Yes. There's a woman near us that only fucks bareback. If a guy has met her we won't meet him. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy has met lots of petite slim women then yes, it would mean I'd obviously not be their type, cos I'm a tall lard ass.

I want a guy to want to meet me because he fancies me, not because he's desperate for a shag and willing to compromise his preferred body type.

That pretty much sums it up for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I looked and judged by verification's I'd never messages anyone

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Verifications mean nothing to me really..Unless I see something really off putting in their pictures. Just because they've met a certain type of person does not necessarily represent their overall stance on what they may actually like. I'd always wink or something and see if it's returned

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"If I looked and judged by verification's I'd never messages anyone"

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"I have nothing on my profile but a couple of verifications so it's the only thing to go by. It seems a lot of people do read and judge from them!!"

Any reason why you've got verifications to see but no pictures?

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"I'm kind of the same re: being not as skinny or young as someone's previous meets but ive for better with this as ive got older.

There is a local female that if she has veried someone I won't meet them. I don't need her drama and shit in my life.

And any veris mentioning bareback I won't meet. Yes I won't bb but condoms break and I don't want higher risk than needs be."

Same here I avoid men who have veris from someone here too, massive put off X

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I've just been chatting to a friend about this topic this morning as its recently been bothering me. Their views are completely different to mine, which is fine. I'm interested to hear yours.

Would you look at someone's verifications and instantly decide not to mail them based on the type of people they have met?

For me, yes. If I see a guy who has only met slim/petite ladies then I won't mail, maybe just hotlist them for a perv, as I would assume they are way out of my league.

What about you guys?

BG x "

It does yes. But not for the same reason. Sometimes I prefer to avoid the drama that one of their previous encounters could cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes verifications can put me off. Not because of the physical appearance of who they have met but the way they conduct their sexual activities.

My verifications have put someone off,after he friend requested me,prior to any conversation and I told him I didn't have anything for friends only that would interest him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know people try to be as non-judgmental as they can onhere but i still think it would influence more than it wouldnt

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women."

But if you don't actually ask then you will never know?..What's the worst that could happen from asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done this in the past but more as a way of finding out if it's worth my while messaging them, if they only meet guys who are toned and hung then it's not worth the effort. I also look at the veris that they write too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women.

But if you don't actually ask then you will never know?..What's the worst that could happen from asking?

You get laughed at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women."

I'm the samr

I've read a lot of verifications where the guys compliment ladies body saying how fit they are and how they looked stunning, if I looked at said ladies pic and she was a size 8/10 I simply would see no point at all in my mailing them

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women.

But if you don't actually ask then you will never know?..What's the worst that could happen from asking?

You get laughed at

.. or blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women.

But if you don't actually ask then you will never know?..What's the worst that could happen from asking?

You get laughed at

.. or blocked."

I can tell the type of guy that will be interested in me, I've been doing this a long time and I have mailed a lot of men, I can tell by looking at them and reading their profile if they will reply or not

When you get to my age you just know the type of men you attract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing on my profile but a couple of verifications so it's the only thing to go by. It seems a lot of people do read and judge from them!!

Any reason why you've got verifications to see but no pictures?"

Purely discretion.. I won't show pics if I'm not interested. I know it makes it very one way but I'd rather be selective for the right person(s)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women.

But if you don't actually ask then you will never know?..What's the worst that could happen from asking?

You get laughed at

.. or blocked."

Which is my main purpose on here... if I get blocked I have the feeling of accomplishing something at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I think I judge it on an individual basis. I always meet people at parties or socials etc typically so I can usually go off face value, which has caused me one regret but since I just don't think about others views.

I find it sad that others wouldn't meet someone due to feeing that their previous meets may be sexier / better / cooler etc. I find attraction works on so many levels that if someone seems interested, I treat it as a fair choice etc.

Verifications is far more complex than it needs to be. Part of why I don't show mine in some ways

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I look at verifications because I'm a nosy cow but I don't let them get in the way of deciding who I meet and don't.

Personally, I talk to people based on what messages and profile and meet people with whom I have a 'connection' with and not because of who they have been connected with prior.

After all they haven't met me yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications matter to me. If certain local names appear on their verification list then I won't entertain even chatting. The number of verifications puts me off too as I don't like the thought of being 'another notch on the bedpost'.

Most will just message without reading a profile anyway so the block button comes in handy only too often

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women.

But if you don't actually ask then you will never know?..What's the worst that could happen from asking?

You get laughed at

.. or blocked.

Which is my main purpose on here... if I get blocked I have the feeling of accomplishing something at least. "

..but you wont be able to perve their pics anymore..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm with you op. If they've only met slim girls I don't bother other stuff too but yes verifications can put me off

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

I'm much more interested in their personality and sense of humour. I've met all sorts and love variety. Things that put me off are "barebacked all 12 of us". "He didn't use his knife too much" or "He wiped his dick on my curtains".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not for just that reason though, if he left them verifications saying what fit bodies they had then probably not as would think he prefers slim women.

But if you don't actually ask then you will never know?..What's the worst that could happen from asking?

You get laughed at

.. or blocked.

Which is my main purpose on here... if I get blocked I have the feeling of accomplishing something at least.

..but you wont be able to perve their pics anymore..

I'll live without, even though the burden is heavy !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

See that's the sensible things to do

But I can't help myself

I need to know if I feel I can measure up and usually the answers no"

This, for me also.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

See that's the sensible things to do

But I can't help myself

I need to know if I feel I can measure up and usually the answers no

This, for me also. "

Ditto.

If I see verifications from gorgeous TS in a guy's profile, I know I wont stand a chance of meeting him.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No, if.someone wants to message me i assume.they want to meet and if they have got verifications from gorgeous women its not that they are desperate

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't tend to message first so I don't have that issue.

If someone messages me and they seem to have met lots of people not like me that doesn't put me off. Variety is the spice of life and all that

I'll soon find out of they are time wasters looking for pics, wank chat and anything other than meeting

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

I am exactly the same and try not to read them. Saying that, I have one regular meet who always goes for pretty, fit girls who are younger than me. The only reason I know about that is that we're also mates and I've become his fab confidante. It doesn't bother me in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend not to look at the verifications, just as long as they have them so we know they are real. We like to make up our own minds about people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been chatting to a friend about this topic this morning as its recently been bothering me. Their views are completely different to mine, which is fine. I'm interested to hear yours.

Would you look at someone's verifications and instantly decide not to mail them based on the type of people they have met?

For me, yes. If I see a guy who has only met slim/petite ladies then I won't mail, maybe just hotlist them for a perv, as I would assume they are way out of my league.

What about you guys?

BG x "

I'm exactly the same as I am an average 12/14 dress size and if all their previous meets are petite size 8s then I wouldn't meet them

As for winks I very rarely see whose winked me and tend to respond to direct msgs more - I feel that some guys will wink everyone so it doesn't really mean much

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By *dam123321Man
over a year ago

London

Y'all talking about meets and veries and im struggling to get any correspondence with women, I know im feeling sorry for myself i just had to post one of these today for the daily count that a number of guys are feeling the same way.

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By *dam123321Man
over a year ago

London

Thought id post something something meaningful to the women regarding previous meets people have had regarding sizes of women, you are yourself and were all different from one another, dont count someone out just cause they have seen others that are different size or whatever it is to yourself, the meet is potentially between you and the person in question, not their past partners. If you like someone go for it, dont be put off by their past is what im getting at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't worry about passed verifications. ..if a guy has only met up with slim women and I get a message off him I think, bless him , he's had to meet all those slim women before getting a chance to meet me!!!....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes . Deffo . They meet skinny girls then I wouldn't want to meet them as I would worry they wouldn't like me .

Plus also if they met horrible looking people or people with bad profiles would certainly put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I am attracted to someone, I won't look at her verifications to avoid to find myself in the position you described.

I usually assume that if she texted me or answering my message, there's attraction. And will not try to look further

My regular buddy has a girl half my age,who is hot and sexy and he and I have fantastic sex. He hasn't gone soft on me yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes . Deffo . They meet skinny girls then I wouldn't want to meet them as I would worry they wouldn't like me .

Plus also if they met horrible looking people or people with bad profiles would certainly put me off "

Do you only meet men who look the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes . Deffo . They meet skinny girls then I wouldn't want to meet them as I would worry they wouldn't like me .

Plus also if they met horrible looking people or people with bad profiles would certainly put me off "

When did you move in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes . Deffo . They meet skinny girls then I wouldn't want to meet them as I would worry they wouldn't like me .

Plus also if they met horrible looking people or people with bad profiles would certainly put me off

Do you only meet men who look the same?"

The men I chat to do tend to look pretty similar

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't judge a future meet by the people he's met in the past. Like me, he may enjoy variety.

Verifications should be used to check they exist and thats about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes . Deffo . They meet skinny girls then I wouldn't want to meet them as I would worry they wouldn't like me .

Plus also if they met horrible looking people or people with bad profiles would certainly put me off

When did you move in?

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lol what ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes . Deffo . They meet skinny girls then I wouldn't want to meet them as I would worry they wouldn't like me .

Plus also if they met horrible looking people or people with bad profiles would certainly put me off

When did you move in?

lol what ?"

Did Knitter leave the gates open again?

That girl is in sooooooo much trouble!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes . Deffo . They meet skinny girls then I wouldn't want to meet them as I would worry they wouldn't like me .

Plus also if they met horrible looking people or people with bad profiles would certainly put me off

When did you move in?

lol what ?

Did Knitter leave the gates open again?

That girl is in sooooooo much trouble!"

Well if I now live with you can you please bring home Chinese for tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be more put off if they'd met a load of mingers personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I look at verifications and if their previous meets are stunning I won't message, also as somebody else said if the verification is very graphic I may be put off x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'd be more put off if they'd met a load of mingers personally."

I often wonder how many blokes miss out by having a veri from me on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be more put off if they'd met a load of mingers personally."

that dont bother me

all because i see somebody as a minger dont mean he does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, lots of replies along the lines "if she is slim blah blah I won't reply" etc etc, is swinging amongst other things about variety? Just because a guy has played with slim/petit ladies, maybe he fancies a change! We love all shapes and sizes and it's about if we click, don't care who they've played with before

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow, lots of replies along the lines "if she is slim blah blah I won't reply" etc etc, is swinging amongst other things about variety? Just because a guy has played with slim/petit ladies, maybe he fancies a change! We love all shapes and sizes and it's about if we click, don't care who they've played with before"

does not bother me if hes met a variety of women of all ages and sizes

if a guy has 10 verifications and 2 of them are from slim women that wouldnt put me off

if all 10 of them were from slim women that would

i wouldnt not be able to wonder why he had mailed me when his last 10 meets where a size 10 and under

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's about them - not their history.

Unless there was a very compelling reason around a past Veri we couldn't care less.

If we don't click with them it's not happening regardless of how hot they might be.

It's what is GOING to happen not what HAS happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had verifies taken down or not even dun at all for fear of women not wanting to meet the men i have met. Also i tend not to meet men who want or have met bbw as i was one and got no one. Am slimmer now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's to try and judge their personality and what type of person they are and who they go after. If all their veris are 'This slut has gr8 tits and givs a cracking blow job. Fucked her in the arse and she luvved it!'that would put me off. "

This is what we use veris for too, it gives an indication of what type of meet they like and if that isn't us then we don't go any further.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have avoided some profiles after seeing the veri, usually because i can tell im not their type.

Other veri have intrigued me and have sparked some interesting messages!

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