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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

went for a meet tonight drove 30 miles got 5 mins from hotel and got a message saying now leaving be there in 2 hours wot is the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would you clarify if what you are saying is that the person you were meeting decided on a venue 2 hours away from themselves and 30 miles from you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i hope you had pulled over to read the message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i no thats the thing they told me when we were sorting a meet out it was local to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i no thats the thing they told me when we were sorting a meet out it was local to them "

well that appears to be a little fib.....2 hours from anyone's house certainly aint local

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

So is she still on her way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no i sent one back saying dont worry im going home dont like being mucked about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you clarify if what you are saying is that the person you were meeting decided on a venue 2 hours away from themselves and 30 miles from you???"

Slow driver syndrome if you ask me...

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

So who booked the hotel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

they said they booked it then i was going to pay my half to them

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"would you clarify if what you are saying is that the person you were meeting decided on a venue 2 hours away from themselves and 30 miles from you???

Slow driver syndrome if you ask me..."

Im going as quick as I can ffs!

Have you ever tried driving and typing on here at the same time?? As well as putting my lippy on. Jeez

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"they said they booked it then i was going to pay my half to them"

...and you're saying they've messed you about?

I'm half expecting to see a thread in a couple of hours where someone says they booked a hotel near to their meet, but he messed them about and cancelled at the last minute, even though they'd said they were on their way.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"they said they booked it then i was going to pay my half to them"

Cue the post in an hrs time from a couple saying they agreed to meet a single guy, they got a baby sitter, booked a hotel, they text him to say they would be there in 2 hrs and he didnt turn up...what a timewaster, should be allowed to name and shame etc etc

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"they said they booked it then i was going to pay my half to them

...and you're saying they've messed you about?

I'm half expecting to see a thread in a couple of hours where someone says they booked a hotel near to their meet, but he messed them about and cancelled at the last minute, even though they'd said they were on their way."

damn you beat me to it!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hang on i sent them a message saying im now leaving and how long it would take me to get there.they could of told me then that they cant make it till later plus if they told me they were not local to that hotel i would of known somethink was werd as there profile says there from the same place .

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"hang on i sent them a message saying im now leaving and how long it would take me to get there.they could of told me then that they cant make it till later plus if they told me they were not local to that hotel i would of known somethink was werd as there profile says there from the same place ."

How long ago did you arrange the meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you clarify if what you are saying is that the person you were meeting decided on a venue 2 hours away from themselves and 30 miles from you???

Slow driver syndrome if you ask me...

Im going as quick as I can ffs!

Have you ever tried driving and typing on here at the same time?? As well as putting my lippy on. Jeez"

Turn round and go home. He's given up and done the same.

I don't want you trying to start a 'Timewaster' thread with tears rolling down your cheeks whilst you have a slow drive home

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thursday night i cant see how im in the wrong when i was the one who was going to be there on time and they were the ones who new i was then leaving and still didnt tell me they were going to be late

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"thursday night i cant see how im in the wrong when i was the one who was going to be there on time and they were the ones who new i was then leaving and still didnt tell me they were going to be late"

The reason I ask is you have a Meet Today posting which says you are looking for a meet on the 19th (tonight)....posted yesterday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thursday night i cant see how im in the wrong when i was the one who was going to be there on time and they were the ones who new i was then leaving and still didnt tell me they were going to be late"

i usually arrange a time to meet.

i assume you never did that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes i do thats was for a day time meet

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"The reason I ask is you have a Meet Today posting which says you are looking for a meet on the 19th (tonight)....posted yesterday?"

oooo Inspector Morse!! Im impressed cos I missed that one...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hang on im the one who has been messed about

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"thursday night i cant see how im in the wrong when i was the one who was going to be there on time and they were the ones who new i was then leaving and still didnt tell me they were going to be late

The reason I ask is you have a Meet Today posting which says you are looking for a meet on the 19th (tonight)....posted yesterday?"

Hmmmm.... That doesn't tie up!! Well spotted Jane.. Well, it wasn't Mr Digger, in the bedroom with a Rabbit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reason I ask is you have a Meet Today posting which says you are looking for a meet on the 19th (tonight)....posted yesterday?

oooo Inspector Morse!! Im impressed cos I missed that one..."

Lol Nowt gets past miss Sherlock xx

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

First one to call me Miss Marple gets a kick up the arse!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

wasnt her first name jane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First one to call me Miss Marple gets a kick up the arse!

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It won't be me Miss Marple

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"First one to call me Miss Marple gets a kick up the arse!

wasnt her first name jane "

Doh!.....my secrets out

You should see me in t!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"First one to call me Miss Marple gets a kick up the arse!

wasnt her first name jane

Doh!.....my secrets out

You should see me in t!"

Satisy Jane Marple has a certain ring to it lol

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"First one to call me Miss Marple gets a kick up the arse!

wasnt her first name jane

Doh!.....my secrets out

You should see me in t!

Satisy Jane Marple has a certain ring to it lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First one to call me Miss Marple gets a kick up the arse!

wasnt her first name jane

Doh!.....my secrets out

You should see me in t!"

Well id see ya in anything xx

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"went for a meet tonight drove 30 miles got 5 mins from hotel and got a message saying now leaving be there in 2 hours wot is the point"
It's not nice - but it happens. Sadly, you just have to chalk it up to experience. But don't give up.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"hang on im the one who has been messed about"

Have you really? or could you not just have waited for them to turn up as they did say they were on their way, albeit a wee bit later than expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"went for a meet tonight drove 30 miles got 5 mins from hotel and got a message saying now leaving be there in 2 hours wot is the point"

i think there was a gap in your communication.

next time, think of what you need to ask and agree on...the one thing you should get from each meet is what you do or don't want to take into the next one

i don't think it's reasonable to blame anyone in this instance, if the time was an issue for you then you should have made that clear when arranging.

chalk it up to experience

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

Well I sympathise with you mate!

My friend has been let down on a meet tonight as well by a guy that booked a hotel room and tickets and has been as keen as mustard all week. (why mustard is keen I don't know) Then today hasn't answered text message. She feels messed around and weekend wasted. But there's always next weekend! Why people can't just message to say sorry changed my mind I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

it wasnt the time that was the problem it was the lies if they didnt live were they said they did they should of told me then i would of been a bit more flexable but if they lied about that then whos to say they were even going to turn up i wouldnt lie and mess people about like that so dont think its right for me to be messed about

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"hang on im the one who has been messed about

Have you really? or could you not just have waited for them to turn up as they did say they were on their way, albeit a wee bit later than expected. "

Agreed 100% with BB on this.

You may have been inconvenienced, but I wouldn't say you've necessarily been messed around.

And if the person / people you're meeting really did leave and were driving for 2hrs then I hope you've at least told them you've gone home, otherwise, in my opinion, they're the ones who'll have been messed around... and that's not even taking the cost of the hotel into the equation, which you said you hadn't contributed to up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it wasnt the time that was the problem it was the lies if they didnt live were they said they did they should of told me then i would of been a bit more flexable but if they lied about that then whos to say they were even going to turn up i wouldnt lie and mess people about like that so dont think its right for me to be messed about "

some folk put the nearest largest town on their profile...it's possibly where she prefers to play. not all folk want meets in their own area.

it's up to the individual where they want to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

and thats far but when they tell you there local to that hotel and then tell you when they no your on your way there that it will take them 2 hours and wont you to sit there for 2 hours waiting for them dont you think thats wrong like i wont to site in my car for 2 hours waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hang on im the one who has been messed about"

Fab Rule 1: Its always the guy's fault........actually not that dissimilar to normal life

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"hang on im the one who has been messed about

Fab Rule 1: Its always the guy's fault........actually not that dissimilar to normal life "

Yeah, I think my ex helped write some of the rules on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and thats far but when they tell you there local to that hotel and then tell you when they no your on your way there that it will take them 2 hours and wont you to sit there for 2 hours waiting for them dont you think thats wrong like i wont to site in my car for 2 hours waiting "

i live in the country and 2 hrs is local to me. it's all relative.

a time should have been agreed...i assume you couldn't have gone to the room to wait?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ya i think your about right there mate single guy got to be him in the wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

the time was set for the meet thats why i let them no i was leaving and how long it would take me so that they new i wasnt going to mess them about as it seems easy to get a bad name on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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i live in the country and 2 hrs is local to me. it's all relative.

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blimey thats a fair distance to travel for your "local"

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"ya i think your about right there mate single guy got to be him in the wrong "

It isnt always

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"the time was set for the meet thats why i let them no i was leaving and how long it would take me so that they new i wasnt going to mess them about as it seems easy to get a bad name on here"

I don't think you can class someone as a timewaster or saying they've messed you around just because they're not on time. I'd much rather someone turn up late than not turn up at all. But that's possibly because I'm usually late for stuff myself.

Did they explain why they were running late when you spoke to them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

im sorry but 2 hours is not local you can drive a bloody long way in 2 hours

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"im sorry but 2 hours is not local you can drive a bloody long way in 2 hours"

Oh, right... I think I must have the wrong end of the stick here.

I thought you were annoyed because they were late, not because they said they were from one location when they're from another (although perhaps they've been on a day out somewhere 2 hours away..?).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And have you considered that they might live closer but had been somewhere today visiting (after all it's the weekend) and had trouble getting away, so were going to have to come to you direct from where they were?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Oops, I clicked the wrong smiley... that was supposed to be this one -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry but 2 hours is not local you can drive a bloody long way in 2 hours

Oh, right... I think I must have the wrong end of the stick here.

I thought you were annoyed because they were late, not because they said they were from one location when they're from another (although perhaps they've been on a day out somewhere 2 hours away..?). "

just beat me to that one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i have picked this up properly then your meet did not indicate that the hotel was a 2 hour journey for them (perhaps they should have)

a definite time for meet should have been set (not sure if it was)

communication is the key to ensure all parties are aware of where, what, when etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry but 2 hours is not local you can drive a bloody long way in 2 hours"

They could be driving a milk float or a combine harvester... not everyone is blessed with a 600cc two-stroke engine Trabant you know...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

it a number of thinks realy 1/lied local 2/they new wot time i would be there could of told me b4 i left going to be 2 hours late 3/would they of turned up or just messed me about even more 4/who wonts to sit in there car for 2 hours waiting

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if you agreed a time with them then yes its a pain if they wont be there on time but hardly end of the world !!! but from what i seen you never agreed an exact time ?? maybe lesson learned there for future .

as a cpl with family i know how trick things are organising . i may ask for inlaw to take lil one at a certain time and then get asked to take them to shops ect before we leave ... life happens !!! at lest they told you and WERE still coming !!! lots of folks been left waiting with no word and ppl nver gonna turn up !!!

so you couldnt go to room as booked by them but most hotels have a bar or at least near one so you quite easily gone there and waited . if you choose not to wait then end of the day thats YOUR choice . youll find most peoples concern is mking sure their own commitments are sorted first rather than if theyll be there on the dot waiting for you . nothing to do with you being a single guy so your wrong its about seeing it from all angles . if you want someone with no commitments and only them self to sort then arrange to meet a single guy with no family or single fem with no kids .if you meet cpls them other factors can come in to play and speaking personally my family comes FIRST not any meet .thats my priority as your single yours maywell differ ,if so as i say look for ppl in same position as you and youll avoid things like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realise its probably the wrong thing ta do but if they had ta drive two hours

Maybe they were making sure ya got there first before they started out so you wouldnt let them down??

Just a thought and like i said if they have done that then its not the right way ta do stuff either xx

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By *ryanythingonce2Man
over a year ago

barnsley

had this one myself and now when meeting in a hotel i ask they check in then call or text me so i know there there ok they still could be messing around but thats the rick we all take

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok they told me they have no kids a time was set!!!!! they new i was still going to be there at the time we set they new i was leaving they could of told me when i told them i was leaving that they would be late

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"it a number of thinks realy 1/lied local 2/they new wot time i would be there could of told me b4 i left going to be 2 hours late 3/would they of turned up or just messed me about even more 4/who wonts to sit in there car for 2 hours waiting "

1 as ppl have said 2hrs may be local to them. or they could be local but not able to actully LEAVE for awhile .

2 you told em what time youd arrive but did you actually state a time to meet before ???? and they told you when you txt them how long theyd be !

3 they stated when theyd be there when easliy no bothered to replie at all let alone a time scale ! youll never know if theyd would of turned up for definate as you told them not to bother anyway

4 as i stated in previus post no rwason to sit in the car (hotel bar or near by pub ect )worst case as you live half hour awy go home and tell them to txt you when they are in room and youd be there in half hour lol !!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

You are not going to like me saying this but.....

Six days ago you (The Op) started a thread complaining how difficult it is to get a meet on this site.

Then Four days later you get an offer for tonight, you must have been over the moon?....You got that elusive meet!

What is the very next thing you do?...You book a Meet Today, for today (Saturday), the very same day you have that elusive meet you have been waiting so long for!

Rings alarm bells to me, may have done for the other couple in question?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if time was set then not good to be two hours later unless they gave a good reason . did they state why it would be two hours before they were there ??

if you txt them as you left how long before they got back to you saying theyd be late ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always ensure we text before we leave house and find out it they are leaving as well and how long before they arrive....... no message saying they are about to leave etc means we dont leave our house... then no time wasted travelling........

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

lol !!! ouch ! dont look good to a cpl thats arranged a meet AND booked room that guy they are meeting had posted a meet today for they day they were meeting them !

if done before then no wonder cpl held back waiting for guy to be at the place . if done AFTER then ok i can see hes trying to sort summit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably just got a better offer

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over a year ago

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"ok they told me they have no kids a time was set!!!!! they new i was still going to be there at the time we set they new i was leaving they could of told me when i told them i was leaving that they would be late "

If they were running late by 2 hours(which is a huge amount of time) and received a text from this chap to say he had left for their I think the couple should of told he that they were running so far behind time as would have known that probably a good hour and a half before they finally decided to tell him! I wouldn't want to wait for 2 hours either. I think they should have re-arranged if something was delaying them by 2 hours!!! Were not talking 20/30 minutes here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry but 2 hours is not local you can drive a bloody long way in 2 hours"

I live 8 miles from work. I live and work off a main road: the south circular. The journey can take 90 minutes during rush hour: longer in adverse weather conditions!

It seems that you were messed around. Looks like they thought you'd wait regardless: well done you for not being a push over. Let's hope next time they'll respect other people's time: they've learnt an expensive lesson too.

In future make sure ground rules are set to avoid disappointment. Don't let this put you off.

Good luck!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

well you drove all the way back and was still home for 9pm at least you didnt have far to drive home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only one thinking two hours have past since this thread started and...

A) The OP could be getting his rocks off instead of whinging about a 'failed meet'.

B) The meet has just arrived at the hotel looking for the OP because they haven't had a chance to check text/fab whilst driving.

C) The 'meet' saw the 'meet today' flag hadn't been removed after arranging a meet or noticed it had been put up after meet had been arranged and though 'sod it'.... he is still 'casting his net' I could do without a 2 hr drive in my combine harvester 5 miles up the road to meet someone that may get a better offer and not turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or he could have still have been waiting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok A TIME WAS SET FOR THE MEET which we both new no reson was given for been 2 hours late just were now leaving will take us 2 hours and it was 20 mins after i left they told me they would be 2 hours late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or he could have still have been waiting "

Refer to answer 'C'

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Alternatively with Two hours to kill and being 30 minutes from home you could have......

Driven home....then driven back to the hotel.....then back home....and back to the hotel in time to see them arrive.

Job done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alternatively with Two hours to kill and being 30 minutes from home you could have......

Driven home....then driven back to the hotel.....then back home....and back to the hotel in time to see them arrive.

Job done!"

just as any single fem or couple would have done in similar circumstances

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"or he could have still have been waiting

Refer to answer 'C' "

If they thought something along those lines, wouldn't they just say and not play games themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or he could have still have been waiting

Refer to answer 'C' "

in which case it would have been a long wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the couple thought he might have bailed, they should have done the grown up thing and asked him outright why he had a 'meet today' posted when he was supposed to be meeting them.

bit foolish to post one though after planning another..can really piss folk off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

now if it had been a single man done this to a couple wot would you all be saying then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"now if it had been a single man done this to a couple wot would you all be saying then "

he does have a point

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"now if it had been a single man done this to a couple wot would you all be saying then "

Ahhh....now we get down to the nitty gritty, I kind of guessed this may have been the initial reason for the thread.

A one sided account of a classic 'Timewasting' thread, never really works when we only hear one side of a tale.

I'll file this one under 'Timewasters' shall I?

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"yes i do thats was for a day time meet"

Note to OP, In my opinion it's a school boy error to post a looking to meet on your profile for the same day as an arranged meet. I wouldn't like to think that you weren't solely interested in me if I was the arranged meet, even if it were for a different time of day!! It wasn't good karma was it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes............case closed

good nite all xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

maybe that was wrong but to waste sumone time is not a good thing to do i wouldnt do it to anyone

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

as been said on so meny threads before we only have one side of the story here . the cpl may well have somehimg different to say on the matter ! we will never know !

i was kept waiting before ,guy said he was still waiting for ex to pick up their kid after i had already got to where we had arranged to meet . i had one txt from him then nothing further.so i txt someone i had been seeing before and had a bloody fantastic nite at his !!

when life gives you lemons you can either suck on them and look sour or get out the salt and tequlia and party !!!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"maybe that was wrong but to waste sumone time is not a good thing to do i wouldnt do it to anyone "

MAYBE ???? had the cpl posted looking for a meet same day they arranged to see you would you not quite rightly feel miffed ???

what happened if you got a better offer tonite...would of been a different story and the cpl may well have been left in the lerch !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well must be time for partying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does look a bit suspicious you posting for a meet the same day that you have a planned meet with a couple in the evening. Seems to me they were waiting for you to turn up as they were half expecting you not to be there (having had a possible meet in the daytime).

Yes 2 hours is a long time and not nice to have to wait that long, but if you only lived 30 minutes away, you could have gone back home and just waited there. They had booked the hotel in readiness.

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South

I just got up so not in a good mood!

Seems to me the op is a bit juvenile, I'm taking my ball...lol away and not playing (pout). some people have lives away from swinging, and could have a thousand genuine reasons for being late. and we would have no problem with waiting for that time.

op is the timewaster here, costing the couple a hotel room and a wasted night.

Note to self: Never meet single guys unless in a club, unless you can be certain they are not schoolboys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my reading the op's complaint is that there was a time arranged, he texted to confirm that he was ready and would be there and was leaving and would be there in half a hour.

To recieve a text from the couple saying they would be 2 hours late.

10/15 minutes is being late, 2 hours is taking the piss!

I wouldnt hang around waiting 2 hours for someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my reading the op's complaint is that there was a time arranged, he texted to confirm that he was ready and would be there and was leaving and would be there in half a hour.

To recieve a text from the couple saying they would be 2 hours late.

10/15 minutes is being late, 2 hours is taking the piss!

I wouldnt hang around waiting 2 hours for someone.

"

*nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my reading the op's complaint is that there was a time arranged, he texted to confirm that he was ready and would be there and was leaving and would be there in half a hour.

To recieve a text from the couple saying they would be 2 hours late.

10/15 minutes is being late, 2 hours is taking the piss!

I wouldnt hang around waiting 2 hours for someone.

"

I agree and also so what if he had a meet invitation posted - nothing wrong with hedging your bets.

It is the same as (and this has happened to me) having a meet arranged having chatted for a while and verified each other and then getting cancelled on 10 minutes before he was due to arrive. I was really pissed off so came on FS and found a local guy who was more than happy to fill in. Posting a meet request just in case is not a crime in my opinion

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"im sorry but 2 hours is not local you can drive a bloody long way in 2 hours

They could be driving a milk float or a combine harvester... not everyone is blessed with a 600cc two-stroke engine Trabant you know... "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A time was arranged to meet.

The O.P. put up a meet today flag despite wanting to be accepted as being trustworthy and sticking to arrangements.

The couple paid for the hotel.

The O.P left before knowing the others weren't on their way yet.

He received a reply to say they would be late.

At this point he has a decision to make.

1. Wait in a coffee bar and read or a pub or at home thinking dirty thoughts.

2. Text them and cancel as the wait is unnaceptable.

3. Leave them high and dry without a text so that they arrive at the hotel and find him gone.

Everything else is irrelevant.

Did you text them to say you wouldn't wait ?

These are not life and death issues. It's a badly planned meet.

Come back and tell me the one where you got to the hotel and lurched at the woman on the bed only to find it was drag queen who tied you down abused you stole your wallet, dripped hot wax on your beaming bell end , turned your sexual tastes beyond your imagination leaving you trawlling the streets on dark Saturday nights forcing your hands up unsuspecting men's dresses!

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South

I did say I'm not a happy bunny in the mornings! but in my opinion,

10/15 mins is not late.

An hour or more is late, but they texted,

gave an updated time, whats the problem? It happens!

A grown up would have understood and looked forward to the meet, not gone home in a huff and complained on a forum!

Unless of course it's just a story to gain attention and a sympathy fuck!

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South


"A time was arranged to meet.

The O.P. put up a meet today flag despite wanting to be accepted as being trustworthy and sticking to arrangements.

The couple paid for the hotel.

The O.P left before knowing the others weren't on their way yet.

He received a reply to say they would be late.

At this point he has a decision to make.

1. Wait in a coffee bar and read or a pub or at home thinking dirty thoughts.

2. Text them and cancel as the wait is unnaceptable.

3. Leave them high and dry without a text so that they arrive at the hotel and find him gone.

Everything else is irrelevant.

Did you text them to say you wouldn't wait ?

These are not life and death issues. It's a badly planned meet.

Come back and tell me the one where you got to the hotel and lurched at the woman on the bed only to find it was drag queen who tied you down abused you stole your wallet, dripped hot wax on your beaming bell end , turned your sexual tastes beyond your imagination leaving you trawlling the streets on dark Saturday nights forcing your hands up unsuspecting men's dresses!"

I love this lady!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy texted to tell them he was leaving they must have known they were nowhere near ready to leave so should have at least asked him to delay leaving. If I arrived at a meet and then got a text saying I will be there in 2 hours I wouldn't hang about. Up to 30 minutes waiting would be just about ok but 2 hours is taking the piss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did say I'm not a happy bunny in the mornings! but in my opinion,

10/15 mins is not late.

An hour or more is late, but they texted,

gave an updated time, whats the problem? It happens!

A grown up would have understood and looked forward to the meet, not gone home in a huff and complained on a forum!

Unless of course it's just a story to gain attention and a sympathy fuck!

"

the OP texted them to say he was leaving his house to drive the 30 miles to the meet...........30 mins later he got a text to say see ya in 2 hours....at which point perhaps the OP took the huff and said he was going home

as granny said the whole meet seems badly planned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that badly planned the guy texted to say he was leaving! And I would be more than huffy if someone expected me to hang about like a bad smell for 2 bloody hours!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I just got up so not in a good mood!

Seems to me the op is a bit juvenile, I'm taking my ball...lol away and not playing (pout). some people have lives away from swinging, and could have a thousand genuine reasons for being late. and we would have no problem with waiting for that time.

op is the timewaster here, costing the couple a hotel room and a wasted night.

Note to self: Never meet single guys unless in a club, unless you can be certain they are not schoolboys. "

sorry but the OP is not the time waster!!

what would you do if you were 5 mins from the hotel where you both AGREED to meet at the time you all agreed and your meet text you saying 'just leaving now, will be there in 2 hours '

would you go 'ok see you soon' or wuld you think 'what utter twat bags!!' they would have known ow long it takes them to get there, they would have known if they were going to be running late.

i run late for everything but even for me 2 hours late is taking the biscuit . yes people have lives outside of swinging but eueally people have the ability to understand this so if something had come up earlier in the day all they had to do was send a simple text saying that they coulnt make the original time and either arrange to meet later or another day.

ok so the OP put a meet today up on his profile for the same day but was it one of the ones where you can put what you are looking for? i.e. coud you see from his meet ad that he was looking for daytime fun and so would still be available for his meet in the evening with the couple in question?

has anyone considered that maybe they werent going to show and lump him with the whole hotel bill?? i'd be wary of anyone saying they will be 2 hours late without good explaination.

OP - 2 whinging threads on your first few weeks on a forum will not show you in a good light. as some have said, chalk it up to experience. i think you did the right thing and went home, so long as you told the couple you were going. i wouldnt want to sit about on me todd for 2 hours outside a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that badly planned the guy texted to say he was leaving! And I would be more than huffy if someone expected me to hang about like a bad smell for 2 bloody hours!"

the couple he was meeting made arrangements to meet at a hotel 2 hours travelling time for them....the OP was unaware of this and thought he was meeting local for the couple

next time he will plan better

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

Why can't you come on here and have a whinge when people mess you around? Most people don't share there swinging lifestyle with their mates so surely this is the place to share and get it off your chest.

I think some people are a little unfair to this chap and perhaps a little cynical in their outlook. 2 hours is too long to wait around for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't wait for late people unless it suits me for a myriad of variables.

Had a time of been agreed they would have been there at the stated time unless something stopped them.

I find it difficult to believe that a time was agreed. Seems more likely that a time was indicated but not cemented.

Sometimes vague things are said like ...yeah around about 8 would be good for us too but text us when you are on your way.

So one person thinks 8. The others think - we need to wait for a text.

Just make CLEAR arrangements n double check them.

Fuck ... i hope no one here is in military planning .......cos we are fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Personally I know how long it takes me to get ready,I know how long its going to take to get to where im going as I check so barring any disasters on the journey we're pretty good time keepers

If I was going to be delayed from leaving by 2 hours id be letting the meet know asap and arrange a later meeting time,you would know if things at home were going tits up and work around that surely? we have children,we know what its like when you sorting them out and trying to sort yourselves out too,anyone that does'nt realise that they're going to be 2 hrs late for a meet where the time has been arranged has poor time management skill and is'nt being very fair if they expect somene else to wait for them for 2 hrs

I would'nt expect anyone to be hanging around waiting for me and I would'nt be hanging around for 2 hours waiting for anyone else either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I plan a meet, I would agree the following up front:

Where to meet

Time to meet

Who pays for what

Expectant time to finish

What to wear

What to bring

I always exchange phone numbers beforehand, and would text in advance if I am running late etc...

So far so good, and only ever had one who did not show up due to, allegedly, got the wrong place of meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I know how long it takes me to get ready,I know how long its going to take to get to where im going as I check so barring any disasters on the journey we're pretty good time keepers

If I was going to be delayed from leaving by 2 hours id be letting the meet know asap and arrange a later meeting time,you would know if things at home were going tits up and work around that surely? we have children,we know what its like when you sorting them out and trying to sort yourselves out too,anyone that does'nt realise that they're going to be 2 hrs late for a meet where the time has been arranged has poor time management skill and is'nt being very fair if they expect somene else to wait for them for 2 hrs

I would'nt expect anyone to be hanging around waiting for me and I would'nt be hanging around for 2 hours waiting for anyone else either

"

Well said!! And (unless I have got this wrong) the guy TEXTED them to say I AM LEAVING NOW. If they had 2 hours travelling time (which is not clear anyway) they should have rung him IMMEDATELY and told him to wait.

Also, I am glad to see a couple standing up for a single guy. As someone said above if a couple had posted what he did would they have got the flack he has? I doubt it

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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What was the gut supposed to do sit in the hotel car park for two hours twiddling his thumbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why can't you come on here and have a whinge when people mess you around? Most people don't share there swinging lifestyle with their mates so surely this is the place to share and get it off your chest.

I think some people are a little unfair to this chap and perhaps a little cynical in their outlook. 2 hours is too long to wait around for anyone."

I agree it's a great place to whinge if you just want to let off steam.

Some have the knack of being light hearted and humorous in putting their case and some don't.

Either way if they go public then it's only right to accept their will be differing interpretations and opinions posted.

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South

This a forum where anyone can post their opinion and I take note of your views.

Sorry to have upset you so much.

I still think "It happens" and the op would have been better of waiting instead of "whinging on a forum"

I never denied the op's right to do so.

and yes, I do think the op is the timewaster, for the reasons I gave earlier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I still think "It happens" and the op would have been better of waiting instead of "whinging on a forum"

I never denied the op's right to do so.

and yes, I do think the op is the timewaster, for the reasons I gave earlier.

"

For arguments sake,, say the people in question had arranged to meet at 8pm (OP leaving at 6), have 2-3 hours play and then travel back home.. if on schedule this would have meant that that OP would be home for midnight ish.. he could have had work in the morning or a childminder to get back for.If he had stayed for 2 hours to wait for the couple, he'd have been home 2 hours later. Meeting times are set for a reason, the couple didn't keep to those commitments.. so the OP wasn't time wasting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

TIMEWASTER LOL CAN YOU READ THE POINT IS ABOUT MY TIME BEING WASTED!!!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"TIMEWASTER LOL CAN YOU READ THE POINT IS ABOUT MY TIME BEING WASTED!!!!"

dont sweat it hun, the more you think about it the more of your time you are wasting on it. move onwards and upwards (and a bit towards evesham) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TIMEWASTER LOL CAN YOU READ THE POINT IS ABOUT MY TIME BEING WASTED!!!!"

alright calm down, calm down (done in my bestest scouser accent) no need to shout its still early on Sunday

Think the majority agree with you, but its the joys of starting a thread, other people will always have an opinion, if you don't like hearing it, don't start 'timewasting' threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"move onwards and upwards (and a bit towards evesham) lol"

*moves towards evesham and pinches her shoes*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from some of the posts it seems that some folk dont mind waiting for peeps to turn up even if it is 2 hours or so after agreed times......

personally i would be letting someone know the instant i realise im going to be late.........unforeseen events can always happen

we all value our time and i personally hate the idea of being hung out to dry

If the set of circumstances as described here was to happen to myself then i most certainly would not be waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TIMEWASTER LOL CAN YOU READ THE POINT IS ABOUT MY TIME BEING WASTED!!!!

alright calm down, calm down (done in my bestest scouser accent) no need to shout its still early on Sunday

Think the majority agree with you, but its the joys of starting a thread, other people will always have an opinion, if you don't like hearing it, don't start 'timewasting' threads"

good accent.....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with OP us single Men have a lot to put up with and and our time is valuable FFs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with OP us single Men have a lot to put up with and and our time is valuable FFs "

Stop whingin you lol

Your times about as valuable as mine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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good accent.....lol"

awww thanks,, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with OP us single Men have a lot to put up with and and our time is valuable FFs

Stop whingin you lol

Your times about as valuable as mine xx "

Yeah but I have a life and I need to know and account for every second so like the OP says us single Men need to stop being messed about and shown some respect...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with OP us single Men have a lot to put up with and and our time is valuable FFs

Stop whingin you lol

Your times about as valuable as mine xx

Yeah but I have a life and I need to know and account for every second so like the OP says us single Men need to stop being messed about and shown some respect... "

He he dont hold ya breath pmsl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually arrange to meet several people over several hours..If no one turns up we're still having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"We usually arrange to meet several people over several hours..If no one turns up we're still having sex "

And if they all turn up....bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people agree to meet at a certain time and they know they are going to be quite a bit late they should have the courtesy to let the other party know in good time preferably before they set of.It is only good manners afterall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can there be so many opinions on a one sided story?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We usually arrange to meet several people over several hours..If no one turns up we're still having sex

And if they all turn up....bonus! "

That never happens..Timewasters you see!..

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

exactly we only have ops version of the story .the cpl may well have different version of events ! personally that fact he said they never gave a reason for the 2 hr wait raises question . im sorry but if person was running that late first question would be why is it going to take that long ! visa versa if you were going to be late youd be saying reason WHY .also the meet today he posted he still not said WHY he did it just that he shouldnt of . certainly looks like he was looking for a better offer .the cpl may well of wanted to make sure he was going to turn up due to this ! wouldnt be a shocker if he had got a better offer for the cpl to be left high and dry .

the op has obvious learns he can take forward from this and avoid any issues in future .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I don’t understand in all of this is why the OP rushed back home to start this thread? He could have returned home freshened up had a nice cuppa and headed there later, or simply cancelled the meet and put it down to experience, and for what I’ve read on hear the OP didn’t even ask them why they were going to be two hours late.

Sounds like bad communication to me, would hardly call someone that’s driving 2 hours and has booked the hotel a timewaster, nor the OP for cancelling given the time they were going to be late, simply sounds like a badly organised meet that was arranged far to quickly.

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

that wud piss us off aswel if that happened,sorry to hear u got messed about hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IF a time had been set AND more importantly agreed, then there is no excuse for not letting the other party know if you are going to be late. Manners don't cost anything.

I can't understand why the OP is being slated so much. If the same thing happened to us we would call the meet off. Like you'd sit there for 2 hours! If they failed to turn up at the agreed time then why would he think they'd show up 2 hours later? I'd be very surprised if anyone would sit and wait for that time.

On the flip side if we were the couple and knew we were going to be 2 hours late I'd pick up the phone, apologise profusely and ask ( not expect) if the other party were ok to wait.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that wud piss us off aswel if that happened,sorry to hear u got messed about hun x"

Exactly, IF IT HAPPENED???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it wasnt the time that was the problem it was the lies if they didnt live were they said they did they should of told me then i would of been a bit more flexable but if they lied about that then whos to say they were even going to turn up i wouldnt lie and mess people about like that so dont think its right for me to be messed about "

You should have waited around until they were five minutes away then sent a message saying you were going home. At least they'd have had a four hour drive by the time they got back home to reflect on why they said they were local and clearly weren't.

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"that wud piss us off aswel if that happened,sorry to hear u got messed about hun x

Exactly, IF IT HAPPENED???"

what do u mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bigger fool them for driving 2 hours for a shag. I'm bloody sure we wouldn't put ourselves to that much trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bigger fool them for driving 2 hours for a shag. I'm bloody sure we wouldn't put ourselves to that much trouble "

You HAVE to living out in the wild blue yonder as you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hang on im the one who has been messed about

Have you really? or could you not just have waited for them to turn up as they did say they were on their way, albeit a wee bit later than expected. "

i agree here. they'd was going to be a tad late least they let u know

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"that wud piss us off aswel if that happened,sorry to hear u got messed about hun x

Exactly, IF IT HAPPENED???

what do u mean?"

As we are only hearing one side of the story. For example:

'Arranged a meet with _inky24big35 last night, bought new underwear, paid for a babysitter, booked and paid for hotel, travelled 100 miles and they never showed up"

Now obviously that DID NOT happen, but how does anyone know when they are only getting my version of what may/may not have happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hang on im the one who has been messed about

Have you really? or could you not just have waited for them to turn up as they did say they were on their way, albeit a wee bit later than expected.

i agree here. they'd was going to be a tad late least they let u know"

You've not understood what the OP is saying.

The people he was meeting booked a hotel in their supposed home town and yet it would take them two hours to reach it. Now unless their home town covers an area the size of Wales I'd say he was being messed about here. If he'd have waited two hours I'd bet my life he would have been stood up completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be quite funny if the text was actually sent 2 hours before the meeting took place and it arrived late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be quite funny if the text was actually sent 2 hours before the meeting took place and it arrived late "

cruel lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be quite funny if the text was actually sent 2 hours before the meeting took place and it arrived late "

Ha good point thats happened ta a few of my texts lately as well xx

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over a year ago


"Be quite funny if the text was actually sent 2 hours before the meeting took place and it arrived late "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it does happen with texts, personally if this happened to us we would have simply called them before turning back

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"Be quite funny if the text was actually sent 2 hours before the meeting took place and it arrived late

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cruel but funny

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

who says the couple were actualy leaving their home? they could have had a nightmare day and were leaving from somewhere else, albeit late and were letting the op know they would be late.

mobile companies will only give a 'delivered as soon as possible' promise on texts, so it could have been sent at anytime. so ithout hearing the other side of the story is imposible to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"who says the couple were actualy leaving their home? they could have had a nightmare day and were leaving from somewhere else, albeit late and were letting the op know they would be late.

mobile companies will only give a 'delivered as soon as possible' promise on texts, so it could have been sent at anytime. so ithout hearing the other side of the story is imposible to judge. "

You make a valid point there.

Add to that it also depends on your definition of "local". I only meet people London based, but since it can take me over 90 minutes to travel eight miles to work, getting from south to north London is a veritable nightmare. Whilst Kent and Surrey are 10 minutes from me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish the other couple would come on and tell us their side of the story, then we could trash it all out and make some sort of documentary on it, to be shown on the fab home page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"who says the couple were actualy leaving their home? they could have had a nightmare day and were leaving from somewhere else, albeit late and were letting the op know they would be late.

mobile companies will only give a 'delivered as soon as possible' promise on texts, so it could have been sent at anytime. so ithout hearing the other side of the story is imposible to judge. "

Over to the OP then. Did they respond to your 'sod it, I'm off home' message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant belive how many people think its ok that he shud have to sit and wait for 2 hours

20-30 mins sure but 2 hours is just taking the p*ss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i cant belive how many people think its ok that he shud have to sit and wait for 2 hours

20-30 mins sure but 2 hours is just taking the p*ss

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Who said it was ok? sounds like a badly organised meet to us, text messages can be delayed, if we'd recieved such text we'd just have called them for clarification

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"i cant belive how many people think its ok that he shud have to sit and wait for 2 hours

20-30 mins sure but 2 hours is just taking the p*ss

Who said it was ok? sounds like a badly organised meet to us, text messages can be delayed, if we'd recieved such text we'd just have called them for clarification"
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Simple yet effective

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Considering the amount of threads from single guys complaining how many months they've waited for a meet, 2 hours seems relatively reasonable to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they said they booked it then i was going to pay my half to them

...and you're saying they've messed you about?

I'm half expecting to see a thread in a couple of hours where someone says they booked a hotel near to their meet, but he messed them about and cancelled at the last minute, even though they'd said they were on their way."

ha ha would you wait 2 bliddy hours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that wud piss us off aswel if that happened,sorry to hear u got messed about hun x

Exactly, IF IT HAPPENED???

what do u mean?

As we are only hearing one side of the story. For example:

'Arranged a meet with _inky24big35 last night, bought new underwear, paid for a babysitter, booked and paid for hotel, travelled 100 miles and they never showed up"

Now obviously that DID NOT happen, but how does anyone know when they are only getting my version of what may/may not have happened."

bldy conspiracy if you ask me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This a forum where anyone can post their opinion and I take note of your views.

Sorry to have upset you so much.

I still think "It happens" and the op would have been better of waiting instead of "whinging on a forum"

I never denied the op's right to do so.

and yes, I do think the op is the timewaster, for the reasons I gave earlier.

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Oooooops. I was AGREEING with you... You didn't upest me at all.

Fact is ..... I don't sweat the small stuff ...

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South


"This a forum where anyone can post their opinion and I take note of your views.

Sorry to have upset you so much.

I still think "It happens" and the op would have been better of waiting instead of "whinging on a forum"

I never denied the op's right to do so.

and yes, I do think the op is the timewaster, for the reasons I gave earlier.

Oooooops. I was AGREEING with you... You didn't upest me at all.

Fact is ..... I don't sweat the small stuff ...

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LOL yes I know you were! I was replying to someone else who appeared a bit upset.

It's just an anon internet forum after all, who really cares.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"now if it had been a single man done this to a couple wot would you all be saying then

he does have a point"

He does indeed.

If I was on time for a meet and got a text expecting me to wait 2 hours.... well you can guess which word would come before 'off'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hang on im the one who has been messed about

Have you really? or could you not just have waited for them to turn up as they did say they were on their way, albeit a wee bit later than expected.

Why is it always the size of Wales ???

i agree here. they'd was going to be a tad late least they let u know

You've not understood what the OP is saying.

The people he was meeting booked a hotel in their supposed home town and yet it would take them two hours to reach it. Now unless their home town covers an area the size of Wales I'd say he was being messed about here. If he'd have waited two hours I'd bet my life he would have been stood up completely."

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"ha ha would you wait 2 bliddy hours?"

I think if I was in his position I would have gone home and waited, as after all the hotel was supposedly local to him.

I'm not adverse to using my phone, so I would have phoned them up and spoken, not just relied on potentially ambiguous text messages, to say that they should give me a call when they arrive. I'd then leave my home once they called me. If they didn't call then at least I'd have been at home watching Match of the Day, instead of sat in a bar for 2 hours looking like Billy No Mates drinking Coke and eating dry roasted peanuts.

Is someone being 2hrs late for a meet inconsiderate? Yeah, it probably is. But sometimes unexpected things happen to all of us. Sure, it would have been good if they had let him know in advance, but perhaps they couldn't. Maybe, like many others on here, they have a "swinging phone" that they didn't have with them when their car broke down and the RAC took 2 hrs to fix it... who knows. We're only going on 1 person's version of events, and I think there's more to this story than the info shared so far. I do hope the other person / couple see this thread and add their version of events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that it's wrong to post a 'looking to meet today' when a meet is already arranged. Would certainly make other party think what the hell.

Still find it odd people trying to justify the actions of the other party. We might not have the full story but still. Two parties agree to meet at what sounds a set time,etc. I'm sure we would all be thinking wtf if we were then told the other party was 2 hours away. It would put me off.

To say the OP should have gone home or gone to a bar just makes the whole thing sound even more desperate to me. To cancel was the right thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree that it's wrong to post a 'looking to meet today' when a meet is already arranged. Would certainly make other party think what the hell.

Still find it odd people trying to justify the actions of the other party. We might not have the full story but still. Two parties agree to meet at what sounds a set time,etc. I'm sure we would all be thinking wtf if we were then told the other party was 2 hours away. It would put me off.

To say the OP should have gone home or gone to a bar just makes the whole thing sound even more desperate to me. To cancel was the right thing to do. "

*Nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry but 2 hours is not local you can drive a bloody long way in 2 hours"
did you mail and ask them why say local when 2 hours away ?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I find it very odd that so many negative views have been expressed about the 'couple' in question without.....

(1) Having heard their version of the events

(2) Any proof that the 'couple' in question actually exist

Sorry, but I found the whole thread was just a run up to a typical 'Timewasters' subject......

I hate these threads that are based on anecdotal evidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely play catch up when I have been offline for a few days and this is one of the times I wish I hadn't bothered. I dunno why I couldnt put it down - think I was expecting to see a real ending with the OP telling us the other couple contacted him again. Really insightful seeing it all unfold in the ten mins it took me to read it, than living it in real time. Its threads like this that make you think wtf am I doing reading timewasting threads.... theres no happy or sad or funny ending is there?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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