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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say sorry to lull them into a false sense of security. ..then I follow them and kill them by slow and painful means

Is it a 'very British' thing to automatically say a very polite sorry? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?"

Sorry automatically comes out my mouth

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I used to say sorry automatically but I don't now. If I bump into someone and it IS my fault I will and if the other person apologises I always say "no it was my fault" otherwise I say nothing. I think I turned inti a grumpy old woman at some point over the last few years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say sorry farrr to much to inconsiderate strangers when I'm not even in the wrong....well I don't think I am anyway... If people walk into my babies pram though I tend to give a dirty look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say careful now. No idea why, I just always have

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"I say sorry to lull them into a false sense of security. ..then I follow them and kill them by slow and painful means

Is it a 'very British' thing to automatically say a very polite sorry? ?

I have seen knitter do that, she is ruthless

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

i always say sorry and it is usually my fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say sorry I think it's just an automatic thing to do

What annoys me though is when it's not my fault but I still say sorry but they don't

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've become very good at tutting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs M

I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Kinda.

I normally say 'sorry was I in your way?!' in my most sarcastic tone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say sorry whether it was my fault or but dont mean anything sarcastic by it. Its just one of those things it happens sometimes

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

I'm Spanish and I say sorry all the time. Even when it's not my fault. Maybe I've been living here for too long.

Mrs SB

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For those who say sorry even when it isn't your fault....why? How did this become your automatic response? Is it because your parents taught you, because other people did it so you learned that way, something completely different?

I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say nothing but when they say sorry I say it's alright. I do however say thank you to cash points sometimes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I do, don't even give it a second thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew you were studying us again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I knew you were studying us again.

Whatever. You never answer my questions anyway.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I say fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I say nothing but when they say sorry I say it's alright. I do however say thank you to cash points sometimes!"

I'm going to start thanking the ATM when I go back to the US and see if anyone says anything to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew you were studying us again.

Whatever. You never answer my questions anyway.

Lies, I answered your prying last night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my fault I will automatically say sorry.

If someone else's fault and they say sorry I will politely say no probs.

If someone else's fault and they don't say sorry then I say "for fucks sake"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I knew you were studying us again.

Whatever. You never answer my questions anyway.

Lies, I answered your prying last night.

That sounds dirtier than it was. Innocent questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs M

I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol

I think it's just because of the way I was brought up always be polite manners cost us nothing and a smile always cheers up a person's day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say sorry as I often walk away with their wallet LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone walked on the left this wouldn't happnen!!

We manage it on the road why not the pavement!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say sorry. It is a lot more polite than saying get out of my effing way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes always polite ,no reason not to be ..that's the way adults should be..polite and well mannered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry automatically comes out of my mouth before I've even had chance to finish colliding into them and kick them in the ankles.

It's like a reflex

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say sorry to lull them into a false sense of security. ..then I follow them and kill them by slow and painful means

Is it a 'very British' thing to automatically say a very polite sorry? ?

Definitely this. We're a strange lot we brits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes always polite ,no reason not to be ..that's the way adults should be..polite and well mannered.

It was the way that I was brought up. Always hold the door open for the next person, smile and say hello.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mrs M

I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol

I think it's just because of the way I was brought up always be polite manners cost us nothing and a smile always cheers up a person's day

Is it the polite thing to do when it's someone else's fault though?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm also getting really bad at say Oh FFS under my breath as well (sometimes not so quietly) I fear I am also becoming a grumpy old woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say sorry, sometimes it's my fault, sometimes it's theirs XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if I'm bumped in to and they don't say sorry I usually retort by calling then F***ing brain dead idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs M

I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol

I think it's just because of the way I was brought up always be polite manners cost us nothing and a smile always cheers up a person's day

Is it the polite thing to do when it's someone else's fault though?"

Well as I say it's just an automatic response really it's like it's been hard wired in to my brain now lol parents done a bloody good job I'm an bloody angel me lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've said it when I've bumped into a lamppost

Yup, brought up to be really polite about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once heard a guy ask a girl if she could plug in his phone charger, she did and said thank you to him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've said it when I've bumped into a lamppost

Yup, brought up to be really polite about that."

Lamp posts deserve respect, too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm also getting really bad at say Oh FFS under my breath as well (sometimes not so quietly) I fear I am also becoming a grumpy old woman

lol I have been known to do this as well, whilst fearing that I am becoming a grumpy old man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once heard a guy ask a girl if she could plug in his phone charger, she did and said thank you to him

Mrs M

Haha sounds like something I'd do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If male, obviously their fault it's a good northern retort of "TWAT", if female I'm always wrong. Years of ex-wife telling me so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In hollister once I walked into a mannequin and said sorry to it

In my defence their store was always really dark lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been known to say ow when I've accidentally stepped on someone's foot

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"I have been known to say ow when I've accidentally stepped on someone's foot

I've seen your feet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have fallen into saying sorry when I really am not.

It is odd.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'll apologise and smile or go back for a proper grope, depending upon who it is.

I'm not one for the omnipresent 'sorry', after spending too much of my life overseas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no I grab their wallet n then disappear into the crowd

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no I grab their wallet n then disappear into the crowd

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"For those who say sorry even when it isn't your fault....why? How did this become your automatic response? Is it because your parents taught you, because other people did it so you learned that way, something completely different?

I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response."

David Mitchell did a whole episode of his radio series on manners in this topic. It's cultural norm.

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

I usually apologise even if its not my fault. Automatic response

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response.

David Mitchell did a whole episode of his radio series on manners in this topic. It's cultural norm.

Yeah, I get that. I was just wondering if people who do it could pinpoint where it comes from, exactly. But I suppose that's difficult with most cultural norms.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

of course we do, it is polite & part of being British

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If everyone walked on the left this wouldn't happnen!!

We manage it on the road why not the pavement!!!!

That's what Canadians used to do when I went nearly 30 years ago. Not so much when I visited 5 years ago.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response.

David Mitchell did a whole episode of his radio series on manners in this topic. It's cultural norm.

Yeah, I get that. I was just wondering if people who do it could pinpoint where it comes from, exactly. But I suppose that's difficult with most cultural norms."

Find the series on the BBC iPlayer. Radio 4 earlier this year.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Whilst the Americans also walk and pass as pedestrians on a specific side, I wonder if the Brits don't, as we're much older culture? Perhaps keeping options open, if up against a potential highway robber, was advantageous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I'm in the way of saying excuse me, sorry isn't - in my eyes - the right term for if you bump into a stranger much like if you burp or fart in company of someone you're aquainted with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response."

You've done this haven't you.

Are you worried that you're turning "British".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha always - i remember once when in my teens and walking thro town with a group of mates - for some reason i was walking backwards and chatting on and walked into a lamppost - it hurt and i still said sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's an auto response from me to avoid confrontation. I can handle myself don't get me wrong. But sometimes it's quicker and easier to just say sorry and move on. I just can't be arsed with the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say sorry ..its just polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say sorry and I am Portuguese.But do gets on my nerves how rude people can be.But I still show them I have manners.But sometimes people say isn't your fault is mine and apologies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say sorry to everyone, for anything even when I don't need too!!

G x

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

I say sorry when it's my fault.when their fault they say sorry I say it'd ok.been other time when I know it's my fault still walking into them both giggle politely say need stop meeting this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend too....but as I'm dyslexic I tend to spell it "Oi, watch out nob head!"

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

Also when someone knock into me don't say sorry I will say charming you lost your manners especially knock u with bags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's courteous for both to say sorry and move on. It's a nice touch regardless of whos fault it was.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I always thought it was the courteous thing to do for whoever is at fault to say sorry. I wouldn't say sorry if someone bumped into me though, that would just be a bit silly. Sometimes you can both kind of be at fault so then you may both say a quick sorry! I would probably see saying nothing as being a bit rude. I guess it all depends on the circumstances.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yeah usually, unless that have obviously crashed into me through carelessness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's an auto response from me to avoid confrontation. I can handle myself don't get me wrong. But sometimes it's quicker and easier to just say sorry and move on. I just can't be arsed with the hassle. "

And sometimes it can teach them to say sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And sometimes it can teach them to say sorry. "

Yeah there is that too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea I seem to , sometimes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say sorry, it is an automatic response, I just say it and carry on walking. I don't remember how I learnt this but it obviously must have been from my parents.

I do have very British traits though and I find it noticeable when in New York. I still struggle to hail a taxi, to step out and raise my hand. It feels so unnatural to me. I'd rather wait in a queue for a taxi.

I was mocked once by an American guy for holding the door open for him in the lobby of a hotel. When he reached me he said 'Ma'am are you hoping to get a job here', he never said thank you, most rude

But its really noticeable when I'm with American friends having a meal. They'll yell over to the other side of the restaurant to get a waiters attention, I would rather sit and wait until the waiter is nearby and then I'll say 'excuse me, I'm ready to order now' and if he's busy I'll wait.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whilst the Americans also walk and pass as pedestrians on a specific side, I wonder if the Brits don't, as we're much older culture? Perhaps keeping options open, if up against a potential highway robber, was advantageous."

This is a really interesting response. I do find that Americans are more likely to walk on the right (mimicking driving) than the British are to walk on the left. It's part of why I think it's more common to just automatically say sorry here. Just a guess though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try it in Norway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try it in Norway."

Unnskyld.

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