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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone i really want to meet they'll get 1 chance. I'm not here to be messed about but i do understand life happens and fab is only a small part of mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person? "

Probably too many..lol.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Depends on the circumstances of why we haven't met.If they lie or mess me about that would be it,if its a good reason i might give a second chance.Miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chance!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

One. Maybe 2 if i'm feeling generous. Never 3.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person?

Probably too many..lol. "

Great photos btw Grotbags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes 1 chance and that's it.

If, at the 1st one, she doesn't show up for any reasons she will have to come upto where I live the 2nd time to make it up to me and prove she genuinly wants to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you "

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

One.

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

Too many in my case.

But it was worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give a second chance, dependent on the circumstances but that's it. If someone really wants to meet then they will. I understand things come up and other things in life take priority but I'd not give more than 2 chances to meet, life is too short and there are others who will meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two, I'll give anyone the benefit of the doubt once. If they flake on the second chance. That's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

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I'd just leave the ball in their court and let them contact you if they want to meet. If they really do then they will contact you. Really can't be arsed chasing people anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two or three, we all know life can get in the way sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would give a second chance, dependent on the circumstances but that's it. If someone really wants to meet then they will. I understand things come up and other things in life take priority but I'd not give more than 2 chances to meet, life is too short and there are others who will meet. "

But what about if after speaking to one particular person for a number of weeks and then after that speaking to anyone else is just meh and doesn't do anything for your mind. I hate the word connection but sometimes you do click with people and for me that happens so rarely, rarely people get every single thing you're on about without you having to explain.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Depends if you mean they've rearrange or just keep talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would give a second chance, dependent on the circumstances but that's it. If someone really wants to meet then they will. I understand things come up and other things in life take priority but I'd not give more than 2 chances to meet, life is too short and there are others who will meet.

But what about if after speaking to one particular person for a number of weeks and then after that speaking to anyone else is just meh and doesn't do anything for your mind. I hate the word connection but sometimes you do click with people and for me that happens so rarely, rarely people get every single thing you're on about without you having to explain.

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Have you arranged meets and had him cancel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

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Everyone deserves a second chance

Sometimes life just does get in the way of things, but repeated excuses just start to get a bit lame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two, maybe three at a push.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

"

With all due respect but didn't you get messed about last week, arranged your life but he didn't show, was it England's first game he'd rather watch? That should tell you all you need to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 strikes n you're out for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person? "

Only you can make that decision.

Instinct usually kicks in when I am talking to someone for a bit.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It depends on the circumstance, if they cancel on me for some reason I would give a second chance, but that would be all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two, I'll give anyone the benefit of the doubt once. If they flake on the second chance. That's it."

Our thoughts exactly

Some people fail to grasp that real life happens.

We've cancelled for plenty of reasons, car broke down on the way (gearbox failed)

Poorly puppy, time of the month, The list goes on.

If someone throws the teddy out due to a cancellation then we see it as they take things way too seriously. Personal issues come well before any meet off a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

With all due respect but didn't you get messed about last week, arranged your life but he didn't show, was it England's first game he'd rather watch? That should tell you all you need to know "

Wales' first game! Avid football fan, got d*unk, very apologetic next morning.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person? "

How many chances have you given him so far?

Truthfully, I think you are looking for someone to tell you to keep giving chances, because that's what you want to hear.

Bottom line, even for someone as good looking as you, they'd get one chance, maybe two at the most depending on circumstances!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

With all due respect but didn't you get messed about last week, arranged your life but he didn't show, was it England's first game he'd rather watch? That should tell you all you need to know

Wales' first game! Avid football fan, got d*unk, very apologetic next morning. "

As an "avid" fan, he should have known the date of the footie match, and avoided planning a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One. Maybe 2 if i'm feeling generous. Never 3. "

This.

Im aware things come up from time to time, ive had to cancel last min before due to things out of my control and it's not a nice thing to have to do, but it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

With all due respect but didn't you get messed about last week, arranged your life but he didn't show, was it England's first game he'd rather watch? That should tell you all you need to know

Wales' first game! Avid football fan, got d*unk, very apologetic next morning. "

Just remember how angry you was, and rightly so. If same person obviously football and beer is more important to him now than you so how far down the "list" would you be in 6 months?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I would give a second chance, dependent on the circumstances but that's it. If someone really wants to meet then they will. I understand things come up and other things in life take priority but I'd not give more than 2 chances to meet, life is too short and there are others who will meet.

But what about if after speaking to one particular person for a number of weeks and then after that speaking to anyone else is just meh and doesn't do anything for your mind. I hate the word connection but sometimes you do click with people and for me that happens so rarely, rarely people get every single thing you're on about without you having to explain.

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is this the.same.person you liked.the other.week but couldnt meet.straight.away?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person?

How many chances have you given him so far?

Truthfully, I think you are looking for someone to tell you to keep giving chances, because that's what you want to hear.

Bottom line, even for someone as good looking as you, they'd get one chance, maybe two at the most depending on circumstances! "

If this one tonight doesn't happen then it will be two. Both drink induced and football involved. Massively hungover and can sort of understand when someone says they like someone and want to feel confident and at their best the 1st time they meet them but I don't really care now about what they look like because I like their personality.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Like someone said earlier 'everyone deserves a second chance', but that would be it for us.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

one chance or 2 if I like them a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might really want to meet them, but they might not want to meet you. One chance id say and if they're not showing interest, move on; albeit disappointedly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would give a second chance, dependent on the circumstances but that's it. If someone really wants to meet then they will. I understand things come up and other things in life take priority but I'd not give more than 2 chances to meet, life is too short and there are others who will meet.

But what about if after speaking to one particular person for a number of weeks and then after that speaking to anyone else is just meh and doesn't do anything for your mind. I hate the word connection but sometimes you do click with people and for me that happens so rarely, rarely people get every single thing you're on about without you having to explain.

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try talking to someone like that for over a year..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a married bloke off here, we were going to be FWB,s but after 6 more months of chat with no further meet, I called it a day. XXX

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person?

How many chances have you given him so far?

Truthfully, I think you are looking for someone to tell you to keep giving chances, because that's what you want to hear.

Bottom line, even for someone as good looking as you, they'd get one chance, maybe two at the most depending on circumstances!

If this one tonight doesn't happen then it will be two. Both drink induced and football involved. Massively hungover and can sort of understand when someone says they like someone and want to feel confident and at their best the 1st time they meet them but I don't really care now about what they look like because I like their personality.

"

You have probably got a huge queue of guys waiting for their chance to meet you, some will just want to score with a very pretty lady, some will be fantasists, and a small minority will be genuine.

From reading your profile and your posts in the forums, you seem to be very insecure, so the best advice I can give you is to be ruthless in your selection criteria, and insist on a "one strike" policy, if a guy is dumb enough to mess you about once, ditch them.

As for the drinking issue, again, if a guy needs to be half-d*unk to meet you, kick him to the kerb, on a meet you will be nervous, and so will he, its normal, you want to meet them in their "raw" state, not when they have some "dutch courage" which makes them act differently.

I have nothing to gain by blowing smoke up your arse, so believe me when I say, you are hot, any guy who messes you about is a dick and doesn't deserve a second chance lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person? "

Two. Life sometimes gets in way so they allowed one cancelation. Second time it has to be a meet up if not blicked and moving on... It takes time for me to get ready and i put in the effort. I do explain this when we talk threw messages on here so i do make it clear. My time is precious and i won't be messed about. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He doesn't need Dutch courage or to drink just to meet me, was simply saying he got d*unk watching the games and is nursing a hangover.

Anyway says he will meet later despite feeling rough so all is good.

If this falls through I'm gonna have egg on my face!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

If it's someone I REALLY want to meet and they come up with legit excuses then they get three chances.

But after that no matter how legit - NO!!

Been there done that before

And if it's just a run of the mill then they get one chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, there's a lot of single guys on here who seem to be professional time wasters, which undermines the rest of us single guys' reputations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One, I'm here for a good time not a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, there's a lot of single guys on here who seem to be professional time wasters, which undermines the rest of us single guys' reputations "

How someone else conducts themselves on here has no bearing what so ever on your success or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if I believe their story when they let me down

I understand people have a life off fab and sometimes cancelling meets is unavoidable so I do give people a second chance unless I feel they are fobbing me off

I arranged a meet three times with a guy once but after letting me down for the third time I refused to arranged again, I just found it hard to believe that three times in a row something came up when he was meeting me

I suppose you go on your gut instinct on if they are genuine in their reason for letting you down, if I feel they are I'll rearrange

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's someone I REALLY want to meet and they come up with legit excuses then they get three chances.

But after that no matter how legit - NO!!

Been there done that before

And if it's just a run of the mill then they get one chance "

That's what I mean, I do like this geezer so am being more understanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, how many times have you arranged to meet him if you don't mind me asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting people online... one chance, maybe 2 if I have a good feeling about them.

More often than not they get no chance though as I have a bad feeling before we can arrange even the first meet.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

1 chance usually but if I like them and tick my boxes 2. I'm nice like that

Fool me once shame on you

Fool me twice shame on me

Fool me three times and they can kiss my arse!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two, I'll give anyone the benefit of the doubt once. If they flake on the second chance. That's it."

I know, you spend all that time, doing MY hair.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no set limit. I've had to cancel myself from once to a few times,although I don't usually give a definite thumbs up to a specific date. I have a very busy life,with a lot of responsibility and commitments,which also means I could be too tired to drag myself to meet someone,especially if it's a long train journey. I had things in mind this weekend but I've woken up feeling ill. I've had a let people know,although they aren't new people I haven't met yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would put someone to the back of the line who got d*unk and fell asleep after watching football. But then I wouldn't have agreed to meet someone knowing he'd been drinking with friends beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Eeek so I'll know in an hour and a bit wether I'm gonna be blown out or not!

Show of hands who thinks what!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 chance normally, 2 if they seem genuine and tick enough boxes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah well he turned up, lovely lovely guy just wasn't an attraction, I'm gutted because I really liked him, just wish I could make myself fancy people.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Yeah well he turned up, lovely lovely guy just wasn't an attraction, I'm gutted because I really liked him, just wish I could make myself fancy people. "

Teabags, you say you got on well chatting and he understood you so why just knock it on the head because you didn't feel an instant spark?

I didn't think you were looking for just a quickie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah well he turned up, lovely lovely guy just wasn't an attraction, I'm gutted because I really liked him, just wish I could make myself fancy people. "

I get the feeling you are looking for the ideal person. I'm similar. I think it will always lead to disappointment.

If you're happy being alone, that's cool, but why not give him another chance or two?

Love grows.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

If there's no attraction then move on.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"If there's no attraction then move on."

I fell in love with someone for whom I had no initial spark of attraction. We could talk to each other though and however annoying we found each other we enjoyed the chatter. We had a magical time when the physical attraction suddenly hit us and had three years of lusty sex and mental stimulation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may really want to meet them, but it sounds like they don't really want to meet you

Seems that way but also the reasons sound legit but how many times can you let things slide before you just end up looking like a mug.

"

One .... Why would you put yourself through it ?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"If there's no attraction then move on.

I fell in love with someone for whom I had no initial spark of attraction. We could talk to each other though and however annoying we found each other we enjoyed the chatter. We had a magical time when the physical attraction suddenly hit us and had three years of lusty sex and mental stimulation.

"

Changed my mind give him another go

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

One or two but likely one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes 1 chance and that's it.

If, at the 1st one, she doesn't show up for any reasons she will have to come upto where I live the 2nd time to make it up to me and prove she genuinly wants to me.

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I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah well he turned up, lovely lovely guy just wasn't an attraction, I'm gutted because I really liked him, just wish I could make myself fancy people. "

I have that problem all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah well he turned up, lovely lovely guy just wasn't an attraction, I'm gutted because I really liked him, just wish I could make myself fancy people. "

But earlier you said '....but I don't really care now about what they look like because I like their personality.'

I think you need to be more honest with yourself first and then go from there. We change our minds all the time for various differing reasons. What makes it even harder, is if your not really sure what your preferences / requirements are in the first place. Life is life and never easy. Best way is to just try the best you can for yourself and others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 so better not fck it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no matter how much i want to if they kept on saying no i wouldnt appear that desperate to keep on trying -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"no matter how much i want to if they kept on saying no i wouldnt appear that desperate to keep on trying - "

Yeah that's ship has sailed, got attacked by wildfire and sunk now.

Just dunno how to play things, I meet people quick without any talk or build up and then yeah they might be pretty but intellectually they do nothing for me.

Chats to a guy with a wonderful witty mind and awesome personality and I'm not attracted to him. Can't win. So what do you do, I did like this approach of getting to know someone first because had he turned out to be someone I really fancied then we would have had awesome sex, it would of been heady, mind fulfilling sex as well.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Ahh but do you need intellectual stimulation for short term lust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no matter how much i want to if they kept on saying no i wouldnt appear that desperate to keep on trying -

Yeah that's ship has sailed, got attacked by wildfire and sunk now.

Just dunno how to play things, I meet people quick without any talk or build up and then yeah they might be pretty but intellectually they do nothing for me.

Chats to a guy with a wonderful witty mind and awesome personality and I'm not attracted to him. Can't win. So what do you do, I did like this approach of getting to know someone first because had he turned out to be someone I really fancied then we would have had awesome sex, it would of been heady, mind fulfilling sex as well. "

I would hazard a guess that you might just be expecting way too much .

If the guy is appealing in a physical way , good looking , nice cock etc..... Have a bit of a chat on here , establish a connection , and meet up . Providing he isn't a complete numpty , do the business and assess afterwards the possibilities .

If there's not much mental stimulation , but he's good in bed and satisfies that side of it , there's potential for a future fuck buddy .

If you connect mentally , it could go further .

But if you don't try it , you'll never know .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no matter how much i want to if they kept on saying no i wouldnt appear that desperate to keep on trying -

Yeah that's ship has sailed, got attacked by wildfire and sunk now.

Just dunno how to play things, I meet people quick without any talk or build up and then yeah they might be pretty but intellectually they do nothing for me.

Chats to a guy with a wonderful witty mind and awesome personality and I'm not attracted to him. Can't win. So what do you do, I did like this approach of getting to know someone first because had he turned out to be someone I really fancied then we would have had awesome sex, it would of been heady, mind fulfilling sex as well.

I would hazard a guess that you might just be expecting way too much .

If the guy is appealing in a physical way , good looking , nice cock etc..... Have a bit of a chat on here , establish a connection , and meet up . Providing he isn't a complete numpty , do the business and assess afterwards the possibilities .

If there's not much mental stimulation , but he's good in bed and satisfies that side of it , there's potential for a future fuck buddy .

If you connect mentally , it could go further .

But if you don't try it , you'll never know .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just annoyed that the type of guys I fancy don't have that much going on upstairs, I don't mean to be unkind but this is 7 years of research. Tall, handsome with a large penis yet I have to explain my jokes or they aren't witty.

Wish I could take qualities from each guy I meet and stick them all together.

I'd love a techy nerdy wise geek that's handsome and tall with a massive cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 strikes rule. First time around they may have had something come up etc. I'd happily give them the benefit of doubt. If they mess me around the second time, game over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i need atleast 50 chances

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"

Wish I could take qualities from each guy I meet and stick them all together.

I'd love a techy nerdy wise geek that's handsome and tall with a massive cock. "

Ok I take your point and I'll get back into my basement

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person? "

My ego is such that they have to want to meet me. Therefore everyone is given one chance as people have lives.

If they miss that chance that tells me they aren't bothered, fair enough, neither am I...next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person? "

Depends what you'd call a chance? If somebody was messing me about or didn't stick to our plans, I'd be away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes 1 chance and that's it.

If, at the 1st one, she doesn't show up for any reasons she will have to come upto where I live the 2nd time to make it up to me and prove she genuinly wants to me.

I agree "

A no show is completely different

If you stand me up that's it I would never agree to meet again, to me there is nothing that excuse you from letting somebody know your not going, excluding your own death, it takes less than 10 seconds to first a text off, even if your don't have their number you can log into fab and send a message off your phone in less than one minute

I would always give a second chance if they cancelled under no circumstances would I re arrange a meet with somebody who let me turn up and left me standing about knowing they aren't turning up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes 1 chance and that's it.

If, at the 1st one, she doesn't show up for any reasons she will have to come upto where I live the 2nd time to make it up to me and prove she genuinly wants to me.

I agree

A no show is completely different

If you stand me up that's it I would never agree to meet again, to me there is nothing that excuse you from letting somebody know your not going, excluding your own death, it takes less than 10 seconds to first a text off, even if your don't have their number you can log into fab and send a message off your phone in less than one minute

I would always give a second chance if they cancelled under no circumstances would I re arrange a meet with somebody who let me turn up and left me standing about knowing they aren't turning up "

That's what happened to me with this guy last Saturday. I'd cleaned my house top to bottom and I mean top to bottom. Washedalk the skirts my doors and door frames, my windows and all the PVC and the inside sills, buffed all the chrome fittings like door handles window handles, taps, my mirrors, the sink plug holes, scrubbed all the seals of the shower with a tooth brush, place was fucking sparkling here. Arranged for my child to stay over my mothers on my Saturday night, the only night of the week I'm free and I hate being in my house when I'm child free, not unless it's my choice to have peace. I shaved my fanny for the first time in about 6 months even shaved my toes, then I was just sat in my house, time came and gone for the time he was supposed to be there, no message, my messages weren't getting delivered, was crying was pissed off that I'd sat in my house all night when I could have gone over my friends. He said his battery died and that he was even contemplating borrowing one of his friends phones to message me on here but said all his friends were vanilla and would rip him for being here.

He's left the site now by the way, so I'm not talking about an active member. I have an outstanding record of meeting guys who delete their accounts the next day.

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead


"If it's someone i really want to meet they'll get 1 chance. I'm not here to be messed about but i do understand life happens and fab is only a small part of mine."

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x


"Do you give someone when you really want to meet that person? "

1 can't be helped, 2 trying they luck.. 3 they out!! Blocked and reported for time wasting!!!

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over a year ago


"Yes 1 chance and that's it.

If, at the 1st one, she doesn't show up for any reasons she will have to come upto where I live the 2nd time to make it up to me and prove she genuinly wants to me.

I agree

A no show is completely different

If you stand me up that's it I would never agree to meet again, to me there is nothing that excuse you from letting somebody know your not going, excluding your own death, it takes less than 10 seconds to first a text off, even if your don't have their number you can log into fab and send a message off your phone in less than one minute

I would always give a second chance if they cancelled under no circumstances would I re arrange a meet with somebody who let me turn up and left me standing about knowing they aren't turning up

That's what happened to me with this guy last Saturday. I'd cleaned my house top to bottom and I mean top to bottom. Washedalk the skirts my doors and door frames, my windows and all the PVC and the inside sills, buffed all the chrome fittings like door handles window handles, taps, my mirrors, the sink plug holes, scrubbed all the seals of the shower with a tooth brush, place was fucking sparkling here. Arranged for my child to stay over my mothers on my Saturday night, the only night of the week I'm free and I hate being in my house when I'm child free, not unless it's my choice to have peace. I shaved my fanny for the first time in about 6 months even shaved my toes, then I was just sat in my house, time came and gone for the time he was supposed to be there, no message, my messages weren't getting delivered, was crying was pissed off that I'd sat in my house all night when I could have gone over my friends. He said his battery died and that he was even contemplating borrowing one of his friends phones to message me on here but said all his friends were vanilla and would rip him for being here.

He's left the site now by the way, so I'm not talking about an active member. I have an outstanding record of meeting guys who delete their accounts the next day.

"

Nice to know he didn't turn up to meet you but was in a situation where he was with his mates and able to use their phone

So what was his excuse for not meeting, I decided to go out with my mates instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember arranging a meet and the guy messaging me saying he had to cancel as his dad was taken ill, fair enough it happens at least he let me know

So I arranged a meet with another guy I'd been talking to for that night, only had two no shows on here in 8 years one a single guy one a couple he turned out to be my single guy no show, I went to arranged meeting place, he didn't turn up so I left, the next day I got a message saying sorry about last night my dad was took ill

I mean fuck off really, two guys in the same day both with dads who's been took ill, is this just the universal fob off now days because I'm just not buying it

What makes me laugh is if you don't believe their reasons they get really angry with you

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

People say life happens. I agree. I've had to cancel myself for genuine reasons. However, I've never expected to arrange another meet with that person.

And people get ONE chance with me. Sorry if your life got in the way, I wish you well but I've now moved on.

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Short and Sweet answer for us...1

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