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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi...morbid I know. My stepdad passed away last Sunday obviously I'm sad and upset. What I can't get my head round. Is there will be no funeral, no closure. As he left his body for medical research. His wishes which I repect. Can't sleep or focus on anything other than what may be happening to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss x

Perhaps you could hold a memorial service instead to celebrate his life...we did this for my uncle who lived and died in South Africa, and it gave all the family here in England the opportunity to greive and gave us the closure we needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's given a very important gift

Your step father is potentially helping to save the lives of others by donating his body.

A funeral is for those you leave behind to help them I feel his gift is greater.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Maybe visit a hospital.. find the chaplain and explain how you feel... hugs for your loss

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

It's hard, I lost my brother 2 years ago and wasn't able to attend the funeral (he lived in a different country) it took me about 6 months to come to terms that he died

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The body is generally returned to the family later for burial/cremation. So there will be some service and committal later. As has been suggested a service of celebration or remembrance will be something any church will be happy to help arrange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can still hold a service for him in a church

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Sorry for your loss.

Our friend donate her body to medical research. We had a celebration of life service..a non religious gathering of friends and family to remember her life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I defiantly think the memorial service would be a great comfort....celebrate his life rather than weep for his passing.

Maybe have a picture board with photos of himself and family for people to look at while the have a cup of tea and a sandwich after. Couple of choice songs or music pieces that he liked or summed the man up. Perhaps instead of flowers, donations gratefully received to a charity he supported.

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

Ronnie X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone. Yes I agree his is a greater gift. His children had little or no respect for him as he had been married before. It's already turning into a battle ground. Whatever service my mum decide s to hold. Can see it being awful. As for how I'm feeling physically... Perhaps I should see my doc

Thanks again everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without being funny, speak to him. literally have a conversation with him and tell him how you feel about his life and the fact he is no longer here.

Have some alone time and speak it out or speak to someone you trust.

And if you can arrange a small gathering of friends and family, go for it.

Sorry for your loss.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"So sorry for your loss x

Perhaps you could hold a memorial service instead to celebrate his life...we did this for my uncle who lived and died in South Africa, and it gave all the family here in England the opportunity to greive and gave us the closure we needed"

Sounds like a great idea and maybe have a tree planted somewhere public or a bench dedicated to him so there will always be something to remember him by and somewhere you can go and feel close to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you everyone. Yes I agree his is a greater gift. His children had little or no respect for him as he had been married before. It's already turning into a battle ground. Whatever service my mum decide s to hold. Can see it being awful. As for how I'm feeling physically... Perhaps I should see my doc

Thanks again everyone x"

Was over two years before my wife come to terms with the death of her father, seeing a bereavement counselor through her GP was an great help to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a simple get together with family to mark his passing

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